Many marriages today are stuck in a quiet tug-of-war, wives stepping up because they feel they have to, and husbands pulling back because they don’t know where they fit in. The result? Both end up in exhaustion, resentment, and a disconnection that no amount of “date nights” can fix.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in the cycle of “I’ll just do it myself” while longing for your husband to step up, OR if you’re a husband who wants to lead but nothing you do seems good enough, this conversation will give you the clarity and hope you need.

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Money fights in marriage aren’t really about dollars and cents, they’re about control, trust, and fear.

In this episode of Marriage Unmasked, we’re getting to the heart of why finances can feel like a battlefield in your marriage and how to start creating safety, teamwork, and unity, even if you don’t agree on every purchase or budget decision.

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When in-laws show disrespect, and the one person you expect to protect you, your spouse, says nothing, it cuts deep.

Maybe it was a comment that embarrassed you in front of everyone. Maybe it was an ongoing pattern of criticism or dismissiveness. What hurts even more is when your spouse doesn’t speak up. Their silence can feel like betrayal, leaving you questioning your place in the marriage, the family, and your worth.

We'll answer questions like: Why is this so painful? What hidden fears are causing the silence? How do you both move forward when this happens?

If you’ve ever walked away from a family gathering feeling alone, hurt, and wondering if things will ever change, this conversation is for you.

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She's pouring out her heart, hoping he’ll understand and really see her, but instead he's trying to figure out the problem, hoping to keep the peace.

Somehow, no matter how much you try to talk through it, you both still walk away feeling unheard and distant.

If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Many couples unknowingly speak different languages which can leave you both frustrated and disconnected.

In this episode, we’re exploring why your conversations can get so painful, what’s really going on beneath the surface, and ways to heal what's underneath so you can both feel understood and connected again.

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Does sex feel like rejection instead of affection? Or duty instead of delight?

In this episode we’re pulling back the curtain on something so many couples feel, but few talk about out loud: what happens when sex feels one-sided in your marriage.

Maybe you’re the one initiating and feeling rejected over and over or maybe you feel pressured, obligated, or emotionally disconnected every time sex comes up. Either way, when one person’s needs or desires are consistently unmet, sex stops feeling like intimacy and starts feeling like pain.

There is healing and hope. Learn to reconnect and enjoy each other again.

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What if the anxiety, exhaustion, or even chronic health issues you’re dealing with aren’t random, but connected to how emotionally unsafe your marriage feels?

In this episode, we unpack how emotional disconnection, ongoing conflict, and the pressure to hold it all together can take a real toll on your body and nervous system. You’ll learn why your symptoms aren’t just “in your head,” how trauma in marriage shows up physically, and what healing can look like: spiritually, emotionally, and even physiologically.

Whether you're feeling constantly on edge, shut down, or just plain numb, this conversation will give you language for what’s happening and hope for what’s possible.

You’re not crazy. You’re not weak. And you’re not alone. This is your invitation to step out of survival mode and start healing for real.

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Shame is often the shadow behind a hurting marriage.

It keeps you quiet when you should speak, passive when you should lead, and stuck when God is calling you to grow.

In this episode of Marriage Unmasked, we’re peeling back the layers of shame and how it secretly sabotages connection, leadership, and healing in marriage. You’ll learn why shame doesn’t just affect how you see yourself, it affects how you show up in your marriage.

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What do you do when you're not attracted to your spouse anymore?

If the attraction isn't there, does it mean it's over?

In this episode, we’re unmasking what’s really underneath the loss of attraction in marriage and why it’s not just about physical appearance or effort. We explore how rebuilding attraction is less about trying harder and more about healing what's underneath and we give some practical ways to start getting that attraction back again.

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