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  • When Loving Him Is Hurting You

  • Hope and Help for Women Dealing with Narcissism and Emotional Abuse
  • By: Dr. David Hawkins
  • Narrated by: Jim Denison
  • Length: 8 hrs and 5 mins
  • 4.4 out of 5 stars (48 ratings)

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When Loving Him Is Hurting You

By: Dr. David Hawkins
Narrated by: Jim Denison
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It's okay to have needs of your own

You fell in love with him. But over time you've come to realize he's in love with himself - and you feel trapped. His needs, his problems, and his plans always seem to take precedence over yours. Dr. David Hawkins, director of the Marriage Recovery Center, offers a guide to help you identify signs of narcissism, understand how your loved one's issues are affecting you, and prepare a biblical game plan for freeing yourself to live courageously in light of God's love.

Whether the man in your life can be diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), exhibits narcissistic traits and emotionally abusive behavior, or has arrogant and self-centered tendencies, the emotional pain he causes you is very real. Discover the truths, wisdom, and grace you need to spark change in your relationship, set boundaries, and experience healing.

©2017 eChristian (P)2017 eChristian

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life changing..heart feeling ..life saver..

this book changed my life
no words to describe the tools it gave me
better than years of on and off counseling..this book knows what other clinicians dont

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Gives clarity validation amongst confusion

Easy listen with lots of helpful information to help give insight and clarity on the crazy making cycle. Plus tons of practical action steps

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the ones I get are great for personal development and a chance to move forwar

the books are great I only wish there more to choose from or may 1 in that category to be in the free section

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Excellent advice for living with a narcissistic pe

This was so enlightening. It helped me recognise the man I was living with and the personality traits which had confused and threatened me for 5 years. I am addressing this and standing up for myself thanks to this understanding. I am finding a way to express the impact his behaviour has had on me and am hopeful that he might understand which will allow us to resolve this over time. Really worth listening to.

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Great book about narcissistic and emotional abuse

If you’re looking for a book that provides biblically advice as well as what to do when you’re in emotionally abusive relationship. This is the book for you.

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When loving him is hurting you

Good for any woman in a abusive relationship, not sure why it's only for women. I usually don't take well to religious references but I am spiritual & found the references to Christianity & Church practical & accurate, criticising the abuse that happens in the name of religion. I recommend this.

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Applicable to everyone

I was apprehensive because of the gendered title. However after listening to the whole book and not letting the bias deter me, I feel I’ve gained a lot of insight into what it means to have a healthy, happy and full outlook on relationships and setting boundaries. Even though I wouldn’t consider myself Christian either the scripture references really resonated with me still. All in all a great book to read if you are a NPD sufferer or are dating someone who is NPD.

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A must read

This book is one of the most important books I have read. It’s insights into behaviours and the profoundly damaging effects that another person can inflict on someone who internalises it all over time is both refreshing, enlightening, and almost most importantly such a massive relief that there is someone out there that actually understands the additional damage and feeling of helplessness caused by a lack of understanding by support networks and professionals when help is sought. This is a profoundly important piece of work. To Dr Hawkins... my most sincere and grateful thanks from not just myself, but from so many others who I know will find comfort and healing from it.

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Christianity driven but still rings true

All worthy chapters that require paying close attention to, highly recommended for narcissistic abuse victims.

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To much preaching

look, I'm ok with Christian references now and then but you should have a disclaimer on purchasing if it is going to have as many as this book does. I stopped listening chapter one and deleted from my device. far too many Bible references for me 🤦‍♀️

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