Shadow work around performing for connection explores how the roles we learned to play as children — to stay safe, liked, or needed — become the performances we carry into adult relationships.

In this episode of Wholehearted Loving, Georgianna and Steph talk about Conscious Relationship Training, and how it helped them unpack their own performing for connection. Steph shares how comfort in discomfort became her norm, and how she learned to stop creating pain as a form of control. Georgianna opens up about how “being nice” was really about avoiding her own discomfort when others felt bad — and how shadow work helped her find real freedom.

Together, they explore what authenticity actually feels like in the body, how to track “just-right” sensations before things tip into overwhelm, and why performing kindness is never the same as living it.

Discover how:

• Performances for love and safety begin as clever coping and can end as chronic disconnection

• Awareness of your body’s subtle cues can prevent emotional over-stretching

• Real compassion includes yourself — not just everyone else

"Like finding gold." – Alma W.

"The best therapy I've ever done for myself." – Sanjeev B.

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With love,

Georgianna & Steph

Shadow work is a great way to explore what happens when our need to be liked keeps us from being real.

In this episode of Wholehearted Loving, Georgianna and Steph begin with a literal light-and-shadow practice and move into the deeper truth of emotional shadow work: what we hide to stay safe. Georgianna shares a powerful story about her son saying he wanted to “saw his brother in half” — and how meeting that truth with compassion revealed what all humans need when we’re at our most raw. Steph reflects on her own learned “niceness” and how she used intellectual kindness to cover frustration and fear, creating emotional dissonance and disconnection.

Together, they explore how people-pleasing and palatability develop as protective strategies, how they block intimacy, and how self-awareness turns those patterns into power. From relationships to parenting to personal growth, they show what it really means to be fully human — not just polite.

Discover how:

• Niceness can become a mask that hides our needs

• Shadow work reveals the light we’ve hidden to stay safe

• Real connection grows when we stop performing “fine”

"Like finding gold." – Alma W.

"The best therapy I've ever done for myself." – Sanjeev B.

LIVE training & practice programs:
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Get our self-compassionate body-based toolkit

Every episode begins and ends with a body-based self-connection practice, so you can grow your capacity to be with all that life brings. We also include self-reflection and journaling prompts each week, posted on our Instagram @wholeheartedloving. New episodes every Sunday at 10am PT.

With love,

Georgianna & Steph

Fault-finding is a typical — and unhelpful — way to bring our critical energy into relationships.

In this episode of Wholehearted Loving, Georgianna and Steph explore the tension between seeing what’s wrong and allowing what’s right. Georgianna shares the moment she caught herself ready to correct her partner mid-kindness and realized her old habit of “quality control” was blocking closeness. Steph reflects on her childhood training to “help by fixing,” how she swung to the other extreme of never offering input, and what balance feels like now.

Together they reveal how nitpicking acts as low-grade fight energy, how compassion turns critique into connection, and how letting people win with you makes relationships feel safe again — for both sides.

Discover how:

• Awareness turns criticism into choice and trust

• Nitpicking reveals unspoken fight energy ready to move

• Ease and connection grow when you practice seeing what’s working

"Like finding gold." – Alma W.

"The best therapy I've ever done for myself." – Sanjeev B.

LIVE training & practice programs:
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Get our self-compassionate body-based toolkit

Every episode begins and ends with a body-based self-connection practice, so you can grow your capacity to be with all that life brings. We also include self-reflection and journaling prompts each week, posted on our Instagram @wholeheartedloving. New episodes every Sunday at 10 am PT.

With love,

Georgianna & Steph

Boundaries begin in the body — it sounds simple, but when you say it out loud with your whole self, everything changes.

In this episode of Wholehearted Loving, Georgianna and Steph share a powerful practice for clarity and boundaries. Georgianna tells the story of how she rediscovered her playful “wiggle” — a part of herself she had long shut down to seem proper — and how reclaiming it brought joy and authenticity back into her body. Steph reflects on finding mental peace in dangerous chaos (like speeding through highway traffic) and how she learned safer ways to quiet her mind through embodied focus.

Together, they guide you through an easy practice to explore how declarations land differently when spoken out loud, why embodied no’s don’t need fight energy, and how this simple movement can rewire your sense of self-trust and connection.

Discover how:

• Speaking needs and boundaries out loud clarifies them in seconds

• Your body reveals what’s true more reliably than your thoughts

• Simple movement paired with words can shift long-held patterns

"Like finding gold." – Alma W.

"The best therapy I've ever done for myself." – Sanjeev B.

LIVE training & practice programs:
wholeheartedloving.com

Get our self-compassionate body-based toolkit

Every episode begins and ends with a body-based self-connection practice, so you can grow your capacity to be with all that life brings. We also include self-reflection and journaling prompts each week, posted on our Instagram @wholeheartedloving. New episodes every Sunday at 10am PT.

With love,

Georgianna & Steph

Your Energy Is Contagious — and most of us underestimate just how much impact we have in everyday moments.

In this episode of Wholehearted Loving, Georgianna shares the story of Bella — a grocery store clerk whose genuine warmth became a community-wide treasure, showing how even a 30-second exchange can shift someone’s whole day. Steph reflects on how a simple awareness of “frowny face” energy changed the dynamic in her past relationship, and how noticing what we transmit opens space for intentional choice.

Together, they explore the spectrum of energy from “love hubs” to protective blockers, why both are human and valid, and how practices like Metta (loving kindness) let us extend care to others even when we’re alone. They also share how their own patterns — from Steph’s life-of-the-party mask to Georgianna’s childhood role as family mediator — shaped the energies they learned to embody, and how they’ve reclaimed freedom to be real, human, and intentional in what they share now.

Discover how:

• Everyday moments ripple into big emotional impact

• Awareness of your “default energy” gives you back choice

• Loving kindness practices expand your presence beyond the room

"Like finding gold." – Alma W.
"The best therapy I've ever done for myself." – Sanjeev B.

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Get our self-compassionate body-based toolkit

Every episode begins and ends with a body-based self-connection practice, so you can grow your capacity to be with all that life brings. We also include self-reflection and journaling prompts each week, posted on our Instagram @wholeheartedloving. New episodes every Sunday at 10am PT.

With love,

Georgianna & Steph

The Threshold Moments Recipe is a simple, playful way to move from stress mode to presence mode — in less than a minute.

In this episode of Wholehearted Loving, Georgianna and Steph share a body-based “recipe” for threshold moments: the times when we move from one swirl of life into another. Georgianna tells stories of running errands, picking up her kids, and walking into a chaotic house — and how skipping her reset always escalated tension. Steph reflects on her need to add sensory ingredients (like squeezing her hands and feeling her feet) to truly land in the moment, and how these micro-practices keep her from spiraling into reactivity.

Together, they guide you through a sequence of seat awareness, shoulder rolls, thumping, and a simple acupressure point — and show how to adapt it for your own wiring, your family, or even your kids. This isn’t about performing calm. It’s about creating a pause so you can enter the next space with more steadiness and choice.

Discover how:

• Threshold moments shape the energy you bring into relationships

• A one-minute “recipe” can prevent stress from escalating at home

• Simple practices can be playful, adaptable, and even fun to teach others

"Like finding gold." – Alma W.

"The best therapy I've ever done for myself." – Sanjeev B.

Join our monthly membership for LIVE calls & practice:
wholeheartedloving.com

Get our self-compassionate body-based toolkit

Every episode begins and ends with a body-based self-connection practice, so you can grow your capacity to be with all that life brings. We also include self-reflection and journaling prompts each week, posted on our Instagram @wholeheartedloving. New episodes every Sunday at 10am PT.

With love,

Georgianna & Steph

"My Energy Is Not For ___" isn’t just a catchy phrase — it’s a powerful practice for protecting your peace.

In this episode of Wholehearted Loving, Georgianna and Steph reflect on Taylor Swift’s viral clip about treating your energy like gold, and how it stirred up deep insights about purpose, boundaries, and choice. Steph shares candid reflections on disappointing others, codependency, and her need to conserve energy for work that truly matters. Georgianna opens up about years spent ruminating after heartbreak — and how she learned to protect the hard-won peace she built through nervous system work and self-compassion.

Together, they explore how to identify what your energy is not for, what it is for, and how to bring that awareness into the next five minutes — not just the next decade.

Discover how:

• Naming “my energy is not for…” can clarify boundaries in seconds

• Rumination drains precious energy — and how to shift out of it

• Small energy audits help align your daily choices with your deeper purpose

"Like finding gold." – Alma W."The best therapy I've ever done for myself." – Sanjeev B.

Join our monthly membership for LIVE calls & practice:
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Get our self-compassionate body-based toolkit

Every episode begins and ends with a body-based self-connection practice, so you can grow your capacity to be with all that life brings. We also include self-reflection and journaling prompts each week, posted on our Instagram @wholeheartedloving. New episodes every Sunday at 10am PT.

With love,

Georgianna & Steph

And What Else isn’t just a question — it’s a powerful nervous system tool for shifting how we experience our world.

In this episode of Wholehearted Loving, Georgianna and Steph share stories of using this simple practice to interrupt old patterns of compounding pain and avoiding discomfort. Georgianna tells the story of a gym session where she asked for deep pressure support to create a nervous system reset. Steph reflects on how numbing and spiraling kept her from actually feeling her feelings, and how “and what else” builds real capacity to sit with what’s hard — without being swallowed by it.

Together, they explore how to notice neutral or pleasant sensations alongside the difficult ones, why this practice grows awe for what’s possible, and how to reclaim even a single breath of relief as a victory.

Discover how:

• “And what else” interrupts spirals and creates new options

• Pleasant sensations expand your capacity for the hard ones

• Growing micro-moments of ease rewires your nervous system for resilience

"Like finding gold." – Alma W.

"The best therapy I've ever done for myself." – Sanjeev B.

Join our monthly membership for LIVE calls & practice:
wholeheartedloving.com

Get our self-compassionate body-based toolkit

Every episode begins and ends with a body-based self-connection practice, so you can grow your capacity to be with all that life brings. We also include self-reflection and journaling prompts each week, posted on our Instagram @wholeheartedloving. New episodes every Sunday at 10am PT.

With love,

Georgianna & Steph