Parenting Beyond Meltdowns is ranked in the Top 5% of podcasts globally!

What comes to mind when you hear the word obedience? For many mamas, it feels tied to pressure, rules, and the belief that if our child doesn’t obey instantly, we must be failing. But what if that way of thinking is actually breaking connection with your strong-willed or neurodivergent child?

In this episode, I’m rethinking obedience through a biblical lens — and exploring how connection, trust, and the Holy Spirit reshape the way we show up as moms, especially when raising kids with ASD, ADHD, ODD, or PDA.

We’ll cover:

• The traditional view of obedience — and why it often leaves kids feeling unseen or discouraged.
• A deeper dive into Scripture and how relationship always comes before obedience.
• The role of the Holy Spirit in guiding us away from fear-based parenting and toward love and trust.

What you’ll walk away with:

• A fresh perspective on obedience that prioritizes your child’s heart over fear and control.
• Permission to meet your child at their developmental level — whether they’re strong-willed, neurodivergent, or both.
• Practical and faith-filled encouragement to lean into the Holy Spirit’s whisper instead of the world’s pressure.

Bible Verses Referenced:

• Luke 22:39–45

• Ephesians 6:1–4

• Colossians 3:21

Resources & Links:

Join Insiders List: https://amandacalfee.com/page/insider-list

Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/amandacalfee/

Email:

amandacalfeecoaching@gmail.com

Facebook Group:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/anchoredmamas

Parenting Beyond Meltdowns is ranked in the Top 5% of podcasts globally!

Mama, Is your child just strong-willed, or could something deeper be going on...

In this episode, we’ll unpack the difference between a strong-willed child and a neurodivergent child, and why the distinction matters—but not in the way you might think.

Because at the end of the day, your child’s identity isn’t found in a label. And yours isn’t defined by their meltdowns. 💜

We’ll talk about:

• The difference between strong-willed traits and neurodivergent challenges.
• Why regulation and connection matter more than labels.
• How to anchor yourself so you can show up with peace, regardless of diagnosis.

Whether you’re navigating ADHD, ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder), PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance), ODD (Oppositional Defiant Disorder), or just a whole lot of strong-willed energy, this conversation will give you hope and perspective.

Scriptures referenced:

• Psalm 139:14 — “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made.”
• Isaiah 43:1 says, “Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine.”

Resources & Links:

Join Insiders List: https://amandacalfee.com/page/insider-list

Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/amandacalfee/

Email:

amandacalfeecoaching@gmail.com

Cleveland Clinic List Referenced:

https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/symptoms/23154-neurodivergent

Parenting Beyond Meltdowns is ranked in the Top 5% of podcasts globally!

Have you ever wondered if maybe God gave your strong-willed or neurodivergent child (ASD, ADHD, ODD, or PDA) the wrong mom? That you’re not enough, not equipped, or too overwhelmed to handle what they need?

Mama, you’re not alone. I’ve been there—convinced I was failing, carrying guilt and shame, and believing the enemy’s lies. But here’s the truth: God doesn’t make mistakes. He didn’t just randomly place you in your child’s life. He chose you on purpose.

In this episode, we’re diving into:

• Why your identity as a mom is received, not earned.
• How God equipped biblical figures like Moses, Gideon, David, Esther, Jeremiah, and the Disciples—and how He equips you too.
• Practical steps to ask the Father to show you your God-given identity.
• How to renew your mind daily so you can show up as the exact mom you want to be and your child needs.

You’ll walk away with encouragement, scripture, and a fresh reminder that even in the hardest moments with your child that you are not failing, you are chosen.

Key Scriptures Shared in This Episode

• Exodus 4:10–12
• Judges 6:15–16
• Jeremiah 1:6–9
• 1 Samuel 17:45
• Esther 4:14
• Acts 1:8
• Ephesians 2:10
• Psalm 139
• Proverbs 18:21
• Isaiah 43:1

This Week’s Takeaway Spend 10 minutes with the Father and ask Him to show you your God-given identity as a mom. Write it down. Post it somewhere visible. Speak it daily. His truth, not the enemy’s lies, defines you.

Resources & Links:

Join Insiders List: https://amandacalfee.com/page/insider-list

Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/amandacalfee/

Email:

amandacalfeecoaching@gmail.com

Parenting Beyond Meltdowns is ranked in the Top 5% of podcasts globally! As a mama of an ASD, ADHD, ODD, or PDA child have you ever caught yourself speaking your fears out loud—only to watch them unfold in your child’s life? I’ve been there. In this episode, I’m sharing a personal story of how my own unregulated emotions and words began shaping mine and my child’s reality—and why regulating ourselves as moms matters so much.

You’ll hear:

• Why your fears don’t have to become your child’s identity

• How a dysregulated nervous system in you can spark dysregulation in them

• Why words have power—biblically, emotionally, and neurologically

• Practical ways to regulate your emotions before you respond

• How to replace fear with truth and speak life over your child

This conversation is all about learning to pause, breathe, and anchor in God’s Word before reacting in fear—so you can parent with peace, confidence, and connection.

Scripture References in this Episode:

• Proverbs 18:21

• James 3:5–6

• 2 Timothy 1:7

• Isaiah 41:10

• 1 John 4:18

• Psalm 34:4

• Joshua 1:9

• Isaiah 43:1

• Jeremiah 29:11

Mentioned in this episode: I also talk about how I personally use Young Living Essential Oils to help me regulate in the moment and create a calm environment for my home. Here is a wishlist that you can add individual items to a cart if you are interested https://tinyurl.com/ylamandacalfee

If you have any questions at all please email me at amandacalfee@gmail.com

Takeaway: Your fears don’t get the final word. God does. When you regulate yourself and choose to speak truth instead of fear, you create space for life, hope, and healing in your home.

Resources & Links:

Join Insiders List: https://amandacalfee.com/page/insider-list

Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/amandacalfee/

Email:

amandacalfeecoaching@gmail.com

When you’re raising a child with ADHD, Autism, ODD, or PDA, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed and unsure of where to turn. So often, we run to books, podcasts, or parenting strategies before we turn to God. But what if true peace and wisdom are found first in His presence?

In this episode of Parenting Beyond Meltdowns, we explore four simple but powerful ways to deepen your connection with God: Scripture, prayer, worship, and surrender. You’ll discover how these rhythms can help you tune out the noise, find clarity, and parent with more peace—even in the middle of meltdowns.

Whether you’re navigating daily struggles, longing to hear God’s voice more clearly, or simply needing encouragement for the hard days, this conversation will help you build a nourishing rhythm with the Father that fits your life and your child’s unique needs.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• Why turning to God first brings greater peace than parenting strategies alone.
• Four practical ways to connect with Him in daily life: the Word, prayer, worship, and surrender.
• How to model dependence on God so your child learns to do the same.
• Small shifts that help replace distractions (like social media) with rhythms that bring you closer to Him.
• Encouragement to create your own rhythm with God instead of copying someone else’s quiet time routine.

Scripture References:

• Jeremiah 29:13 — “You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.”
• Hebrews 4:12 — “For the word of God is living and active…”
• Hebrews 13:15 — “Let us continually offer up a sacrifice of praise to God…”
• Psalm 34:18 — “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”

Resources & Links:

Join Insiders List: https://amandacalfee.com/page/insider-list

Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/amandacalfee/

Email:

amandacalfeecoaching@gmail.com

Facebook Group:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/anchoredmamas

If you’ve tried being the “nice mom” and the “strict mom” and neither has worked, you’re not alone.

I used to think connection came after compliance—that once my child listened, obeyed, or calmed down, then we could connect. But I’ve learned the hard way that connection isn’t the reward…it’s the foundation. And without it, everything else falls apart.

In this episode, I’m sharing my own journey of realizing that my son’s defiance wasn’t actually defiance—it was dysregulation. He was communicating the only way he knew how, and I was unintentionally making it harder for him to feel safe.

I’ll walk you through four powerful, connection-centered shifts that have helped me rebuild trust with my neurodivergent child: focusing on safety over first-time obedience, getting curious instead of furious, repairing when there’s a rupture, and being the calm in the chaos.

If you’re in the thick of power struggles, meltdowns, and constant pushback, this conversation will give you a fresh lens to see your child’s behavior differently—and remind you that building attachment isn’t about “fixing” them. It’s about becoming the kind of parent they can trust with their whole heart, even on the messy days.

Resources & Links:

Join Insiders List: https://amandacalfee.com/page/insider-list

Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/amandacalfee/

Email:

amandacalfeecoaching@gmail.com

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/anchoredmamas

If you’ve ever thought, “I’m a bad mom,” this episode is for you.

I’m sharing why your child’s struggles don’t define you and how to break free from the shame and guilt that so many of us carry.

I’ll give you practical ways to stand firm in your God given identity and remind you of the truth about who God says you are as a mom. Because you are not a bad mom—you are a growing mom.

By the end of this episode, you’ll feel lighter, more confident, and equipped with simple steps to anchor yourself in truth on the hard days.

Resources & Links:

Join Insiders List: https://amandacalfee.com/page/insider-list

Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/amandacalfee/

Have you ever felt like your child is the problem?

Like if they would just listen, stop melting down, or follow directions, everything would finally be better? Mama, you’re not alone. Those thoughts don’t make you a bad mom—they make you human.

In this episode, we’ll explore a gentle shift that can bring more peace into your home. I share how I began to notice the role my own emotions were playing in my child’s behavior, and how learning to regulate myself helped us both. You’ll walk away with 3 powerful questions that can help you pause, reflect, and find a calmer way forward when things get overwhelming.

If you’re raising a strong-willed or neurodivergent child (whether ADHD, Autism, ODD, or PDA), this conversation will remind you that neither you nor your child are broken. You’ll find encouragement, hope, and a simple practice you can begin using today.

Resources & Links:

Join Insiders List: https://amandacalfee.com/page/insider-list

Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/amandacalfee/