You did the “right” thing. You waited. You honored God, you went into marriage believing that obedience would lead to awesome intimacy. But now, after months or years, you’re realizing that sex can still be complicated, confusing, or even painful.

In this honest episode, we dig into why sexual connection isn’t always automatic, even when a couple has honored God with purity before marriage. We explore the physical, emotional barriers that can show up and how God can use even this struggle to bring deeper unity and healing between husband and wife.

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Have you ever looked at your spouse and thought, “How did we get here?”
You’re in the same house, but it feels like you’re miles apart. You reconnect for a moment only to have it fall apart all over again. Chronic disconnection is incredibly painful. The spark is gone. Conversations feel forced. You wonder if you'll ever feel close again.

In this episode, we’re unpacking the top 7 things that cause disconnection in marriage.

From emotional shutdowns to hidden resentment, from unspoken expectations to unhelpful thought patterns, these erode connection until it feels like you’re just roommates instead of soulmates.

If your heart feels distant but you still long to reconnect, this episode will help you understand what’s been ruining the closeness.

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You're bending over backwards trying to "keep the peace" “do whatever it takes to make her happy,” or "trying to beg or control him so he gives you the love you crave."

But when your sense of worth, peace, or identity rises and falls based on your spouse’s emotions or approval, you’ve crossed from love into idolatry. You're trying to fill a need or a hole that only God can truly fill.

In this episode we talk through how you can identify this dynamic, move out of it and stay focused on the only relationship that can truly satisfy.

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