You did the “right” thing. You waited. You honored God, you went into marriage believing that obedience would lead to awesome intimacy. But now, after months or years, you’re realizing that sex can still be complicated, confusing, or even painful.

In this honest episode, we dig into why sexual connection isn’t always automatic, even when a couple has honored God with purity before marriage. We explore the physical, emotional barriers that can show up and how God can use even this struggle to bring deeper unity and healing between husband and wife.

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Have you ever looked at your spouse and thought, “How did we get here?”
You’re in the same house, but it feels like you’re miles apart. You reconnect for a moment only to have it fall apart all over again. Chronic disconnection is incredibly painful. The spark is gone. Conversations feel forced. You wonder if you'll ever feel close again.

In this episode, we’re unpacking the top 7 things that cause disconnection in marriage.

From emotional shutdowns to hidden resentment, from unspoken expectations to unhelpful thought patterns, these erode connection until it feels like you’re just roommates instead of soulmates.

If your heart feels distant but you still long to reconnect, this episode will help you understand what’s been ruining the closeness.

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You're bending over backwards trying to "keep the peace" “do whatever it takes to make her happy,” or "trying to beg or control him so he gives you the love you crave."

But when your sense of worth, peace, or identity rises and falls based on your spouse’s emotions or approval, you’ve crossed from love into idolatry. You're trying to fill a need or a hole that only God can truly fill.

In this episode we talk through how you can identify this dynamic, move out of it and stay focused on the only relationship that can truly satisfy.

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What do you do if your spouse refuses to budge? It can be incredibly aggravating when compromise seems impossible.

In this episode of Marriage Unmasked we dig into why your spouse might be digging their heels in and refusing to compromise. What deeper issues might be driving this apparent stubbornness? We offer several ways to navigate this with wisdom so that this dynamic can be an opportunity for a deeper bond instead of a battle for control.

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Conflict can either break you down or bring you closer.

In this episode, we share five powerful lessons we’ve learned through the struggles, arguments, and tensions in our own marriage. These lessons have reshaped the way we approach disagreement and helped us create a healthier way of handling conflict.

Whether you’re in constant battles with your spouse, or you just want to sharpen your skills for the next hard moment, these lessons will give you hope and practical steps.

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The weight of managing the home can feel like an endless cycle of stress, frustration, and burnout. One person often feels like they’re carrying more than their share, while the other may feel underappreciated or misunderstood.

Learn why unseen emotional and mental burdens matter just as much as chores, how to start communicating about this dynamic in a healthy way and practical ways to navigate the stress together.

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Do you have what it takes or not? Every man knows the sting of wondering if he’s measuring up in his marriage. Maybe you’ve felt the pressure of your wife’s expectations, the weight of your own failures, or the constant nagging voice that says, “You’re not enough.”

In this episode I'm talking directly to the men. I’ll share 7 powerful truths that every husband needs to hear when shame, doubt, and discouragement try to take over.

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Have you ever felt like the more you give in your marriage, the less you’re respected or valued?

Maybe you’ve been told that being a "good husband" or “good wife” means saying yes no matter what, sacrificing your needs, and keeping the peace at all costs. But instead of creating connection, it’s left you drained and resentful.

In this episode, we tackle the lie that boundaries are unloving or unbiblical. The truth? God designed boundaries. They’re not about pushing your spouse away, they’re about protecting what matters, honoring God, and creating safety so love can actually grow.

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