Evan sits down with acclaimed historian Stephanie Coontz to discuss the evolving nature of marriage and family life. Coontz offers deep insights into the shifts in marital norms over the past few decades, highlighting how co-providing, gender roles, and societal expectations have changed. The episode also delves into 'silent divorces' and the complexities of rekindling relationships with ex-spouses. Additionally, Stephanie shares her experience of having her work cited in the Supreme Court's decision legalizing same-sex marriage and offers a sneak peek into her forthcoming book. This episode is rich with historical context, personal anecdotes, and practical advice for anyone interested in the future of marriage and relationships.

Topics

00:19 Welcome to the Shine On Podcast

00:55 Introducing Stephanie Coontz

03:12 Silent Divorce: A New Perspective

07:16 Reconnecting with an Ex: Is It Worth It?

11:21 Overrated or Underrated: Legal and Fun Topics

24:00 Discussing Modern Marriages

24:13 Stephanie's New Book

25:41 Redefining Marriage Norms

29:12 Historical Perspectives on Marriage

31:22 Future of Marriage and Relationships

32:40 Supreme Court Citation Experience

34:34 Advice for Younger Self

41:05 Impact of Divorce on Society

45:59 Fun Segment: They Said It

53:10 Conclusion and Farewell

In episode 87 of the Schein On Podcast, Evan dives into a profound discussion with Dr. Brad Reedy, renowned family therapist and co-founder of Evoke Therapy Programs. The episode explores the importance of understanding oneself, the transformative power of therapy, and how the hero's journey framework can reframe life's challenges, including divorce. Additionally, Evan and producer Dave discuss their personal takes on Opening Day, share insights on popular shows like 'White Lotus,' and debate the value of law firm swag.

00:00 Introduction to Self-Discovery

00:08 Podcast Opening and Episode Overview

00:52 Guest Introduction: Dr. Brad Reedy

01:15 Casual Conversation: Baseball and Personal Anecdotes

05:18 Discussion on Divorce and Relationships

09:37 Parenting Post-Divorce

13:46 Overrated or Underrated Segment

18:18 White Lotus Discussion

21:42 Interview with Dr. Brad Reedy

23:20 Embracing Resistance in Therapy

24:46 Mentors and Their Impact

26:19 False Heroes and Misguided Pursuits

27:34 Modern Therapy's Shortcomings

29:42 Connecting Past Trauma to Present Issues

32:06 The True Nature of Healing

34:12 The Role of Forgiveness in Therapy

35:56 Divorce as a Catalyst for Growth

39:01 The Hero's Journey Framework

41:03 Unresolved Childhood Trauma in Breakups

44:24 The Importance of Self-Knowledge

48:07 Famous Quotes and Their Insights

58:57 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Evan leads a deep dive into the complexities of sex addiction and human sexuality with clinical psychologist and sex therapist Dr. David Ley. The conversation dispels myths, addresses misconceptions about sex addiction, and explores the nuances of intimacy, relationships, and pornography. The episode also features the lively 'Overrated or Underrated' segment and a discussion on AI's impact on child exploitation. Additionally, Dr. Ley provides professional insights on maintaining realistic expectations in relationships and discusses the potential benefits and ethical dilemmas associated with artificial intelligence in combating sexual offenses.

Topics

00:38 Diving into Divorce and Relationship Insights

02:00 March Madness and Bracket Strategies

04:46 Red Sox and Yankees Rivalry

06:40 The Docket: Sharing Truth After Divorce

14:07 Overrated or Underrated: Legal and Fun Topics

26:17 Interview with Dr. David Ley on Sex Addiction

30:05 The Harmful Effects of the 'Sex Addiction' Label

30:45 Sex Addiction in the Courtroom

31:31 Misconceptions About Sex Addiction Treatment

33:26 Moral Judgments and Sex Addiction

35:53 Pornography and Its Misunderstood Impact

37:07 The Role of Sex Education

39:06 Pornography in Relationships

45:09 The Myth of Porn-Induced Erectile Dysfunction

46:40 The Complexity of Human Sexuality

01:01:36 AI and Child Exploitation

01:10:17 Final Thoughts and Reflections

Featuring renowned life coach and relationship expert Laurie Gerber, the episode delves into handling breakups, dating post-divorce, and the importance of honesty and self-discovery. Highlights include Gerber's advice on the pitfalls of rushing into new relationships, the significance of personal growth, and practical tips for modern dating. The show also covers current events, such as celebrity divorces, and explores topics like the resurgence of vinyl records and the impact of one's career on relationships. Throughout the episode, engaging segments like 'Overrated or Underrated' and 'They Said It' add variety and depth to the conversation, making it a must-listen for anyone interested in love, relationships, and personal development.

Topics

00:14 Podcast Introduction and Season Overview

00:26 Discussing Divorce and Relationships

02:40 Celebrity Divorce News

06:24 TV Show Trailer Review

09:08 Impact of Careers on Relationships

13:26 Overrated or Underrated Segment

22:55 Interview with Laurie Gerber

39:01 Understanding Compatibility in Dating

39:56 Efficiently Ending a Relationship

41:27 The Six Key Compatibility Factors

45:37 Importance of Family and Political Views

50:12 Common Dating Mistakes After 50

59:46 The Role of Social Media in Dating

01:02:30 Quotes and Reflections on Love

01:10:42 Conclusion and Resources

Evan sits down with Alison Lefkowitz, professor at the New Jersey Institute of Technology and author of 'Strange Bedfellows: Marriage in the Age of Women's Liberation, Politics, and Culture in Modern America'. They discuss the historical and modern challenges of marriage laws, the shifts in gender roles, and how technology is reshaping relationships. The episode also features segments on notable cultural perspectives on relationships, as well as a fun 'Overrated or Underrated' segment covering topics from depositions to fanny packs.

Topics

00:00 Introduction to Marriage Laws and Social Safety Nets

00:58 Episode Introduction and Guest Announcement

01:10 Discussion on Marriage Law and Social Change

01:48 Weather Talk and Personal Updates

02:43 Docket Item: Divorcing Over Taylor Swift

05:07 Docket Item: Living with Post-Divorce Anger

08:58 Overrated or Underrated: Legal and Lifestyle Topics

17:44 The Fanny Pack Debate

20:48 Introducing Alison Lefkovitz

22:22 The Evolution of Marriage Laws

24:01 Technology's Impact on Modern Marriages

25:23 Masculinity, Femininity, and Legal Rulings

36:30 Pop Culture and Marriage

38:49 The Future of Marriage

44:13 They Said It: Fun Segment

50:23 Conclusion and Farewell

An insightful conversation on the complexities of relationships and divorce featuring Dr. Galena Rhoades, a leading psychologist and research professor at the University of Denver. The episode covers a variety of topics including the science behind what keeps couples together, the importance of commitment and communication, and the controversial topic of infidelity and its recovery process. The podcast includes engaging segments like 'Overrated or Underrated' and 'They Said It,' where Evan and producer Dave delve into trending topics and quotes about relationships. Dr. Rhoades offers research-backed truths and practical advice, making this a must-listen for anyone interested in understanding the dynamics of love and divorce.

Topics

01:35 February Excitement and Super Bowl Talk

03:01 Valentine's Day Discussion

04:12 Docket Items: Divorce and Cheating

06:26 Bill Gates' Divorce Regret

12:10 Overrated or Underrated: Legal and Fun Topics

22:03 Interview with Dr. Galena Rhoades

26:27 Research on Cohabitation and Divorce

28:00 The Sliding vs. Deciding Theory

30:04 Designing the Ideal Psychological Study

31:38 Healing After Betrayal in Relationships

33:49 The Phases of Recovery from Infidelity

38:53 The Myths of Love and Relationships

41:49 Impact of Family Background on Relationships

44:14 Key Components of Thriving Relationships

47:45 Insights from 'Fighting for Your Marriage'

50:35 Analyzing Historical Relationships

52:52 They Said It: Reflections on Love and Commitment

57:40 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Evan welcomes financial advisor and author Jennifer Lee to discuss her book, 'Squeeze the Juice'. The episode dives into the intricacies of making financial resources work efficiently towards achieving life goals, such as affording private school, vacations, or an unrestricted budget for weekend shopping. Jennifer offers insightful advice on navigating major financial transitions like divorce and death, emphasizing the importance of understanding one’s financial story and leveraging resources effectively. The segment 'Overrated or Underrated' adds a fun twist, tackling topics like drive-thru coffee shops and DIY legal forms. Jennifer also shares her philosophy on money management, the importance of professional financial advice, and integrating financial planning with personal life goals.

Topics

01:07 Buzz Around Season 5 and Meredith Goldstein

03:54 Diving into Divorce: Mortgage Rates and More

05:50 Divorce Stories: The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly

08:11 Impact of Divorce on Children

13:06 Overrated or Underrated: Legal and Everyday Topics

19:54 Interview with Jennifer Lee: Financial Planning Insights

23:02 Assessing Your Financial Resources

24:13 Understanding Discretionary Money

26:34 Navigating Financial Myths

27:33 Insights from 'Squeeze the Juice'

30:19 Lessons from Clients

32:03 Financial Advice and Divorce

38:01 Blended Families and Money

42:52 Fun Financial Quotes

46:15 Conclusion and Farewell

In the inaugural episode of Season 5 of the Schein On Podcast, Evan dives into the complexities of divorce, offering advice on healthy communication, understanding the impact of divorce, co-parenting, and working with legal teams. Evan introduces a new segment called 'Overrated, Underrated' and highlights communications with podcast veterans and newcomers. Special guest Meredith Goldstein, advice columnist for the Boston Globe, discusses relationships, the changing dynamics in the digital age, and her personal and professional insights on love and divorce. The episode sets a hopeful tone for 2025, urging listeners to view divorce as a transition rather than a failure, and emphasizes the importance of New Year's resolutions.

Topics

00:52 Season 5 Kickoff and New Year Optimism

03:09 The Evolution and Unique Approach of the Shine On Podcast

03:39 Introducing New Segments and Producer Dave

05:51 Top Five Divorce and Relationship Resolutions for 2025

08:23 Overrated or Underrated: Legal and Personal Topics

20:42 Featured Guest: Meredith Goldstein on Love Letters

28:48 The Romance and Reality of Marriage

29:39 Redefining Success in Relationships

32:23 The Business Side of Marriage

35:46 Navigating Divorce and New Beginnings

36:56 The Evolution of Journalism and Personal Growth

45:50 Exploring Modern Relationship Models

47:22 Fun Segment: They Said It

54:34 Wrapping Up and Future Insights