The Soft Life After the Hard Years

???? with Nichole Banks — Divorce Coach, Podcaster & Author of “How to Navigate Heartache, Healing & Love After Divorce”

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You’ve done the hard years — the heartbreak, the rebuilding, the survival mode. Now, it’s time for something different. Something softer.

In this episode, Nichole Banks invites you into your Soft Life Era — where peace replaces pressure, rest becomes a requirement, and joy stops needing justification.

It’s not about luxury; it’s about liberation.

You’ll learn how to stop over-giving, say “no” without guilt, and finally live a life that feels gentle and aligned.

Nichole shares the raw truth about hitting her own breaking point after divorce, how she discovered peace in simplicity, and why slowing down might just be the boldest thing you’ll ever do.

✨ What You’ll Learn:

• What the “soft life” really means after divorce (and why it’s not lazy)
• Why peace feels uncomfortable at first — and how to embrace it
• The 5-part Soft Life Starter Pack to help you begin today
• How to stop performing and start feeling
• Why choosing ease doesn’t mean you’ve given up — it means you’ve finally arrived

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???? Listen If You’re:

• A woman healing after divorce or heartbreak
• Learning to rest, reset, and reclaim your peace
• Ready to stop surviving and start soft living

✨ Resources Mentioned:

• ???? Pre-Order Nichole’s Book: How to Navigate Heartache, Healing & Love After Divorce
• ???? Courses: Boundaries 101 & Confidence Looks Good on You — available at nicholebanks.com
• ???? Follow Nichole on Instagram: @msnicholebanks

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We’ve all been there—replaying old texts, scrolling “just to see,” or trying to prove we were worth staying for. But chasing doesn’t heal you, babe—it exhausts you.

In this powerful episode of The Nichole Banks Podcast, Nichole dives deep into why we chase love, closure, and validation after divorce—and how to finally stop. You’ll laugh, you’ll nod, and you’ll probably whisper “ouch, that’s me,” but you’ll also learn how to shift from panic to peace and start attracting the right energy instead of running after the wrong one.

✨ In this episode:

• Why we chase what’s walking away (and what we’re really seeking).
• How to stop confusing effort with worth.
• Nichole’s personal story of chasing love that wasn’t meant to stay.
• The energetic shift that happens when you align with peace.
• Practical steps to stop chasing and start attracting calm, clarity, and confidence.

???? Remember: You’re not hard to love—you were just loving in the wrong direction.

???? Listen now and learn how to stop chasing, start aligning, and trust that what’s meant for you won’t run away.

Follow Nichole on Instagram @msnicholebanks and visit nicholebanks.com for blogs, courses, retreats, and community designed to help you heal and thrive.

???? If this episode gave you chills or clarity, hit follow, leave a review, and share it with your bestie who’s still chasing what’s no longer hers. Because peace? It’s magnetic.

Confidence isn’t something you’re born with—it’s something you rebuild. After divorce, it’s easy to forget who you are, but babe, your power never left—you just forgot where you put it. In this episode, Nichole shares real talk, laughs, and 5 confidence-boosting moves to help you find your spark again (and look damn good doing it).

???? Follow @msnicholebanks and visit nicholebanks.com to dive deeper into your comeback journey.

In this episode of The Nichole Banks Podcast, Nichole gets real about how to rebuild confidence after heartbreak—the messy, funny, unfiltered version no one talks about. Because confidence isn’t found in Spanx or self-help quotes—it’s found in the moments you stop apologizing for being you.

✨ What you’ll hear in this episode:

• Why confidence has nothing to do with perfection—and everything to do with permission.
• The truth about how divorce rattles your self-worth (and how to get it back).
• Nichole’s personal story of losing her spark—and the bold moves that brought it roaring back.
• The small, daily habits that make you magnetic again.

???? Nichole’s 5 Confidence-Building Power Moves:

1. Keep promises to yourself. Every time you follow through, you prove you’re trustworthy—to you.
2. Celebrate the small wins. Confidence grows when you notice your progress, not just perfection.
3. Speak kindly to yourself. You can’t hate yourself into loving your life.
4. Get uncomfortable on purpose. Confidence is built through courage, not comfort.
5. Surround yourself with women who remind you who you are—not who you lost.

Because confidence isn’t about having it all together—it’s about daring to begin, even when you don’t.

???? Follow Nichole on Instagram @msnicholebanks for your daily dose of empowerment, and visit nicholebanks.com for coaching, retreats, and courses designed to help you rise again.

???? If this episode made you laugh, tear up, or straighten your crown a little higher, hit follow, leave a review, and share it with your bestie who needs this reminder: confidence never left—you just forgot where you put it.

Silence feels safe after divorce—but it doesn’t heal you. It buries you. And eventually? It breaks you.

In this raw and real episode, Nichole opens up about the quiet pain of pretending to be “fine,” why we stay silent, and how speaking your truth out loud can be the medicine you didn’t know you needed. Expect messy confessions, sassy girlfriend wisdom, and practical steps to finally let the weight off your chest.

What you’ll hear:

• Why silence feels easier—but costs you more.
• The real reasons women stay quiet after divorce.
• How to “heal out loud” without oversharing.
• Nichole’s personal story of breaking her silence—and what happened next.

Follow Nichole on Instagram @msnicholebanks and visit nicholebanks.com for courses, retreats, and coaching.

If this episode makes you laugh, cry, or whisper “same,” hit follow, leave a review, and share it with a girlfriend who needs this reminder: healing out loud is brave—not weak.

113. Who Get's The Friends?

Divorce isn’t just splitting assets—it’s splitting friends. Who gets the brunch crew? The gym squad? His sister you actually like better than him? In this episode, Nichole dives into the social fallout of divorce—awkward invites, friend custody, and how to build a new circle that feels like home again.

Follow Nichole on Instagram @msnicholebanks and visit nicholebanks.com for courses, retreats, and more.

And hey girl—if this episode made you laugh or gave you that “same, girl” moment, hit follow, leave a review, and share it with your bestie. That’s how we keep building this amazing community of women daring to begin again.

Episode 112: The Empty Dishwasher Syndrome

You’re listening to The Nichole Banks Podcast—where divorced women heal, grow, and dare to begin thriving.

Welcome back to The Nichole Banks Podcast—your go-to corner of the internet where divorced women rise, reignite their confidence, and dare to begin again.

This one? Oof, you’re going to want to download it, save it, favorite it, maybe even tattoo it on your emotional emergency kit (kidding… kind of). Because in today’s episode, we’re tackling the moments when self-doubt shows up wearing your old hoodie, camped out on your couch whispering things like:

• “Shouldn’t I be over this by now?”
• “Am I too broken or too complicated to start again?”
• “What if I’m the problem?”

Spoiler alert: Nope. Nope. And again, nope.

Nichole gets real about:

• Why healing isn’t linear (and how crying into your pillow over that song is actually progress)
• The three biggest lies self-doubt tells (and how to shut them down with truth bombs and a touch of sass)
• What it really means to choose yourself, even when you’re exhausted, scared, and wondering WTF comes next
• The power of community, courage, and calling your shot with two simple words: Watch me.

You’ll laugh, maybe cry a little, and definitely feel seen, heard, and held—because this isn’t just an episode, it’s your spiritual pep talk.

Welcome to the Nichole Banks Podcast, where divorced women heal, grow, and find new love while daring to begin thriving! In today’s episode, I’m sharing something very personal—my story, my mistakes, and how I found my purpose through all of it.

In This Episode:

Happy New Year, 2025! It’s time to shake things up and level up. I want you to think about what you’re going to do differently this year—because change is possible, and it all starts with YOU.

My Story: Today, I’m getting vulnerable and sharing the truth about my journey through two divorces, personal mistakes, and a life-changing wake-up call. I talk about how my second divorce shattered everything I thought I knew about love and myself.

The Hard Truth: From struggling with rejection and anger to hitting rock bottom with a financial mistake that landed me in an unexpected place, I’m opening up about it all. But here’s the thing—my rock bottom turned into the foundation for my biggest transformation.

Rebuilding My Life: In prison, of all places, I found clarity, strength, and a newfound purpose. Through personal growth, self-improvement, and facing my own accountability, I learned how to rebuild from the ground up.

A New Purpose: Now, I’m on a mission to help other women like you who are going through tough times, so you don’t have to feel alone. The pain you’re feeling right now is real, but there is a way through it.

Healing is Messy: I also share some laughable moments in my healing journey (hello, yoga and emotional support cat), proving that healing is far from perfect—but it’s totally worth it.

My Big Ask: Take that first step, no matter how small. Whether it’s setting a boundary, saying no, or simply getting out of bed today, I’ll be here cheering you on.

Resources Mentioned in the Episode:

Check out my courses, women’s retreats, and the Dare to Begin membership for more support and tools to help you thrive. Everything I’ve learned through my journey is available to help you navigate your own path.

Subscribe, Review, and Share: If you’re feeling inspired, share this episode with someone who needs it. Let’s continue this conversation together!

Remember, you’re not alone. Keep leveling up, and dare to begin. I’m here cheering for you every step of the way!

Website: NicholeBanks.com (Don’t forget—I spell my name with an H!)

Until next time,

Nichole Banks