What if the difference between poverty after divorce and a fair settlement is simply…knowing what to subpoena?

Summary: Becky explains how subpoenas function as a strategy (not a scare tactic) to surface bank records and other documents that courts and mediators need. She breaks down common mistakes, why many requests get rejected, and how to advocate for yourself—even with an attorney on your team. Her mantra: “Soften your heart, sharpen your process.”

5 key takeaways

→ A subpoena is a court-backed demand for information or appearance; it’s often the fastest way to get missing financials onto the record.

→ Precision matters: each bank/organization has its own acceptance rules; sloppy service = delays, rejections, and higher costs.

→ You can subpoena records without an account number; target the institution correctly and follow their procedure.

→ Attorneys are busy; you still must advocate for yourself—ask “What are our options to get this accepted?” and don’t accept “it was rejected” as the end.

→ Aim for “Divorce Strong”: fair/equitable outcomes and a peaceful heart—you win more with information and composure than with war.

Not legal advice: Becky is not an attorney; this episode shares experience and general education. Connect with Becky on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beckysampson/