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What actually sits at the root of the “diaspora wars” — the jokes, the tension, the misunderstandings between Black Americans and Black folks across the continent? And what happens when two best friends, one raised in the U.S. South and one born in South Africa, decide to talk about it with honesty, humor, and a whole lot of care?

In this episode of You’re So Real For That, Monèt and Amo dig into the grief and tenderness beneath the jokes, the propaganda we all inherited, the media moments that shaped our early perceptions of each other, and the complicated histories that got us here. From “African booty scratcher” playground trauma to the real impact of U.S. education, from Wakanda nostalgia to the ache of language loss, we ask what repair could look like if we led with curiosity instead of defensiveness.

We talk culture as lived practice — food, music, dance, the ways we show love, the ways we misunderstand each other, and the surprising places where we’re already aligned. And yes: capitalism, colonial borders, feudalism, Coming to America, Living Single, Busy Corner, and BeBe & CeCe Winans all make an appearance.

This episode is for the Black women who want to feel seen in their complexity. For the global Black girl who’s felt foreign in the very place her ancestors once lived. For the African who’s been flattened into a stereotype. For the American whose grief runs deeper than she can explain. For the daughters of the diaspora who are ready to heal — without performing for a single white gaze.

If you love nuanced cultural conversations, softness and smoke in equal measure, friendship as spiritual practice, and laughing while you unlearn, you’re exactly where you belong.

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