Online dating shouldn’t feel like a full-time job. But for most people, it does — endless swiping, ghosting, and wondering why no one seems to click. The truth? You’re not doing it wrong. You’ve just never been told how the system actually works.

In this episode, I’m breaking down the unwritten rules of dating apps — from the psychology behind a high-performing profile to the hidden algorithms that influence who you see (and who sees you). I’m joined by my friend Robert Mack, the dating coach from Famously Single, and together we’re pulling back the curtain on everything the apps don’t tell you.

We talk about how to make your profile irresistible without feeling like you’re selling yourself, how to start conversations that lead somewhere, and how to spot emotional availability long before you meet IRL.

Because dating apps aren’t the enemy — confusion is. Once you understand how to play the game, it stops feeling like rejection and starts feeling like opportunity.

Here’s What You’ll Learn:

• The psychology behind profile photos and bios that attract high-quality matches.

  How to use app algorithms and timing to dramatically increase your visibility.

• What emotionally intelligent dating looks like — and how to recognize connection early on.

• Whether you’re just dipping your toes back in or you’ve been swiping for years, this episode will give you a mindset reset — and a strategy that actually works.

  Xxoo Darcy

  
  

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  REFERENCES/RESOURCES

  www.alternativescounseling.com

  www.coachrobmack.com

  Happiness From The Inside Out

  Love From the Inside Out

  Duchenne Smile

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