In this deeply moving episode of Blind Spots, host Gail McDonald sits down with her longtime friend, award-winning actress, and career coach Susan Smith for a raw, heartfelt conversation on navigating the “unfathomable” territory of grief after the loss of a child. Both women share their personal journeys—just months apart—of losing their sons, exploring what it means to grieve with resilience, find meaning in absence, and embrace moments of joy without guilt.

Through honest reflection, they discuss the unique and personal nature of grief, the difference between ruminating and reflecting, and the importance of small daily steps toward healing. Together, they offer insights, tools, and resources—from using a “feelings wheel” to noticing daily “glimmers”—that can help others find their own way forward. With tenderness, humor, and deep mutual respect, Gail and Susan show that while there may be no “getting over” grief, there is a way to carry love and loss side by side.

Whether you’re grieving yourself or supporting someone who is, this conversation is an openhearted reminder: you are not alone, and connection can be a powerful balm.

⁠Susan Sneath - Blue Wind Coaching⁠

References & Resources:

Books:

• Who Dies? by Stephen Jenkinson
• Understanding Your Grief by Alan Wolfelt
• The Grieving Brain by Mary-Frances O’Connor

Episodes:

• ⁠The Change Zone⁠ – ⁠Episode 66: Chris Hartstein⁠ on using toys as tools for nonverbal communication

Organizations:

• ⁠Canadian Mental Health Association⁠

Tools:

• ⁠Feelings Wheel⁠ for grief check-ins