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Love Thy Neighbor Show

Love Thy Neighbor Show

By: Tom Vann Dan Dennis and Colette Fehr
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 Love Thy Neighbor is a straight-talk relationship show from Tom Vann, Dan Dennis, and licensed therapist Colette J. Fehr - born the day Colette knocked on their door and they realized they were literal next-door neighbors. Together, they bring 50 years of broadcasting (Dan 30, Tom 20) and 15 years of clinical counseling (Colette), plus real-life reps: Tom's 20-year marriage, Dan's 15-year marriage, and Colette's second, thriving chapter. Expect humor, empathy, and practical advice from both sides of the wall. New episodes every Thursday, wherever you get your podcasts.2025 Hygiene & Healthy Living Personal Development Personal Success Psychology Psychology & Mental Health
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  • LTN 18 - LIVE at The Cost of Quiet Launch

    LTN 18 - LIVE at The Cost of Quiet Launch
    Feb 5 2026
    Introduction to Love Thy Neighbor without Colette present Colette book The Cost of Quiet hits Amazon bestseller Audio from live launch at Mercedes-Benz of Maitland Professional production and full event program Feeling like misfits among polished attendees Jokes about BDM prize skunks chasing perks Being treated like novelty personalities at upscale events Riffs about fans spouses and addiction jokes Praise for Colette and continued collaboration Audiobook read by Colette and love of author narration Joke about alternate narrator Invite anonymous listener emails Colette gratitude to attendees and sponsors Book inspired by difficult first marriage and divorce Owning personal responsibility in conflicts Conflict avoidance as core relationship issue Quiet means avoiding hard talks not silence Fear of rejection driving suppressed communication Conflict framed as path to deeper connection Roadmap for regulation self awareness communication Self advocacy and empowered expression Writing easier than modern book marketing Growth through public speaking TEDx and new podcast Over 1000 books sold with traditional deal Push for presales and launch week visibility Sales about impact not profit Lessons made accessible and actionable Applies to personal and professional relationships Insights from the Couch podcast for midlife women Laura Bowman therapy focus on anxiety and midlife Menopause and perimenopause gaining attention Quiet quitting long term relationships Gen X women juggling careers parenting burnout Financial independence enabling divorce Women seeking deeper emotional engagement Emotional vulnerability key to saving relationships Rise of gray divorce led by women Self connected communication and inner mentoring Individual therapy healing underdeveloped parts Relationship with self as foundation Former office neighbors before podcast connection Humor bridging therapy and loud podcast world Love Thy Neighbor launched after guest spots Natural chemistry and balanced dynamic Humor engaging men in relationship talks Silent treatment and withdrawal as male patterns Work pressure limiting presence at home Traditional masculinity blocking vulnerability Tough guy persona tied to loneliness Regulate emotions not suppress or explode Podcast as informal therapy and growth space Praise for Colette work ethic and mission Charlotte McCullough licensed marriage therapist Media appearances on local news and TV shows Loneliness crisis inside and outside marriage Marriage cannot meet every emotional need Reciprocal friendships matter more than quantity Deep bonds over shallow surface contact Technology eroding in person community Men often lacking close friendships Balance togetherness autonomy and alone time Build friendships through small daily connections Schedule friendship time including Zoom hangouts Time limited prioritize loved ones Keisha Scott behavioral health and podcasting Guardian Recovery adolescent program Teen brain development and weak prefrontal cortex Social media nonstop comparison pressure Parenting pendulum from harsh to gentle toward balance Over parenting causing failure to launch Cost of quiet applied to parenting Avoiding discipline breeds resentment and risk Create safe space with real consequences Small communication tweaks transform parent teen bonds Teach expression alongside resilience Raise grit in a comfort driven world Teen mental health crucial for future wellbeing Initiate vulnerable honest conversations Difficult talks framed as care Change patterns by showing up differently Send safe signals to invite warmth Closing gratitude and call to apply lessons ### Social Media [https://tomanddan.com](https://tomanddan.com) [https://twitter.com/tomanddanlive](https://twitter.com/tomanddanlive) [https://facebook.com/amediocretime](https://facebook.com/amediocretime) [https://instagram.com/tomanddanlive](https://instagram.com/tomanddanlive) Tom & Dan on Real Radio 104.1 Apple Podcasts: [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-corporate-time/id975258990](https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-corporate-time/id975258990) Google Podcasts: [https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkLnBvZGJlYW4uY29tL2Fjb3Jwb3JhdGV0aW1lL3BvZGNhc3QueG1s](https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkLnBvZGJlYW4uY29tL2Fjb3Jwb3JhdGV0aW1lL3BvZGNhc3QueG1s) TuneIn: [https://tunein.com/podcasts/Comedy/A-Corporate-Time-p1038501/](https://tunein.com/podcasts/Comedy/A-Corporate-Time-p1038501/) Exclusive Content [https://tomanddan.com/registration](https://tomanddan.com/registration)
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    49 mins
  • LTN 17 - Levels Of Dependence

    LTN 17 - Levels Of Dependence
    Jan 29 2026
    Love Thy Neighbor relationship show intro Colette Jane Fair as therapist co-host Colette Jane Fair book promotion and name spelling Easier book access at thecostofquiet.com Jokes about bad spelling and confidence Florida cold weather shock and routines Comedy song about being too cold Comparing Florida cold snaps to northern winters Liking New York but not winter weather Extreme Florida temp swings vs gradual cold Relationship awareness from doing the show Relationship content as emotional homework Keeping relationships top of mind Social media pushing relationship advice Dependence vs codependence confusion Partnership as a co-pilot in life Long relationships starting young Dividing responsibilities over time Relying on a spouse for life logistics Fear of helplessness without a partner Everyday tasks revealing dependence Men becoming dependent on wives Healthy dependence vs unhealthy codependence Healthy interdependence concept Keeping individual identity in a couple Respectful disagreement as intimacy Codependency roots in addiction dynamics Losing self to manage others Enabling harmful behavior to avoid conflict Saying yes to keep peace Emotional support as normal reliance Overlap between healthy and unhealthy patterns Common codependency examples Mutual enabling in relationships Taking responsibility for another adult Codependency outside addiction like work Early coupling increasing codependency risk Childhood shaping conflict avoidance Carrying patterns into work and marriage People pleasing to avoid upsetting others Asking a spouse for things without looking Laziness mistaken for dependence Humor about shouting for items Unnecessary everyday reliance Asking for help as a signal of distress Seeking comfort through minor complaints Noticing and correcting attention seeking Normal desire for care without labels Habitual reliance for simple tasks Laziness vs codependence distinction Overthinking reactions instead of speaking Avoiding direct communication Fear of asking for personal time Anticipating rejection before talking Weekend trip example of codependence Managing a partners emotions Thoughtful timing vs manipulation Naming fear instead of control Saying dont get mad fails Inviting honest conversation Vulnerability creating safer talks Avoiding hard talks as core issue The idea behind The Cost of Quiet Using discomfort to enter conflict Extreme avoidance as codependence Learning to tolerate discomfort Honesty may upset others Growth and relationship work is hard Difficulty as a sign of value Short term discomfort for long gain Conversations ease with practice Reactions often less severe than feared Introducing the 777 relationship rule Weekly date nights Getaways every seven weeks Vacations every seven months Skepticism about realism Adjusting date nights for parents Dates as intentional time Vacations as presence and unplugging Accountability through scheduling Couple time vs family time Blurring lines with one child Risk of neglecting spousal bond Need for partner only time Difficulty choosing dates over family Date nights feel different than family time Novel experiences boosting attraction Activities without emotional connection Surface level relationships Emotional connection over activities Conversation quality over cost Meeting needs through kids instead of partners Life organized around children Disconnection after kids leave Gray divorce after 50 Quiet quitting in marriage Emotional neglect over years Marriage compared to client maintenance Losing connection without communication Taking a spouse for granted Shortchanging marriage for work or kids Presence over rigid rules Intent behind dates and vacations Valuing simple shared moments Low cost memories matter Anonymous listener email promotion Listener story about chronic pain and surgery Dreading holidays due to limits Setting boundaries for well being Family pushing unexpected plans Choosing honesty over obligation Family reactions and acceptance Relief from quiet holiday Empowerment from self protection Kind honesty with boundaries Tolerating disappointment without self betrayal Catastrophic thinking about conflict Recognizing worst case thinking Holding anxious thoughts lightly Avoiding obligations by default Rest needs mistaken for laziness Questioning if hard always equals good Growth discomfort vs unnecessary suffering Internalized shoulds Not all hard things are worth it Choosing based on need not difficulty Honoring personal limits Deciding by capacity and health Saying no due to health or injury Emotions as boundary signals Desire vs fear of disappointing Difficulty giving self permission Habitual yes saying Losing self through accommodation Identifying codependent patterns Prioritizing others at personal cost Belief that suffering is required Work as coping Emotional suppression as ...
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    46 mins
  • LTN 16 - The Power of Self Talk

    LTN 16 - The Power of Self Talk
    Jan 22 2026
    * Love Thy Neighbor intro with Colette Fair and sold out book party in Maitland * Middle names used on air * Dan originally named Dan Lee before radio * Name came from college musician friend * Dan hated Dan Lee and changed it * Joke about Daniel Day Lewis * Colette knowing little about the hosts * Bear suit embarrassment story * Sudden shift from jokes to tragedy * Local therapist murder suicide case * Therapist client boundary risks * Story appearing in social feeds * Avoiding news for mental health * Garbage in garbage out media rule * Balance between news and sanity * After hours therapy attack details * Former client returning violent * Victim therapist Rebecca White named * Praise for her compassion and work * Specialized in offender treatment * Hurt people hurt people idea * Rehab versus punishment debate * Attacker criminal history noted * Therapist asked intruder to leave * Other client threatened 911 * Therapist and client stabbed * Client expected to recover * Attacker fled then killed himself * Suicide outside a church * Knife violence against women focus * Therapist workplace safety concerns * Colette no longer working nights * Husband staying late for protection * Violence against women ongoing issue * Emotional toll on therapist community * Invited to Mayor Demings forum * Florida ranked 49th in funding * Criticism of state priorities * Florida crime headline jokes * Open records and sunshine laws * Population growth adding pressure * Call for more mental health access * Crazy goes south saying * Florida penal colony jokes * Aging jokes and sideburn talk * Teasing as closeness sign * Mental health spectrum discussion * Addiction and illness as major issues * Extreme cases versus everyday struggle * Middle group quietly suffering * Job loss divorce depression stress * Fixing middle improves outcomes * Burnout culture and nonstop work * Fake perfect life online * Social media unrealistic standards * Deepfakes harming kids * Tech damaging relationships * Transition to relationships talk * Drive affecting a spouse * Husband joking stay at home role * Calm personality praised * Four beers test of likability * Not threatened by partner success * Living with driven people hard * Being too hard on self * Inner critic negativity * Lighten up advice * Fear of laziness behind criticism * Childhood roots of self talk * Rest as productive reframed * Burnout and withdrawal * Kinder self dialogue * Self compassion helps relationships * Difficulty accepting kindness * Sports psychology model * Forget mistakes quickly * Neutral mindset example * NFL playoff psychology * Brady emotional detachment joke * Success versus family trade offs * Some born for singular greatness * Attraction to driven partners * Smart women mislabeled cold * Support for partner success * Book launch consuming life * Post launch emotional crash * Planning future goals * Anticipation improves happiness * Planning small trips together * Novelty strengthens attraction * Listener emails segment * Frozen camera double finger moment * Listener praise for joyful start * Married out of league joke * Relationship listeners theory * Even good relationships struggle * Anonymous email call * Long marriage listener story * Autistic executive function issues * Pebble in shoe story * Always accommodating partner dynamic * Get my way credit question * You cannot bank compliance points * Case by case decisions * Communicate why it matters * I dont care restaurant problem * Engagement versus checking out * No transactional relationships * Asking directly early * Avoid resentment arguments * Reframing I dont care language * Helping brainstorm choices * Colette book preorder plug * Book on Amazon and Barnes * Audiobook coming soon * Episode close and sign off ### Social Media [https://tomanddan.com](https://tomanddan.com) [https://twitter.com/tomanddanlive](https://twitter.com/tomanddanlive) [https://facebook.com/amediocretime](https://facebook.com/amediocretime) [https://instagram.com/tomanddanlive](https://instagram.com/tomanddanlive) Tom & Dan on Real Radio 104.1 Apple Podcasts: [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-corporate-time/id975258990](https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-corporate-time/id975258990) Google Podcasts: [https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkLnBvZGJlYW4uY29tL2Fjb3Jwb3JhdGV0aW1lL3BvZGNhc3QueG1s](https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkLnBvZGJlYW4uY29tL2Fjb3Jwb3JhdGV0aW1lL3BvZGNhc3QueG1s) TuneIn: [https://tunein.com/podcasts/Comedy/A-Corporate-Time-p1038501/](https://tunein.com/podcasts/Comedy/A-Corporate-Time-p1038501/) Exclusive Content [https://tomanddan.com/registration](https://tomanddan.com/registration)
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    48 mins
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