"I'm blamed for everything." "Nothing I ever do is good enough." "I'm the only one trying."

When marriage gets painful it feels like survival mode and the thoughts and stories we repeat in our heads can cause us to feel stuck and hopeless. In this episode we identify a common problem in hurting marriages: The victim mindset.

We unpack how victim thinking subtly steals power, intimacy and responsibility from both spouses and why healing doesn't begin with assigning blame, but with reclaiming your own power and we give some practical ways to do just that.

If your marriage feels heavy, tense, or stuck in the same cycles, this conversation may be the turning point you didn't know you needed.

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Every marriage has tension. Every couple has conflict. But many couples wonder is this "normal" or a "red flag?"

In this episode of Marriage Unmasked, we talk honestly about the difference between normal marital challenges and true red flags that need immediate attention.

If you feel confused about how serious your marriage struggles really are, this episode will help you slow down, gain perspective, and respond with truth, courage, and hope. Even having "red flag" struggles in marriage doesn't necessarily mean your marriage is beyond hope.

This conversation is about getting discernment and going after growth, not blame.

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Many wives carry a quiet ache in their marriage over needs that go unmet and hopes that go unrealized. And many husbands want to love their wives well and meet those needs, but feel confused, overwhelmed, or discouraged trying to do just that.

In this episode, we’re unmasking five core needs wives have that often go unmet not because a man doesn’t care, but because he may not see the deeper layer beneath her emotions, her reactions, or her silence.

This conversation is for women who feel unseen, unheard, or emotionally alone, and it’s equally for men who genuinely want to understand their wives, strengthen their marriage, and show up with more intention and direction in the relationship.

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