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How to Talk to Anyone

92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships
Narrated by: Joyce Bean, Leil Lowndes
Length: 8 hrs and 59 mins
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Publisher's Summary

"You'll not only break the ice, you'll melt it away with your new skills." -Larry King

"The lost art of verbal communication may be revitalized by Leil Lowndes." -Harvey McKay, author of How to Swim with the Sharks Without Being Eaten Alive

What is that magic quality that makes some people instantly loved and respected? Everyone wants to be their friend (or, if single, their lover). In business, they rise swiftly to the top of the corporate ladder. What is their “Midas touch?”

What it boils down to is a more skillful way of dealing with people.

The author has spent her career teaching people how to communicate for success. In her book How to Talk to Anyone, Lowndes offers 92 easy and effective sure-fire success techniques - she takes the listener from first meeting all the way up to sophisticated techniques used by the big winners in life. In this information-packed audiobook you’ll find:

  • 9 ways to make a dynamite first impression
  • 14 ways to master small talk, “big talk,” and body language
  • 14 ways to walk and talk like a VIP or celebrity
  • 6 ways to sound like an insider in any crowd
  • 7 ways to establish deep subliminal rapport with anyone
  • 9 ways to feed someone’s ego (and know when NOT to!)
  • 11 ways to make your phone a powerful communications tool
  • 15 ways to work a party like a politician works a room
  • 7 ways to talk with tigers and not get eaten alive

In her trademark entertaining and straight-shooting style, Leil gives the techniques catchy names so you’ll remember them when you really need them, including: “Rubberneck the Room,” “Be a Copyclass,” “Come Hither Hands,” “Bare Their Hot Button,” “The Great Scorecard in the Sky,” and “Play the Tombstone Game,” for big success in your social life, romance, and business.

How to Talk to Anyone, which is an update of her popular book, Talking the Winner's Way (see the 5-star reviews of the latter) is based on solid research about techniques that work!

By the way, don't confuse How to Talk to Anyone with one of Leil's previous books, How to Talk to Anybody About Anything. This one is completely different!

©2003 Leil Lowndes. (P)2015 Brilliance Audio, all rights reserved.

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Wow Wow Wow!!!

As someone who has always struggled with insecurities when talking to people this book has been an absolute life changer.
My issues came to a head one night at my friend's 45th birthday where I struggled to talk to people and in the end went home upset and at my wits end as to the reasons why conversations developed either side of me and I was always left facing to backs at the table.
I might add that I am the owner/director of a successful software business and consider I am well above average intelligence. I just didn't know how to communicate and make people feel comfortable talking to me.
I searched around and after listening to various snippets of a few communications book I chose this one....
This is where I have to add a warning, "if you relate to my story above, this book will literally change your life". It had an IMMEDIATE impact with me, in less than hour I'd learnt skills of first approach, something that used to make me tremor. I now chat to many many people at the gym and in shops, at street crossings etc etc AND I look forward to those chats now.
If I could give this book 100 stars I definitely would.
Thank you Leil Lowndes for changing my life

Stuart Otto from DownUnder













10 of 10 people found this review helpful

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mostly useless

It starts off great, but 92 is just way too much. All of the good content is at the start of the book.

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American flavour, but excellent presentation

I enjoyed the stories and the way the tips were presented and revister through the reading. Many of the stories fit an American context, however I found I could 'translate' many of them to an Australian context. I very much recommend this book to anyone interested in learning about communication

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disappointing

If this book wasn’t for you, who do you think might enjoy it more?

I only managed to listen for an hour...I think if you are clueless about human interaction eg. how to smile etc this book could be worthwhile. I wasn't looking for advice on how to fake conversations by smiling in a certain way etc. I'll be returning this book

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Irony

While the books creates and makes many interesting and useful points, unfortunately the good points are overshadowed by many bad points and ironies throught out.

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  • DDD
  • 02-08-2017

Wordy and trite

This is a book that would have been improved greatly from cutting down on wordy explanations fraught with alliteration, slang, gendered case and unnecessary synonyms. These made the audio-book dull and feel trite. For the majority of the book I felt that 92 was too high a goal for the author and that the number of techniques should have been compressed into 40 "worth while reading" techniques rather than watering down the quality with quantity.

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Solid tips and tricks

Whilst it was not ground breaking in any sense it did highlight many behavioral patterns for success accompanied by examples to enhance each. More useful for those in a business routine, though I'd recommend to anyone wishing to find ideas to improve themselves in a social or work context.

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some valuable information

There is some valuable information and some outdated and pretentious. Overall its worth a read.

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insightful tips for better communication

author gives valuable techniques ranging from common sense, body language, to nlp techniques.
i enjoyed this book very much.

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very naive

this book is not a revolution. tips are quite basic I felt like the whole book could have last just an hour that would have been enough

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  • Scott
  • 19-09-2016

Good info, but painful to listen to

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I found some good information in this book, but I would have found it SO MUCH BETTER if the 92 tricks were listed instead of having to listen to this entire book. Part of the problem is that 92 tips and tricks are far too many to remember. There are a lot of good pointers, but there are way too many ideas expressed here. More detailed examples and explanations of fewer tips and tricks would probably be more effective... would make them easier to incorporate into actual interpersonal communications.

But far worse is her old-timey way of writing (and presumably speaking). Most of the reviews are correct... the language she uses is so outdated (I've never heard the word 'golly' so many times in my life), the generalizations are pain (and I am anything but PC), and her constant use of alliteration is cringe-worthy (and I almost always appreciate alliteration). I don't believe 90% of her stories about this friend or that acquaintance. They just sound so stilted. And if it wasn't for a few awkward uses of modern-day terms, I'd think this book was written in Dale Carnegie's day (Amazon says the book was released in 2003). She may be an expert in modern-day communication, but she sounds like she belongs in a 1940s newsreel.

I'm only through #57, and I may try to find the list online to get the rest of them without subjecting myself to more uses of terms like 'big winners' and 'fat cats.' Glad I got it on-sale.

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  • Natalie Fayman
  • 03-04-2016

Hard to take seriously

Sorry, but I have a hard time taking the author seriously when she refers to martial artists having to register their hands as lethal weapons (urban legend), bats having superior eyes that can see in the dark better than we can (they don't, they are just using their ears to navigate with sonar), lovers referring to each other as "my turtledove" (what is this... the 40's???), advising her listeners to answer the phone with a polite but flat voice then wait until they hear who it is on the line before gushing with pretend happiness (who doesn't have Call ID these days?), or making sexist comments about how women don't understand football analogies but can talk about childbirth all day. When she talked about a customer calling her to complain that "one of her tapes had broken", I checked the publication date of the book thinking it would be from the 80's but to my surprise the publication date is actually 2015 with a copyright date of 2003. If that's true and she's still referring to things that have been outdated for decades, I don't know how much of her advice I really want to trust.

The author may be a legit communications expert, but she lost a lot of credibility with me due to her narrow-mindedness, overgeneralization, and outdated references. The two nicest things I can say about this book is that it's short enough to be tolerable... and I got it on sale. Don't spend your credit on this one.

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  • Brad N.
  • 30-10-2016

Can I get my credit back?

This book is corny and after listening to it for 30 mins I was ready to stop but continued on for another 30 mins. Overall get a book from grant cardone. Any book and you'll pick up similar tips but with great presentation

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  • Mr. Barker
  • 05-10-2016

Less about how to talk to anyone and more about playing the game

The book makes some good points, however, it also comes across as very manipulative and insincere. Many of the tactics that are portrayed as bulletproof can easily be seen through. It's more about how to play the "game."

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  • Gudrun
  • 29-04-2016

It could do with some editing

Some of this is very helpful and might change the way you interact with people. But it needs cutting down it seems very longwinded and repetitive in parts. It is also a little dated.

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  • TheTechDoc
  • 04-03-2016

Too self important

This book has a few good tips, but the author is far too pretentious for me. I expected a book with communication tips (of which there are some), but the book is much more about manipulating people to benefit oneself.

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  • Patrick Detmer
  • 14-11-2016

superficial

92 tricks? Is that really practical to remember? A lot of information in this story was repeated or focused on superficial manipulation of others. I love books on audible but this was a real struggle to finish.

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  • Kenneth A. Macclune
  • 30-05-2016

Trite, base advice

Perhaps one or two items worth considering. We get a collection of "just so" stories or good and bad behaviors and personal dictums on appropriate actions and behaviors that perhaps are actually a little more flexible than the author implies. Lastly - the author offers advice on complimenting people that would be very inappropriate in the modern workplace. Namely, complimenting some physical trait of a person. Though it may be appropriate at a party or bar, this is a modern workplace "never ever go".

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  • Gary Nickelson
  • 30-06-2016

Both good and bad

Book started out very interesting. Then throughout the book, there were long patches of boring and useless information. Some of her advice seemed pretty far fetched for me. She was a terrible name dropper. I guess she was trying to elevate her status and believability, but it turned me off. I think that would not be advice she would ever offer.

I didn't care for the narrator. I sped it up to 1.25-1.50. Much better at this speed.

It's worth a listen but be prepared to skip to the end of different chapters if it gets a little weird.

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  • rider
  • 02-01-2017

so outdated

Has How to Talk to Anyone turned you off from other books in this genre?

I had to look at the date it was written and couldn't believe it was 2015. I thought it was something from the 30's or 40's. Sorry, but a good one to go to sleep with.

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  • Nice Biscuit
  • 20-09-2016

Good book but annoying narration

I liked the book and the content is informative and interesting but the narration after a while began to irritate me.

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  • Open Ears
  • 10-10-2016

So dull and so unoriginal!

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Ugh! This was awful, now i can understand why it has so many bad reviews! Thought i would take a chance but i really regret it. Such old fashioned and unrealistic nonsense, told in a patronising and annoying way. Very unimpressed with this one!

47 of 51 people found this review helpful

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  • Kell
  • 17-07-2017

One of the best books on communication

Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

One of the best books on communication I've ever come across. I read it multiple times because the messages in it are valuable and have helped me come a long way in securing a career at Shell. I'm happy to have found this book at the time I did. Thank you to the author of this masterpeice!

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  • Miguel
  • 26-12-2017

Inspiring, enjoyable and easy to follow

Inspiring, enjoyable and easy to follow. A nice addition to anyone's collection of "how to behave"-books

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  • Jules P
  • 14-03-2018

Awful, Dull, Boring.

I Couldn't even get past first chapter. Really really annoying voice!! Deadly dull content too.

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  • Alban
  • 28-12-2017

Great guide to behavior

as the title suggests Facebook lists 92 topics which are elaborated in detail of how to use the topics in the relevant situations. It provides detailed examples of how to apply what you read. I would recommend anyone who is interested in improving their situational awareness in social circles, and social skill aptitude.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 15-04-2016

Brilliant advice for all situations

Just about to listen again to cement these pearls of wisdom solidly in my brain. These life-changing words will help anyone in any situation to make the most of their communication. An absolute must read.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 25-01-2019

some useful tips but unbearable narrator

the narrator was really annoying. some useful tips but had to quit half way through

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  • ian white
  • 22-10-2018

impossible

tried multiple time to download the book without any success, very frustrating, so far a waste of good money

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  • Anonymous User
  • 17-10-2018

Trite, contrived, superfluous, unhelpful

Don’t waste your time with this one the content is so base it’s painful. Poorly written and poorly read.