• YOBcc104: Tom & Drew Boa Outgrow Porn, Examine Fetishes, and Do Inner Child Work
    Feb 16 2026

    Tom welcomes new friend Drew Boa of Husband Material to dive into his book, Outgrow Porn. Tom shares his favorite tools from Drew’s toolbox for overcoming porn and unwanted sexual behaviors, including the breathe-observe-attune (BOA) method, “connecting the dots” from shame to glory and loss to connection, and non-dominant handwriting to connect with your inner child. Adult Tom vulnerably shares some recent journal entries with Little Tom as he reflects on his own journey with loneliness and restlessness, particularly amongst other boys, and how this has fed an often irresistible attraction or fetish for certain aspects of straight men.

    LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE
    • Tom’s appearance on Drew Boa’s Husband Material podcast: “Why Men Need Men”
    • Drew Boa’s Husband Material community
    • Drew Boa’s book, Outgrow Porn
    COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE

    What tools have helped you outgrow porn and unwanted sexual behaviors? How have you connected with your inner child?

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    • YOB Convocast 104
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    • "Feel it All" by sød ven; 100% clearance through Musicbed

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    56 mins
  • YOBcc103: Tom & Andy Talk Super Bowl LX! Fly Ospreys Fly.
    Jan 31 2026

    Tom welcomes back his younger brother Andy for this annual episode of previewing the Super Bowl! It’s the Seattle Seahawks vs. the New England Patriots for Super Bowl LX. Before we get to Andy’s top stories of this year’s big game, we catch up on the biggest year of his life with a new baby girl – and also that the Eagles won last year’s Super Bowl. We sneak in some Taylor Swift talk, including her podcast appearance with the Kelce brothers, and her future mother-in-law appearing on this season of The Traitors. Andy answers some silly yet relevant questions from our YOBBERS community, and he gets vulnerable about why football and the lesser things in life stress him out way more than the larger things do.

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    Who ya got for Super Bowl LX?!

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    • YOB Convocast 103
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    • Tom's blogs
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    • "Feel it All" by sød ven; 100% clearance through Musicbed

    you are not alone; even the sparrow finds a home

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    1 hr and 2 mins
  • YOF Update: New Rhythms for a New Budget in a New Year (January 2026)
    Jan 16 2026

    It’s the start of a new fiscal year for our ministry, including a new board-approved budget that brings some modifications to the YOF content landscape and work duties for Tom and Erin. We'd love your prayers for continuing support beyond the foundation set in 2025 as we strive for 100% funding in 2026!

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    • YOF General Giving
    • YOB Membership
    • YOS Membership
    • YOF Newsletter Signup
    • Email Tom: tom@yourotherfamily.org

    you are not alone; even the sparrow finds a home

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    15 mins
  • YOS002: Being a "Late Bloomer"
    Dec 23 2025

    We are back with our second YOScast episode with Erin, Lin, and Jericho! Realizing your attraction to women well past puberty is a very common phenomenon amongst our community. Why? When and how did you come to terms with your non-heterosexual identity? Together we highlight the “pros” of coming out later in life, including how this has enriched our faith journeys. We also play bingo, but you’ll have to listen to see who won!

    LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE
    • The Lesbian Masterdoc
    • The sexuality identity development model
    • The Forever 31 SNL sketch
    COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE

    What was your late bloomer experience? In what ways has your faith been impacted by coming to terms with your sexuality?

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    • YOScast 002: Being a "Late Bloomer"
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    MORE FROM OUR CAST
    • Learn more about our YOS contributors!
    MUSIC CREDIT
    • "Be More" by Linden Hope, used with permission.

    you are not alone; even the sparrow finds a home

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    54 mins
  • YOB111: Church Healing
    Dec 17 2025

    We conclude our two-part episode on the church with stories of healing from church hurt and growth in the church. We also discuss the notion of building church resiliency amid our frustrations and hang-ups with the church. How have we grown in such resiliency? Despite how the church may still fail us, how can we place our ultimate security in Jesus as we live out the truth that we are the church?

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    Where have you experienced healing or resiliency in the church?

    PODCAST EPISODE PAGE
    • YOBcast 111: Church Healing
    LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE
    • Skillet's demonic filth(?!) version of "O Come, O Come, Emmanuel"
    • Gay sheep!
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    • Mail us: Your Other Family / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802
    SUPPORT YOF
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    MUSIC CREDIT
    • Intro/outro theme: “Borderland” by John Mark McMillan
    • Benediction theme: "Feel it All" by sød ven
    • 100% clearance through Musicbed

    you are not alone; even the sparrow finds a home

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    1 hr and 42 mins
  • YOF001: Oh the Topics We'd Discuss If Only...
    Dec 1 2025

    It’s the premiere episode of Your Other Family Podcast! Or, the YOFcast, as we’ll also be known. Join hosts Tom and Erin for a brief origin story of how Your Other Brothers and Your Other Sisters came to be, along with some amazing topics we would discuss at length on this show – if only we had the full funding to do so!

    We’re still finding our footing as a nonprofit ministry, and we’re excited about the possibility of this new YOF coed podcast with contributing members of both YOB and YOS, also maintaining our YOB and YOS podcast productions. But we still need help getting to that point! If you’re not already giving in support of our 501(c)(3) organization, would you consider a monthly gift today? Check out the link below for general giving, or shoot us a community inquiry if you’re interested in YOB/YOS membership! There’s always room for one more sparrow in this nest.

    LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE
    • YOF General Giving

    • YOB Membership

    • YOS Membership

    • YOBcast 047: Intimacy

    • YOBcast 092: Second Adolescence

    • YOScast 001: YOS is a Thing!

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    • Mail us: Your Other Family / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802
    SUPPORT YOF
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    MUSIC CREDIT
    • Intro/outro theme: “Wilderlove” by John Mark McMillan ft. Joy Williams
    • 100% clearance through Musicbed

    you are not alone; even the sparrow finds a home

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    1 hr and 23 mins
  • YOBcc102: Tom & Dawson Escape the Labyrinth at YOB Retreat VII!
    Nov 22 2025

    Tom welcomes back Dawson to recap our seventh YOB retreat! We share our perspective about our retreat’s first-ever prayer labyrinth exercise, and we hit some of the other highlights of our weekend together in western Pennsylvania, including a manly calisthenics workout and a mysterious visitor to our lodge porch. Dawson shares his reaction to being crowned our first-ever “Mr. Masculinity,” and Tom shares a profound retreat moment that crescendoed with fifty men huddling around him in prayer.

    COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE

    Have you ever walked a prayer labyrinth? What were your takeaways from this year's YOB retreat?

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    • YOB Convocast 102
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    • Call the YOFline: 1.706.389.8009
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    • Mail us: Your Other Family / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802
    SUPPORT YOF
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    MUSIC CREDIT
    • "Feel it All" by sød ven; 100% clearance through Musicbed

    you are not alone; even the sparrow finds a home

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    58 mins
  • YOB110: Church Hurt
    Oct 31 2025

    Where have we experienced hurt in the church, whether from our sexuality or otherwise? How do we continue in spiritual communities after experiencing church hurt? Join Tom, Ryan, and Matt for a raw discussion on our community’s church hurt stories. We’ll dive into the other side of hurt in a follow-up episode, but for now, we want to honor the pain, the loneliness, the frustration, the rejection, the abuse, the trauma, and the injustice of experiencing hurt in a place and with a people where we should have experienced life. If one of us hurts, may we all hurt together.

    COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE

    Where have you experienced hurt in the church?

    PODCAST EPISODE PAGE
    • YOBcast 110: Church Hurt
    LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE
    • Kalan's rap remix of "Wood" by Taylor Swift
    • The Carpenter's Son trailer with Nicolas Cage
    • Owen Cooper Finally Meets Jake Gyllenhaal!
    • "Church Hurt" by Hannah Kerr
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    • Call the YOFline: 1.706.389.8009
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    • Mail us: Your Other Family / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802
    SUPPORT YOF
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    FOLLOW YOF
    • YOF: YouTube | Facebook | Instagram
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    MUSIC CREDIT
    • Intro/outro theme: “Borderland” by John Mark McMillan
    • Benediction theme: "Feel it All" by sød ven
    • 100% clearance through Musicbed

    you are not alone; even the sparrow finds a home

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    1 hr and 39 mins