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The Dead Bedroom Fix

By: D.S.O
Narrated by: D.S.O
Length: 3 hrs and 35 mins
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Men: Are you in a sexless marriage? 

Divorced and don’t want to go through that nightmare again?

You're not alone.

There are a lot of men out there not happy with their sex lives.

What is going on? Is the tried-and-true stereotype of the undersexed husband and the cold, bossy wife inevitable? Are monogamous relationships doomed to such a pitiful state? Is that just the way marriage is?

I don't think so.

To cut a long story short, several years ago, I was married for 15 years, discovered infidelity, quickly divorced, and found myself newly single and sharing custody of three little kids. I, then, started a website: dadstartingover.com. After chatting with many men in my situation, I slowly started to notice patterns of behavior. Most men experienced long “dead bedroom” periods in their relationship, prior to their divorce. Many of these men later discovered infidelity.

Simply put, nobody seems to know what to do to keep the fire going in their long-term relationship. Most of us experience a “honeymoon phase” of intimacy and then, watch it quickly fade as the stress of life and the boredom of familiarity settle in.

It doesn’t have to be this way.

My audience are fixers, and they have tried everything under the sun to light a fire in their wife again. Some have already lost their marriage battle and don’t want to go down that awful road again. What they all tell me: The Dead Bedroom Fix is the best, no bullshit, no fluff guide to getting your self, and consequently, your sex life back on track. 

It works.

©2017 D.S.O (P)2019 D.S.O

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Locker room truisms

By his own telling, our author's wife cheated and then divorced him. His tone suggests that he feels embittered and emasculated and wants the world to know that he is FINE now and having much better sex with someone else.
The premise of the book is that to be desired in a relationship you should work on being confident. This isn't very profound but it is probably on the money in my experience. The most tangible suggestion as to how to achieve this is to just to transform yourself at the gym. Perhaps not for everybody.
The book is written in a blokey locker room style that just manages to stay on the knife-edge of misogyny. All of this said, his observations are fair and sometimes almost funny.

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Eye opener

Wow, that really hit home! A must listen for all guys no matter what stage of a relationship they're in.

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Entertaining at the least!

I purchased this book for entertainment BUT This book is great food for thought looking forward in my relationship as the dead bedroom is a huge threat to every couple.

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kick in the bum for all sexless husbands

love it, starting today applying all strategies. it was just what I needed to hear

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I was wrong.

Many times I was listening thinking oh that doesn't sound right... Only to hear the reason why and realise, damn I was wrong. I can see why I was wrong. I needed this kick in the pants. I can see myself listening to this many times.

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honest<br />

good book. got a few laughs and can definitely relate. simple to understand. well done to the author.

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Great eye opener

I would highly recommend this book to give you a different point of view with your relationship. It's made me realise the mistakes I've made and how I was taking the wrong approach with my wife. 1 month after reading this book and I am a much better version of me, I feel closer than ever to my wife.
The Facebook page is also great and goes hand in hand being able to reach out to other men.

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Thankyou

I found myself listening to this book, nodding my head and laughing how many times he hits the nail on the head. As for the remedy, I look forward to improving myself and if this results in a better intimate life then that's the extra bonus.

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Quick and insightful

straight to the point approach to getting out of a comfortable rut!
this book is insightful and has done enlightening ideas around spicing up you're love life.

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no bull shit and to the point.

if your thinking of listening, just do it. great book, to the point. buy it

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  • Ben
  • 24-04-2020

Interesting

Ok, so if you are a Christian with strong Biblical morals, this book needs to be listened to with a very strong filter. The author goes so far to say, it is ok to be attracted to other girls. We as men, are fallen and do notice other girls. The Bible calls that adultery. The author also states that a female that knows her man is watching porn may want to watch with him as a turn on. Again, adultery. This is sin. Do not listen to everything he has to say. But, with that in mind, it does talk about how the secular world views things and may explain how your wife feels. Take this all into consideration, and in the end pray and consult with God.

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  • Michael Payne
  • 26-05-2020

Every man needs this information

Very good information for men, regardless of relationship status. I listened in the car to and from work and couldn't wait to get back in the car to hear more. Well written with great narration that delivers the "you've been a dumbass" tone when necessary and the encouraging/affirming tone when you need that. In the end you realize you dont need affirmation from other people and that viewpoint intrinsically makes you happier and more attractive. No I do not work for this author or publisher. I am 48 yrs old and my wife is 46. We met in high school in 1989. I became comfortable and she became restless. I am writing this review because this book describes our relationship and heartache so accurately and if I had read this earlier it could have saved us both years of complacency and the resulting pain that we are working through now. Thankfully it looks like we are going to make it, and I am sure this strategy will help. Thanks for writing this book.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 21-05-2020

Wow..

So many harsh truths..
I am trying to engrain this stuff into my mind right now. While at first it was so brutally honest, I found myself becoming enraged, I eventually got to the point where I told myself, wow.. I really need to be about this and really take this with a grain of salt.. life really is kill or be killed and this book really does a great job of outlining the dos and don'ts and carefully and throughly explain all the nuances.

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  • George
  • 18-05-2020

Great practical advice

This book just says it how it is without all the altruistic bullshit so typical in other publications.

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  • Keila
  • 12-05-2020

A must read for all guys

I wish someone would have given me this 10 years ago, would have completely changed my marriage.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 11-05-2020

Great listen for any issues really

Super insightful quick book that narrows in immediately on the issues you may be having. On point with what she’s thinking and what your thinking! Must listen/read!

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  • JOSHUA C.
  • 08-05-2020

Great listen/read

This book actually helped me identify some things I was drastically doing wrong in my relationship. Thank you. I’m excited to try out the guidance!

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  • Frank
  • 01-05-2020

He's right.

The truth hurts. The author is spot on and when you think about it, this is common sense. You're not getting any a$$ from your spouse because you're an overweight, submissive, and boring shell of the man you were. Hopefully you figure this out before it ruined your relationship.

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  • R
  • 16-04-2020

Truth

It’s the truth that we need to hear. We are all good guys but ladies are attracted to the bad boys! Time to be a hybrid!

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  • eustaquio martinez jr
  • 04-04-2020

Great Read!

I got divorced in January of 2018. A little over 5 year relationship and 6 month marriage. So much spoke to me in this book. Definitely going to reply this one a few times while I hit the gym and work on myself.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 16-06-2020

even if your not married it's a must

no stone unturned fantastic perspective and honest experience of his own shared.

strokes of comedy that make for a good listen

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  • Mr. Colin Sherwood
  • 30-05-2020

Great listen for men

I got this one on a whim as I had a few spare credits. Brutally honest book from a man's point of view and light hearted enough to be a one sitting listen. Makes you feel good about being a man weather you take the advice or not and I would argue 99% men can relate to most of it.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 05-05-2020

Resonated Some Home Truths

After reading this, it confirmed many thoughts I already had but was great coming from another person. The author doesn’t hold any punches and the direct manner it is told is refreshing and makes you open your eyes and nod your head. Well done

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  • Ex-Pat in Sweden
  • 02-05-2020

The Hard Truth

A must book for all men. Whether in a long term relationship or not. Highly recommended

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  • J. Davis
  • 09-04-2020

extremely entertaining listen

This audiobook had me laughing out loud a number of times so thank you for that because laughter is a true medicine.

I would absolutely love to be the fly on the wall of a stoic women's liberationist that was reading or listening to this book because this would without doubt likely light a fire that would soon turn into an atomic explosion.

While without doubt it won't fit the model of many men it would for a good percentage and there is something in this for everybody.

It is absolutely raw it, is absolutely comical, it's satire with lashings of truth and honesty and I don't blame you for not making public your real name well done DSO

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  • Simon Allen
  • 06-04-2020

Interesting insight into relationships

Really fascinating and some great points to reignite the fire in your wife. Maybe I will report back in 6 months.....

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  • Der H
  • 11-03-2020

Wish I’d read this years ago

As a guy in his 30s who divorced his wife following her affair after 8 years together, I wish I’d seen this book sooner. This book describes things I was doing, and captured perfectly why I was doing them. The excuses Id used at the time were whispered into my ears as I was thinking them.

Interestingly, when I listened to this I wasn’t stuck in a dead bedroom. My new girlfriend is a professional, formal lady at work and filth at home. I have found myself falling into the same habits as before, and the sex is calming down. That stops today.

Guys, read or listen to this book. Single, dating, married, divorced? It doesn’t matter. You need to hear this.