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Hold on to Your Kids

Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers

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Hold on to Your Kids

By: Gabor Maté, Gordon Neufeld
Narrated by: Daniel Maté
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Children take their lead from their friends: being 'cool' matters more than anything else. Shaping values, identity and codes of behaviour, peer groups are often far more influential than parents.

But this situation is far from natural, and it can be dangerous - it undermines family cohesion, interferes with healthy development and fosters a hostile and sexualised youth culture. Children end up becoming conformist, anxious and alienated.

In Hold on to Your Kids, acclaimed physician and best-selling author Gabor Maté joins forces with Gordon Neufeld, a psychologist with a reputation for penetrating to the heart of complex parenting. Together they pinpoint the causes of this breakdown and offer practical advice on how to 'reattach' to sons and daughters, establish the hierarchy at home, make children feel safe and understood, and earn back your children's loyalty and love. This updated edition also addresses the unprecedented parenting challenges posed by the rise of digital devices and social media.

By helping to reawaken our instincts, Maté and Neufeld empower parents to be what nature intended: a true source of contact, security and warmth for their children.

©2020 Dr Gabor Maté (P)2020 Penguin Audio Parenting & Families Personal Development Personal Success Relationships Inspiring
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This is an essential book for anyone with children. It gave me a vocabulary an articulated understanding of what happens , has happened and how I as a parent can reconnect with my child.
If you care about your child - listen to this.
Any Gabor Maté is worth while enhancing your life with, this is 100% necessary as a parent or person who cares for a growing child / adolescent/ teen.

Mandatory for anyone with a child - teen or not

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Great, book with powerful insights. Thank you both for your amazing work. it has chaged the way I vewi attachment.

Amazing!

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This has opened my perspective, in what I went through as a child as well as how to be more understanding as a care giver.

Very insightful!

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I've listened to quite a few books and this book totally is the best so far, other books were so complicated in how to advice altho points taken where this book was helpful more than I can explain, every word spoken resinated with me.

best parenting advice

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this book gets to the roots of raising children in the modern world. other parenting books now seem superficial in comparison. highly recommend.

essential reading for all parents

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Wow!

One of the most important books to read as a parent.

Positively World changing.

An essential

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This is a must read for parents . I think some of the recommendations I’m implementing are dramatically impacting the relationship and influence I have on my difficult child

Best advice I’ve heard in parenting

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Worth the full read. Hold onto you Kids shows us how to discipline without breaking the most important bond in the world: our parental attachments. I found it truly helpful, and I’ve been studying and researching (full time!) the area for decades!

Changed my world view, and I have a PhD in child development!

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I'm grieving that I didn't find this book when my children were young. One of the most impactful and resonating books I have ever read. Some parts seem repetitive but I believe it's essential to have certain points repeatedly emphasized to fully understand the simplicity of the solution.

Life-changing

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A wake-up call and eye opener for the extreme dangers our kids who replace parents with peers, especially risky in today's busy technology filled lives.

Eloquently motivating, evidence based, explanatory guide for all parents on why we must prioritise noticing and creating opportunities to "capture our children", and then how-to use natural safer discipline methods, without undermining our secure relationship with our kids.

Key information on how to set up ourbkids for successful relationships of any type, life long.

Imperative parenting guide essential for today's disruptive rushed and disconnected lifestyle

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