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Most people treat sex like a race to the finish. We don’t. Jordan, Sherman, and Victoria pull back the sheets on what actually creates better lovers: communication that turns you on, safety that lets you let go, and generosity that makes pleasure the point—not just arriving. We talk about how to ask for what you want without killing the mood, why receptive partners (women, bottoms, subs) often hold the real power, and how all-day foreplay—texts, neck kisses, and practical help—switches the brain from stress to desire. Expect science, stories, and a few savage truths, like why spit isn’t lube and why slowing down usually speeds everything up.

We get practical about anal sex prep and empathy, explore the mental side of arousal for busy partners, and share scripts you can steal tonight: sexy check-ins, clear boundaries, and step-by-step “roadmaps” that remove guessing. There’s a beautiful detour into the “garden” of sexuality—how culture plants weeds, how to pull them, and how to grow what really lights you up. We also name a quiet truth many couples feel: the best sessions don’t always end in orgasm, and that’s not failure. When you shift from performance to collaboration, desire expands, pressure drops, and the fun returns.

If you’re ready to trade mediocre routines for mindful heat—more oral, more care, more courage—this one’s for you. Listen, share with a partner, and tell us: what helps you switch from work brain to sex brain? If this resonated, follow the show, leave a review, and send the episode to someone who deserves better nights.

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Ever had a fantasy you were almost afraid to admit—even to yourself? We go straight at one of the most misunderstood dynamics in sex and relationships: hotwifing. No humiliation scripts, no clickbait; we draw a clean line between hotwifing and cuckolding, and then we get into the real engine behind it—compersion. Think of it as pleasure multiplied, not divided: the arousal of seeing your partner deeply satisfied, nested within ironclad trust and crystal‑clear boundaries.

We unpack why this can be so powerful for some couples, from the psychology of witnessing pleasure to the way novelty and variety keep desire alive. We talk about the hardest part—bringing it up without blowing up the relationship—and we offer practical steps: how to frame the first conversation, set hard no‑gos, choose whether encounters are witnessed or solo, design safer sex protocols, and build aftercare that re-bonds you. Along the way, we rethink power. The “stag” might curate scenes, but consent lives with the partner receiving pleasure; the guest (or “bull”) becomes a respected, consenting instrument in the couple’s shared erotic script. That shift changes everything.

You’ll also hear community wisdom from people who live the lifestyle: expect surprises, communicate more than you think you need, and keep ethics front and centre—no racial fetish myths, no secrecy that risks harm, and no pushing a partner past their true yes. Maybe this becomes a path you explore, or maybe the conversation alone refreshes desire. Either way, the takeaway is simple: with consent, respect, and honest talk, you can write a relationship that fits your real wants—not someone else’s rules.

If this sparked new questions or gave you language you’ve been missing, follow, rate, and share with a friend who loves smart, brave conversations about sex and intimacy. Then tell us: what would your first boundary be?

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Big news first: we’ve been nominated for the Adult Industry Choice Awards and we’d love your vote. Then we roll up our sleeves and take on a fan favourite topic with clear eyes and zero shame: how to make anal sex safer, more comfortable, and actually pleasurable for both partners. Not the porn version—the real, practical, human version that respects consent and celebrates connection.

We start by unpacking why people are curious in the first place: new sensations, variety, and a level of intimacy that feels special rather than routine. From there, we get specific about preparation. You’ll hear how diet and fibre shape confidence and spontaneity, the right way to douche (and why less is often more), and the small choices—like skipping heavy booze and high-fat meals—that keep your gut calm. We share lube strategies that work in real bedrooms: when to choose water-based vs silicone, why spit isn’t a lubricant, the condom compatibility trap, and the simple trick to rehydrate water-based lubes on the fly.

Safety and pleasure come together when we talk toys and technique. We explain why anal toys must have a base, what “body-safe” actually means, and how to avoid porous materials that harbour bacteria. We cover starting sizes, building tolerance, and pacing that lets the body relax rather than brace. Most importantly, we model the kind of communication that turns anxiety into trust—quick check-ins, playful redirection, and pairing anal with the touch that already gets you off. Expect humour, straight talk, and honest admissions that take the pressure off and bring you closer.

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Ever wondered what happens when you tear down the arbitrary walls between kink and swinging communities? In this candid conversation with event creators Mischief and Mayhem, we explore the unexpected success of Perth's groundbreaking crossover event that allowed both worlds to collide in spectacular fashion.

The duo reveals the behind-the-scenes reality of organizing such an event – from the constant mental pressure ("Are people having fun right now?") to the unexpected validation participants experienced. Most touchingly, they share stories of attendees who approached them after their stretching demonstration, whispering confessions like "we do this at home but didn't know anyone else did." This beautiful moment of recognition perfectly captures why creating authentic spaces for exploration matters so profoundly.

What makes this conversation particularly illuminating is the contrast between performative and authentic kink. As Mayhem explains, "Seeing it in person, so raw, is such a lovely thing – it's like, oh my gosh, they're like me." Unlike the perfectly staged performances in professional content, these real-life demonstrations allow people to witness genuine connection and communication between partners. The nuances matter: different positions work for different bodies, various techniques yield different sensations, and the most important element is always authentic communication between partners.

The conversation weaves through practical considerations (the financial investment in quality toys), psychological insights (how extreme play can reconnect cerebral people with their physical bodies), and plans for their upcoming "Court of Sin and Seduction" themed event. Most powerful is their journey from being nervous to mention their interest in stretching at their first munch to now running successful events centered around it – a testament to how "if you put stuff out there, people find you."

Ready to explore your own boundaries? Listen now to discover how creating judgment-free spaces allows everyone to find their authentic expression and community.

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Ever wondered why certain taboo conversations create such powerful connections? Our deep dive into fisting proved to be one of our most resonant episodes ever - not because of shock value, but because it explored something rarely discussed with genuine curiosity, practical wisdom, and profound respect.

From historical origins to modern practice, we peel back the layers of this misunderstood intimate act. Turns out that fisting isn't actually about forming a fist at all - just one of many myths we debunk along the way. Beyond the mechanics (which yes, we cover thoroughly), we explore why practices requiring extraordinary patience, trust and communication often build the deepest connections between partners.

The psychology fascinates: what draws people to explore sensations that seem extreme? How does vulnerability transform into power? What happens when we push beyond our comfort zones with someone we trust completely? These questions resonate whether or not this particular practice appeals to you.

We don't shy away from practical guidance either - proper preparation, safety considerations, hygiene practices, and most importantly, the art of aftercare both physical and emotional. Every step emphasizes consent, communication, and genuine connection.

Whether you're merely curious, actively interested, or simply appreciate honest conversations about sexuality, this episode offers something valuable: permission to approach the taboo with openness rather than judgment. After all, understanding what draws others to experiences different from our own is how we build empathy in all areas of life.

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Ever wonder why some sexual conversations feel so awkward while others flow naturally? In this captivating episode, sexologist Freya Graf transforms typically uncomfortable topics around shame, pleasure, and bodies into something that feels not just safe, but genuinely fun.

Freya's journey from experiencing crippling sexual shame to becoming a respected sex educator offers a powerful narrative of transformation. She candidly shares how her personal struggles led her to help others break free from sexual shame and discover authentic pleasure. As she puts it, she "turned her mess into her message" – and what a vital message it is.

The conversation delivers several paradigm-shifting insights about female arousal and pleasure. Did you know women typically need 30-40 minutes to become fully aroused? Unlike men, who can be ready in seconds, women require time for their erectile tissues to become engorged – yet most sexual encounters rush past this crucial stage. Perhaps most surprising is Freya's revelation that helping with household chores might actually be the sexiest foreplay, as it allows women to shift from stress into a receptive, pleasure-ready state.

Freya expertly dismantles several harmful myths about female sexuality. She challenges the "tight is right" narrative around vaginas, explaining that many women actually have pelvic floors that are too tight rather than too weak. The obsession with squirting as a marker of good sex receives thoughtful criticism, as does the goal-oriented approach that prioritizes orgasm over the journey of pleasure.

Whether you're looking to understand your own body better or become a more attentive partner, this episode offers practical wisdom wrapped in candid, often humorous conversation. Freya's approach – grounded in both science and compassion – creates space for listeners to let go of sexual shame and embrace a more authentic relationship with pleasure.

Listen now to discover why this episode resonated so deeply with audiences and pick up insights that might just transform your understanding of what makes sex truly satisfying. After all, as Freya demonstrates, the best sexual education feels less like a lecture and more like a revelation.

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The fascination with cum goes far beyond physical pleasure—it's a complex psychological territory where power, identity, and vulnerability intertwine in unexpected ways. This provocative deep-dive explores why cream pies can feel deeply intimate while cum dumping pushes boundaries of submission and dominance, revealing how these practices tap into primal psychological needs.

We unpack the surprising duality at play: how the same act can make someone feel both powerful and vulnerable simultaneously. For givers, ejaculating inside a partner can represent dominance and possession; for receivers, it's both submission and empowerment—"holding onto that moment for a little bit longer." This tension creates a unique sexual dynamic that few other practices can match.

The conversation doesn't shy away from practical concerns either. We candidly address sexual health considerations, debunk myths about ejaculate volume popularized by porn, and discuss how biological factors like hydration and abstinence affect your experience. Men's connection between ejaculate volume and masculine identity receives particular attention, revealing how deeply our sexual functions connect to our sense of self.

Perhaps most valuably, we conclude with a powerful message of acceptance. Whether you produce a little or a lot, whether you're into specific cum-related practices or not, your body and preferences are valid. By examining these taboos with humor and honesty, we hope to normalize conversations about aspects of sexuality many people experience but rarely discuss openly.

Ready to think differently about a subject that's simultaneously everywhere and nowhere in our sexual discourse? This episode will change how you understand not just cum, but the complex psychology that shapes our most intimate moments.

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Ever wondered why some fantasies are universal? Our most downloaded episode returns by popular demand to tackle a question that sparks curiosity in bedrooms worldwide: does size really matter?

The episode begins with an eye-popping unboxing of progressively larger toys that immediately challenges assumptions about human anatomy's limits. Through laughter and genuine awe, we explore the psychology behind size preferences – how they're shaped by evolution, social conditioning, and individual anatomy rather than by porn or locker room talk.

We dive deep into the science, revealing surprising statistics (only 5% of men have penises longer than 6.3 inches!) while introducing concepts like "boyfriend dick" – the practical sweet spot that balances pleasure with sustainability for regular partners. Along the way, we dismantle harmful racial stereotypes, redefine power dynamics through the lens of "power bottoms," and explore how size play connects to self-confidence and body acceptance rather than merely dominance.

The heart of the conversation focuses on how to approach size exploration safely, emphasizing that muscles (including intimate ones) are designed to stretch and return to their original state. We outline a comprehensive approach to size play that prioritizes communication, proper lubrication, gradual progression, and quality materials. By addressing both practical concerns and emotional hurdles like shame, the episode creates space for listeners to consider their authentic desires without judgment.

Whether you're size-curious or just fascinated by human sexuality, this episode delivers equal parts education, reassurance, and genuine connection. Ready to challenge what you think you know about pleasure, bodies, and desires? Join us for our most eye-opening conversation yet!