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30 Covert Emotional Manipulation Tactics: How Manipulators Take Control in Personal Relationships

Narrated by: Kitty Hendrix
Length: 1 hr and 48 mins
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Learn the manipulator's game, so they can't play it with you. 

Identifying covert emotional manipulation is tricky. You sense something is wrong, but you can't quite put your finger on the problem. This powerful book will reveal to you if manipulation is at play in your relationships. It will open your eyes.

You will learn 30 tactics manipulators use to get what they want. You will also learn to spot the warning signs within yourself that expose covert manipulation is taking place, even if you can't identify the specific tactics being used.

This book is geared toward romantic relationships, including those involving a pathological partner. Even so, many of the manipulation tactics are the same as those used by family members, coworkers, friends and others.

Covert emotional manipulation tactics are underhanded methods of control. Emotional manipulation methodically wears down your self-worth and damages your trust in your own perceptions. It can make you unwittingly compromise your personal boundaries and lose your self-respect and even lead to a warped concept of yourself and of reality. With your defenses weakened or completely disarmed in this manner, you are left even more vulnerable to further manipulation and psychological harm.

Empower yourself and get your life back!

©2014 Adelyn Birch (P)2018 Post Hypnotic Press Inc.

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A short but useful summary

This was an eye-opener for me. I'm not in a position to vouch for the scientific validity of this book, but certainly if you are in a manipulative relationship, you will recognise these tactics. Also worth keeping in mind that not everyone who is manipulative is systematically or pathologically so.

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  • Cat O.
  • 04-04-2018

This book can change your life!

After more than a year of psychotherapy I still didn't know why I felt so insecure with my boyfriend of four years. It seemed like I was sabotaging the relationship, and I couldn't stop no matter how hard I tried. I was having emotional meltdowns I couldn't explain and I felt like I couldn't trust him. My therapist said I had an insecure attachment style but that didn't feel right because I'd never been that way before. I began searching for an answer that made sense and I stumbled upon this book, thank God, because the truth of the matter was revealed: my boyfriend was using just about every manipulation tactic in this book on me. I felt immediate relief and a sense of peace because I learned I wasn't crazy---my emotions were being manipulated. Now I'm free, and I can't thank the author enough! If you're feeling perplexed by the problems in your relationship, get this book. It can change your life.

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  • Elaina
  • 14-04-2019

it was good

Chapter 2 was the most useful. everything else was all right. it needed more examples.

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  • David Perlman
  • 04-09-2018

Wish it was longer!

Very direct and to the point. Enlightening! This book really needs to be expanded with more examples of manipulation (such as the detailed list of invalidating statements) along with ways to counteract each manipulation tactic.

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  • feral_weeds
  • 03-04-2018

Waste of money.

Would you try another book from Adelyn Birch and/or Kitty Hendrix?

For what this ebook charges, you couldn't find a bigger waste of money. Generalizations in a less than hour long book is more of a flyer than a book. Audible should have made it vlear this is an over generalisation of a topic one expects to be explored in some detail.

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  • keri
  • 08-05-2019

very helpful

I got alot of useful information. loved it. I like the way it breaks it down so its easy to reflect and see things in ur relationship.

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  • Pat Kocher-Cowan
  • 14-12-2018

Good to know

Knowledge is power. Good explanations for how and why manipulative behavior works and how to know if you are a target. Resources list.

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  • Nancy
  • 02-11-2018

interesting

very interesting, gives a short but very informative cue on manipulation, and ways to relate to that behavior...

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 18-08-2018

Basic, yet key, tenets to living with people

An excellent self-check and recalibration to evaluating your feelings to the behavior to others. Questions to ask yourself when you are troubled in a relationship. It is all part of the tool box of living with others in relationship.








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  • Matthew P. Blanchard
  • 24-03-2018

Too short!

People who are really stuck in bad relationships are going to need a little more information and examples to help them break free. A powerful story or set of examples would much more effective. Stories get remembered. This book is unfortunately more like a college lecture, summarizing basic ideas.

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  • Lis Carpenter
  • 28-11-2018

Very Useful if You Had Controlling Parents Me

I bought this book to see why I kept ending up in one-sided relationships. I had a lot of healing to do which started with Co-Dependent No More and continued to this book where I learned a person who habitually lies is a manipulator. A person who invalidates how you feel when they are constantly saying hurtful things may have a personality disorder and is a manipulator.

Putting you down is never for your good. My dad is this way. So, by default I invalidated my own feelings in relationships. No more. Get rid of the liars in your life, and build your self-care and self-love routines so you can tell them you don't want or need them around.

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  • Rick Da-Ruler
  • 11-08-2020

it was good

I really enjoyed this book I learned alot about how people can manipulate me so I am not armed with defences