LGBTQ+ Neurodiversity Q&A (Part One) — Closing Reflections on the Series with Renae Johnson (they/them) & Mikey Whited, Psych NP (they/them)

As we wrap up our Neurodiversity Series, host Renae Johnson and returning guest Mikey Whited sit down to answer your biggest questions about neurodivergence through a queer mental health lens. From how to know if you’re neurodivergent, to navigating communication and emotional regulation in relationships, this episode brings together the key themes from across the series—self-understanding, acceptance, and the radical power of community care.

Together, they unpack what it actually looks like to live as a neurodivergent queer adult, the nuances of ADHD and autism, and why trauma and chronic stress can sometimes blur those lines. This isn’t just a Q&A—it’s a grounding conversation about belonging, validation, and learning to work with your brain, not against it.

Series Takeaways:

• Understanding how ADHD, autism, and sensory differences overlap and diverge
  

• Why so many LGBTQ+ folks are late-diagnosed and how systemic bias plays a role
  

• The difference between trauma responses and neurodivergent traits
  

• Building communication that centers curiosity over correction
  

• Why emotional regulation is a practice, not a performance
  

• The role of community in unmasking, healing, and finding joy
  

This episode closes out our six-part journey into LGBTQ+ neurodiversity—but the conversation doesn’t end here. Keep revisiting these stories, share them with your people, and remember: your brain is not broken. It’s beautifully, uniquely yours.

Queer Moment of Joy Guest 1: Chi, She, @bigchii888

Queer Moment of Joy Guest 2: Paige, She/Her, @paigeraycreative

Guest Bio :

Mikey Whited RN, MSN, PMHNP-BC (they/them) is a psychiatric nurse practitioner working in Los Angeles, California. Mikey specializes in queer and trans psychiatric medication and mental health care for adults and older teens. Mikey is passionate about changing the psychiatry paradigm and providing quality medication education and care for clients in a way that will ACTUALLY work to help clients achieve their lifestyle goals.

Host Bio:

Renae Johnson, LPCC, ATR-BC (they/them) is a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor, Board-Certified Art Therapist, and the Founder of Open Space Therapy Collective, a group practice offering affirming, social justice-driven mental health care for the LGBTQ+ & QTPOC community. With clinical expertise in complex trauma, identity development, and creative expression, Renae blends therapeutic depth with a commitment to equity and inclusion.

In addition to their clinical work, Renae produces community wellness events like Queerly Connected and is a founding member of the LA Queer Coalition, creating spaces where queer and trans people can gather, heal, organize, and celebrate.

As a speaker, consultant, and activist, Renae is passionate about building systems of care that honor the full humanity of queer and trans individuals—and equipping healthcare and wellness providers with the tools to do the same.

To find more from us visit:

Website: https://www.openspacetherapycollective.com

Instagram: @openspacetherapycollective

TikTok: @openspacetherapy

Spotify: @MyTherapistisOut

Apple Podcasts: @mytherapistisout

YouTube: @openspacetherapycollective

Keywords: #Neurodiversity #ADHD #AutismAcceptance #QueerMentalHealth #NeurodivergentVoices #CommunityCare #SelfUnderstanding #EmotionalRegulation #TraumaHealing #Unmasking #Acceptance #SensoryDifferences #LateDiagnosis #Neuroqueer #RadicalSelfAcceptance #HealingJourney #NeurodivergentCommunity #MentalHealthAwareness #YourBrainIsBeautiful

In this episode of My Therapist is Out!, Kristen Crowe (they/them) and Ernesto Martinez (they/he) dive into what it really means to navigate the world as queer and neurodivergent. Together, they unpack how neurotypical standards often miss the mark, why compassionate frameworks matter, and how therapy can shift when it’s designed with neurodiverse folks in mind. From the pressures of societal expectations to the beauty of play, experimentation, and self-acceptance, Kristen and Ernesto remind us that thriving means rewriting the rules — not squeezing into them.

Takeaways

Neurodiversity encompasses a wide range of cognitive variations.

Understanding neurodivergence requires a compassionate and non-pathological lens.

Societal standards often fail to accommodate neurodiverse individuals.

Communication needs vary greatly among neurodiverse people.

Intersectionality plays a crucial role in understanding neurodiverse experiences.

Access to care is a significant barrier for many neurodiverse individuals.

Self-diagnosis can be a valid and empowering process.

Community support is essential for neurodiverse individuals.

Therapists should be aware of systemic issues affecting their clients.

Exploration and play are vital in understanding one's neurodiverse identity.

Mentioned in this Episode: NeeDoh https://myneedoh.com/

Queer Moment of Joy Guest 1: Manny They/Them @projectqla

Queer Moment of Joy Guest 2: Sage She/They @e_sage_

Hosts Bio:

Kristen Crowe LPCC, BC-DMT (they/them) Is Licensed Therapist, Dance Therapist, and Clinical Supervisor with Open Space Therapy Collective. Kristen specializes in working somatically with adults and partners to help heal the mind-body connection so you can feel more grounded and vibrant every day.

Ernesto Martinez APCC, AMFT (they/elle/he/el) is an Associate Therapist with Open Space Therapy Collective. Ernesto specializes in working with Adults, Teens, & Parents of Gender Expansive Children, Adult Children of (im)Migrants to transform challenges into stepping stones towards self-compassion, fulfillment, and confidence.

🌈 About Open Space Therapy Collective

Open Space Therapy Collective (OSTC) is a queer- and trans-led mental health collective built on the belief that therapy should feel like a place where every part of you belongs. Our team of LGBTQ+ and QTPOC therapists create space for healing that is affirming, justice-driven, and rooted in community care. From navigating identity to unpacking trauma to celebrating joy, OSTC is here for the full spectrum of queer experience.

To find more from us visit:

Website: https://www.openspacetherapycollective.com

Instagram: @openspacetherapycollective

TikTok: @openspacetherapy

Spotify: @MyTherapistisOut

Apple Podcasts: @mytherapistisout

YouTube: @openspacetherapycollective

Keywords: neurodiversity, neurodivergence, therapy, mental health, queer identity, self-diagnosis, community support, societal standards, communication, intersectionality

In part two, Mikey and Jennie return with Renae to move from personal stories into professional insight. As a Psych NP and ADHD Coach, they unpack the science of ADHD, the role of brain chemistry, and the ways misdiagnosis and stigma often cloud understanding. The conversation dives into medication, lifestyle strategies, and how neurodivergent brilliance can shine when supported instead of suppressed. From queerness and ADHD overlap to reclaiming creativity and authenticity, this episode is all about seeing ADHD as a source of power, not just struggle.

Takeaways

• ADHD can present differently based on gender and upbringing.

• Stimming is a common behavior in ADHD that helps with focus.

• Emotional regulation is a significant challenge for those with ADHD.

• There is a higher prevalence of ADHD in the queer community.

• Masking can lead to a loss of authenticity and self-identity.

• ADHD can often be misdiagnosed as anxiety or depression.

• Cultural perspectives greatly influence the understanding of ADHD.

• Positive traits of ADHD include creativity and spontaneity.

• Understanding brain chemistry is crucial for managing ADHD.

• Personal experiences with ADHD can vary widely, even within families.

Mentioned in this Episode:

Medications mentioned in episode:

Stimulant Medications: Adderall, Ritalin, Focalin, Concerta, Vyvanse, Dextroamphetamine, Amphetamine salts

Non-Stimulant Medications: Wellbutrin (bupropion), Strattera (atomoxetine), Guanfacine

Queer Moment of Joy Guest 1: Celena Pentagulio she/her

Queer Moment of Joy Guest 2: Kate she/her

Guest Bio :

Jennie Larsen, MA (she/her), is an education specialist working in San Jose, CA. She holds an elementary and a special education credential and has a masters in education leadership. Jennie is also an executive function coach. Her passion is making education accessible for all students, with focuses in phonics and executive functioning skills.

Mikey Whited RN, MSN, PMHNP-BC (they/them) is a psychiatric nurse practitioner working in Los Angeles, California. Mikey specializes in queer and trans psychiatric medication and mental health care for adults and older teens. Mikey is passionate about changing the psychiatry paradigm and providing quality medication education and care for clients in a way that will ACTUALLY work to help clients achieve their lifestyle goals.

Host Bio:

Renae Johnson, LPCC, ATR-BC (they/them) is a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor, Board-Certified Art Therapist, and the Founder of Open Space Therapy Collective, a group practice offering affirming, social justice-driven mental health care for the LGBTQ+ & QTPOC community. With clinical expertise in complex trauma, identity development, and creative expression, Renae blends therapeutic depth with a commitment to equity and inclusion.

In addition to their clinical work, Renae produces community wellness events like Queerly Connected and is a founding member of the LA Queer Coalition, creating spaces where queer and trans people can gather, heal, organize, and celebrate.

As a speaker, consultant, and activist, Renae is passionate about building systems of care that honor the full humanity of queer and trans individuals—and equipping healthcare and wellness providers with the tools to do the same.

To find more from us visit:

Website: https://www.openspacetherapycollective.com

Instagram: @openspacetherapycollective

TikTok: @openspacetherapy

Spotify: @MyTherapistisOut

Apple Podcasts: @mytherapistisout

YouTube: @openspacetherapycollective

Keywords: #ADHD #ADHDAwareness #Neurodivergent #Neurospicy #Neurodiversity #Stimulants #NonStimulants #MentalHealthMeds #PsychiatricCare #BodyDoubling #RoutineBuilding #FidgetTools #QueerTherapist #QueerJoy #QueerCommunity #MentalHealthInQueerSpaces

Host and therapist Renae Johnson (they/them) sits down with siblings Mikey Whited, Psych NP (they/them), and Jennie Larsen, ADHD Coach and Teacher (she/her), for an honest look at what it’s like to grow up with ADHD side by side. Together they share stories of navigating childhood, the different ways ADHD showed up for each of them, and what it was like to watch each other’s journeys unfold. From masking and stimming to the ways gender expectations shaped their experiences, this episode explores the challenges and gifts of ADHD through a personal, family lens.

Takeaways

• ADHD can present differently based on gender and upbringing.

• Stimming is a common behavior in ADHD that helps with focus.

• Emotional regulation is a significant challenge for those with ADHD.

• There is a higher prevalence of ADHD in the queer community.

• Masking can lead to a loss of authenticity and self-identity.

• ADHD can often be misdiagnosed as anxiety or depression.

• Cultural perspectives greatly influence the understanding of ADHD.

• Positive traits of ADHD include creativity and spontaneity.

• Understanding brain chemistry is crucial for managing ADHD.

• Personal experiences with ADHD can vary widely, even within families.

Mentioned in this Episode: K-pop Demon Hunters – “Golden”

Queer Moment of Joy Guest 1: Brandon Delsid @brandondelsid

Queer Moment of Joy Guest 2: Emily Baker she/they @you.joylife

Guest Bio :

Jennie Larsen, MA (she/her), is an education specialist working in San Jose, CA. She holds an elementary and a special education credential and has a masters in education leadership. Jennie is also an executive function coach. Her passion is making education accessible for all students, with focuses in phonics and executive functioning skills.

Mikey Whited RN, MSN, PMHNP-BC (they/them) is a psychiatric nurse practitioner working in Los Angeles, California. Mikey specializes in queer and trans psychiatric medication and mental health care for adults and older teens. Mikey is passionate about changing the psychiatry paradigm and providing quality medication education and care for clients in a way that will ACTUALLY work to help clients achieve their lifestyle goals.

Host Bio:

Renae Johnson, LPCC, ATR-BC (they/them) is a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor, Board-Certified Art Therapist, and the Founder of Open Space Therapy Collective, a group practice offering affirming, social justice-driven mental health care for the LGBTQ+ & QTPOC community. With clinical expertise in complex trauma, identity development, and creative expression, Renae blends therapeutic depth with a commitment to equity and inclusion.

In addition to their clinical work, Renae produces community wellness events like Queerly Connected and is a founding member of the LA Queer Coalition, creating spaces where queer and trans people can gather, heal, organize, and celebrate.

As a speaker, consultant, and activist, Renae is passionate about building systems of care that honor the full humanity of queer and trans individuals—and equipping healthcare and wellness providers with the tools to do the same.

To find more from us visit:

Website: https://www.openspacetherapycollective.com

Instagram: @openspacetherapycollective

TikTok: @openspacetherapy

Spotify: @MyTherapistisOut

Apple Podcasts: @mytherapistisout

YouTube: @openspacetherapycollective

Keywords:

#ADHD

#Neurodivergent

#Neurospicy

#Masking

#Unmasking

#EmotionalRegulation

#Hyperfixation

#QueerAndNeurodivergent

#PositiveADHDTraits

#ParentingWithADHD

#DiagnosisJourney

In this episode, OSTC therapist Allison Smith, LCSW (she/they), kicks off our new series on LGBTQ+ Neurodiversity by exploring what it really means to live at the intersection of queer and neurodivergent identities. From ADHD and autism to dyslexia and beyond, we dive into how neurodivergence shapes experiences, relationships, and access to care—while also celebrating the strengths, creativity, and resilience of neurodivergent folks.

We’ll cover the history of neurodiversity, the ways societal barriers create real challenges, and why shifting the conversation from “disorder” to difference is crucial. Allison highlights the dual minority experiences many queer neurodivergent people navigate, the systemic biases that affect diagnosis and treatment, and the contributions neurodivergent individuals make to communities and advocacy.

Whether you’re neurodivergent, an ally, or just curious, this episode offers a thoughtful, compassionate, and sometimes surprising look at identity, stigma, and the power of inclusion.

Takeaways

Neurodivergence includes conditions like autism, ADHD, dyslexia, and more.

The term neurodivergence was popularized in the 1990s by Judy Singer.

Neurodiversity shifts the focus from pathology to inclusivity.

The social model of disability emphasizes societal barriers over individual deficits.

Neurodivergent individuals often face stigma and misinformation.

Historical treatment of neurodivergent individuals has been tied to eugenics and ableism.

Women and people of color are often underdiagnosed due to systemic biases.

Neurodivergent individuals may experience dual minority status in the queer community.

Access to mental health care can be prohibitively expensive and difficult to obtain.

Many neurodivergent individuals contribute significantly to society and advocacy.

Mentioned in this Episode:

Judy Singer — sociologist with autism, popularized the term “neurodivergence”

Jim Sinclair — activist, known for anti-cure position

Greta Thunberg — activist, autism and environmental advocacy

Queer Moment of Joy Guests:

Jimmy Chen @itsjimmychen

Stuart Stock-Tucker He/Him @stuartstocktucker24

Host Bio:

Allison Smith LCSW (she/they) is a Clinical Social Worker at Open Space Therapy Collective. Allison specializes in working with teens and adults. Allison integrates trauma-informed, abolitionist, and anti-colonial frameworks into their practice, supporting clients in exploring identity, relationships, ENM dynamics, and cultural connections.

🌈 About Open Space Therapy Collective

Open Space Therapy Collective (OSTC) is a queer- and trans-led mental health collective built on the belief that therapy should feel like a place where every part of you belongs. Our team of LGBTQ+ and QTPOC therapists create space for healing that is affirming, justice-driven, and rooted in community care. From navigating identity to unpacking trauma to celebrating joy, OSTC is here for the full spectrum of queer experience.

To find more from us visit:

Website: https://www.openspacetherapycollective.com

Instagram: @openspacetherapycollective

TikTok: @openspacetherapy

Spotify: @MyTherapistisOut

Apple Podcasts: @mytherapistisout

YouTube: @openspacetherapycollective

Keywords: neurodivergence, ADHD, autism, mental health, queer community, stigma, neurodiversity movement, intersectionality, access to care, historical context, LGBTQ mental health

In this episode, Renae Johnson (they/them) sits down with Charlie Sprinkman (they/he), founder of Everywhere is Queer, to talk about what it really means to build and sustain queer safe spaces. From Charlie’s journey out of a conservative upbringing to becoming a leader in queer visibility, this conversation dives into the power of community, the challenges of creating inclusive businesses, and why visibility matters now more than ever.

We’ll explore how queer-owned spaces aren’t just about safety—they’re about joy, representation, and fueling a broader queer economy. Charlie brings honesty, humor, and insight to the realities of running a queer-centered platform, the pushback that comes with it, and the growth that happens when community shows up for you.

If you’ve ever wondered what it takes to create a world where we can live more authentically—and why those spaces are essential to our survival and our joy—this episode is for you.

Mentioned in this Episode:

Camp Brave Trails

Dylan Mulvaney’s TikTok

Queer Moment of Joy Guest:

Queer Moment of Joy Guest 1: Julian Montanez He/Him from DTLA Proud @dtlaproud

Queer Moment of Joy Guest 2: Neverending Nina She/Her @neverendingninanotes

Guest Bio : Charlie Sprinkman (he/they) is the founder of the free Everywhere Is Queer App. EIQ is becoming one of the largest queer-owned organization directories in the world, if not the largest! EIQ hosts over 16,700+ queer-owned organizations globally. EIQ's mission is to connect the queer, trans and ally community with safer spaces, all while supporting queer entrepreneurs. EIQ's app is free and available globally!

Links:

App - iOS and Android

Instagram: @everywhereisqueer (158K)

TikTok: @everywhereisqueer (115K)

Website: www.everywhereisqueer.com

Host Bio:

Renae Johnson, LPCC, ATR-BC (they/them) is a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor, Board-Certified Art Therapist, and the Founder of Open Space Therapy Collective, a group practice offering affirming, social justice-driven mental health care for the LGBTQ+ & QTPOC community. With clinical expertise in complex trauma, identity development, and creative expression, Renae blends therapeutic depth with a commitment to equity and inclusion.

In addition to their clinical work, Renae produces community wellness events like Queerly Connected and is a founding member of the LA Queer Coalition, creating spaces where queer and trans people can gather, heal, organize, and celebrate.

As a speaker, consultant, and activist, Renae is passionate about building systems of care that honor the full humanity of queer and trans individuals—and equipping healthcare and wellness providers with the tools to do the same.

To find more from us visit:

Website: https://www.openspacetherapycollective.com

Instagram: @openspacetherapycollective

TikTok: @openspacetherapy

Spotify: @MyTherapistisOut

Apple Podcasts: @mytherapistisout

YouTube: @openspacetherapycollective

Keywords: Queer Community, Safe Spaces, LGBTQ+ Mental Health, Inclusivity, Queer-Owned Businesses, Community Building, Visibility, LGBTQ+ Support, Queer Economy, Personal Transformation, Authenticity

Sometimes it’s not just rest you need. Sometimes, it’s a radical reimagining of what you’re carrying—and what you need to set down for good.

In this mini summer check-in episode, Kristen Crowe (they/them), therapist and dance/movement therapist at Open Space Therapy Collective, drops in with a soft but honest reflection on what it means when rest stops working. They explore the emotional labor so many LGBTQ+ folks are holding, especially in this political moment, and the difference between being tired and being over-capacity.

Together, we ask: What if your exhaustion isn’t just about needing a nap, but about needing to renegotiate the expectations you’ve internalized about what you should be able to do?

This is your permission slip to get honest about your limits, make sustainable choices, and remember you’re not meant to carry it all alone.

🌀 For more mental health support and reflection, catch up on past episodes of My Therapist is Out! while we take our summer rest. We’ll be back soon.

Host Bio:

Kristen Crowe LPCC, BC-DMT (they/them) Is Licensed Therapist, Dance Therapist, and Clinical Supervisor with Open Space Therapy Collective. Kristen specializes in working somatically with adults and partners to help heal the mind-body connection so you can feel more grounded and vibrant every day.

To find more from us visit:

Website: https://www.openspacetherapycollective.com

Instagram: @openspacetherapycollective

TikTok: @openspacetherapy

Spotify: @MyTherapistisOut

Apple Podcasts: @mytherapistisout

YouTube: @openspacetherapycollective

While My Therapist is Out! is on a summer break, we're still popping into your feed with bite-sized mental health moments to keep you grounded and connected. In this mini check-in, therapist Terra Friedman (she/her) invites you to rethink how you're resting—and whether it's really working for you.

Drawing from Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith’s 7 types of rest, Terra offers a compassionate reminder that not all rest is created equal. If you're emotionally exhausted but spending your downtime doom-scrolling, you're probably not giving your nervous system what it actually needs. In just a few minutes, Terra walks you through how to recognize different kinds of fatigue and tune into the kind of rest that nourishes your queer, brilliant self.

Because for LGBTQ+ folks, intentional rest isn’t just self-care—it’s resistance.

💤 Emotional rest. 🎭 Social rest. 🧠 Mental rest. 🎨 Creative rest. 💡 Sensory rest. 💪 Physical rest. 💫 Spiritual rest.

Whether you’re in the middle of protest season, planning queer joy events, or just trying to stay afloat in a chaotic world—this is your gentle nudge to pause with purpose.

🎙️ Take five minutes with us. You deserve it.

Host Bio:

Terra Friedman AFMT (she/her) is an Associate Therapist with Open Space Therapy Collective. Terra specializes in working with high achieving womxn who experience anxiety. Terra also works with couples and partners who are currently in or exploring non-monogamous relationships.

To find more from us visit:

Website: https://www.openspacetherapycollective.com

Instagram: @openspacetherapycollective

TikTok: @openspacetherapy

Spotify: @MyTherapistisOut

Apple Podcasts: @mytherapistisout

YouTube: @openspacetherapycollective