Episodes

  • #104: The 3 Stages of Relationships—And Where You're Secretly Struggling

    #104: The 3 Stages of Relationships—And Where You're Secretly Struggling
    Feb 20 2026
    You can be brilliant in every area of your life and still feel lost in love if you do not know which stage of relationships keeps tripping you up. Hilary breaks relationships into three defining stages and asks a direct question at each one: do you trust yourself here? From choosing the right partner, to staying grounded in the early months, to sustaining a healthy long-term bond, she challenges the idea that love problems come down to luck. If you cannot trust your judgment, your authenticity, or your ability to handle intimacy, the same patterns will follow you into every relationship. She walks through the most common blind spots women have at each stage: ignoring red flags, performing when you really like him, over-functioning or shutting down once things get serious. Most women were never taught the actual skills required to build lasting partnership, yet they assume desire alone is enough. The deeper invitation of this episode is honest self-assessment. Where are you unsteady? Where are you unskilled? And where are you hoping the right man will compensate for something you have not yet strengthened in yourself? Episode Highlights: How to know if your picker is broken The difference between standards and fear Why the early dating stage exposes your deepest insecurities The hidden skills required for long-term partnership How lack of self-trust fuels repeated relationship patterns Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Understanding Relationship Challenges 05:55 The Picking Stage: Trusting Your Choices 12:08 Navigating Early Relationship Stages 16:55 Building a Lasting Relationship: Skills and Confidence ✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. 💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. 🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else. ✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve? 🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass 💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply Self-Centered Bundle: Built to Support the Real You Three intentional programs that work better together, plus The Daily Journal. Find it here!
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    19 mins
  • #103: Why This Ex-Therapist Is Now an Outspoken Critic of Therapy

    #103: Why This Ex-Therapist Is Now an Outspoken Critic of Therapy
    Feb 13 2026
    After 14 years as a licensed therapist, Hilary walked away from her practice because she stopped believing in the long-term model. Therapy, she argues, is powerful when you are in a true crisis or dealing with real mental illness. It can pull you out of the hole. But once you are stable, why are so many smart, capable women still sitting on the couch week after week talking about the same problems? At some point you have to face the fact that therapy isn’t moving you forward. This conversation challenges the culture of endless processing, over-identifying with labels, and outsourcing your clarity to a paid professional. Insight feels good. Validation feels even better. But are you being challenged? Are you building skills? Is there a clear endpoint? Hilary makes the case that awareness without action keeps you looping in the same patterns, and that real evolution requires structure, accountability, and someone strong enough to tell you the truth. The question she leaves you with is simple and a little uncomfortable: are you actually moving forward, or are you just really good at talking about why you are stuck? Episode Highlights: When therapy is absolutely the right tool and when it is not How long-term therapy is actually a problem Why insight alone rarely creates real change The cultural obsession with labels and attachment styles What to look for if you want growth instead of endless processing Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why I Walked Away From Therapy 03:02 When Therapy Actually Works 06:12 How Therapy Creates Dependence Instead of Self-Trust 11:53 Why Insight Alone Does Not Create Change 15:10 The Problem With Endless Therapy and No Clear Endpoint 17:53 Coaching vs Therapy for Real Personal Growth ✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. 💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. 🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else. ✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve? 🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass 💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply Self-Centered Bundle: Built to Support the Real You Three intentional programs that work better together, plus The Daily Journal. Find it here! AquaTru: Ultra-Pure Water You Can Actually Trust 20% Off Your Countertop Purifier Use Promo Code: READY at AquaTru.com
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    27 mins
  • #102: There Is No Such Thing As A Situationship

    #102: There Is No Such Thing As A Situationship
    Feb 6 2026
    Calling something a situationship does not make it casual, modern, or empowered. It usually means you are in a real relationship without clarity, commitment, or respect. Hilary strips away the cute label and names what is actually happening when feelings, time, and emotional energy are involved but no one is willing to define the terms. Ambiguity may sound flexible, but it comes with a very real cost. Living without clarity creates constant anxiety. You are left guessing where you stand, managing expectations that were never agreed on, and tolerating behavior you would never accept in a relationship you were willing to call real. What gets framed as “going with the flow” often looks a lot like self-abandonment. Ask yourself honestly, would this feel acceptable if you stopped pretending the label made it different? The episode also turns the focus inward. Situationships are not always about someone else refusing to commit. Sometimes they exist because staying undefined feels safer than being fully seen. They offer connection without real risk and intimacy without accountability. When commitment, honesty, and self-respect become non-negotiable, situationships stop being tempting and start becoming impossible. Episode Highlights: Why calling it a situationship lets you excuse behavior you would never accept in a real relationship How ambiguity keeps your nervous system on edge and quietly fuels anxiety The difference between choosing something casual and settling out of fear How situationships can become a hiding place from real intimacy and vulnerability The moment self-respect turns clarity and commitment into non-negotiables Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Understanding Situationships 06:04 The Illusion of Freedom in Situationships 11:52 How Situationships Lead to Self-Betrayal and Emotional Hiding ✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. 💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. 🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else. ✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve? 🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass 💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply AirDoctor: The Trusted Air Purifier for a Healthier Home Use Promo Code: READY Up to $300 off + Free 3-Year Warranty Exclusive Podcast Offer Self-Centered Bundle: Built to Support the Real You Three intentional programs that work better together, plus The Daily Journal. Find it here
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    19 mins
  • #101: One Simple Habit To Upgrade Your Life Instantly

    #101: One Simple Habit To Upgrade Your Life Instantly
    Jan 30 2026
    What you tolerate becomes the standard that quietly decides your confidence, your relationships and the life you believe you deserve. So many women mistake tolerance for maturity. Staying flexible and patient or understanding can feel like growth when it is really training you to live with friction. Hilary Silver reframes tolerance as an identity signal. The broken routines, the low level irritation, the one sided dynamics you have learned to live with all reinforce an internal message about what you expect from life and from yourself. Over time those small compromises stop feeling temporary and start shaping what feels normal. This conversation brings the focus back to self respect and choice. Who are you becoming and what no longer fits that version of your life. Hilary shows how addressing what drains you, upgrading what irritates you and stepping back from uneven relationships can shift everything. Growth starts when you stop normalizing what weighs you down and choose one clear standard instead. Episode Highlights: Why tolerance quietly shapes identity and self-worth How small unresolved frustrations drain energy over time The difference between self-improvement and self-respect How one intentional change can reset your personal standard Episode Breakdown: 00:00 What You Tolerate Shapes Your Self-Worth 03:02 How Your Environment Reinforces Your Identity 09:08 Investing in Yourself as an Act of Self-Respect 12:03 When Relationships Reflect Your Standards 15:13 Raising Your Standards Improves Your Life ✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. 💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. 🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else. ✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve? 🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass 💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply Cozy Earth: Make Rest a Habit You Look Forward To Up to 20% off + 100-Night Sleep Trial & 10-Year Warranty Use code READYFORLOVE at CozyEarth.com
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    19 mins
  • #100: The Worst Relationship Advice Women Keep Falling For (And What Actually Works Instead)

    #100: The Worst Relationship Advice Women Keep Falling For (And What Actually Works Instead)
    Jan 23 2026
    Modern dating advice that trains women to manage men instead of trust themselves and this explains why so many smart, emotionally aware women end up anxious, exhausted, and disconnected from their own intuition. When dating guidance asks you to stay chill, wait longer, or twist yourself into something more acceptable, the problem is not you. It is the system you were taught to follow. This conversation flips the framework back where it belongs. What if your discomfort is clarity? What if your needs are not something to tone down but something to lead with? Hilary breaks down why passivity, performance, and patience keep women stuck and replaces them with self-trust, clear standards, and emotional self-respect. Dating gets simpler when you stop outsourcing your judgment and start paying attention to how a relationship actually feels. This episode is for women who are done shrinking, waiting, or earning love. When you choose yourself early and consistently, confusion fades and calm takes its place. Love stops feeling like a struggle and starts feeling aligned. Episode Highlights: Why so much dating advice teaches women to focus on men instead of themselves How staying chill and waiting longer fuels anxiety and self-abandonment Reframing your needs as essential information, not problems Why impact matters more than explanations or potential What shifts when you stop earning love and start choosing yourself Episode Breakdown: 00:00 The Problem with Traditional Dating Advice 01:51 Five Worst Pieces of Dating Advice 09:51 Five Empowering Principles for Dating 17:51 Choosing Yourself for Real Love ✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. 💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. 🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else. ✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve? 🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass 💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply Self-Centered Bundle: Built to Support the Real You Three intentional programs that work better together, plus The Daily Journal. Find it at https://start.readyforloveinc.com/selfbundle-checkout-hs Cozy Earth: Make Rest a Habit You Look Forward To Up to 20% off + 100-Night Sleep Trial & 10-Year Warranty Use code READYFORLOVE at CozyEarth.com OneSkin: Science-Backed Skincare That Simplifies Everything ✨ 15% off with longevity-driven formulas powered by the OS-1 peptideUse code READYFORLOVE at OneSkin.co/READYFORLOVE
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    24 mins
  • #99: Master Detachment and Watch Everything Chase You

    #99: Master Detachment and Watch Everything Chase You
    Jan 16 2026
    The moment you stop gripping so tightly to what you want may be the exact moment it finally becomes possible. Here is a hard truth: the tighter you squeeze, the faster things slip through your fingers. When wanting quietly turns into needing, everything starts to feel urgent and heavy. You overthink. You push. You try to control the timing, the outcome, and other people. And somehow the thing you want keeps dodging you. Hilary breaks down why detachment is actually your secret weapon. You still want it. You still show up. You just stop making it the thing that decides whether you’re okay. That shift changes how you date, how you run your business, how your body feels, and how you move through the world. Less scrambling. More confidence. Way better energy. This conversation is your reminder that calm is magnetic, desperation is not, and letting go often gets you there faster than forcing ever could. Episode Highlights: Trying harder can actually push what you want away The moment desire turns into pressure and things start unraveling Detachment as the fastest path to feeling confident and magnetic What shifts when your worth isn’t on the line Why calm always outperforms chasing Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why Letting Go of the Outcome Works 02:30 Wanting vs. Needing and Emotional Attachment 05:45 How Scarcity and Desperation Push Results Away 08:30 Why Your State of Being Drives Outcomes 11:30 Taking Aligned Action Without Forcing ✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. 💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. 🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else. ✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve? 🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass 💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply Self-Centered Bundle: Built to Support the Real You Three intentional programs that work better together, plus The Daily Journal. Find it at https://start.readyforloveinc.com/selfbundle-checkout-hs AquaTru: Ultra-Pure Water You Can Actually Trust 20% Off Your Countertop Purifier Use Promo Code: READY at AquaTru.com Cozy Earth: Make Rest a Habit You Look Forward To Up to 20% off + 100-Night Sleep Trial & 10-Year Warranty Use code READYFORLOVE at CozyEarth.com
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    20 mins
  • #98: 5 Principles That Help Me Stay Super Fit

    #98: 5 Principles That Help Me Stay Super Fit
    Jan 9 2026
    Staying fit and confident as you age has NOTHING to do with discipline or rules and everything to do with how devoted you are to yourself. Most fitness advice for women over 40 is exhausting. Push harder. Try again. Do more. Hilary says what a lot of women are already feeling but rarely hear out loud. That approach is not making you stronger. It is just making you tired. And it is definitely not building confidence. In this episode, Hilary shares the five principles that help her stay super fit without punishing her body or living by rigid rules. The conversation goes straight to the pattern underneath it all. Treating your body like a project that needs fixing. Handing your power to experts. Following rules that stop working and then blaming yourself when they fail. What if your body actually knows what it needs? What if consistency came from enjoying what you are doing instead of forcing it? This is not about food plans or workout schedules. It is about putting yourself back on your own list. When you stop making yourself optional, things shift. Your energy changes. Your body responds. You start to feel more like yourself again! Episode Highlights: Why pushing harder is not the answer The mindset shift that makes fitness stick Letting go of rules and trusting your body Choosing movement that actually feels good What changes when you make yourself the priority Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why “Discipline” Stops Working for Women as They Age 07:19 The Shift From Self-Discipline to Self-Devotion 10:39 Stop Following Fitness Rules and Trust Your Body 12:32 Making Movement Enjoyable 15:17 Making Yourself the Priority Changes Everything ✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. 💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. 🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else. ✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve? 🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass 💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply AirDoctor: The Trusted Air Purifier for a Healthier Home Use Promo Code: READY Up to $300 off + Free 3-Year Warranty Exclusive Podcast Offer Self-Centered Bundle: Built to Support the Real You Three intentional programs that work better together, plus The Daily Journal. Find it at readyforloveinc.com Cozy Earth: Make Rest a Habit You Look Forward To Up to 20% off + 100-Night Sleep Trial & 10-Year WarrantyUse code READYFORLOVE at CozyEarth.com
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    25 mins
  • #97: Give Me 14 Minutes and I’ll Make You Dangerously Confident

    #97: Give Me 14 Minutes and I’ll Make You Dangerously Confident
    Jan 2 2026
    Confidence is not built by proving yourself through achievement. Instead it happens by deciding you trust yourself no matter what happens. You can’t lose, no matter what. If you are successful on paper but feel unsure, self-doubting, or overly accommodating in dating and relationships, this episode will hit close to home. Hilary explains why confidence built through achievement works at work but falls apart in intimacy, and why so many smart women mistake competence for true confidence. The missing piece is certainty. When you trust yourself enough to know you will be okay no matter how things turn out, you stop shrinking, second-guessing, or settling. What changes when you no longer need proof before you act? Hilary reframes confidence as an internal decision rather than something you earn through results. She shares how committing to yourself, honoring your own boundaries, and using fear as a signal for growth creates confidence that does not disappear under pressure. This is the kind of confidence that follows you everywhere, changes how you show up in love, and makes you magnetic without trying. Episode Highlights: Achievement makes you good at things, not confident in yourself If your confidence depends on outcomes, it isn’t real. Real confidence starts when you trust yourself You don’t wait for confidence, you decide it Feeling scared usually means you’re on the right track Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why Most Confidence Advice Is Wrong 02:56 The Real Foundation of Confidence: Self-Trust 05:52 How to Build Unshakable Confidence in Love and Life 12:04 Embracing Growth and Resilience ✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. 💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. 🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else. ✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve? 🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass 💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply The Daily Journal Challenge A 90-Day Digital Journal + Free 7-Day Accountability Challenge Join us at readyforloveinc.com/challenge/
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    17 mins