In this deeply honest and often funny conversation, Danny and Tyler dive into the idea of the “learning state” — that mental posture of curiosity and humility that keeps us growing as men. They explore how and why many men shut it off, the role ego plays in stunting our growth, and what it actually looks like to turn it back on.

Through personal stories ranging from terrifying tarantula encounters to spreadsheets and pivot tables, they unpack the unexpected lessons that come from unexpected places. Tyler opens up about the mental and emotional challenges of chemo treatment and how certain medications can cloud mood, judgment, and relationships. Danny shares the surprising parallels between learning financial tools, training jiu-jitsu, and maintaining healthy male friendships.

Together, they break down:

• Why staying in a learning mindset is critical for relationships, work, and personal growth
• The difference between boundaries that build connection and boundaries that build walls
• How escalation works in arguments — and why “rules of engagement” matter
• Why asking better questions often matters more than having better answers
• The dangerous habit of giving too many passes and how it builds resentment
• How to navigate friendship and marriage when each person plays by different “rules”

This is a candid conversation that blends real-life struggle, practical takeaways, and a few moments of humor that could only happen between two friends who’ve been through a lot together.

Let’s get real: saying “no” is hard—especially when you’re exhausted, juggling life, health, and expectations. In this raw and no-BS episode, Danny and Tyler crack open what it really means to set boundaries as men. Danny shares his ongoing fight with cancer and how it's forced him to reevaluate everything from weed habits to people-pleasing. The guys dive into what healthy boundaries look like (spoiler: not ghosting, not snapping), why conflict avoidance is killing your peace, and how to stop being a doormat without turning into a jerk.

Also: paddleboard races, reggae jams, and a raffle win you won’t believe. This one’s equal parts gut check and good vibes.

🚧 Boundaries, Baby:

• How to define your “hell no” list (what you won’t accept, no matter what)
• Why saying “no” isn’t rude—it’s survival
• People-pleasing vs. self-respect: drawing the damn line

🧠 Mind Games:

• Rumination loops, mental fatigue, and that voice in your head that won’t shut up
• The difference between avoiding drama and avoiding yourself

🌿 Weed or Crutch?

• Medical marijuana: miracle relief or slippery slope?
• Danny’s honest look at using weed for nausea vs. just zoning out

💔 Family, Farts, and Fights:

• Fighting fair vs. character assassination (and the Gottman rules for not being a jerk)
• Bathroom boundaries, oversharing, and what not to do in a relationship
• Why calling your partner a name might be the beginning of the end

🏄‍♂️ SUP Life:

• Park City SUP throwdown: paddle races, reggae beats, and Danny’s raffle win
• Shoutout to Trent, Carla & the team—organizing a killer event despite mall cop interference

💬 Listener Takeaways:

• Boundaries are like muscles—they only work if you use them
• Say “no” kindly, firmly, and unapologetically
• You can be chill and assertive at the same time
• No one will protect your peace but you

In this deeply personal and raw episode, we peel back the layers of manhood, trauma, and transformation. Tyler and Danny dive into childhood experiences that shaped their emotional responses, reflecting on their relationships with their fathers and how those early lessons manifest in adult life, from silent retreats in the desert to childhood “gladiator fights” in school bathrooms.

Through powerful storytelling, moments of humor, and candid vulnerability, they explore generational cycles, the challenge of apologizing, and the pursuit of inner peace amidst life’s chaos. With discussions touching on mental health, shadow work, and men’s groups, this episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating the complexities of masculinity and healing.

• The impact of childhood trauma and generational habits
• The struggle and importance of forgiveness
• Men’s mental health and emotional awareness
• The role of self-care and therapy in healing
• Silent retreats, breath work, and emotional resets
• Finding strength in vulnerability

Join the conversation, do the work, and fight your shadows—because peace starts with self-awareness.

Fighting Shadows: Fathers, Forgiveness & Finding Peace

Danny and Tyler return for an engaging and introspective conversation about reestablishing rhythms, the deep benefits of jiu-jitsu, and navigating complex societal conversations. Tyler shares personal insights about returning to the mat after his medical treatments, highlighting jiu-jitsu's role in physical health, mental regulation, and community connection.

The discussion dives into balancing modern and postmodern perspectives, including the importance of maintaining one's principles while respecting differing viewpoints. They touch on sensitive issues such as gender, feminism, and patriarchy, emphasizing the value of open, respectful dialogue and the power of validating one's own identity without compromising mutual respect.

Danny addresses the emotional challenges of teaching children and adults, reflecting on patience, engagement, and the joy found in nurturing growth in others. Tyler opens up about recent studies in therapy, specifically the nuanced differences between modernist and postmodernist therapeutic approaches.

The episode concludes with heartfelt reflections on supporting mental health, the importance of building strong community bonds, and the upcoming "Tap Out Cancer" jiu-jitsu event. Danny and Tyler reinforce their shared commitment to fostering conversations that encourage personal growth, understanding, and mutual respect.

After an extended break, Danny and Tyler reunite in this deeply personal and unfiltered episode. Tyler shares raw updates from his ongoing battle with cancer, including the grueling reality of daily treatments, mental burnout, and the quiet moments that test his resilience. Together, they explore how manifesting isn’t just about positive thinking—it’s about confronting the darkness too. Meanwhile, Danny reflects on his own crossroads, from wrestling triumphs and family shifts to the looming uncertainty of retirement. It’s an episode about transformation, support, and showing up—even when it’s hard.
Episode Highlights:

• Tyler’s Cancer Treatment Journey
• Tyler opens up about being in remission but still undergoing “consolidation” treatments—five days a week of arsenic drips, migraines, nausea, and emotional fatigue.
• Mental Health, Isolation & the Weight of Routine
• The two friends reflect on how the mundane rhythm of illness can lead to some of the darkest mental spaces. Tyler discusses being stuck between survival and self-care, while Danny highlights the importance of perspective and support.
• Manifesting the Dark
• Tyler introduces a twist on the typical self-help narrative: what happens when we subconsciously manifest the negative? It leads to a raw discussion about owning your mindset, even when hope feels distant.
• Vegas Lessons & $96 Beers
• Danny recounts his recent trip to Vegas—from coaching at national wrestling events to financial frustration and poolside letdowns. It’s both hilarious and humbling.
• The Anxiety of What’s Next
• Danny considers retirement while Tyler wonders what life after cancer treatment will look like. Both men wrestle with change, purpose, and the pressure to “have it all figured out.”
• Returning to the Mat
• Tyler talks about the emotional pull of jiu-jitsu, the brotherhood it brings, and why stepping back onto the mat—even for one roll—could be healing.
• Community Shoutouts & Gratitude
• A special shoutout to ATC Jeremy for his creative grind and continued support. The episode closes with a nod to the friendships that keep us going through the darkest chapters.

Tyler’s back from a month-long hospital stay, and the story he shares is nothing short of incredible. From misread charts to breakthrough moments, this episode walks through the emotional highs and lows of his leukemia diagnosis and recovery.

We talk about:

• The moment Tyler was told he had cancer
• The unexpected lessons learned in isolation
• The healing power of community and male friendship
• Facing fear with humor and heart
• The importance of listening to your body and seeking help early

This one’s real, it’s raw, and it’s a reminder of how strong we can be—especially when we don’t go it alone.

In this deeply personal and raw episode of The Lost Boy Scouts Podcast, Tyler and Danny reflect on two years of podcasting while navigating an unexpected life event—Danny’s leukemia diagnosis. Recorded from his hospital room, this conversation is about brotherhood, resilience, and the importance of listening to your body. They discuss the warning signs Danny missed, the power of community, and how men often avoid medical care until it’s too late. With humor, vulnerability, and honesty, this episode is a testament to facing adversity head-on.

Show Notes:

• 00:00 - 05:30 | Celebrating Two Years of the Podcast

• 05:31 - 12:15 | A Hospital Room Recording & Danny’s Diagnosis Story

• 12:16 - 22:45 | The Warning Signs: Fatigue, Bruising & Ignoring Symptoms

• 22:46 - 30:10 | A Brutal Wake-Up Call & The Importance of Seeking Medical Help

• 30:11 - 40:30 | The Reality of Hospital Stays & The Medical Team’s Impact

• 40:31 - 52:00 | Masculinity & Vulnerability: Why Men Avoid Doctors

• 52:01 - 1:00:00 | Jiu-Jitsu, Community & The Power of Support

• 1:00:01 - 1:10:00 | Tyler’s Exciting New Venture in Men’s Health & Breathwork

• 1:10:01 - End | The Road Ahead: Fighting with Positivity & Brotherhood

In this episode of The Lost Boy Scouts Podcast, Danny returns from an epic trip to Mexico, sharing wild travel stories, unexpected limo rides, and thoughts on making Cabo a second home. Tyler and Danny dive deep into trust—whether in relationships, on the mat, or in everyday life—and how setting boundaries shapes who we become.

They also explore the eerie connections between true crime cases and a controversial book, discuss gut health struggles, and reflect on personal growth through discomfort. Plus, the guys gear up for upcoming jiu-jitsu events, belt tests, and some exciting new developments in their community.

Strap in for a mix of laughs, deep talks, and unfiltered takes on life, training, and keeping your mind sharp in a crazy world.