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The sad reality is that life isn’t like the movies. There are often no real fairy-tale outcomes, divorce statistics are growing, and more and more couples are growing apart. We are simply not as close or loyal as we once were, and the ability to meet new partners has also grown with the invention of mobile phones, the internet, Facebook, and dating sites over the last few decades.

I once had a therapy client who told me she bought an exercise bike about six months prior to coming in for some one on one coaching. As is the fate of most exercise bikes, treadmills, and gym equipment, it just sat there getting dusty. So she was thinking about getting rid of it. The reason was that she lacked the energy or motivation to use it and wanted to know how to get back into that mindset to lose weight. 

Go out and ask a bunch of your friends whether or not they have a preference for Coke and Pepsi. Some people say they taste the same, but most people will say they can taste the difference. Ask your friends if they think the subtle meanings portrayed in each brands advertising has affected the way they feel about the drink. Inevitably, they will say no. Inevitably, they will say that the only thing that affects the way they feel about the product is the way it tastes.

By the time someone decides to come along and see a therapist, they often feel like they’ve been stuck going around in circles for quite some time. This book addresses and highlights the common reasons why people seek therapy feeling stuck in their lives. What happens more often than not is that the client kind of realizes what the particular problem is, but they just can’t seem to get to the bottom of why they keep doing the problem. 

After learning how to do this myself and coaching many others over the years, here’s the simplest and most effective way to know how to get motivated: You have to burn your bridges - the things holding you back from reaching your full potential. Burning the bridges is about getting out of your comfort zone so that you can grow. 

You know damn well what you should be doing. But for some reason, you can’t quite command your body to do it, right? The reality is that most people have far less self-discipline than they would like to have. But why is that? In this powerful new audiobook world-famous life, addiction, business, and relationship coach Shane Cuthbert brings together all of his expertise and experience from a range of fields to help us understand both why we are so lacking in self-discipline and how to get back on track and become more self-disciplined. 

Self-discipline is something we all need to learn from time to time. Perhaps, you have started your own business and you are wasting a lot of valuable time. You're going to have to learn some self-discipline so that you can start to manage your time more effectively or, perhaps, you have just started a new job working from home, and you're going to need to show a great deal of self-discipline in order to keep yourself on task and away from distractions easily found at home.

People need to feel a sense of belonging and connectedness. This is especially true when we look at young people these days. Young people especially need that sense of belonging. Nowadays, they worry, "Where's my phone?" If they can't bond or feel engaged or connected with people in real life, there's always a substitute. Now people, young people especially, are literally, literally addicted to their phone

Our entire lives, we’ve always been taught to stay away from things like drugs because they are addictive. Their addiction is said to be due to the chemicals they contain, but how about things like gambling? Gambling does not contain chemicals. So, how can a behavior, rather than a chemical, be addictive?

So, you're struggling to get motivated? You need to recognize that if you’re not feeling motivated, its not just your physical energy but your mental energy, as well. And mental energy becomes drained when you (whether you realize it or not) are avoiding stuff that you really "should" be doing. 

For starters, you need to recognize that if you’re not feeling motivated, it,s not just your physical energy but your mental energy, as well. And mental energy becomes drained when you (whether you realize it or not) are avoiding stuff that you really "should" be doing. Essentially, what I’m saying here is that it's always a lot more difficult to motivate yourself to do things you should be doing instead of the ones that you want to be doing.

Everyone struggles with stress from time to time. Stress is a natural thing that occurs within all of us. Stress and anxiety can occur momentarily or (acutely), and it can also occur frequently (chronic). I've had a lot of experiences dealing with stress and anxiety in my life, let me tell you. There has been so many times in my life where I have become so crippled, overwhelmed with stress that I just couldn’t move forward, and it was a big driver toward unhealthy habits and addictions for me.

When you see perfectionism in others and see the results of perfectionism, you would probably have a hard time believing that perfectionism could be holding so many people back. Truth is, perfectionism is holding many people back in a lot of ways. When you see a perfectly clean home, a perfect workplace report, and a perfect garden you can't help but envy the perfectionist. Perfectionism takes time; it takes a lot of time to make things perfect, and not only does it cost you a great deal of time, but it is also costing you mental well-being and happiness.

Within this book you will find some real life examples of parents struggling to get their newborn babies to sleep. There are 1001 ways according the old wives tales that include specific mixtures, alcohol and potions but the study of psychology and the advancements in understanding and awareness of whats occurring psychologically has greatly improved the knowledge base in which we take some tips in this book! 

Most people start smoking at a younger stage of life where, maybe, they're under a lot of stress. There's a lot of uncertainty, a lot of self-doubt. They don't feel self-confident in themselves. Then, over the years, they kind of grow up a bit. They mature a bit, and they get to the point where they're a little bit more motivated to care for themselves and look after themselves. They get to that point where they feel a strong desire to want to stop smoking. They use some patches, change some routines, they break the habit. They stay on the wagon so long as life doesn't get in the way.

Depression is something that I know well myself, both from personal experience and from the experiences of many people close to me. I remember receiving the diagnosis and the explanation that I had a chemical imbalance in my brain. I saw numerous doctors, but I only seem to remember them asking me about the symptoms. As I recall, the outcome was only ever one of four things. The doctor would tell me that I would have to start medication; the next doctor would ask me to stop medication, another would ask me to try some new medication, and yet another doctor would adjust my medication.

Beings, like other mammals, were never meant to be solitary creatures. We have an innate need to bond and feel connected with others in order to lead a fulfilled life, and so quite often the quality of your life is most powerfully determined by the quality of your relationships. What is it about you and your current way of thinking that is attracting or being attracted to the wrong kind of person? Part of the problem can be resolved by learning how to better communicate and express yourself, so that way you're less likely to attract the wrong kind of person.

What we do for a living has a massive impact on our life. Our job affects the people we associate with, the way we see the world, as well as our financial security and social status. Many people know that they want to change their career situation. But they often don’t know what steps to take to work their way up into a better job. As a result, they find themselves feeling "stuck".