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It Didn't Start with You
- How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle
- Narrated by: Mark Wolynn
- Length: 8 hrs and 16 mins
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Brought to you by Penguin.
Depression. Anxiety. Chronic pain. Phobias. Obsessive thoughts. The evidence is compelling: the root of these difficulties may reside in the traumas of our parents, grandparents and even great-grandparents. The latest research affirms that traumatic experience is passed on to future generations and that this emotional inheritance, hidden in everything from our gene expression to everyday language, plays a greater role in our health than ever previously understood.
Building on the work of leading experts in neuroscience and posttraumatic stress, Mark Wolynn has developed a pioneering approach to identifying and breaking these inherited family patterns. Having worked with individuals and groups on a therapeutic level for more than twenty years, It Didn't Start with You is his accessible, pragmatic and transformative guide to a method that has helped thousands of people reclaim their lives.
PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.
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- Anna Speranza
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If you buy one book, this needs to be it!
Potential to heall self and generational wounds. BEST book I have purchased, and have gifted to those in need. It's life changing <3
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it didn't start with you
very useful material and insights. Offers food for thought and encourages understanding of behaviours and self-awareness
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Great book
Very eye opening and captivating book. I think it really helped me to understand myself and my trauma a whole lot more than any other book I’ve read so far.
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