Feeling stuck when your life looks fine on paper? That low hum of anxiety, that sense something's off - it's often a sign your values are out of alignment with the life you're living. This episode explores what I call being a "Quiet Misfit" and offers a simple mental fitness tool called the Honest Naming to help you stop judging yourself and start building self-love and self-worth from the inside out.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why feeling stuck isn't a character flaw - it's information from your deeper self
• What it means to be a Quiet Misfit and why recognizing it changes everything
• The difference between a motivation problem and a values misalignment
• How to use the Honest Naming tool to give your stuckness a voice without rushing to fix it
• Why the first step toward change isn't action - it's honesty

Resources Mentioned:

• Free Guide: Break Free from the Success Trap - https://www.luluessey.com/freetool

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Thank you for being here. You are enough. ✨

Feeling overwhelmed by all the New Year pressure? Drowning in goals, resolutions, and "new year, best you" messaging? What if you only needed two things to guide your entire year?

January is loud. Everyone's telling you to set goals, build habits, transform your life. And maybe you want that. Or maybe you're exhausted just thinking about it.

This episode isn't about replacing your goals or resolutions - it's about giving you something foundational. Something that sits underneath everything else and makes it all more meaningful and sustainable. Whether you're energized for 2026 or honestly just trying to get through January, this framework will serve you.

Introducing: Your Flame and Your Fragrance.

This framework was inspired by a reel I came across from Dr. Zina Jacques, a pastor whose words on "spiritual scent" stopped me mid-scroll. It was shared by Viola Davis, and it sparked something that connected to my own practice of choosing a guiding word each year.

Your Flame is your internal guiding light - the word or quality you tend within yourself all year. Your Fragrance is what you leave with others - the feeling that lingers when you've left the room.

And here's the beautiful part: your Flame creates your Fragrance.

You're not alone if...

• You're overwhelmed by New Year pressure and expectations
• You don't know what you want for 2026 yet
• You're tired of setting goals that don't stick
• You want something deeper than resolutions
• You're wondering how to show up better for yourself AND others
• You need permission to still be figuring it out
• You want to start the year with intention, not pressure

⏱️ Chapters

00:00 - Welcome to 2026
01:44 - What this episode offers (it's foundational)
03:06 - Share this with someone who needs it
03:35 - The inspiration: Dr. Zina Jacques on spiritual scent
06:32 - Introducing Your Flame and Your Fragrance
07:06 - What is your Flame?
08:26 - What is your Fragrance?
09:26 - Your Flame creates your Fragrance
10:21 - Questions to discover yours
14:15 - My Flame for 2026: Becoming
15:58 - My Fragrance for 2026: Seen
17:59 - Your invitation for 2026
19:26 - Thank you for 2025
20:22 - Closing

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Thank you for being here. You are enough. ✨

Do you struggle to love yourself? Do you know you're supposed to practice "self-love" but have no idea what that actually means? Do you feel like no matter what you achieve, it's never quite enough?

Here's what nobody's telling you: Loving yourself might be the quietest thing you ever do. And also the most powerful.

2025 has been hard. For so many of us. Some of us lost people we love. Some of us lost jobs, security, or the version of our lives we thought we were building. And even if your year had beautiful moments, there's something about carrying the weight of everything happening around us that settles into our bones.

This episode is different. It's short. It's a gift. It features a poem by nayyirah waheed that stopped me in my tracks - and 3 simple words that might just start your quietest revolution.

This is permission to start with yourself.

🌱 What You'll Discover

• Why self-love isn't selfish - it's foundational
• How to hold space for a hard year AND remember moments of joy
• A poem by nayyirah waheed on the quietest, most powerful revolution
• The 3 words that change everything: "I love myself"
• Why loving yourself is the foundation for truly loving others
• Permission to be exactly where you are today

💬 Powerful Quotes

"I love myself. The quietest, simplest, most powerful revolution ever."

"Joy and pain can coexist. And we need to remind ourselves of that."

"What if the most powerful revolution is the one no one else can see?"

"When we learn to love ourselves, we become capable of truly loving others. Not performing love. Not earning love. Real love."

"Your worth is not up for debate. It never was."

"Loving yourself - really, deeply loving yourself - might be the quietest thing you ever do. And it might also be the most powerful."

⏱️ Chapters

00:00 - Welcome (wherever you are today)
01:04 - Acknowledging the hard year
02:33 - Remembering moments of joy
04:07 - A poem by nayyirah waheed
05:48 - The 3 words: I love myself
06:28 - What if revolution is quiet?
08:05 - Start with yourself
08:41 - You are enough
09:40 - Closing: may you feel held

You’re not alone if…:

• You've had a hard year and need permission to acknowledge it
• You struggle with feeling "not enough"
• You want to learn how to love yourself but don't know where to start
• You need a moment of stillness in the chaos
• You're alone today and need to feel held
• You're surrounded by people but feel disconnected
• You're ready to start the quietest revolution of your life

💛 Share this episode with someone who needs to hear they are enough.

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Thank you for being here. You are enough. ✨