In this sixth episode of The Truth My Body Told, Danielle Bird (Licensed Counselling Therapist & Somatic Attachment Trauma Recovery Coach) responds to a listener question from TikTok:

💬 “What would you recommend to someone who didn't feel love? Are there ways of developing capacity to experience this?” — Yma Tho

With a trauma-informed, attachment-focused lens, Danielle unpacks what it really means to "feel love," why so many survivors confuse pity, loyalty, or codependency with love, and how nervous system repair expands your capacity for genuine intimacy.

🌹 The difference between love, loyalty, compassion, pity, and codependent attachment

🌹 How early models of “love” (enmeshment, fawning, emotional parentification) shape your current capacity to feel

🌹 Why avoidant/anxious or disorganized attachment, shutdown, and functional freeze can make you feel numb or disconnected from love

🌹 How chronic hypervigilance and leaving yourself to manage others’ emotions erodes your sense of self

🌹 The link between intimacy, vulnerability, and nervous system safety

🌹 Why avoidant-leaning folks are often great at big boundaries but struggle with the smaller, moment-to-moment ones

🌹 Bite-sized, practical ways to practice micro boundaries and emotional honesty in real time

🌹 How to use Danielle’s CPR method for emotional processing to de-shame your needs and wounds around love: watch this TikTok to learn how : https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMA3XSDH7/

🌹 Rewiring imprinted, body-based beliefs like “I am too much,” “others will only take from me,” or “I have to be the strong one”

✨ Danielle’s course Create Safety in Your Nervous System ($87) teaches you how to rewire the subconscious, body-based beliefs that keep your nervous system in survival so you can actually feel and receive love. Get the course now here: stan.store/thedaniellebird

Learn more about Danielle here: https://www.daniellebird.com/

💌 Want to submit a question for the “If You Were My Client” series? Email Danielle at danielle@daniellebird.com or connect on socials @thedaniellebird.

🎥 Watch the visual version of this episode on YouTube: link coming soon

🕊️ Book a free 15-minute consult to work 1:1 with Danielle for coaching or therapy (where applicable): https://calendly.com/birddaniellee/radical-rebirth-application

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In this fifth episode of The Truth My Body Told, Danielle Bird (Licensed Counselling Therapist & Somatic Attachment Trauma Recovery Coach) responds to two listener questions from TikTok:

💬 “So how do you manage flashbacks?” — @katiatells

💬 “Are there any books we can read to understand emotional flashbacks and how to catch them better?” — @ytniado

With her Flashback (Flooding) Management Guide, Danielle explains how to move through emotional flashbacks using trauma-informed, body-based steps that help you reorient to safety and self-trust.

🌹 What flashbacks really are - why they’re body memories, not “overreactions”

🌹 The difference between emotional flashbacks and regular triggers

🌹 How to name, orient, and reclaim power during a flashback episode

🌹 Somatic techniques for regulating your nervous system when stuck in fight, flight, or freeze

🌹 Inner system soothing and adult self-affirmation practices for integration

🌹 Why harm reduction (not perfectionism) is key to nervous system repair

🌹 How to meet flashbacks with curiosity instead of shame

✨ Danielle’s upcoming course Create Safety in Your Nervous System ($87) will teach you how to rewire the subconscious body-based beliefs that cause recurring flashbacks. Join the waitlist here: https://www.daniellebird.com/

💌 Want to submit a question for the “If You Were My Client” series? Email Danielle at danielle@daniellebird.com or connect on socials @thedaniellebird.

🎥 Watch the visual version of this episode on YouTube: link coming soon

🕊️ Book a free 15-minute consult to work 1:1 with Danielle: https://calendly.com/birddaniellee/radical-rebirth-application

🌹 Link to Angering Against the Inner Critic TikTok Playlist : https://www.tiktok.com/@thedaniellebird/playlist/Angering%20-%3E%20Inner%20Critic-7558987035499924236?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc

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In this fourth episode of The Truth My Body Told, Danielle Bird (Licensed Counselling Therapist & Somatic Attachment Trauma Recovery Coach) responds to a listener question from TikTok:

"What are the very first steps to acknowledging layered trauma and attachment wounds if you've spent your entire life suppressing it in survival mode?"

With her Radical Rebirth™ framework, somatic tools, and trauma-informed attachment approach, Danielle explores:

🌹 Why denial is a survival strategy and how it connects to the grief cycle (denial, bargaining, anger, depression, acceptance)

🌹 How the psyche protects itself through shutdown, numbness, or hypervigilance when it doesn’t have the resources to process

🌹 The layers beneath survival mode: unprocessed emotions, belief wounds, unmet needs, and subconscious comfort zones

🌹 Step #1: Creating nervous system safety by rewiring attention toward neutral or pleasurable states and de-shaming survival strategies

🌹 Step #2: Building your “spider web” of connection through safe-enough relationships, archetypes, and your future self

🌹 Step #3: Meeting triggered states with compassion, titration, and relational repair between your adult self and protective parts

🌹 Why subconscious rewiring is essential for long-term trauma and attachment recovery—and how your reticular activating system (“razzle-dazzle”) filters your daily experience based on subconscious programming

💌 Want to submit a question for the “If You Were My Client” series? Email Danielle at danielle@daniellebird.com or connect on socials @thedaniellebird.

✨ Danielle’s upcoming course Create Safety in Your Nervous System ($87) teaches you how to do this step by step. Join the waitlist here: https://www.daniellebird.com/

✨ Book a free 15-min consult to work together here: https://calendly.com/birddaniellee/radical-rebirth-application

📺 Watch the visual version of this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/no7ogJ3sGHc

Danielle’s Psychology Today profile: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/therapists/danielle-bird-kelowna-bc/1595103

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In this third episode of The Truth My Body Told, Danielle Bird (Licensed Counselling Therapist & Somatic Attachment Trauma Recovery Coach) responds to a listener email from KK:

“What’s your opinion on saying your limiting beliefs out loud? Does speaking them create them into your reality vs. when they are just in your mind?”

Drawing from her Radical Rebirth™ framework, attachment work, and trauma-informed nervous system approach, Danielle explores:

🌹 What limiting beliefs actually are (survival beliefs rooted in nervous system states of threat)

🌹 Why simply “stamping out” negative beliefs doesn’t work—and can make things worse if you live with trauma or chronic survival states

🌹 The difference between rewiring through the conscious vs. subconscious mind

🌹 Why affirmations can backfire if your body doesn’t believe them

🌹 A practical trauma-informed method to rewire limiting beliefs using safety memories, repetition, and the body’s language

🌹 How Vasavi Kumar’s TikTok advice makes sense and what’s missing to make it safe and effective for those healing complex trauma

🌹 Danielle’s step-by-step equation to rewire the subconscious and create new neural pathways

💌 Want to submit a question for the “If You Were My Client” series? Email Danielle at danielle@daniellebird.com or connect on socials @thedaniellebird.

✨ Danielle’s upcoming course Create Safety in Your Nervous System ($87) teaches you how to do this step by step. Join the waitlist here: https://www.daniellebird.com/

✨ CPR Freebie here : https://www.daniellebird.com/

✨ Book a free 15-min consult to work together here: https://calendly.com/birddaniellee/radical-rebirth-application?month=2025-09

& Danielle's Psych Today profile: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/therapists/danielle-bird-kelowna-bc/1595103

📺 Watch the visual version of this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/uGXJTkleX3E

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In this second episode of The Truth My Body Told, Danielle Bird (Licensed Counselling Therapist & Somatic Attachment Trauma Recovery Coach) responds to a listener question:

“As an autistic and CPTSD person, how can I tell the difference between a meltdown and being in an anger part of a trauma cycle?”

Building on Polyvagal Theory and her Radical Rebirth™ framework, Danielle explains:

• What a meltdown is (and why it’s not “bad behavior” but a neuroprotective discharge)
• How an anger part of a trauma cycle shows up differently in the psyche, emotions, body, and spirit
• The overlap between autism & CPTSD in nervous system sensitivity and reactivity
• Practical ways to normalize, depersonalize, and discharge these states safely
• Danielle’s CPR method to process emotional and nervous system charge
• The role of buffers, recovery, and self-advocacy in building long-term capacity

💌 Want to submit a question for the “If You Were My Client” series? Email Danielle at danielle@daniellebird.com or connect on socials @thedaniellebird.

✨ Danielle’s upcoming course Create Safety in Your Nervous System ($87) teaches you how to do this step by step. Join the waitlist here: https://www.daniellebird.com/

✨ CPR Freebie here : https://www.daniellebird.com/

✨ Book a free 15-min consult to work together here: https://calendly.com/birddaniellee/radical-rebirth-application?month=2025-09

& Danielle's Psych Today profile: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/therapists/danielle-bird-kelowna-bc/1595103

🌹 The TikTok video referenced: https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMArffMJ6/

📺 Watch the visual version of this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/jz8jZ_MiU8g

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In this first episode of The Truth My Body Told, Danielle Bird (Licensed Counselling Therapist & Somatic Attachment Trauma Recovery Coach) breaks down why you can’t just “snap out of” chronic freeze, and why feeling anxiety when you try to move is actually a positive sign of healing.

Drawing on Polyvagal Theory and nearly seven years of client work, Danielle explains:

• What the Polyvagal Ladder is and how it relates to chronic freeze
• Why anxiety is a normal part of climbing out of dorsal vagal shutdown
• Practical steps to move with your body, discharge energy, and create safety
• How to talk directly to the parts of yourself that hold trauma patterns

💌 Want to submit a question for the “If You Were My Client” series? Email Danielle at danielle@daniellebird.com or connect on socials @thedaniellebird.

✨ Danielle’s upcoming course Create Safety in Your Nervous System ($87) teaches you how to do this step by step. Join the waitlist via this link: https://www.daniellebird.com/

✨ Book a 15 min free consult to work together here: https://calendly.com/birddaniellee/radical-rebirth-application?month=2025-09

🌹 The TikTok video referenced: https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMAj8tP3f/

Covers the following question: "“This is exactly me. But if I even try to move, literally or figuratively [out of chronic freeze], I get a huge anxiety response. It’s truly exhausting.”

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