What happens when curiosity turns into lived experience — and desire reshapes your identity, relationships, and sense of self?

In Part 1 of this raw and reflective episode, Jess and Lawrence unpack how sexual desire can both liberate and destabilise. From early curiosity and boundary-blurring moments to the emotional hangovers no one prepares you for, this conversation dives into the grey areas between empowerment, regret, growth, and self-awareness.

They explore how desire evolves, the difference between fantasy and reality, and why some experiences leave us feeling more confused than fulfilled — especially when communication, emotional readiness, or self-understanding lag behind sexual exploration.

This is an honest, nuanced look at what desire can unlock… and what it can quietly undo.

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Midlife used to be framed as the beginning of the sexual slow-down. Less desire. Less energy. Less spark.

But what if that story is completely wrong?

In this episode of Swapping Secrets, Jess and Lawrence are joined by globally renowned intimacy expert Susan Bratton to unpack what she calls The New Midlife Sexual Renaissance — a powerful phase where confidence deepens, communication sharpens, and pleasure expands in ways younger generations rarely expect.

Together, they explore how desire actually evolves with age, why libido isn’t meant to be constant, and how understanding arousal as a ladder (not a switch) changes everything. Susan breaks down the science behind expanding orgasmic capacity, the role of blood flow, hormones, and nervous system health, and why many people report the best sex of their lives in their 40s, 50s, and beyond.

Susan Bratton Links

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https://www.instagram.com/susanbratton

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In this episode of Swapping Secrets, Jess and Lawrence are joined by Bradford and Angela from the By The By Podcast to unpack the emotional mechanics of jealousy, envy, fear of missing out, and the boundaries that keep open relationships healthy, sexy, and sustainable.

Together, they explore why jealousy often has more to do with insecurity than possession, how unmet needs amplify emotional reactions, and why clear boundaries don’t restrict freedom — they protect connection. From real-world club experiences to long-term lessons learned across 15 years of ethical non-monogamy, this episode dives into how communication, emotional awareness, and post-play check-ins can transform conflict into growth.

The conversation also tackles the crucial difference between rules and boundaries, why boundaries should never be renegotiated mid-moment, and how to communicate limits without shame, control, or killing the vibe.

Whether you’re new to non-monogamy or deeply experienced, this episode is a masterclass in emotional resilience, consent-driven communication, and why boundaries might just be the sexiest skill you can learn.

Bradford & Angela’s links:

Website: https://www.bythebi.com

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