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Gaslighting

What it is, how you can spot it - and how you can break free

He's the charmer - the witty, confident but overly controlling date. She's the woman on your team who always manages to take credit for your good work. He's the neighbour who swears you've been putting your rubbish into his bins or the politician who can never admit to a mistake. 

Gaslighters are master controllers and manipulators, often challenging your very sense of reality. Whether it's a spouse, parent, coworker or friend, a gaslighter distorts the truth - by lying, withholding, triangulation and more - making the victims question their own reality and sanity. Dr Stephanie Sarkis delves into this hidden manipulation technique, covering gaslighting in every life scenario, sharing:  

  • Why gaslighters seem so 'normal' at first  
  • Warning signs and examples  
  • Gaslighter 'red flags' on a first date   
  • Practical strategies for coping  
  • How to coparent with a gaslighter  
  • How to protect yourself from a gaslighter at work  
  • How to walk away and rebuild your life    

With clear-eyed wisdom and empathy, Dr Sarkis not only helps you determine if you are being victimised by a gaslighter - she gives you the tools to break free and heal.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying reference material will be available in your Library section along with the audio on our Desktop Site.

©2018 Dr Stephanie Sarkis (P)2018 HachetteAudio

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Please read this to help you heal

If you think or suspect you are living with a narcissist or have been gaslighted - please read this book.

My gaslighters criticism lead me to believe constantly I had no worth and I was always wrong.

I cannot begin to say how grateful I am that I found this book. I learned the word gaslighting from my therapist and had no idea what it was or the impact it had on my life. This book has been critical and fundamental to commencing the process of healing. This book has given me a different perspective on the way I have thought about myself for the past two years. I am now able to go over past scenes and revisit them with a different lens - not the one that completely blames myself for everything I did or didn't do.

The only 'disappointing' thing about finishing this book is what can I read next and how do I ever learn to trust anyone again.

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incredible information!

This one really hit home. it was hard for me particularly but managing to get through it its fantastic and has shed so much light 😭 thank you !

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Emotional abuse it's real!

Useful incite in how to deal with gaslighting emotional abuse & how to heal from the abuse.

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  • Mrs pleased
  • 17-03-2019

USA based guidance and info

Helpful book to identify gas lighting behaviour, but it’s very frustrating as it is heavily geared towards the USA and constantly references the downloadable pdf for help and advice...which again is only useful in the USA. I’m glad I’ve listened to it and there are some helpful hints to follow but I’m not sure the UK is ready for this phenomenon!
Good ways to identify gas lighters in the work, home, family and even yourself. On the whole, an interesting read and a potential life saver to some! Literally!

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  • terry
  • 21-02-2021

Thank you for saving me

I have been in a relationship with a female stonewaller , she shuts down every avenue of communication, then gas lights ,

This book was power listened to in one day at The post Inn public house ( pub ). In Devon England , whilst listening to this outstanding healing audio , i just cleaned the pub for 9 hours , polished the wood , lit the open fire swept leaves in the car park. , tidied the wood shed all whilst taking in the information of this first class work ,
I feel a lot better and mentally sharper
And most of all refreshed ,

Great work ,

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  • Anonymous User
  • 14-12-2020

Very enlightening! 👂now!

When you start listening a lightbulb goes off in your head. Finally a book to address and define a major aspect of everybody's daily lives. Dr.Sarkis explains the subject abudantly with valid arguments, study cases, examples and studies. It's a psychology book for everyone. I was really impressed with the amount of resources in the downloadable PDF. It covers everything. Most helpful book I have come across so far.

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  • Maimona
  • 26-04-2020

This was good!

Insightful with ample examples, the speaker is clear and articulate and easy to follow. At times can be repetitive, but still very good.

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  • Megan Jones
  • 18-03-2020

A very long read, but very insightful!!!!

A very long read, but very insightful!!!! I struggled to finish it but I found it really helpful!

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  • Filippo
  • 28-01-2020

Informative and Eye-opening.

The first time I heard of the term 'gaslighting' was on a a YouTube channel by Brainy Dose. At first I thought that the concept of 'gaslighting' was strange. After watching the video I thought to myself that I would like to understand this concept a little bit better. So I decided to purchase this audiobook. This audiobook expanded my understanding even further and made me reflect on past relationships where I also was a victim of 'gaslighting'.

This audiobook has been well written and well-researched. Please purchase it. It will really open your eyes and help you to understand about the dangers and deceitfulness of 'gaslighting'.

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