Episodes

  • Episode 194: The Dating Advice Girl Podcast - The New Masculine: Shifting from Toxic Masculinity to Positive Masculinity

    Episode 194: The Dating Advice Girl Podcast - The New Masculine: Shifting from Toxic Masculinity to Positive Masculinity
    Feb 5 2021
    On this episode, Erin chats with Polyamory Educator Kevin A. Patterson, Sex Therapist & Sexuality Professor Dr. Hernando Chaves, and Associate Professor & Psychologist Manijeh Badiee about using positive masculinity to create safe and supportive spaces, friendships, and partnerships. This convo was conducted on Instagram Live after our workshop entitled, 'The New Masculine: Shifting from Toxic Masculinity to Positive Masculinity,' part of Erin's 2021 Dating Panel Series. More info at https://thedatingadvicegirl.com/2021-dating-panel-series/

    About Kevin:

    Kevin is the creator of the interview series, Poly Role Models, focused on changing how poly communities are viewed. Kevin is the author of the book ‘Love's Not Color Blind: Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities.’ Check out Kevin’s educational series with Dr. Liz Powell, ‘Unf*ck Your Polyamory’ designed to help people navigate the world of consensual non-monogamy while avoiding a lot of the common mistakes. KevinAPatterson.com

    About Hernando:

    Dr. Hernando Chaves is a licensed MFT sex therapist, Pepperdine University MFT Sexuality Professor, Western Region past president and past board of directors member for the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality, written or consulted for 14 instructional media sex education projects, and a contributing author to the International Encyclopedia of Human Sexuality. DrHernandoChaves.com (IG/T): @hernando_chaves

    About Manijeh:

    Manijeh Badiee, Ph.D., is an Associate Professor of Psychology at California State University, San Bernardino. She provides therapy as a licensed counseling psychologist (License# PSY 30484) at Collaborative Psychology Group in Riverside. Dr. Badiee specializes in clients who are LGBTQ+, people of color, and/or practice ethical non-monogamy. http://psychology.csusb.edu/facultyStaff/manijeh_badiee.htm

    About Erin:

    Erin Tillman, The Dating Advice Girl is an inclusive Sex Educator, Dating & Consent Empowerment Coach, Author, Speaker, and Media Personality based in LA. For over 10 years, she has helped empower singles through workshops, matchmaking, podcasting and her book, The Consent Guidebook. She has contributed to Lifetime, Buzzfeed, Elle Magazine, Men’s Health, Washington Post, and more. TheDatingAdviceGirl.com
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    15 mins
  • Episode 193: Queerness & Embracing Your Own Personal Orientation Evolution

    Episode 193: Queerness & Embracing Your Own Personal Orientation Evolution
    Jan 16 2021
    Ep.193-On this episode, Erin chats with Sexologist & Educator Bianca I Laureano and Associate Professor & Psychologist Manijeh Badiee about being queer and sometimes feeling like you don't fit in, blocking out societal noise, feeling social pressure to ‘choose a team,' and learning to embrace our journey around identity. This convo serves as preview for our workshop entitled, 'Queerness and Embracing Your Own Personal Orientation Evolution,' part of Erin's 2021 Dating Panel Series. More info at https://thedatingadvicegirl.com/2021-dating-panel-series/

    About Bianca:

    Bianca I Laureano, PhD, MA2, CSES is an award-winning educator and sexologist. She is a founding member of the Women of Color Sexual Health Network (WOCSHN) and her most recent project is ANTE UP! a virtual freedom school offering professional development and certification. She has written several curricula and is the lead writer for the Netflix film Crip Camp’s curriculum rooted in Disability Justice principles. She is an AASECT certified sexuality educator and supervisor, and in May 2020 was awarded an honorary doctorate from the California Institute for Integral Studies for her work in expanding the US sexuality field. Find out more about Bianca at her website BiancaLaureano.com and about ANTE UP! at www.AnteUpPD.com

    About Manijeh:

    Manijeh Badiee, Ph.D., is an Associate Professor of Psychology at California State University, San Bernardino. She provides therapy as a licensed counseling psychologist (License# PSY 30484) at Collaborative Psychology Group in Riverside. Dr. Badiee specializes in clients who are LGBTQ+, people of color, and/or practice ethical non-monogamy. http://psychology.csusb.edu/facultyStaff/manijeh_badiee.htm

    About Erin:

    Erin Tillman, The Dating Advice Girl is an inclusive Sex Educator, Dating & Consent Empowerment Coach, Author, Speaker, and Media Personality based in LA. In 2018, Erin was awarded the Gender Equity Award presented by the California National Organization for Women (NOW). For over 10 years, she has helped empower singles through workshops, matchmaking, podcasting and her book, The Consent Guidebook. She has contributed to Lifetime, Buzzfeed, Elle Magazine, Men’s Health, Washington Post, and more. TheDatingAdviceGirl.com
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    17 mins
  • Episode 192: Setting Dating & Relationship Intentions for 2021 w/ Girl Boner Radio host August McLaughlin, CSE

    Episode 192: Setting Dating & Relationship Intentions for 2021 w/ Girl Boner Radio host August McLaughlin, CSE
    Jan 8 2021
    Ep.192-On this episode, Host of the Girl Boner podcast and Certified Sex Educator, August McLaughlin and I chat about the importance of setting boundaries for 2021, lessons learned from 2020, and being intentional about who is in our social circles. About August: August McLaughlin is a journalist, certified sex educator, author and host of the podcast, Girl Boner Radio, which reviewers have called "Sex in the City meets NPR.” Her articles and expertise have been featured in Cosmopolitan, The Washington Post, DAME Magazine, O: The Oprah Magazine, Forbes, Shape and more. augustmclaughlin.com
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    2 mins
  • Ep.191-The Dating Advice Girl Podcast-Interracial Couples Talk About Supporting Their Black Partners in This Era of Racial Justice

    Ep.191-The Dating Advice Girl Podcast-Interracial Couples Talk About Supporting Their Black Partners in This Era of Racial Justice
    Jul 9 2020
    Ep.191-On this episode, my partner Jett Garrison (www.JettGarrison.com) & I talk other interracial couples about they are supporting their Black partners, what allyship looks like, and conversations with their children during this time of great change and racial justice.

    Backstory: I’ve been receiving messages from interracial couples saying that for the first time in their relationship, they’ve been having some hard conversations about race, that their partner is struggling to understand the emotions their partner is dealing with, or that their partner doesn’t fully understand the importance of this current movement. My intention in putting together this panel was to help couples, whether in a new #relationship or a long-term partnership, gain a better understanding about what their Black partners are experiencing, and therefore create more empathy and support.

    A big THANK YOU to our panel participants (Jett Garrison, Rikesha Lane, Rachel Rae Lane, Shawn Richardz, Cary Millman, Chad Davis, Carl Hampton Jr, Jeremy Holmes & Erika Holmes) for sharing their experiences and taking the time educate the listener.
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    1 hr and 46 mins
  • Ep.190-The Dating Advice Girl Podcast-How to Support Your Black Partners & Friends

    Ep.190-The Dating Advice Girl Podcast-How to Support Your Black Partners & Friends
    Jun 13 2020
    Ep.190-On this episode, my partner Jett Garrison & I talk about interracial relationships in this time of Black Lives Matter protests, social justice, civil rights for Black people, and the importance of having supportive conversations with your partner regardless of gender or orientation. Jett talks about his experience as a transgender man dating me and having other Black people in his life during this time.
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    25 mins
  • Ep.189-The Dating Advice Girl Podcast-JT Tran from the ABCs of Attraction

    Ep.189-The Dating Advice Girl Podcast-JT Tran from the ABCs of Attraction
    Feb 19 2020
    Ep.189-On this episode, Pickup Artist and Dating Coach for minority men, JT Tran discusses how he coaches and empowers his single clients through his company the ABCs of Attraction. We have a wide-ranging conversation about the specific challenges facing cis-hetero Asian men, standards of beauty and masculinity in American culture, the mental/physical/verbal elements he teaches to boost confidence, the gender imbalance in some Asian countries, consent and digital dating. This episode's Consent Corner focuses on interpreting nonverbal cues and signs of disinterest from Chapter 4 of my book, The Consent Guidebook (www.TheConsentGuidebook.com).

    About JT: The Asian Playboy, JT Tran, is the founder of the world-renowned ABCs of Attraction, one of the world’s first and most successful indie pick up companies focusing on helping minority men meet, attract and connect with the women of their dreams and reach new levels of success in all areas of their lives. Known as the World’s Greatest Asian Pick Up Artist, he is the creator of the revolutionary Holistic approach to pickup and has transformed the lives of thousands of men with his groundbreaking products and programs and the help of his dynamic coaching staff. He is the founder of one of the longest running and most widely read seduction arts blogs in history, which recently surpassed more than two million site visits. JT has several e-books, DVDs and CDs, and other multi-media personal coaching resources and has provided thousands of hours of training and coached students in 20 cities on five continents. www.ABCsOfAttraction.com
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    35 mins
  • Ep.188-The Dating Advice Girl Podcast-Licensed Therapist Jamila Dawson

    Ep.188-The Dating Advice Girl Podcast-Licensed Therapist Jamila Dawson
    Jan 21 2020
    Ep.188-Licensed Therapist and Sex Educator Jamila Dawson and I have a wide-ranging convo about bringing more pleasure into our lives, repressed trauma, dealing with major shifts in relationships, consent within kink/power dynamics, and more! This episode’s Consent Corner from my book, The Consent Guidebook (www.TheConsentGuidebook.com), focuses on enthusiastic consent. 

    About Jamila: Jamila Dawson, licensed marriage and family therapist, holds a master’s in clinical psychology and is a sex therapist, pleasure activist, and speaker. Her focus: break down sexual stigma in order to design relationships that center imagination, connection, and liberation. She sees clients in her private practice, presents nationally on sexuality, neurobiology and wellness to mental health professionals and teaches classes on kink/BDSM and sexual enhancement to individuals, partners, and groups. www.JamilaDawson.com
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    29 mins
  • Ep.186-Best Holiday Dating Tips for Singles and New Situationships & Flirtationships

    Ep.186-Best Holiday Dating Tips for Singles and New Situationships & Flirtationships
    Dec 17 2019
    Ep.186-This episode features a compilation of my holiday dating tips for singles and those in new relationships, situationships, and flirtationships from past episodes! Topics include surviving the holiday season while single, asking someone new out during the holidays, gift giving basics, inviting your potential love-interest home for the holidays, keeping in touch if you are traveling solo, and being honest about your feelings before making seasonal decisions that could unexpectedly accelerate your situationship. Plus, this episode's Consent Corner comes from Chapter 7 of my book The Consent Guidebook (www.TheConsentGuidebook.com) and focuses on positive reinforcement with someone you like after an encounter that possibly didn't go so well.
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    18 mins