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My mother, my bully, my best friend. 😮‍💨 If you’ve ever loved your mama deeply and still needed softness you didn’t always get… this episode is for all the daughters, the tender-hearted grown girls, and the ones doing the healing out loud.

CAPTION:
This week on You’re So Real For That, we crack open our rib cages (gently!) and talk about the most intense relationship many of us will ever have — the mother-child bond. The love, the grief, the resentment, the grace, the repair. The “we cool now” AND the “but that still hurt.”

We start with a nightmare that turns into a truth-telling: “my mother, my bully, my best friend.” Then we unpack what it means when Black mothers “pre-harden” us for the world — even when what we needed was a soft place to land. We talk eldest daughter weight, AFAB dynamics, depression, body fear, church language, emotional emergency contacts, and the long work of naming the elephant in the room instead of living in a Cold War.

If you’ve ever said:

• “I love my mom… but I needed gentleness.”
• “Why did you try to toughen me up before life even got a chance?”
• “I want to be close, but there are still things I can’t say.”
• “I’m trying to release resentment for me.”

…pull up a chair. This one is tender, funny, and real-real.

✨ In this episode:
• Black motherhood + survival mode
• Eldest daughter/Black girl child realities
• Emotional safety, softness, and “gentle parent me”
• Repair: conversations, accountability, and the courage to name harm
• What we’re grateful for now, and what we still wish for
• Messages to our moms (whew)

🎧 Listen + show notes: www.sorealforthat.com

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Email us your thoughts (or your mama story): sorealforthatpod@gmail.com

If this hit you, send it to a friend who’s doing the work, and tell us:
What’s one thing you’re grateful for in your relationship with your mom now… and one thing you still wish for?