*This episode is a re release from an earlier season of the HTP.

In this conversation, Monique Koven and holistic psychotherapist Esther Schwarz discuss the profound effects of childhood trauma and the journey of healing from complex PTSD. Esther shares her personal experiences with trauma, symptoms, and the importance of understanding and managing these challenges. They explore the role of support systems, the impact of overwhelm on daily functioning, and the necessity of educating partners about trauma. The conversation emphasizes resilience, hope, and the possibility of recovery, encouraging listeners to seek help and not give up on their healing journey.

takeaways

• Esther shares her journey of living with childhood trauma.
• Understanding complex PTSD is crucial for healing.
• Support systems play a vital role in recovery.
• Overwhelm can significantly impact daily functioning.
• The journey from anxiety to recognizing complex trauma is complex.
• Educating partners about trauma can enhance relationships.
• Resilience is a key component in the healing process.
• There is hope for recovery and personal growth.
• Sharing experiences can help others feel less alone.
• Don't give up before the miracle happens.

Find Esther here: https://www.instagram.com/estherschwarz.lmsw/

Trigger Warning: Contains sensitive content & language related to childhood sexual abuse.

In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, Guest Host Dr. Mark McNear talks with Dr. Dan Allender to discuss the profound impact of trauma and the healing power of story work. They explore the complexities of personal narratives, the importance of kindness in therapy, and the long-term journey of healing from trauma. The conversation emphasizes the need for a compassionate approach to understanding one's story and the role of kindness in facilitating healing. Listeners are encouraged to engage with their own stories and recognize the ongoing nature of healing.

takeaways

• Story work can lead to profound healing and joy.
• Engaging with personal trauma stories is essential for healing.
• Kindness is crucial in the therapeutic process.
• Betrayal and powerlessness are common themes in trauma.
• Shame can complicate the experience of pleasure in trauma.
• Touch and arousal can evoke complex feelings in trauma survivors.
• Healing is a lifelong journey, not a quick fix.
• Understanding the past is essential for present healing.
• Kindness differs from niceness; it involves deeper engagement.
• The process of remembering trauma is vital for recovery.

About the Guest: Dr. Dan Allender, co-founder of The Allender Center and founding president of The Seattle School of Theology & Psychology, has pioneered a unique and innovative approach to trauma and abuse therapy over the past 30 years.

https://www.instagram.com/allendercenter/

Guest Host: Dr. Mark McNear

https://www.instagram.com/drmarkmcnear/

*This episode is a re release from an earlier season of the HTP. It is a wonderful conversation about understanding Developmental Trauma.

In this conversation, Monique is chatting with trauma therapist Mily Gomez. Mily discusses the concept of developmental trauma, its impact on emotional regulation, attachment styles, and relationships. She explains how early experiences shape our ability to connect with others and manage our emotions. The discussion also covers the importance of validation, support, and the healing process through reparenting and somatic work. Mily emphasizes the need for individuals to develop tools for self-regulation and the significance of building healthy attachments in adulthood.

takeaways

• Developmental trauma occurs from conception to age two or three.
• Implicit memory affects how we feel without conscious awareness.
• Early experiences set the foundation for emotional regulation.
• Insecure attachment can lead to trust issues in relationships.
• Validation and support are crucial for healing.
• Reparenting oneself is a key part of the healing process.
• Somatic experiencing helps in processing trauma stored in the body.
• Clients can learn to self-regulate their emotions.
• Healthy attachments can be built even after trauma.
• Therapy provides a safe space for exploring difficult emotions.

Find Milly Gomez on IG

https://www.instagram.com/latibulecounseling/

In this conversation, author and trauma therapist Monica DiCristina shares her insights on the importance of naming pain and understanding one's emotional triggers. She discusses her book, 'Your Pain Has A Name,' and emphasizes the significance of accurate diagnosis in therapy. The discussion also touches on the impact of dismissal in therapeutic settings, the dangers of oversimplified healing approaches, and the importance of finding the right therapeutic relationship. Monica encourages listeners to keep seeking understanding and healing, reminding them that they are not alone in their struggles.

takeaways

• Monica wrote her book to help others name their pain.
• Naming pain is essential for separating identity from trauma.
• Many people walk around feeling something is wrong with them.
• Accurate diagnosis is crucial for effective healing.
• Understanding one's wiring can help in managing mental health.
• Dismissal in therapy can lead to feelings of isolation.
• Oversimplified healing approaches can be harmful.
• The therapeutic relationship is key to successful outcomes.
• It's important to find a therapist who feels right for you.
• Everyone's journey to understanding and healing is unique.

Monica's new book: Your Pain Has a Name: A Therapist’s Invitation to Understanding Your Story and Sorting Out Who You Are from What Hurts https://amzn.to/4i3qmxF

Where to Find Monica:

Website: https://monicadicristina.com

Instagram: @monicadicristina

Still Becoming Podcast

In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, Monique Koven speaks with trauma therapist Gina Birkemeier about her book 'Generations Deep,' which explores the impact of generational trauma and the importance of healing. They discuss how family patterns shape our beliefs and behaviors, the significance of corrective experiences in healing, and the role of curiosity in breaking cycles of dysfunction. Gina shares her personal journey of recognizing and addressing inherited trauma, emphasizing the need for supportive relationships and the importance of not navigating this journey alone.

takeaways

• The title of the book is 'Generations Deep, Unmasking Inherited Trauma and Dysfunction to Rewrite Our Stories.'
• Family patterns can carry significant weight and influence our lives.
• Healing is a non-linear process that involves ups and downs.
• Curiosity can help combat shame and rigidity in our lives.
• Corrective experiences are essential for emotional healing.
• Breaking cycles of trauma starts with individual healing.
• It's important to recognize and address inherited beliefs and behaviors.
• Supportive relationships can provide a foundation for healing.
• Self-reflection is crucial in understanding our childhood needs.
• Do not navigate the healing journey alone; seek support.

Find Gina here: Gina Birkemeier, LPC, NCC

Gina's Book: Generations Deep: Unmasking Inherited Dysfunction and Trauma to Rewrite Our Stories Through Faith and Therapy https://amzn.to/3X9ytPC

Generations Workbook: Generations Deep Journal: Write Your Healing Story

https://amzn.to/47lrR6L

In this conversation, Monique and Dr. Maureen Gallagher explore the integration of Somatic Experiencing and Inner Relationship Focusing as powerful tools for healing trauma and understanding the inner critic. They discuss how these methods can help individuals build a compassionate relationship with their experiences, update old emotional learnings, and transform the inner critic into a supportive part of the self. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-compassion, the role of attachment in personal growth, and the potential for learning these techniques to enhance emotional well-being.

takeaways

• Somatic experiencing connects deeply with the nervous system.
• Inner relationship focusing builds a relationship with somatic experiences.
• The inner critic often stems from old emotional learnings.
• Transforming the inner critic involves understanding its protective role.
• Updating emotional learnings can alleviate unnecessary fears.
• Self-compassion is crucial for personal growth and healing.
• Integrating somatic experiencing with focusing enhances transformation.
• Learning these techniques can be done individually or with guidance.
• Building a secure attachment to self fosters emotional safety.
• Recognizing the inner critic as a part of oneself can change relationships.

About Our Guest: Dr. Maureen Gallagher is a Licensed Psychologist (NY, NJ), Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and Faculty Member, Inner Relationship Focusing Trainer, Emotionally Focused Therapist and Supervisor and a Relational Psychoanalyst. Her work and teaching are dedicated to the embodiment of psychotherapy and related healing disciplines, in which she integrates somatic awareness and the use of somatic intervention along with adult attachment work and a relational focus. She brings a broad range of experience and training to this endeavor, including Certifications in Somatic Experiencing, Inner Relationship Focusing, Relational Psychoanalysis, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Integral Somatic Psychology, SE Touch skills training and Biodynamic Cranial Sacral Therapy. Her clinical work integrates focusing, somatic experiencing, relational psychoanalysis and experiential and process oriented models of attachment theory. She has maintained a private practice for over 20 years. She is the founder of Embodying Psychotherapy.

Get started right away with the Inner Critics Companion Guide:

https://maureengallagherphd.com/inner-critics-companion-guidebook

Stay in touch with Maureen via her monthly letter:

https://maureengallagherphd.com/join-my-newsletter

In this conversation, Monique welcomes back Dr. Lindsay Gibson to discuss the complexities of emotionally immature mothers and their impact on daughters. They explore the characteristics of emotional immaturity, the need for empathy and connection, and the challenges faced by adult children in navigating relationships with such parents. The discussion also touches on healing strategies, the importance of supportive relationships, and the future of parenting emotionally mature children.

takeaways

• Emotional immaturity can manifest in various ways, affecting relationships.
• The need to be seen and understood is fundamental for emotional health.
• Daughters of emotionally immature mothers often feel invisible and misunderstood.
• Empathy is crucial for healthy relationships and emotional maturity.
• Navigating relationships with emotionally immature parents requires self-care and boundaries.
• Healing is a process that involves recognizing and managing one's own emotional needs.
• Supportive friendships can provide the empathy and connection lacking in parental relationships.
• Understanding emotional immaturity can help adult children cope with their experiences.
• Raising emotionally mature children involves fostering empathy and emotional intelligence.
• It's important to acknowledge the pain of unmet emotional needs and work towards healing.

Watch this episode on youtube

https://youtu.be/fthdfUk5WHE?si=X4qmjUrY5jbzT373

Adult children of Emotionally Immature Parents

https://amzn.to/4kpLu1l

Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents: Practical Tools to Establish Boundaries and Reclaim Your Emotional Autonomy

https://amzn.to/42YKdHg

Self-Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: Honor Your Emotions, Nurture Your Self, and Live with Confidence

https://amzn.to/3RTG6XX

Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People: Avoid Emotional Traps, Stand Up for Your Self, and Transform Your Relationships as an Adult Child of Emotionally Immature Parents

https://amzn.to/44qhHRo

Connect with Monique on IG https://www.instagram.com/thehealingtraumapodcast/

This episode is a re release from a previous season.

In this conversation, Monique is talking with Dr. Richard Schwartz, the creator of Internal Family Systems, (IFS) They discuss the model and its application in healing trauma, particularly childhood and complex trauma. Richard emphasizes the importance of understanding the 'self' within IFS, the process of unburdening parts of oneself that carry trauma, and the transformative potential of accessing one's inherent self. The discussion also covers practical techniques for working with protectors and exiled parts.

takeaways

• IFS helps in healing trauma by addressing parts of oneself.
• The self is an untainted essence that knows how to heal.
• Unburdening parts can lead to rapid transformation.
• Curiosity and compassion are key in working with inner critics.
• Healing involves retrieving and nurturing the inner child.
• Protectors must be honored and understood, not fought against.
• Accessing the self can take time and patience.
• Children can easily understand and engage with their parts.
• Spiritual insights suggest that the self is inherent in everyone.
• The upcoming book aims to make IFS accessible to a wider audience.

https://ifs-institute.com/

The Internal Family Systems Workbook: A Guide to Discover Your Self and Heal Your Parts https://amzn.to/3Ky7nPf

No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model https://amzn.to/4mUZHUF

Introduction to Internal Family Systems https://amzn.to/3VPnudK

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