We inherit shame like an unspoken family heirloom — stitched into our bodies, our ambition, our idea of enough. It’s the quiet undertone behind so many brilliant women asking, “Why do I still feel like I’m not enough?”

In this conversation, Jennifer Walter sits down with therapist and facilitator Kyira Wackett to unpack the hidden ways shame shapes our lives — from body image and burnout to perfectionism and belonging.

Together, they explore how shame isn’t just a feeling — it’s a learned survival strategy. One we can unlearn.

You’ll hear about the difference between “good” and “bad” pain, why setting boundaries feels so hard, and how to start building shame resilience without burning yourself out.

This episode is part psychology, part real talk — a compassionate deep dive into the quiet stories that keep women performing, proving, and people-pleasing.

If you’re tired of hustling for worth, this one’s your permission slip to rest, reflect, and begin again.

🎧 In this episode:

• The psychology of shame and why it runs so deep
• How shame drives burnout, perfectionism, and self-criticism
• The social scripts women inherit about worth and belonging
• Boundaries, self-compassion, and how to build real resilience
• Why healing shame starts with curiosity, not fixing

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Gratitude journals. Green juices. Meditation apps. We've been taught happiness is a checklist, but what if that's only half the story?

In this episode, we dive into the world of Positive Psychology and the concept of flourishing– living deeply, not just lightly.

We explore the PERMA‑H model (Positive Emotion • Engagement • Relationships • Meaning • Accomplishment • Health) and what it really means to feel alive even when life isn’t easy.

If you’ve done all the “right” self‑care things and still feel off… you’re not failing. You’re human. And this episode is your gentle invitation to stop chasing happiness and start tending what matters.

What You’ll Discover:

• Why happiness as a finish line keeps us stuck
• How the PERMA‑H model gives us a fuller picture of wellbeing
• How cultural expectations twist engagement, achievement, health & more
• A simple journaling exercise to map where you’re full and where you need space
• Why flourishing is rhythmic – not balanced or perfect

“Flourishing is the whole spectrum – light and dark, joy and grief, purpose and pause. And learning to hold all of it – that’s what it really means to be alive.”

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Tired of buying cookbooks that collect dust (or shame you for not owning grape molasses)? Same. In this episode, we’re talking about how to choose a cookbook that actually fits your real life and not some Pinterest-perfect fantasy.

I’ll show you how to spot the red flags (hello, pancetta prep on a Tuesday night 😵‍💫), how to tell if a cookbook is for beginners or pros, and what makes a recipe book actually useful.

This isn’t just a rant – it’s a full-on guide to picking the best cookbooks based on who you are, how you cook, and what you’ll actually make. Whether you’re a total kitchen newbie or just cookbook-curious, this episode will help you skip the hype and find books you’ll use on a random Tuesday.

✨ WHAT WE COVER:

• How to spot a cookbook scam
• The difference between recipes vs. how-to cookbooks
• Why food photography is lying to you
• The 80/20 rule for ingredients
• Why cooking is lowkey resistance (yup, we go there)
  
  

🎧 Prefer to skim? Head to the full episode transcript at www.jenniferwalter.me
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What if freedom isn’t the absence of limits, but the presence of form?

In this episode of The Scenic Route, Jen explores the paradox of constraints – why the boundaries we resist might be the very thing that saves us. Drawing on the work of sociologist Zygmunt Bauman and his idea of liquid modernity, she unpacks how modern life’s obsession with flexibility and endless options has left so many of us overwhelmed, exhausted, and floating without structure.

You’ll hear:

• Why too much freedom can make us feel lost instead of liberated
• What Bauman meant by “liquid modernity”, and how it shapes our daily anxiety
• How chosen limits can create space for creativity, rest, and meaning
• Why personal boundaries matter and why collective ones matter even more

This isn’t a call to hustle smarter or embrace toxic gratitude. It’s a quiet rebellion against a system that asks you to be endlessly available and endlessly improving. Jen invites you to build a life – and a world – solid enough to hold you.

• Survival is individual. Transformation is shared.
• They drained the public pool and sold you swimming lessons.
• The goalposts keep moving; nothing ever feels complete.
• You don’t need to fix yourself; you need structures that hold you.

If you’ve been feeling like you’re always treading water, this episode is your permission to stop swimming and start building your boat.

🎙️ The Scenic Route is a podcast for tired minds seeking depth over speed.

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Why do people still say women make “careless” decisions about abortion – and how can you shut that argument down fast? And what does it have to do with a shocking PhD thesis on endometriosis?

In this episode of The Scenic Route, you’ll get:

• A toolkit to counter the “careless abortion” myth from three angles: logic, evidence, and power.
• Evidence-based insights you can drop in conversation to cut through opinion with data.
• A clearer lens on structural bias – why women’s pain is underfunded and dismissed, and how the “default male” still shapes medicine.
• Practical ways to spot and challenge bias in your own life, research, and everyday conversations.
  
  

Mentioned in this episode:

• Criado Perez, C. (2019). Invisible women: Exposing data bias in a world designed for men. Abrams Press.
• Foster, D. G., Biggs, M. A., Ralph, L., Gerdts, C., Roberts, S., & Glymour, M. M. (2018). Socioeconomic outcomes of women who receive and women who are denied wanted abortions in the United States. American Journal of Public Health, 108(3), 407–413. https://doi.org/10.2105/AJPH.2017.304247
• National Institutes of Health. (2023). Estimates of funding for various research, condition, and disease categories (RCDC). Retrieved from https://report.nih.gov/funding/categorical-spending

By the end of this episode, you’ll have the arguments, the evidence, and the confidence to dismantle abortion myths and to recognise structural bias whenever women’s health and autonomy are sidelined.

👉 Hit play and add these tools to your feminist toolkit.

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Why do we procrastinate, overthink, avoid, or hold back just when things matter most? Your social media feed at 2 am calls this self-sabotage, but is it?

In this episode of the Scenic Route, we unpack fresh psychology research that flips the story of self-sabotage on its head. You’ll discover three hidden patterns that shape how we repeat harmful choices:

• Sensitives: quick learners who adapt after mistakes
• Unawares: people who miss the cause-and-effect until it’s explained
• Compulsives: those who know better but can’t break the cycle

You’ll hear why common advice like “just use willpower” or “learn from your mistakes” fails so many of us, and what actually works instead.

Because here’s the twist: you’re not broken, lazy, or your own worst enemy. What looks like sabotage is often safety in disguise. And once you see that, everything changes.

Paper mentioned:
Zeng, L., Park, H. R. P., McNally, G. P., Jean-Richard-dit-Bressel, P., et al. (2025). Causal inference and cognitive-behavioral integration deficits drive stable variation in human punishment sensitivity. Communications Psychology, 3, Article 103.

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September rolls in and suddenly life speeds up – school runs, work deadlines, holidays on the horizon. And with it comes the pressure to “get organised,” “finish strong,” and set bigger, better goals.

But here’s the truth: SMART goals don’t work for most women juggling kids, work, and real life. They focus on outcomes you can’t fully control — which often kills momentum before you even get started.

In this episode of The Scenic Route, we’re rethinking goal-setting from the end of summer to the end of the year. You’ll learn a framework that actually fits real life: lead and lag goals. Instead of chasing perfect outcomes, you’ll discover how to focus on the small, repeatable actions that build momentum, create daily wins, and carry you through even the busiest seasons.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• Why SMART goals often backfire (and why you’re not failing – the method is)
• The difference between lag goals (outcomes) and lead goals (actions you can control)
• Two simple ways to start setting goals using this framework, whether you’re outcome-driven or action-driven
• How to shift from chasing results to building momentum
• Practical examples for family life, work, self-care, and even the holiday season

If you’re tired of feeling like you’re always behind on your goals, this episode will give you a gentler, smarter way forward.

See you on the Scenic Route!

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Can a student’s body size affect their grades? Research says yes. In this episode of The Scenic Route, Jen explores how fat bias and socioeconomic bias shape grades, opportunities, and self-worth.

You’ll hear:

• A personal story of how weight stigma shows up in healthcare.
• A German study of 14,000 students showed that overweight and lower-income kids receive lower grades than equally capable peers.
• Why grades often reflect compliance, neatness, and bias more than actual learning.
• How to judge whether a study is credible using reliability, objectivity, and validity and why validity is the trickiest.
• Practical steps for parents, teachers, and students to challenge fatbias in schools and beyond.

Grades don’t just decide report cards. They decide futures. When body size and class bias affect grades, kids are taught that some people matter less.

This episode is a call to question those systems and to push for a world where all kids can thrive.

👉 Listen now and share this with another parent, teacher, or friend who cares about equity in education.

Mentioned study
Nennstiel, R., & Gilgen, S. (2024). Does chubby Can get lower grades than skinny Sophie? Using an intersectional approach to uncover grading bias in German secondary schools. PLOS ONE, 19(7), e0305703. https://doi.org/10.1371/journal.pone.0305703

All other mentioned resources are listed on scenicroutepodcast.com

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