Parenting Beyond Meltdowns | Neurodivergent, ADHD, ODD, PDA, Defiant, Build Connection, Emotional Regulation, Dysregulated cover art

Parenting Beyond Meltdowns | Neurodivergent, ADHD, ODD, PDA, Defiant, Build Connection, Emotional Regulation, Dysregulated

Parenting Beyond Meltdowns | Neurodivergent, ADHD, ODD, PDA, Defiant, Build Connection, Emotional Regulation, Dysregulated

By: Amanda Calfee - Christian Life Coach Mama of Strong-willed & Neurodivergent Kiddos
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Parenting Beyond Meltdowns is Ranked in the Top 3% of Podcasts Worldwide!

Do you feel like you’ve tried everything consequences, parenting books, well meaning parenting advice, crying out to the Father and still feel like you’re failing?

Are you walking on eggshells, never knowing what will trigger your child’s next meltdown or shutdown?

Have you felt dismissed or judged by church culture when your child didn’t behave the way they “should”?

Do you find yourself yelling, shutting down, or spiraling with guilt praying that tomorrow will be different?

I’m so glad you’re here. This podcast will help you regulate your emotions, reconnect with your child, and rebuild your confidence as a Christian mom without losing control, feeling ashamed, or fixing everything.

You’ll learn how to show up with peace and presence, so you can parent without guilt and finally feel like yourself again.

Hey, I’m Amanda a certified Christian life coach, mom of Strong-willed & Neurodivergent Kiddos, as well as a former fix-it-all parenting researcher.

For years, I chased every method that promised quick change. I believed if I just found the right consequence, parenting strategy, or routine, I could turn things around. But the more I tried to control, the more disconnected we became.

Everything changed when I stopped parenting from fear and started anchoring in faith, emotional regulation, and connection. I let go of the pressure to fix behavior and began trusting God’s process not just for my child, but for myself, too.

Now I help moms like you shift from survival mode into a grounded, grace-led way of being that transforms everything without changing your child.

If you’re ready to parent beyond meltdowns with tools that are rooted in faith, emotional stability, and connection this podcast is for you.

If you’re tired of parenting advice that shames you or strategies that backfire with your neurodivergent child… you’re not alone.

Whether you’re raising a strong-willed kiddo, navigating sensory challenges, or questioning the parenting approach you were raised with… welcome.

Grab your favorite beverage, take a deep breath, and let’s walk this road together one calm, connected step at a time.

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Episodes
  • 28 | Defiant Behavior or Dysregulated Hearts? Why Emotional Regulation Comes Before Connection

    28 | Defiant Behavior or Dysregulated Hearts? Why Emotional Regulation Comes Before Connection
    Jan 29 2026
    Parenting Beyond Meltdowns is Ranked in the Top 3% of Podcasts Worldwide! Mama, • Do you ever walk away from your child thinking, “I made it worse,” and wonder why connection feels so hard? • Have you tried everything discipline charts, calm voices, new routines only to find your strong-willed or neurodivergent child still melting down? • Does your child’s defiant behavior leave you questioning your parenting, your patience, and sometimes even your faith? • Wish you could stay calm in the chaos instead of feeling dysregulated right alongside them? In this episode, we’re talking about one of the biggest mindset shifts in parenting a strong-willed or neurodivergent child...understanding that emotional regulation comes before connection. When meltdowns happen, it’s easy to see only the behavior the yelling, the refusal, the defiance. But underneath those moments is a dysregulated nervous system that’s asking for safety, not punishment. Together, we’ll unpack how your calm presence can transform those chaotic interactions into opportunities for healing and peace. You’ll learn why defiant behavior is often a sign of dysregulation, how your body and your child’s body communicate long before words, and practical faith-anchored ways to rebuild safety, emotional regulation, and genuine connection in your home. Whether your child struggles with ADHD, ODD, PDA, or ASD, this episode will help you parent from peace instead of pressure no more walking on eggshells, just steady grace and grounded faith. By the end, you’ll see that it’s not about fixing every meltdown; it’s about becoming the calm your child’s heart needs to find its way back to you. Faith Anchor “And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” — Philippians 4:7 (NIV) Even in moments of defiance or emotional chaos, His peace is what steadies you. As you anchor in Him, your presence becomes the safe place where connection begins again. Challenge of the Week: When tension rises, take one deep breath before you speak. Pray: “Father, help me anchor in Your peace before I reach for connection.” Let that pause become your bridge from dysregulation to calm, from reactivity to grace. Special Invitation: If this episode resonated if you’ve been longing for connection but just haven’t known how to get there then I want to invite you to something that’s going to help you take that first gentle step. There was a season when I felt like every day at home was another test I was failing. No matter how much I prayed or tried to stay calm, the meltdowns kept coming, and the connection I longed for felt like it was slipping through my fingers. And maybe for you, connection doesn’t even feel like something you want right now. Maybe you’re just praying for a peaceful day or a moment where no one’s yelling, crying, or shutting down. If that’s where you are, I see you. You’re not doing anything wrong for wanting calm before connection. It’s okay to admit that your heart feels tired. It’s okay if you need space to breathe before you can reach back out. That’s the heartbeat behind my Rebuild Connection with your Strong-Willed or Neurodivergent Child Workshop. Because rebuilding peace isn’t about forcing closeness it’s about helping you feel safe and steady again so connection becomes possible. You don’t have to fix everything; you just have to take one gentle step toward peace. If this message speaks to your heart and you’re ready to begin rebuilding peace and connection in your home, I’d love for you to join me for the Rebuild Connection Workshop on February 10th at 7pm Central, where we’ll walk together through simple, faith-filled ways to respond with calm, restore peace, and rebuild connection with your strong-willed or neurodivergent child. You can save your spot today at www.amandacalfee.com/workshop I’d love for you to be there. Links & Resources • Join the Insiders List → https://amandacalfee.com/page/insider-list • Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/amandacalfee/ • Email → amanda@amandacalfee.com • Facebook Group → https://www.facebook.com/groups/anchoredmamas • Essential Oils → Young Living Wishlist Disclaimer I am not a doctor, therapist, or medical professional. The information shared in this podcast, my coaching, and any Young Living recommendations are for educational and faith-based encouragement only. Nothing shared is intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any physical or mental health condition. Please consult a qualified healthcare provider or licensed therapist for concerns regarding your or your child’s health, emotions, or well-being.
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    12 mins
  • Meltdowns Have You Weary? You Don't Have to Have it All Figured Out

    Meltdowns Have You Weary? You Don't Have to Have it All Figured Out
    Jan 26 2026

    Parenting Beyond Meltdowns is ranked in the top 3% of podcasts worldwide!

    Have the meltdowns, tension, dysregulation and constant pushback left you weary, mama?

    If you’re parenting a strong-willed or neurodivergent child maybe navigating ADHD, ODD, PDA, or ASD it can feel like no matter how hard you try, peace keeps slipping through your fingers.

    If you’ve been craving calm in your home but connection with your child feels out of reach.

    This heartfelt message is for you, Amanda shares a personal invitation to her free live workshop Rebuild Connection with Your Strong-Willed or Neurodivergent Child happening Tuesday, February 10th at 7pm Central.

    It’s a faith-filled, practical hour designed to help you stop reacting, find calm in the chaos, and begin building connection again even in the middle of meltdowns or defiant moments.

    You don’t have to have it all figured out, mama. Peace is possible and it begins with one small step toward grace.

    Save your seat at www.amandacalfee.com/workshop

    Links & Resources:

    Join the Insiders List: https://amandacalfee.com/page/insider-list Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandacalfee/ Email: amanda@amandacalfee.com Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/anchoredmamas Essential Oils: Young Living Wishlist

    Disclaimer: I am not a doctor, therapist, or medical professional. The information shared in this podcast, my coaching, and any Young Living recommendations are for educational and faith-based encouragement only. Nothing shared is intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any physical or mental health condition. Please consult a qualified healthcare provider or licensed therapist for concerns regarding your or your child’s health, emotions, or well-being.
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    3 mins
  • 27 | Parenting Through Dysregulation: Why Willpower Alone Won’t Bring Peace

    27 | Parenting Through Dysregulation: Why Willpower Alone Won’t Bring Peace
    Jan 22 2026

    Parenting Beyond Meltdowns is Ranked in the Top 3% of Podcasts Worldwide!

    Mama,

    Do you ever feel like no matter how hard you try to stay calm, you still end the day feeling exhausted and defeated? Are you tired of feeling like your strong-willed or neurodivergent child’s behavior determines your peace? Do you catch yourself snapping, shutting down, or overexplaining even when you know what you “should” do? Wonder why faith alone doesn’t seem to calm your reactions in the moment?

    Episode Highlights / Overview

    In this episode, we’re uncovering why trying harder isn’t bringing you more calm and what’s really happening inside your body when your child’s behavior sets off that stress response. You’ll learn how emotional regulation begins in your nervous system, not your willpower, and how understanding that changes everything about how you parent. We’ll talk about what dysregulation looks like, why your body moves into protection mode, and how to find peace again through simple, faith-centered regulation practices.

    This episode is especially for mamas raising a strong-willed or neurodivergent child whether ADHD, ASD, ODD, or PDA who want to move beyond meltdowns and defiance and start building connection through calm. You’ll discover that peace isn’t something you earn; it’s something you return to when you slow down, breathe, and let the Father meet you in the chaos.

    Let this conversation remind you that you’re not failing you’re learning how to partner with how God designed your body so you can parent from peace, not pressure.

    Faith Anchor

    “Be still, and know that I am God.” Psalm 46:10

    Stillness isn’t about doing nothing; it’s about surrendering control and trusting that His peace is already within your reach.

    Challenge of the Week

    This week, when you feel that familiar tension rising the clenched jaw, racing heart, or urge to react pause and whisper, “Father, help me release this pressure and receive Your peace.” Let that breath be your anchor, reminding you that calm isn’t found in trying harder but in returning to Him.

    Links & Resources

    Free Workshop: https://amandacalfee.com/workshop

    Join the Insiders List: https://amandacalfee.com/page/insider-list Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandacalfee/ Email: amanda@amandacalfee.com Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/anchoredmamas Essential Oils: Young Living Wishlist

    Disclaimer: I am not a doctor, therapist, or medical professional. The information shared in this podcast, my coaching, and any Young Living recommendations are for educational and faith-based encouragement only. Nothing shared is intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any physical or mental health condition. Please consult a qualified healthcare provider or licensed therapist for concerns regarding your or your child’s health, emotions, or well-being.
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    9 mins
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