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BECOMING: A 9 month group mentorship with Naomi, for you to to grow into the woman you were always meant to be. Click here to find out more.

Sex and intimacy in dating can feel confusing and pressured, especially if your body does not always respond easily, if it has been a long time, or if you have learned to push yourself to keep connection.

In this episode, we slow things right down. I am not sharing rules about when to have sex. We talk instead about how to know when intimacy is actually supportive for your body and nervous system, why safety matters more than timing, and how to have honest conversations about sex before it happens.

If you have ever said yes while part of you was unsure, this episode will help you come back to your own pace, your own needs, and a deeper sense of safety in dating intimacy.

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BECOMING: A 9 month group mentorship with Naomi, for you to to grow into the woman you were always meant to be. Click here to find out more.

Dating can feel SO HARD. In this episode of The Pleasure Files, I share a practical, healthy to returning to dating without rushing, overriding yourself, or turning it into a measure of your worth.

We talk about pacing, dating apps, texting, and first dates, with clear guidance on how to reduce pressure, fantasy, and early over attachment. I explain why texting is logistics rather than intimacy, how to choose dates that support your nervous system, and how to say thank you but no thank you without people pleasing.

This episode is for you if you want dating to feel clearer, steadier, and more supportive, especially after time away.

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BECOMING: A 9 month group mentorship with Naomi, for you to to grow into the woman you were always meant to be. Click here to find out more.

In this episode I talk about something many women struggle with.

We spend so much time thinking sex is about technique or positions or doing things the right way. But the part that actually changes our experience happens much earlier than that.

I walk you through the real foundations:

• slowness,
• breath,
• feeling your own body,
• receiving,
• communication,
• and giving yourself permission to want pleasure.

We look at why so many women find themselves rushing, performing, or not feeling very much, even when they are trying hard.

And you will hear how these skills start to bring you back into your body so sex can feel safer, clearer, and more enjoyable. This episode is an invitation to understand what your system needs before any technique can matter at all.

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BECOMING: A 9 month group mentorship with Naomi, for you to to grow into the woman you were always meant to be. Click here to find out more.

In this episode, I guide you through the real timeline of female arousal, from the first moments of willingness to the deep, full-body turn-on many women never realise they’re able to have.

You’ll hear why responsive desire is completely normal, why your body might need 30 to 45 minutes or more to be fully aroused, and how stress, tension, and rushing can switch your arousal off before it even begins.

I walk you through the stages of arousal in clear, simple language so you can recognise them in yourself, support your body more fully, and ask for the time and touch you need.

If you’ve ever wondered why desire doesn’t appear instantly, or why your body feels different to the stories you were taught, this episode will give you clarity.

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BECOMING: A 9 month group mentorship with Naomi, for you to to grow into the woman you were always meant to be. Click here to find out more.

In this episode we get honest about vaginal lubrication what it is, what shapes it, and why so many women think something is wrong with them when their body doesn’t become as wet as they expect.

I break down the real physiology of lubrication, how your:

• nervous system,
• hormones,
• cycle,
• health,
• stress load,
• emotional safety
• and type of touch

all influence your ability to get wet and stay wet.

We look at why lubrication is not a reliable measure of desire, why it changes throughout your life, and why your body might shut down wetness as a protective response.

You’ll learn the key differences between lubrication and arousal, the conditions your vagina actually needs to respond, and the common factors that interrupt that response.

I also share a simple daily practice to gently rebuild sensation, circulation and trust in your vulva, so your system can come back into openness at a pace that feels right for you.

If lubrication has ever made you doubt yourself or question your desire, this episode will give you clarity, context and relief.

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In this episode of The Pleasure Files, we go on a detective hunt into the mystery of why orgasms are not happening, or are disappointing when they do.

You’ll hear how stress, tension, shame, numbness, pain, and rushing all disrupt the body’s ability to open to pleasure.

We talk about the impact of porn conditioning, performance pressure, and orgasming through force, and what changes everything when it comes to female pleasure: slowness, safety, softness, and real connection to your own body.

I end with one powerful practice to help you reconnect and reawaken.

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In this episode of The Pleasure Files, I sit down with Maggie, a former client who began her healing journey with me earlier this year.

We start with where she started, what called her into this work, and how her relationship with herself, her body, and her pleasure has transformed since.

Maggie shares with such honesty and warmth about the challenges of facing herself, the unexpected turns of growth, and what it really feels like to reclaim your aliveness from the inside out.

This is a tender, real conversation about courage, change, and the beauty that unfolds when we choose to do the work of healing.

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In this episode of The Pleasure Files, we get deeply practical about desire and what it actually takes for your body to want sex.

And yep, we are complex, complex creatures!

This conversation is about the real-life conditions that help desire happen and arousal thrive: time, space, safety, and intention.

As always there are plenty of practical and useful tips that you can try, if feeling more desire for sex is something that you wish you had.

We talk about:

• Why scheduling can be sexy
• Pumpkin hours
• Priming yourself for sex
• Bridging activities

And finally, we get honest with the hard question: are you trying to desire sex that isn’t worth desiring?

This is a grounded, compassionate, and body-wise look at what it really means to feel more desire in your body, and how you can go about finding more.