In this conversation, I speak with psychotherapist and sexologist Suzannah Weiss about women’s sexual health, the challenges we face, and why it’s so important for us to advocate for our own needs. We discuss her book Eve’s Blessing, which explores how pain has been normalised in women’s lives and why healthcare systems need to respond more effectively.

We also talk about empowerment, objectification, and the vital role of consent, especially in the context of sexual assault. Together, we explore how women can navigate their sexuality post‑menopause and the importance of finding healthcare providers who truly support us.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Sex Advice for Seniors

01:21 Eve’s Blessing: Women’s Sexual Health and Pain

05:30 The Importance of Healthcare in Women’s Sexuality

10:11 Subjectified: Empowerment and Objectification

17:29 Healing Through Narrative: Sexual Assault and Consent

23:05 Navigating Sexuality Post-Menopause

26:45 Conclusion and Resources

www.suzannahweiss.comhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/profile/1549106

https://www.amazon.com/Eves-Blessing-Uncovering-Pleasure-Behind/dp/1509566171/

https://www.amazon.com/Subjectified-Becoming-Subject-Suzannah-Weiss/dp/150956019X

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Today on Sex Advice for Seniors, I’m speaking with Dr. Tammy Nelson, a sex and relationship expert, psychotherapist, author, and host of The Trouble with Sex. Tammy joins me from Los Angeles to talk about her book Open Monogamy, a title that grabbed me immediately. We explore what “open” and “monogamy” can mean today, why relationship agreements are no longer one‑size‑fits‑all, and how couples can navigate changing needs, fantasies, jealousy, and long‑term desire with honesty, integrity, and transparency.

In an era where traditional relationship models are being challenged, Dr. Tammy Nelson’s concept of “open monogamy” is gaining traction. This innovative idea invites couples to explore their commitments openly, redefining what monogamy means in today’s world.

I’m curious to know - what does commitment mean to you?

00:00 Introduction to Open Monogamy

02:32 The Concept of Open Monogamy

05:31 Navigating Relationship Changes

08:17 Communication in Relationships

11:03 Defining Monogamy and Non-Monogamy

14:01 Jealousy and Relationship Dynamics

16:33 The Role of Appreciation in Relationships

19:35 Fantasies and Their Impact on Relationships

22:26 Conclusion and Key Takeaways

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In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I had a blast talking with Lauren  Elise Rogers, a certified holistic sexuality educator and embodied intimacy coach based in West Virginia. Lauren introduced me to a fascinating idea she calls weeding our sexual gardens—a powerful metaphor for examining and removing outdated sexual beliefs that no longer serve us. Through her gentle guidance, she led me through an exercise that explores the sexual and relational messages we absorb at ages 7, 14, and 21, helping us understand how those early “seeds” continue to shape our adult desires and choices.

Lauren also shared her deeply personal journey from growing up in a conservative, evangelical environment to reclaiming her body, pleasure, and autonomy after leaving a difficult marriage. Her transformation is remarkable - from purity rings and religious shame to running SexEd4U, a global coaching practice focused on informed, ethical, and joyful sexuality. Our conversation touched on everything from pleasure as an antidote to pain, to how parenting and relationships evolve after midlife, and why empty nesters often rediscover who they really are.

What resonated most for me was Lauren’s message that pleasure has no age limit and no moral hierarchy. As she beautifully put it, it’s not about what we do with our bodies but about knowing we deserve choice, consent, and joy at every stage of life. By “weeding our sexual gardens,” we can cultivate new beliefs that let our intimate lives flourish—whether we’re single, partnered, or still figuring things out.

You can find Lauren here:

Chapters

00:00 Welcome and Introduction to Sexual Gardens

03:09 Exploring Sexual Beliefs and Personal Growth

12:03 Navigating Relationships and Parenting Dynamics

21:04 The Importance of Informed Decision-Making in Sexuality

Hi, I’m Suzanne, author of the bestseller ‘The Butcher, the Baker, the Candlestick Maker: An Erotic Memoir,’ pleasure seeker and curious about ways to improve our intimate relationships as we age.

Each week, I delve into a different aspects of sex, dating and relationships with an expert which I bring to you via the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast.

Once a week, I write or invite a guest to write a more personal story, which could be in the form of an erotic experience, a sex toy review or perhaps a new perspective, typically behind a paywall.

Alongside this Substack, I advocate for the right to sexual pleasure in later life through speaking engagements, attending conferences and other events, which your subscription helps to pay me to attend.

Being a subscriber has multiple benefits for you:

* Receive my book, ‘Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life’

* Join my private chat where you can ask questions of a personal nature

* Helping to contribute to the conversation around sex and sexual health in later life

I’m grateful for each and every subscriber that pays £6.99 or £49.99 per year so do consider taking a subscription if you have the means to do so.

Thousands of people are saying, I’m so grateful Suzanne has taken on one of the big taboos because I wouldn’t have the confidence to do it. If you’d like to support me talking about sexual pleasure in later life, hit subscribe.

Hey, but don’t take it from me. Here’s what others say about Sex Advice for Seniors:

“Not enough older voices talking about sex. Are we just supposed to dry up and fade away?”

“I enjoy staying abreast of new ideas and learning new ways to please my wife.”

“Straight non judgmental information that relates to my needs.”

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In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I sit down with writer Angela Burk, author of The Real Girl’s Guide to Over 55s. Angela and I first connected on Substack, and it was great to finally chat about her journey as both a writer and a woman redefining life after 50. She told me how the idea for her book actually began decades ago, when she was 35, and how rediscovering those old notes after retiring inspired her to start again, this time exploring transformation, self-discovery, and pleasure from a midlife perspective.

Angela was wonderfully candid about her own sexual awakening. She spoke about learning to understand her body, discovering self-pleasure in her 40s after her divorce, and how finding a caring, open partner helped her reclaim her desires without shame. I really related to so much of what she shared - especially how exhausting it can be to write and reflect deeply on these topics while living them. We also talked about how difficult it can be for women of our generation to have open conversations about sex and the body, given how little information and support we had growing up.

What be both share a belief that pleasure doesn’t have an expiration date. We talked about women in their 50s, 60s, and beyond who are finally finding the language and courage to talk about sex, menopause, and libido without embarrassment. We agreed that doctors often downplay these issues, and that we have to become our own advocates. Our conversation reminded me that reclaiming pleasure, at any age, is important and possible because desire doesn’t retire.

You can find Angela here.

00:00 Introduction to Substack and Its Community

01:42 The Birth of The Real Girl’s Guide

04:21 Reclaiming Sexual Power After 50

10:16 The Impact of Upbringing on Sexual Awareness

14:55 Exploring Pleasure and Self-Discovery

19:20 The Importance of Communication in Relationships

24:14 Navigating Sexuality in Later Life

32:01 The Ongoing Journey of Sexual Empowerment

Hi, I’m Suzanne, author of the bestseller ‘The Butcher, the Baker, the Candlestick Maker: An Erotic Memoir,’ pleasure seeker and curious about ways to improve our intimate relationships as we age.

Each week, I delve into a different aspects of sex, dating and relationships with an expert which I bring to you via the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast.

Once a week, I write or invite a guest to write a more personal story, which could be in the form of an erotic experience, a sex toy review or perhaps a new perspective, typically behind a paywall.

Alongside this Substack, I advocate for the right to sexual pleasure in later life through speaking engagements, attending conferences and other events, which your subscription helps to pay me to attend.

Being a subscriber has multiple benefits for you:

* Receive my book, ‘Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life’

* Join my private chat where you can ask questions of a personal nature

* Helping to contribute to the conversation around sex and sexual health in later life

I’m grateful for each and every subscriber that pays £6.99 or £49.99 per year so do consider taking a subscription if you have the means to do so.

Thousands of people are saying, I’m so grateful Suzanne has taken on one of the big taboos because I wouldn’t have the confidence to do it. If you’d like to support me talking about sexual pleasure in later life, hit subscribe.

Hey, but don’t take it from me. Here’s what others say about Sex Advice for Seniors:

“Not enough older voices talking about sex. Are we just supposed to dry up and fade away?”

“I enjoy staying abreast of new ideas and learning new ways to please my wife.”

“Straight non judgmental information that relates to my needs.”

Subscribe now and discover why desire never retires. Sexy stories, stimulating podcasts, great deals on products to support your sexual health.

In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I sat down with Marie Morice, whom I have met in real life! She’s a clinical sexologist and advocate for sexual health, and we spoke about the importance of sexual justice and its intersection with ageing, pleasure, and health. With World Sexual Health Day as a backdrop, we explore the theme of sexual justice—ensuring everyone, regardless of age, gender, or ability, has access to sexual health, autonomy, and pleasure.

Marie shares her insights on societal stigmas around older adults’ sexuality, the unique challenges faced by LGBTQIA+ individuals and those with disabilities, and the critical need for intersectionality in sexual health advocacy. We also discuss the impact of climate change on women’s reproductive rights, access to healthcare, and the harmful chemicals present in intimate products.

Marie has recently designed Pleasure Atelier workshops, to help midlife and older women reclaim their relationship with pleasure and wellness, introducing them to innovative sex toys and emphasising the importance of embracing fun and pleasure in everyday life.

For more information, visit Marie’s work at the Women’s Environmental Network or join her Pleasure Atelier workshops.

00:00 Introduction to Sexual Health and Justice

02:45 Understanding Sexual Justice

05:54 Barriers to Sexual Health for Older Adults

08:44 Cultural Perspectives on Sexual Health

11:28 The Impact of Climate Change on Sexual Health

14:16 Access to Sexual Health Services

17:08 The Role of Pleasure in Sexual Health

19:43 Advocacy for Women’s Health Products

22:42 The Pleasure Atelier and Reclaiming Pleasure

Hi, I’m Suzanne, author of the bestseller ‘The Butcher, the Baker, the Candlestick Maker: An Erotic Memoir,’ pleasure seeker and curious about ways to improve our intimate relationships as we age.

Each week, I delve into a different aspects of sex, dating and relationships with an expert which I bring to you via the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast.

Once a week, I write or invite a guest to write a more personal story, which could be in the form of an erotic experience, a sex toy review or perhaps a new perspective, typically behind a paywall.

Alongside this Substack, I advocate for the right to sexual pleasure in later life through speaking engagements, attending conferences and other events, which your subscription helps to pay me to attend.

Being a subscriber has multiple benefits for you:

* Receive my book, ‘Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life’

* Join my private chat where you can ask questions of a personal nature

* Helping to contribute to the conversation around sex and sexual health in later life

I’m grateful for each and every subscriber that pays £6.99 or £49.99 per year so do consider taking a subscription if you have the means to do so.

Thousands of people are saying, I’m so grateful Suzanne has taken on one of the big taboos because I wouldn’t have the confidence to do it. If you’d like to support me talking about sexual pleasure in later life, hit subscribe.

Hey, but don’t take it from me. Here’s what others say about Sex Advice for Seniors:

“Not enough older voices talking about sex. Are we just supposed to dry up and fade away?”

“I enjoy staying abreast of new ideas and learning new ways to please my wife.”

“Straight non judgmental information that relates to my needs.”

Sarah Ward helps people get undressed — literally and emotionally.

As a Certified Sexologist and Somatic Sex Coach, she guides clients to reconnect with their bodies, reclaim their pleasure, and shed shame rooted in religious and cultural conditioning.

Before this, Sarah spent a decade as a wardrobe stylist and art director, with over 5,000+ photo shoots under her belt, to help clients feel confident fully clothed. Now, she helps them feel even better in their own skin.

During this episode we explored the complexities of intimacy, communication, and sexual desires, particularly for older adults. We talked about the challenge of asking for what one wants in the bedroom, which I suspect, isn’t solely a problem of the Boomer and beyond generation, but is challenging at any stage of adult life! We also spoke about the impact of hormones on libido, and the importance of trust and safety in relationships.

Our conversation also delved into the concept of erotic blueprints, which is Sarah’s area of expertise, and how understanding different desires can enhance sexual experiences. Ultimately, it all boils down to the need for open communication and the courage to explore fantasies without fear.

Links:

* Website: www.sarahward.co

* Blog:

* Social media: www.instagram.com/sarahward.co

As a FREE gift, Sarah invites you to download The Sensual Embodiment Guide, which is a 12-page ebook with an audio practice that listeners can use to help reconnect with their sensual selves.

Why Subscribe to Sex Advice for Seniors? Because Desire Never Retires.

Hi, I’m Suzanne Noble, author of the bestselling The Butcher, the Baker, the Candlestick Maker: An Erotic Memoir, and passionate advocate for sexual pleasure at every age. If you’re curious about improving your intimate relationships as you age, then Sex Advice for Seniors is your ultimate resource.

For just £6.99/month, you’ll unlock a wealth of benefits designed to inspire, educate, and empower you to live a more fulfilled, pleasure-filled life:

What You’ll Get as a Subscriber:

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Why Our Readers Love It:

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By subscribing, you’re not just accessing valuable content—you’re joining a movement to challenge outdated taboos and celebrate the joy of intimacy at every stage of life.

Let’s keep the conversation going. For just £6.99/month (or £49.99/year), you can help ensure that the right to pleasure and connection doesn’t end with age.

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In this enlightening episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I am joined by Dr. Rebecca Lahann, a licensed psychologist and certified sex therapist, to discuss the multiple challenges that older people experience in their quest for pleasurable sex, from physical limitations and hormonal shifts to the impact of medications. Dr. Lahan shares her insights on fostering emotional connection, adapting to physical changes, and debunking myths about ageing and libido.

We also discussed the rising rates of STIs among older adults, the importance of communication, and the need for education on sexual health in senior living and retirement communities. Touching on LGBTQ+ experiences and non-traditional relationships, this episode emphasises the importance of redefining intimacy and exploring sexuality authentically at any age.

Dr. Lahann offers practical advice, including safe practices, accommodations for physical limitations, and the role of healthcare professionals in supporting older adults’ sexual health.

For more resources, visit Dr. Lahann’s website at drrebeccalehann.com.

00:00 Introduction to Seniors and Sexuality

01:50 Understanding the Impact of Aging on Sexuality

05:37 The Role of Medications in Sexual Function

08:19 Debunking Myths About Seniors and Sex

11:10 Fostering Emotional Connection and Intimacy

12:59 Adapting Sexual Practices for Physical Limitations

16:31 Hormonal Changes and Their Effects on Sexuality

18:32 Addressing STIs in Older Adults

20:58 Supporting LGBTQ+ Seniors in Sexual Health

24:39 The Need for Broader Sexual Health Education

27:33 Future Directions in Sexual Health for Seniors

Hi, I’m Suzanne, author of the bestseller ‘The Butcher, the Baker, the Candlestick Maker: An Erotic Memoir,’ pleasure seeker and curious about ways to improve our intimate relationships as we age.

Each week, I delve into a different aspects of sex, dating and relationships with an expert which I bring to you via the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast.

Once a week, I write or invite a guest to write a more personal story, which could be in the form of an erotic experience, a sex toy review or perhaps a new perspective, typically behind a paywall.

Alongside this Substack, I advocate for the right to sexual pleasure in later life through speaking engagements, attending conferences and other events, which your subscription helps to pay me to attend.

Being a subscriber has multiple benefits for you:

* Receive my book, ‘Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life’

* Join my private chat where you can ask questions of a personal nature

* Helping to contribute to the conversation around sex and sexual health in later life

I’m grateful for each and every subscriber that pays £6.99 or £49.99 per year so do consider taking a subscription if you have the means to do so.

Thousands of people are saying, I’m so grateful Suzanne has taken on one of the big taboos because I wouldn’t have the confidence to do it. If you’d like to support me talking about sexual pleasure in later life, hit subscribe.

Hey, but don’t take it from me. Here’s what others say about Sex Advice for Seniors:

“Not enough older voices talking about sex. Are we just supposed to dry up and fade away?”

“I enjoy staying abreast of new ideas and learning new ways to please my wife.”

“Straight non judgmental information that relates to my needs.”

Subscribe now and discover why desire never retires. Sexy stories, stimulating podcasts, great deals on products to support your sexual health.