Welcome back loves! Today we’re talking about repair, not the home-repair kind but the way we mend hurts or missteps with the people we love. Think of it like kintsugi: the cracks don’t ruin the pot, they become the gold. This episode walks through why repair matters, how it actually works, and how repair attempts can make relationships deeper and more beautiful.

We break repair down into practical steps you can try right away using the Relationship Repair Ladder.

Repair Ladder Steps:

1. Pause and regulate
2. Acknowledge impact
3. Take responsibility
4. Express care and commitment
5. Collaborative repair
6. Reconnect

Some fixes are 30 seconds (a quick apology and a hug), and some take months of intentional work. Both are repair. Both matter.

We also dig into why “sweeping things under the rug” sometimes seems to work, why timing and nervous-system regulation are real and necessary, and how patterns of small un-repaired slights can grow into walls and estrangement. Boundaries vs. walls, resentment vs. protection — we talk about those differences and how to keep love and self-respect in balance.

If you want a real-life model, we share a careful, staged reconciliation process (think reading a book together, listening without interruption, and giving everyone time to sit with what they heard).

These are the tools Bryan used with his parents -

Book: It Didn't Start With You by Mark Wolynn

Desmond Tutu's Four-Part Reconciliation Process:

1. Tell the story (an uninterrupted recount of your experience)
2. Name the hurt (give voice to the feelings that arose)
3. Grant forgiveness (release anger and resentment toward the other)
4. Renew or release the relationship (decide on the future of the relationship)

So if a relationship in your life feels strained, this episode is your friendly, practical guide to trying again. Reach out, take one small rung on the repair ladder, and remember: repair is hard, but it’s also how we make love stronger. Try it with someone you care about and see what gold appears.

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• Sarah Koch: @radintimacy | radintimacy.com
• Bryan Russell: @sadhanayogaschool | sadhanayoga.com
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This week on That’s So Intimate, Bryan and Sarah are back to continue their conversation on Trust. They talk through real-life moments (like airport delays and a curious plane pin), how trust and timing shape our lives, and why balancing effort with ease is the secret sauce to a more peaceful, juicy life.

They get personal, sharing how trusting themselves and the rhythms of life helped them through big transitions — from building careers to dating, parenting, and learning to follow intuition. Expect practical ideas you can try today: start small to build trust, practice clear communication and repair, loosen control in tiny ways, and notice the helpers and small kindnesses around you.

This episode feels like a conversation with a wise friend: warm, thoughtful, and full of little invitations to experiment with surrender. If you’ve been pushing too hard or feeling stuck in limbo, this one will help you find your balance and remember that sometimes letting go opens room for something more beautiful.

Connect with Us:

• Sarah Koch: @radintimacy | radintimacy.com
• Bryan Russell: @sadhanayogaschool | sadhanayoga.com
• Suggest a topic: DM us or email podcast@radintimacy.com

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Welcome to That's So Intimate — where Sarah and Bryan get cozy with the big, messy questions. In this episode we unpack Trust: what it means, where it lives (in others, the universe, and especially inside you), and how our culture, news cycles, and personal histories shape our ability to surrender and rely on one another.

They trade stories — from spilled cacao to washed-out roads — to explore how trust is often specific (we trust people for certain things), learned (through community and crisis), and practiced (try surrendering a small thing this week). They also talk about the balance between self-reliance and interdependence, how media fear shifts our perspective, and why asking for help can actually strengthen connection.

If you’ve ever wondered how to trust more without compromising your safety, or how to build a resilient inner compass so you can lean into life with less control, this episode is a warm invitation. Cozy up, breathe, and let the conversation open a little room for you to experiment with trust — in yourself, in others, and in the world.

Connect with Us:

• Sarah Koch: @radintimacy | radintimacy.com
• Bryan Russell: @sadhanayogaschool | sadhanayoga.com
• Suggest a topic: DM us or email podcast@radintimacy.com

Subscribe & Share: If this episode moved you, subscribe wherever you listen and share it with someone who might love it too. Let’s grow this beautiful, curious, intimate community—together. 💛