She gives you feedback. Your wife makes a simple request. Maybe she expresses disappointment. And before she even finishes her sentence, you're already building your defense case like a trial lawyer. Sound familiar?
In this raw and revealing episode, Chuck, Ari, and Faisal dive deep into one of the most relationship-damaging patterns Nice Guys fall into: chronic defensiveness.

We explore:
Why your nervous system goes into overdrive the moment you hear criticism
The difference between legitimate complaints and character attacks — and why we hear them wrong
How defensiveness kills connection, intimacy, and attraction faster than almost anything else
The childhood wounds that turn grown men into automatic defenders
Why your need to be "right" is sabotaging your relationships
Practical embodiment techniques to regulate your nervous system in the moment
The skill of curiosity over defensiveness — and how it changes everything
When defensiveness becomes maladaptive and starts destroying your love life
Chuck shares a real-time example of catching his own defensiveness in action. Faisal reveals how he transformed a potentially relationship-damaging text exchange using these principles. And Ari breaks down the mature masculine response that creates connection instead of conflict.

Whether you're constantly explaining yourself, find yourself in endless arguments, or feel like nothing you do is ever good enough — this episode will help you break the cycle. It's time to stop defending and start connecting.

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