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You can be doing all the nervous system work, shadow work, conscious creation practices… and it can still hurt.

In this raw, grounded episode, Dustin Wheeler breaks the illusion of high-vibe spirituality and talks about what most coaches won’t: how to stay with yourself when life doesn’t pause for your growth.

This episode covers:

• Why growth does NOT make you immune to pain
• The myth of high-vibe performance culture
• What “staying with yourself” actually means
• Building a business during grief, uncertainty, and emotional waves
• Nervous system regulation in real life
• Conscious creation inside the storm

If you’ve ever thought, “Why does this still hurt when I’m doing all the work?” — this episode is for you.

You are not broken. You are the creative force. And storms don’t disqualify you — they reveal your strength.

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What if the reason you’re stuck isn’t misalignment…
but inner conflict?

In this raw, honest episode, I unpack why so many good-hearted, conscious people struggle with money, ease, and expansion—despite doing all the personal development and manifestation work.

We talk about:

• Why chasing a pain-free future actually prolongs suffering
• The nervous-system truth behind frequency, alignment, and coherence
• How tying wealth to worth creates internal static
• The hidden beliefs keeping heart-centered people broke
• Why some people accumulate money easily—without the inner torment
• And the powerful metaphor of cows vs buffalo in a storm (and how to move through life faster)

Grounded in nervous-system regulation, this episode dismantles the idea that you must heal, fix, or improve yourself before you’re allowed to receive.

You don’t hold the frequency of your future by feeling better.
You hold it by relating to your present reality differently.

This episode is for creators, leaders, and sensitive souls who are done trying to earn worth—and ready to remember who they are.

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You are not broken.
You are the creative force within.
And you get to choose what you’d love to create.

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There are moments in life where you don’t need another mindset shift — you need permission to stay present inside the storm.

In this raw, honest episode, I share what it’s been like walking alongside my cat, Simba, for months with a condition that can’t be cured — only managed. What happens when the treatments that once worked stop working? When the options narrow? When love doesn’t come with leverage?

This episode is about borrowing tomorrow’s sorrow — the quiet suffering that happens when your mind fast-forwards into worst-case scenarios and your nervous system reacts as if the future is already here.

We talk about:

• Living with inevitability while still loving fully
• The helplessness of not being able to fix what you love
• How the nervous system confuses imagination with reality
• Why presence doesn’t erase pain — but does prevent suffering twice
• Choosing to stay when control is gone

This isn’t a lesson from the other side.
It’s a moment from the middle.

If you’re navigating chronic illness, anticipatory grief, uncertainty, or loving something you can’t save — this episode is for you.

You are not broken.
You are the creative force.
And even now, you still get to choose presence.

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The survival identity hiding under ambition

Hustle feels safe… until it owns you.

Not because you’re weak.
Not because you’re doing it wrong.
But because hustle is a survival spell your nervous system learned a long time ago.

In this episode of the Spiritually Kinky Podcast, we get deliciously honest about the part of ambition no one wants to name — the moment where drive turns into self-domination and burnout starts masquerading as dedication.

We’re talking about the Edge-Holder shadow kink — the woman who learned to stay sharp, stay busy, stay “on,” because slowing down once felt dangerous.

This isn’t a “just rest more” conversation.
It’s a body-level truth about why flow can’t be forced, ease can feel terrifying, and hustle keeps looping even when you’re exhausted.

Inside this episode, we explore:

• Why hustle feels like safety (and why your body clings to it)
• How spiritual and personal development teachings accidentally keep you stuck
• What the Edge-Holder shadow kink actually is
• Why burnout isn’t failure — it’s a refusal
• How flow arrives when you stop dominating your power into submission

If you’re tired of proving your worth through exhaustion…
If you secretly crave ease but don’t trust it…
If you know you’re powerful but don’t want to keep bleeding for it…

This episode is for you.

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If manifestation hasn’t worked the way you were promised…
If vision boards, affirmations, and journaling feel powerful in theory but never quite land in your body…
This episode is for you.

In this deeply embodied conversation, Dustin unpacks the real reason manifestation doesn’t “stick” — and it has nothing to do with your mindset, worthiness, or effort.

✨ You’re not broken.
✨ You’re not doing it wrong.
✨ Your nervous system just hasn’t been taught that what you want is safe yet.

Inside this episode, we explore:

• Why manifestation tools fail when the body doesn’t feel safe
• How desire is not something to transcend, but a doorway to creation
• The hidden harm of worthiness-based spirituality and spiritual bypassing
• Why strategy without the right structure keeps women stuck
• How power, permission, and consent change everything
• Why safety — not positivity — is what actually allows creation

This episode speaks directly to the woman who:

• Has done the healing work
• Understands her patterns
• Is tired of trying to fix herself
• And secretly wonders why she “knows better” but still feels stuck

This is not another mindset talk.
This is nervous-system-based creation.

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Your Nervous System Has a Shadow Kink (And It Was Born Out of Love)

If you keep repeating the same patterns in relationships, money, work, or self-worth—this episode will change how you see yourself forever.

In this episode, we’re diving deep into the concept of Shadow Kinks—the unconscious instructions your nervous system formed out of love to keep you safe, connected, and alive… even when those instructions are now outdated and costing you what you actually want.

You’ll learn:

• What a shadow kink really is (and why it’s not something to shame or “heal away”
• How shadow kinks form from unmet needs + survival love
• Why so much of the spiritual and healing world is actually stuck in spiritual bypassing
• How shaming or blaming your patterns keeps them locked in place
• Why integration—not “rising above”—is the real path to change

We explore two of the most common shadow kinks in depth:

• The Fixer (including the “Good Girl” instruction)
• The Hustler (where hustle = safety and rest feels dangerous)

You’ll also discover:

• How shadow kinks show up in love, money, leadership, and the bosses you end up working for
• The hidden superpowers each shadow kink contains
• How awareness allows you to begin updating unconscious instructions—without force, fixing, or shame

This episode is not about becoming someone new.
It’s about remembering who you were before survival ran the show.

✨ No spiritual cosplay.
✨ No emotional bypassing.
✨ Just awareness, integration, and embodied truth.

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The Rise of the Integrated Empath | Why Sensitive People Are the Leaders of What Comes Next

Have you ever quietly wondered…

Is this all there is?
Do I even belong in this world?
Why do I love so deeply — and still feel unseen?

This episode is for empaths, deep feelers, and intuitive creators who are exhausted from trying to heal, fix, or improve themselves — and still feel disconnected, purposeless, or stuck.

In this powerful episode, Dustin Wheeler explores the rise of the integrated empath — and why the very traits that once kept empaths safe are now suffocating their power.

You’ll learn:

• Why empaths learned safety through scanning, pleasing, and over-attuning
• How empath superpowers turned into shadow kinks — unconscious survival contracts
• Why self-improvement and endless healing keep empaths stuck
• What it actually means to integrate your shadow instead of fixing it
• Why empaths are not broken — they are early
• How integrated empaths become anchored, embodied leaders

Dustin introduces the concept of what she's coined as Shadow Kinks — the hidden patterns quietly running relationships, money, business, family, and success — and why awareness alone isn’t enough to change them.

If you’ve ever felt:

• Too sensitive for this world
• Like you love deeper than others can meet
• Disconnected despite doing “all the work”
• Afraid to ask the question: Is this really my life?

This episode is a remembering.

You are not broken.
You are the creative force.
And you get to choose what you’d love to create.

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If you’ve tried affirmations, visualization, gratitude, “raising your vibration,” or acting as if — and still feel stuck, exhausted, or oscillating between hope and collapse — this episode will feel like relief.

Because the truth is:
You’re not failing at manifestation. You’re already magnetic.
You’ve just been creating from the wrong structure.

In this episode of Spiritually Kinky, Dustin Wheeler breaks down why most manifestation advice falls apart the moment real life shows up — grief, stress, sadness, burnout, or overwhelm — and why trying to “feel good” or “think positive” can actually keep you stuck.

You’ll learn:

• Why oscillation is not a mindset problem, but a structural one
• The difference between stuck, problem, and creative structures
• Why success and failure aren’t personal — they’re structural
• How intention matters more than action
• Why “raise your vibration” and “money is just energy” often backfire
• How to shift from manifesting from your past self into consciously creating from your future self

This episode blends sexy science, nervous system truth, and grounded creation principles — without bypassing your humanity or asking you to fix yourself first.

If you’ve ever felt like manifestation made you doubt yourself instead of trust yourself, this conversation will finally make things click.

✨ And if you’re ready to practice creating from the right structure in real time, you’re invited into the 10-Minute Manifest Now Accelerator Challenge inside the Spiritually Kinky community for creators.

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