Episodes

  • #88: How Kimberly Found Love After 13 Years of Avoiding It

    #88: How Kimberly Found Love After 13 Years of Avoiding It
    Oct 31 2025
    When you’ve been single for 13 years, “I’m fine” starts sounding a lot like “I’ve given up.” Kimberly was successful on paper, but she was quietly miserable off it. Between perimenopause, work burnout, and pandemic isolation, she’d convinced herself she was too busy (and too jaded) for love. Then she found Ready for Love, and everything shifted. She thought she was signing up to find love. Happily, she found herself in the process. In this episode, Kimberly gets raw about forgiving herself after an affair, dropping decades of shame, and learning what real emotional maturity looks like. She shares how doing the work helped her move cities, meet her partner (again), and launch her own consulting business with actual self-trust. Now she’s living proof: self-love isn’t a backup plan, it’s the whole plan. Episode Highlights: Why independence can be emotional armor in disguise The real reason self-forgiveness changes everything What “doing the work” actually looks like when it sticks How loving yourself first changes your love life and your career The secret to attracting love that feels calm, not chaotic Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Finding Love by Loving Yourself First 00:22 13 Years Single and Ready for Change 05:53 Healing Shame and Rebuilding Self-Worth 07:58 How Attachment Styles Impact Relationships 11:07 Meeting Her Partner and Creating Healthy Love 14:46 From Self-Love to Career Confidence 22:27 Why Investing in Yourself Always Pays Off ✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. 💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. 🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else. ✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve? 🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass 💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply
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    29 mins
  • Stop Mothering Your Man

    Stop Mothering Your Man
    Oct 24 2025
    If you’re a woman who can run circles around most humans — yet still finds herself scheduling her partner’s appointments, tracking his moods, or generally keeping his life stitched together — congratulations, you’re unofficially in man-keeping mode. Hilary is calling it out the silent epidemic of high-achieving women accidentally becoming their partner’s project manager instead of their partner. Spoiler: nothing kills attraction faster than turning romance into a daycare. But rather than blaming men, she hands the steering wheel back to us. How much of this dynamic exists because we keep jumping in? What happens if you stop over-functioning and let him rise, or reveal that he won’t? This episode is a wake-up call for every woman who’s tired of being needed more than she’s cherished. Because you don’t need another job title. You need a partner who carries his own weight without being micromanaged. Episode Highlights: The real reason competent women keep ending up in mothering roles How “helping” becomes control disguised as care Why boundaries are sexier than over-giving The one-liner that stops you from taking on his “we should” ideas How to instantly shift the power dynamic without drama or nagging Episode Breakdown: 00:00 What Is Man-Keeping? 01:09 When You Start Feeling Like His Mom 02:33 The Real Fix: Change Your Own Patterns 06:25 Stop Overfunctioning and Set Boundaries 07:27 Flip the “We Should” Script 11:08 Love Is Partnership, Not Parenting ✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. 💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. 🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else. ✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve? 🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass 💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply
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    18 mins
  • #86: From Walls Up to Wide Open: Meryl’s Reset on Love & Life

    #86: From Walls Up to Wide Open: Meryl’s Reset on Love & Life
    Oct 17 2025
    If you’ve ever rejected a man because his name annoyed you… this episode is for you. Hilary sits down with award-winning interior designer and unapologetic former love-skeptic Meryl Stern, who admits she once dismissed perfectly good men for crimes like “bad vibes” and “unfortunate first names.” (Her words.) But beneath all that discernment? A woman hiding behind a beautifully curated emotional wall. Inside Ready for Love, Meryl didn’t just “work on herself” — she resigned from decades-old childhood roles, stopped earning love by overgiving, and rewired her identity from martyring do-it-all to woman who actually receives. Now, she runs a luxury design firm with her daughter, just completed a 12,000 sq ft project featured in Architectural Digest, and treats dating the same way she treats client selection: You don’t pick me. I pick YOU. She’s single, self-possessed, and fully uninterested in settling, which, around here, counts as a success story. Episode Highlights: When “I’m just independent” is actually code for I don’t trust myself to choose well Why nitpicking men is just fear in fancy clothes The homework assignment that broke her identity wide open How healing self-worth bleeds into business, leadership, and money Dating rule #1: You don’t get picked—you pick Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Meet award-winning designer & RFL alum Meryl 02:00 The moment she realized her “independence” was actually a wall 05:40 How journaling cracked her open 08:10 The resignation letter that rewired her self-image 12:30 Building a business with her daughter (without killing each other) 16:45 Her three-year AD-featured dream project 18:50 Current relationship status? Selectively single 20:30 The real measure of success: Would the old you tolerate this? ✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. 💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. 🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else. ✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve? 🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass 💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply
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    26 mins
  • #85: The Worst Dating Advice for Women...And Yes, I’m Mad About It!

    #85: The Worst Dating Advice for Women...And Yes, I’m Mad About It!
    Oct 10 2025
    Ever seen those videos promising to “make him obsessed with you in 5 texts” or “7 tricks to make a man worship you like a queen”? Yeah… Hilary’s not having it. This week, she’s calling BS on the toxic, clickbait dating advice flooding YouTube. From “dark psychology” tactics to straight-up patriarchal conditioning, this advice is designed to manipulate women, keep them second-guessing themselves, and—let’s be honest—get them to buy something. Hilary breaks down four reasons why these tactics are not just wrong but harmful—and why they’ll never lead to real love. Instead, she gives you the only dating advice you’ll ever need: trust yourself. When you stop twisting yourself into a pretzel to please men, you stop attracting the wrong ones and start naturally attracting the right one. If you’re tired of playing games and ready to finally show up as the woman you actually are (and be loved for it), this episode is your wake-up call. Episode Highlights: Why “clickbait” dating advice is built on manipulation, not empowerment The four major problems with toxic, prescriptive dating tactics How inauthenticity sabotages real connection (and yourself in the process) Why advice centered on him keeps women stuck in patriarchal conditioning The simple, powerful truth: trusting yourself is the only dating advice you’ll ever need Episode Breakdown: 00:00 The Worst Dating Advice for Women 01:39 Dark Psychology Tactics in Dating Advice 03:05 How Manipulation Backfires in Relationships 04:20 Prescriptive Advice vs. Trusting Yourself 05:14 Why Man-Centered Dating Advice Hurts Women 06:08 The Only Dating Advice You’ll Ever Need 06:39 Ready for Love’s Authentic Approach ✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. 💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. 🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else. ✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve? Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply
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    12 mins
  • #84: How Investing in Yourself Can Change Your Love Life

    #84: How Investing in Yourself Can Change Your Love Life
    Oct 3 2025
    Lori Young, a Ready for Love alum, decided she was done settling for crumbs of affection, heartbreak, and controlling men. Instead of buying the couch she’d been saving for, Lori put that money into herself—and it changed everything. In this conversation with me, Lori shares how she broke old patterns, stopped confusing drama for chemistry, and learned to ask for what she actually wanted. Today she’s married to a secure, steady partner, thriving in her career, and bold enough to run for city council. If you’ve ever found yourself replaying the same relationship story and wondering why nothing changes, Lori’s story will challenge you to ask: when are you going to stop playing small and finally invest in yourself? Episode Highlights: The Saturday night moment that pushed Lori to finally say “enough” Why investing in yourself is smart money The Chinese finger trap metaphor that freed her from control games How to stop chasing fireworks and start choosing safe, steady love Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Meet Lori Young 02:53 The Journey to Self-discovery 05:55 Investing in Yourself 08:52 Lessons from the Ready For Love Program 12:09 Embracing New Opportunities 14:57 Navigating New Relationships 17:49 Finding Authenticity 21:04 Celebrating Growth and Success 23:57 The Power of Community 26:58 Fearless, Unafraid, Unintimidated ✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. 💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. 🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else. ✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve? 🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass 💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply
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    41 mins
  • #83: What Matters MORE than Who You Are Meeting

    #83: What Matters MORE than Who You Are Meeting
    Sep 26 2025
    You can spend thousands on a matchmaker or swipe until your thumbs go numb, but if you keep running into the same disappointing patterns, the real question isn’t “where are all the good men?” The real question is how are you showing up when you meet them? In this episode, Hilary unpacks why so many smart, successful women struggle in love even when everything looks perfect on the outside. Ghosting, mismatches, and one-sided relationships aren’t the problem themselves—they’re signals of something deeper. When self-doubt, fear, or insecurity color your energy, the wrong men move closer and the right ones step away. So how do you stop chasing quick fixes and instead become the woman who naturally attracts the kind of love you want? Hilary shares why identity work—not dating hacks—is the real key, and what changes when you finally treat yourself as the priority first. Episode Highlights: Why spending money on a matchmaker rarely fixes the real issue The “tree” metaphor that explains dating struggles at the root level How self-doubt and fear act like a magnet for the wrong men What high-quality men actually notice (and what makes them turn away) Why identity work is more powerful than any dating tactic Episode Breakdown: 00:00 The Matchmaker Myth 01:05 The Real Problem: Who You’re Being 02:31 The Tree Analogy of Dating Patterns 06:01 Why You Attract the Wrong Men 09:09 Identity Work and Self-Worth 10:54 Why Matchmakers Fail 13:00 Becoming Your Future Self ✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. 💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. 🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else. ✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve? 🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass 💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply
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    18 mins
  • #82: If You think Men are Intimidated by You, Listen to This!

    #82: If You think Men are Intimidated by You, Listen to This!
    Sep 19 2025
    If you’ve ever blamed your single status on men being “intimidated,” it’s time for a reality check. That story might feel good at the moment, but it’s keeping you from the very connection you want. In this episode, Hilary calls BS on the idea that your success is the reason love hasn’t worked out. With 25 years of experience coaching powerhouse women, she breaks down what’s really going on when you hear that “intimidating” feedback. Spoiler: it’s less about men being scared and more about the energy you’re putting out. Hilary shows how many women hide their softer, more vulnerable sides behind achievements, creating a vibe that feels aloof or unapproachable. The good news? You don’t have to shrink your brilliance to find love—you just need to integrate the strong and the soft so you can be powerful and open. Episode Highlights: Why “men are intimidated by me” is a story that keeps women stuck What’s really happening when you hear that feedback on dates How success can become a shield that hides your softer side The vibe that comes across as guarded or unapproachable Why you don’t need to shrink your achievements to attract love The key to integrating strength and vulnerability so connection can grow Episode Breakdown: 00:00 The “Men Are Intimidated by Me” Myth 01:50 Why Mainstream Advice on Intimidation Misses the Point 03:57 The Tootsie Pop Analogy: Tough Exterior, Soft Inside 04:29 Hiding Behind Success and Achievements 05:41 How to Integrate Strength and Vulnerability 07:15 Breaking Free and Inviting Love In If you’re tired of hiding behind your résumé and ready to let love in, this episode is your wake-up call. ✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. 💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. 🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else. 🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass
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    11 mins
  • #81: Attach Too Quickly? How to stop the Cycle of Disappointment

    #81: Attach Too Quickly? How to stop the Cycle of Disappointment
    Sep 12 2025
    Wanting love and being ready for it aren’t the same thing. You might be on the apps, going on dates, even hiring a matchmaker—but if you keep finding yourself in the cycle of “hot and heavy” followed by fade and fizzle, the problem may be pacing. In this episode, Hilary unpacks the anxious dating behaviors that push love away and she lays out five concrete ways to date with emotional security rather than a sense of urgency. From keeping your schedule intact, to knowing when to hold back on texting or intimacy, Hilary shows you how to stop spiraling into fantasy and start building real connection—without losing yourself in the process. If you’ve ever skipped Pilates to wait for his call, or decided you were all-in by the third date, this conversation is your reset. Episode Highlights: Wanting love vs. actually being ready for it — why they’re not the same The role of pacing and how falling too fast sabotages connection Matching his effort, not his potential, to avoid heartbreak Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Are You Really Ready for Love? 03:27 The Pitfalls of Falling Too Fast 04:52 Five Ways Women Date with Confidence 05:03 Tip 1: Stay Focused on Your Own Life 06:05 Tip 2: Keep Early Dates Short and Intentional 07:08 Tip 3: Match His Effort, Not His Potential 07:51 Tip 4: Delay Physical Intimacy 09:15 Tip 5: Don't Build a Bond Over Text 10:08 Attracting Emotionally Available Men Healthy, emotionally available men are attracted to confidence, patience, and balance—not eagerness or desperation. Date from security, and you’ll naturally filter out the wrong men while attracting the ones who are truly ready. ✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. 💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. 🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else. 👉 Watch Hilary’s free masterclass: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass Or apply for a free breakthrough call with her team at https://readyforloveinc.com/apply
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    15 mins