In this episode of Thirty, Flirty, and Panicking, Kelsey Murphy sits down with Dr. Mindy Pelz — bestselling author of Age Like a Girl, and women’s health expert — for an informative, perspective-shifting conversation about aging, hormones, and the female brain.

Dr. Pelz has spent decades studying functional medicine, women’s health, and hormonal transitions, and in this episode, she breaks down what’s actually happening in women’s bodies and brains as they move through perimenopause, menopause, and beyond — and why so many of the changes women experience are misunderstood.

Rather than viewing aging as decline, Dr. Mindy reframes this chapter as a biologically intelligent redesign. She explains how shifts in hormones and brain chemistry are not random or punitive, but purposeful… designed to reveal a more authentic version of who we are and to help us release what no longer serves us. As she shares in Age Like a Girl, these changes are happening for us, not to us, allowing women to step into greater clarity, confidence, and power as life evolves.

In this conversation, Dr. Pelz breaks down:

• ​How women’s brains change at different stages of life — and why those shifts influence how we think, feel, and show up
• ​What happens to hormones during perimenopause and menopause, and how those changes affect mood, memory, and motivation
• ​The lifestyle changes that can help support women through hormonal transitions
• ​How women of all ages can better understand, support, and advocate for themselves — and one another — through change
• ​How to support someone you love through life’s shifts

This episode isn’t about fear or quick fixes. It’s about understanding what’s happening beneath the surface — and giving women language, context, and compassion for experiences they’re often told to quietly endure.

Whether you’re feeling foggy, overwhelmed, burned out, or simply sensing that something is shifting, this conversation helps explain why — and offers a powerful reframe of what’s possible on the other side. No matter what season you’re in, this episode invites you to see aging not as something to resist, but as an opportunity to live with more intention, authenticity, and ease.

THIS WEEK'S TOOLKIT:

Get your copy of Age Like a Girl: https://tinyurl.com/2jyvjjsj

Connect with Dr. Mindy:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.mindypelz

Website: https://www.drmindypelz.com

This week on Thirty, Flirty, and Panicking, Kelsey sits down with Being° Coach Sarita Walsh for a grounding conversation about slowing down, interrupting intrusive thoughts, and reconnecting with who you really are beneath the noise of comparison, pressure, and expectation. In a world that constantly asks us to rush, perform, and figure everything out, Sarita helps us explore what happens when we pause long enough to notice our inner world, and make choices from a place of clarity, not fear.

Sarita’s approach is thoughtful and introspective, yet the tools she shares are remarkably practical and immediately usable. Together, she and Kelsey explore what it means to challenge long-held beliefs, build a values-led life, regulate your nervous system, and create a future that feels aligned, not recycled from the past. If you’re reinventing yourself, rebuilding after loss, or simply craving more presence and self-understanding, this episode will meet you exactly where you are.

This conversation was recorded back in May and intentionally saved for a post-launch episode... and we can't wait to share it!

WHAT YOU’LL TAKE AWAY:

• How to question intrusive thoughts so they stop running the show• A simple daily practice to make each day feel more grounded and intentional

• Why identifying your core values helps every decision feel clearer

• How to create a future from possibility — not fear or old patterns

• Tools for navigating transitions, uncertainty, and identity shifts

• How to separate who you actually are from who you learned to be

• What it means to choose presence over performance

• How slowing down creates more clarity (and less overwhelm)

THIS WEEK’S TOOLKIT:

Connect with Sarita:

Website: saritawalsh.com

Instagram: @saritawalsh

YouTube: Being with Sarita

Tools Mentioned:

• Thought-Questioning Practice: Write down a fear or belief and gently ask, “Is this true? Who would I be without it?”

• Three Extraordinary Things: Choose three small things each morning that would make the day extraordinary.

• Values Clarification: Identify 4 core values that matter most to you, and use them as your compass.

• Future-from-the-Future: As Sarita explains: “Create your future from your future" not your past.

This week on Thirty, Flirty, and Panicking, host Kelsey Murphy sits down with writer and creator Jack Ciapciak — whose reflections on grief and love recently went viral after he shared the story of losing his fiancé, also named Jack. A thoughtful storyteller with a background in television writing, Jack has built a global community around healing, connection, and keeping the memory of loved ones alive.

This conversation is a powerful look at life after loss — and a reminder that grief is not linear, love doesn’t disappear, and community can carry us through our darkest seasons. Kelsey and Jack explore the reality of grieving both the past and the future you imagined, the signs that show up when you need them most, how to support someone who is hurting, and the deeply human experience of finding hope again. You’ll walk away with perspective-shifting takeaways on presence, resilience, and the small ways we keep our people with us long after they’re gone.

• How to hold space for someone who’s grieving — what to say, what NOT to worry about, and why outreach matters even when you don’t know what to do.

• Tools for staying present when your future suddenly changes — what Jack learned about redefining his life after losing the one he planned it with.

• How to recognize the physical side of grief — and why exhaustion, fog, and emotional shutdown are normal.

• How community is key to rebuilding — including the surprising kindness Jack found online.

• How to keep someone’s memory alive without feeling stuck — the power of storytelling, rituals, and humor.

• How signs can serve you — Jack shares how he began noticing clear signs that helped him feel connected when he needed it most, and how you can look for yours

• Why grief isn’t just about death — it can be the loss of a relationship, a dream, an identity, or a version of yourself.

• How to let people show up for you, even imperfectly — and why vulnerability becomes a bridge, not a burden.

THIS WEEK'S TOOLKIT:

• Signs by Laura Lynne Jackson: https://tinyurl.com/5ynb8kjm• Anderson Cooper’s podcast All There Is: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/all-there-is-with-anderson-cooper/id1643163707• Grief support groups & grief-specialist therapy• The “bench story” that started Jack’s viral moment on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@jackciapciak/photo/7475552011036020014?lang=en

Connect with Jack:• TikTok: @jackciapciak• Instagram: @jackciapciak

Note: This conversation was recorded pre-launch in March and is being shared now in honor of what would’ve been Jack and Jack’s second wedding anniversary and Jack Lorentzen’s 33rd birthday.

This week on Thirty, Flirty, and Panicking, host Kelsey Murphy sits down with Maha Abouelenein — CEO of Digital & Savvy, AP Global Board Member, and author of 7 Rules of Self-Reliance — for a go-to guide to building a personal brand and simple day-to-day steps that pay off long-term. A powerhouse strategist who’s led comms for Google and Netflix in the Middle East, Maha has helped global leaders, CEOs, high-profile clients, and brands build trust and tell their stories.

This episode is a practical Self-Reliance Toolkit: how to own your story, build a reputation that compounds, and stop waiting for permission. Kelsey and Maha dig into mastering focus, turning challenges into strengths, creating value that deposits into others’ “trust banks,” and why personal brand = reputation for everyone. You’ll leave with moves to upgrade your IRL relationships, build a brand that feels authentic to you, and play the long game with clarity and confidence.

THIS WEEK'S TOOLKIT

Grab a copy of 7 Rules of Self-Reliance:

⁠https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1401978665?tag=randohouseinc7986-20⁠

Connect with Maha:

-Instagram: ⁠@mahagaber⁠

-X (Twitter): ⁠@mahagaber⁠

-LinkedIn: ⁠Maha Abouelenein⁠

Work with Maha:

- Website: ⁠mahaabouelenein.com⁠

This week on Thirty, Flirty, and Panicking, host Kelsey Murphy opens up about finally feeling ready to dip a toe back into dating after heartbreak last year — and who better to guide that conversation than Amy Nobile Messing, holistic dating coach, entrepreneur, and founder of Love, Amy.

After leaving a 20-year marriage and navigating the modern dating scene in her 40s, Amy cracked the code on intentional dating and turned her own transformation into a thriving coaching practice.

In this candid conversation, Amy shares why self-worth is the foundation of attraction, the four pillars of early dating, and why you should never confuse being chosen with being aligned. From mini “screener” dates to spotting red and green flags, her advice is equal parts practical and empowering.

Whether you’re dating after heartbreak, feeling timeline pressure, or just burnt out on the apps, Amy offers a roadmap to rediscovering joy in the process — and attracting the love you truly deserve.

✨ What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• -Why intentional dating starts with knowing your core values

• -How self-worth and vision intersect to unlock big love

• -The mini screener date strategy that saves time and energy

• -Key questions to ask on dates 1–3 that reveal emotional maturity and readiness

• -How to reframe chemistry

  -What to consider when it comes to intimacy

  -Top red flags AND green flags to look out for

  -How to know you're ready to get back in the game after heartbreak

• -Amy’s words of encouragement for anyone scared to leap into the unknown

• Let's do this together!

In this episode, host Kelsey Murphy sits down with Aleen Dreksler, co-founder and CEO of Betches Media, the cultural powerhouse that began as an anonymous blog in 2011 and exploded into a multimedia empire with a reach of more than 250 million.

Aleen shares the inside story of building Betches from its scrappy, satirical beginnings into one of the most recognizable brands in internet culture. She opens up about:

• The leap from pre-med student to media mogul

• Sticking to your gut (and your name) even when others doubt it

• Balancing friendship and business with her co-founders

• Navigating the $24M+ sale of Betches to LBG Media

• Why she launched her Substack, Please Advise, and the real questions women ask her most

• What she predicts is next in media

Whether you’re a budding entrepreneur, a daydreamer with a big idea, or someone who just loves a good origin story, Aleen’s journey is proof that you can turn an idea into an empire.

TOOLKIT:

• Follow Aleen on Instagram

• Subscribe to her Substack: Please Advise: https://aleendreksler.substack.com

• Learn more about Betches Media

About six months ago, host Kelsey Murphy sat down with Dr. Sarah Hensley — a specialized social psychologist who has spent nearly 20 years studying the science of attachment and attraction. Dr. Hensley has built an audience of more than 1.5 million people across TikTok, Instagram, YouTube, and Facebook through her clear, approachable explanations of attachment theory and relationship dynamics. Her work has inspired countless people — including Kelsey — to better understand themselves, their partners, and the way early life experiences can shape how we show up in love.

In this episode, listeners will learn:
- The four main attachment styles (secure, anxious, fearful avoidant, dismissive avoidant)
- How childhood experiences with caregivers can impact adult relationships
- Red flags to notice in dating and how to spot avoidant tendencies early on
- How to initiate conversations surrounding attachment styles
- Parenting insights for raising secure children
- Why “potential” in relationships isn’t enough — and what to focus on instead
- Mindset shifts to help move toward healing in the aftermath of breakups
- What to do if you're considering returning to a relationship that has ended
- Practical steps for moving toward secure attachment

This is a conversation worth revisiting, sharing, and saving — a true toolkit for anyone navigating the complexities of relationships.

TOOLKIT:

-Follow Dr. Sarah Hensley: TikTok, Instagram, YouTube, Facebook, Website
- Book referenced: It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken by Greg Behrendt & Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt

This week, Kelsey sits down with the Queen of Boundaries herself — Michelle Elman (@michellelelman). Michelle is a London-based bestselling author of five books (including The Selfish Romantic and The Joy of Being Selfish), a board-certified life coach, and a TV regular who has a rare ability to make boundaries feel less like a buzzword and more like a toolkit you can actually use.

Michelle first made waves nearly a decade ago with her viral Scarred Not Scared campaign, after proudly posting a bikini photo that showcased the scars from 15 surgeries she underwent before the age of 20. Since then, she’s built a powerful platform dedicated to confidence, boundaries, and self-worth — and just last year, she demonstrated extraordinary resilience once again when she navigated a very public heartbreak with honesty and grace.

Together, Kelsey and Michelle explore practical scripts you can use to set boundaries at work, in friendships, and romantic relationships. They unpack why confidence isn’t built overnight but through small decisions, how to stop treating singlehood as a problem, and why timelines are social constructs that don’t define your worth.

In this conversation, Kelsey and Michelle dive into:

• Why setting boundaries is hard — but living without them is harder

• How to say “no” without overexplaining (and why it’s the kindest thing you can do)

• The “boundary backlash” and how to move through it

• Why selfish doesn’t have to be a dirty word

• The volume dial analogy for balancing life without burnout

• How to start building confidence today (and why confidence can be contagious)

• Shifting your mindset following a breakup

• How to actually feel feelings and move through them

• Why being single is not a waiting room — and how to reframe your mindset around timelines

Michelle’s story is proof that when you set boundaries, own your story, and protect your energy, you can come back stronger every single time.

• TOOLKIT:

• • Follow Michelle on Instagram: ⁠@MichelleLElman⁠

  • Pick up a copy: ⁠The Selfish Romantic⁠ & ⁠The Joy of Being Selfish⁠

  • In All Honesty: ⁠How to Feel Your Feelings Episode⁠

  • Explore more of her work: ⁠michelleelman.com⁠