Hello, stunning tiny little ND brains! 🫠✨

This week we are getting raw and realz 👀 (yes, even more than usual)! We discuss burn out, Tara had a great LUHK-SA and Grace has been the mayor of phlegmville while turning 36 "yay!" *said phlegmilly*

💌 In this week’s dilemma a divine listener, who just submitted a research paper after years of hard work struggles to actually celebrate. Instead of feeling proud, their mind spirals with self-doubt, perfectionism, and the pressure of what’s next.

We discuss:

• Why it’s hard to feel happy after a big win - the dopamine link
• How self-judgment and exhaustion steals the joy
• Book the celebration for later, no pressure now
• Why milestones look different for ADHD brains

🤌 RECS (we're doing two each):

• Tara's recs - The micellar water baby wipe hack AND snake plants
• Grace's recs - an update on Cancer Council's BB Cream and an EVEN BETTER formulation for oily girlies. ALSO The Autistic Burnout Workbook by Dr Megan Anna Neff

🫠 IREGGY SEGGY:

We read you the most unhinged health hacks that we could find on the internet -steel yourself to be both frightened and intrigued. 👻🕵️‍♀️

Don’t RSD even if you think you’re allowed to indulge in a cheeky little RSD while we're on break, you’re not.

We will be BACK in your little ND ears on THURSDAY THE 14TH OF AUGUST -Subscribe or you might never hear these dulcet* tones again 😱

Also join our Patreon (because cute!) and that's where we'll be dropping weekly episodes while we're on our break.

Sending allll alll alll the love!

Your ADHD Besties Tara & Grace 💕

*dulcet tones may be interpreted by some as 'screechy'.

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Hi Bestiessss – It’s another SPECIAL throwback episode from the early days of our PATRE0N!

This episode is juicy AF and is packed with friendship dilemmas and vulnerable conversations about ADHD that we know so many of you will relate to.

First up, we answer a Patreon listener question: Grace shares a bit about her AuDHD diagnosis journey (and what that’s looked like over time). Tara talks through her own exploration of neurodiversity and why she feels she sits more in the ADHD-only camp.

DIVERGENT DILEMMAS:

💌 “My friend needs time to decide whether she wants to continue our friendship and I can’t handle the rejection.”

- We talk about our old babe Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD), friendship limbo, and why ghosting hits differently when you’re neurodivergent.

- We also discuss why women with ADHD are way more likely to experience emotional highs and lows in friendships – and how we can soften the shame and start building safer emotional habits.

💌“Help! When I’m not nearby friends and family, I find it impossible to stay in contact.”
- Classic ‘out of sight, out of mind’ struggle!

- We chat about the emotional spiral that comes from not replying, plus gentle hacks to help you stay connected even when your brain is on ✨airplane mode✨.

Don’t forget to grab our FREE Emoji Texting Guide – low effort ways to show you care, even when words feel impossible:
https://adhdbesties.com/download-free-emoji-guide

LOVE ALWAYS!

Tara & Grace xx
(don’t RSD -come on, you should know this by now)

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Hiii neurodivergent dreamboats 💖

We have a special treat for you today - a full episode straight from our Patreon vault... if you've ever wondered what an ADHD diagnosis is like, or if you're going through the process yourself right now, this ep is for you!

A year ago our little Gracie-babe went to see a psychiatrist to get diagnosed with ADHD. She'd been diagnosed 18 months before by a psychologist, but she needed to get re-diagnosed with a psychiatrist to get meds.

Because the appointment was in the city (a 3 hr drive away) Tara body-doubled with Grace and drove her there... and they recorded a 'diary' documenting all the emotional rollercoaster feels before, during and after the appointment.

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In this episode:

• Grace shares her raw emotions the night before her diagnosis, audio-diary style
• We debrief what happened in her psychiatrist assessment - the surprises, awkwardness and frustrating moments
• What starting stimulant medication was like in the first few months, and the differences she noticed in her brain/body
• Grace reflects on her anxiety and the traits she now identifies as AuDHD (but didn't at the time of her ADHD diagnosis), and how medication has impacted those
• Grace shares the early side effects she experienced on ADHD stimulant medication, including low appetite and weight loss, and why that can be a risk for people with ARFID

We love you guys, and don't you dare RSD!

Gracie-babe & Tata xx

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Hiiiiiiii ADHD bestie BABES!

Today we're sharing the recording of our VERY FIRST live podcast event (a few weeks ago) where we celebrated the launch of Grace’s book The ADHD Focus Friend... AND reaching the amazing podcast milestone of 250K downloads! We had such a wonderful time meeting some of our gorgeous listeners in person and we can’t wait to meet more of you in the near future!

We discuss Grace’s book The ADHD Focus Friend and why it's different to traditional productivity tools because it's designed for inconsistency, demand avoidance and messiness.

Grace explains how the book design reduces the load on working memory and why productivity is connected emotional regulation and nervous system regulation.

We get the tea on what she DIDN’T want to put in the book and why, as well as answer questions around PMDD, parenthood, working memory, RSD and so much more.

RSD corner: Tara is RSDing that you can't see her making finger quotations when uses the phrase "acting normal" in reference to ND kids , but pls know she is.

Sending you allll the love and if you RSD we will just be exceptionally mad so don’t plz

Lots of loveeeee Tara and Grace! Xxx

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ADHD BABES! YOU ASKED, AND SO (AFTER 8 MONTHS, WHOOPS! 😬) YOUR ADHD ISLAND IS BACK! 🏝️

And who better to kick off our episode with, than the incredible and hilarious Emma from @emmasmindovermatter!

Emma’s island is an experience like no other… a maximalist pastel paradise where we promise you’ll never get overstimulated, and there’s no such thing as OVERSHARING (because it’s just called sharing, okay??) This island features psychedelic toads, astrologically relevant dolphins and robots that handle ALL your boring admin tasks. A DREAM.

If you’re as obsessed as we are with Emma after listening (and we know you will be) make sure you follow her:

Instagram: @emmasmindovermatter

TikTok: @emmasmindovermatter

SHARE this episode with your fave ND brains, and we will be back in your DIVINE neurodivergent ears next Thursday!

Love G-baby & Ta xx

(Oh and RSDing is banned on all our islands, so don’t even entertain it! You know the drill)

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Hello tiniest ADHD babies 💁‍♀️

WE ARE OFFICIALLY BACKKKK TO OUR LIVE WEEKLY EPS!! (Grace has been away on holiday for 3 weeks and Tara has been a shell of a human without her, obvs)

This week we're bringing you an interview with content creator and AuDHD advocate Emma Llewellyn (@emmasmindovermatter) all about PMDD - which is pre-menstrual dysphoric disorder. This topic is one that we get asked about often, so we wanted to do a deep dive with Emma, who raises awareness about PMDD frequently on her Instagram, and is always so real, raw and honest.

PMDD is a disorder that causes psychological and physical symptoms in the days and weeks before a person gets their period (the luteal phase). People who have ADHD are more likely to have PMDD than those who do not, possibly due to especially low levels of dopamine relating to ADHD.

We discuss:
• how it feels to have PMDD and how it can impact our lives, moods, relationships, jobs, energy levels and more

• how Emma realised she had PMDD and her journey being diagnosed

• how PMDD exacerbates emotions like rage, anxiety, depression, intrusive thoughts, low self-esteem and shame

• what 'PMDD survival mode' feels like and how communicating our needs to our partners or friends can reduce resentment and blame

• the dysphoric aspect of PMDD means you barely recognise yourself during the luteal phase (which can feel quite scary/like a loss of control), and this can be very confusing and disheartening

• More information on PMDD & support here

RECS 🤌
• Tara is recommending a show called 'Please Like Me', written by Josh Thomas and featuring comedians like Hannah Gadsby. The dramedy tackles sensitive topics like mental health and neurodivergence while also being v. funny.
• Grace is recommending a Netflix show she can’t stop bingeing called ‘The Lady’s Companion’ which is essentially what you’d get if Bridgerton and Jane the Virgin had a baby. 👼

We will be back in your DIVINE little neurodivergent ears next Thursdayyyy, and until then don't RSD (especially when you have PMDD bby girl 💣💥)

G-baby and Ta xx

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Hiiiii ADHD bestiesssss we’re back with another symposium on why-ADHD-can-suck-but-it’s-also-going-to-be-okay-we-promise!

This time we’re diving into the complexity of family relationships with ADHD and covering the best dilemmas from the last 40+ episodes on dynamics with parents, parents-in-law, partners etc *Dun dun duuun!*

Dilemma 1 - Holly sends a voice message dilemma on sharing her diagnosis from family and friends and facing stigma and gaslighting.

We discuss:

• ADHD's frequency and intensity
• The invisible nature of ADHD
• Common misconceptions and how to address them
• The energy drain of ADHD advocacy—when and how to engage

Dilemma 2 - An anon listener asks about an offhand comment from a mother-in-law that made this listener feel lazy

We discuss:

• Stopping ADHD self-criticism spirals
• Handling criticism & passive aggression
• Why parent comments trigger ADHDers
• Re-parenting your inner child with ADHD
• The invisible emotional load in ADHD families

Dilemma 3 - Sarah asks: “My parents don’t seem to acknowledge or understand my ADHD. I’m 27 and still living at home, and my mum is very critical of me and my anxiety.”

We discuss:

• ADHD & setting boundaries with parents
• Un-enmeshing from family dynamics
• Building trust through neutral & fun connections

Dilemma 4 - A gorgeous neurotypical listener asks about how to support his ADHD girlfriend, especially with confidence, negative self talk and finding accommodations for her.

We discuss:

• Overcoming ADHD self-criticism
• Breaking unconscious negative thought patterns
• Separating thoughts from identity for self-awareness

Dilemma 5 - “How do I get my Mum to understand I’m not lazy and it’s not that I don’t care - I’m trying my best”

We discuss:

• Neurodivergent energy levels & the need for rest
• ADHD hyperfocus & losing track of time
• Sensory overwhelm & inconsistent behavior in ADHD
• Parental guilt about late ADHD recognition
• Navigating conversations with undiagnosed ADHD parents

We love you 4evs and we will be back with a VERY SPECIAL episode next week with the one and only Emma from @emmasmindovermatter!!!

RSDing is out of the question, as always!

GB and T

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Hi besties!

On the pod today:
Our Second Official ADHD Besties Symposium is here and this time we're looking at ADHD and Friendships. Why? Because when you have ADHD they can be hard bby.

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We have curated THE BEST 🤌 dilemmas on friendships from our very handsome (flicks hair into quiff) back catalogue and put them together for you to share with the people around you so that they understand your Gorgeous Little Neurodivergent Brains (GLNB’s) a bit better OR to remind you to be kind to those GLNBs when it comes to managing friendships.

This week we answer a series of dilemmas specific to ADHD and friendships including;

💌 "How can I manage relationships/friendships when my ADHD makes me “outta sight, outta mind”?!

💌 "I feel like my roommate is embarrassed by me because of my ADHD - how do I bring this up without creating a full blown drama?"

💌 "ADHD drains my social battery but my friends think I'm avoiding them" -with the gorgeous Olivia from @neurodiversing

💌 "AuDHD, debilitating RSD and being left out of friendship groups"

We discuss:

• ADHD texting paralysis/communication overwhelm, why we can’t reply, and how to make it easier
• How hyperfocus makes time melt away (and why every message starts with ‘omg I’m so sorry’)
• Why being upfront about your ADHD can save friendships
• Why being pitied is so painful for ADHDers
• The double standard of being ‘child-like’ with ADHD (why does no one mention the positives?!)
• How RSD can sabotage friendships
• Why ADHDers and AuDHDers rest differently—and how to redefine fun for yourself
• The joy of missing out—why it’s sometimes not just okay but IMPORTANT
• How to fix relationships after an RSD spiral
• What to do if you’ve canceled too many times due to burnout
• How to stop self-sabotaging friendships & work relationships

We will be back in your GLND ears NEXT THURSDAY
And until then: *said in a melodic chorus* Don’t RSD baby girllll 💖

Tata and Grace xxxxx

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