Episodes

  • S2 Ep135: My Mom Talked to Me About Sex, And It Made Me Rebel ft. Blair Imani

    S2 Ep135: My Mom Talked to Me About Sex, And It Made Me Rebel ft. Blair Imani
    Sep 3 2025
    What does it mean to be ready for motherhood? How do love, faith, and our relationship with our maternal figures shape our parenting?

    In this honest and grounded conversation, educator, author, and activist Blair Imani shares her perspective on family planning, pregnancy loss, and the role of sexual education in real life. She opens up about having conversations with her partner around abortion as part of sexual health, and how her conversion to Islam continues to guide her through questions of timing, family, and faith.

    We also dive into Blair’s relationship with her mom, and how that connection influences her hopes for becoming a parent herself. It’s a conversation about the choices we face when planning for a baby, the loss and love that come with it, and the bigger role faith, values, and family play in planning our future.

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    35 mins
  • S2 Ep134: What holds a relationship together when life falls apart ft Dr. Laura Berman

    S2 Ep134: What holds a relationship together when life falls apart ft Dr. Laura Berman
    Aug 27 2025
    What holds a relationship together when life falls apart? Most of us picture the happiest moments when we think about our partner, but what happens when tragedy hits? In this intimate conversation, Dr. Laura Berman shares how she and her husband weathered some of life’s hardest storms together.

    From dating him while she was caring for her young son with cancer, to the unimaginable loss of their son Sammy during the pandemic, Laura takes us inside the moments that tested their love, and the choices that kept them connected.

    Days after the death of their first child together, Sam pulled Laura close and said, “Most couples don’t get through tragedies like this, but we will.”
    It’s a reminder that the strength of a relationship isn’t just built in joy, it’s forged in the fire of what you survive together.

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    49 mins
  • S2 Ep133: Inside the Male Fantasy: The Surprising Request Men Keep Paying For ft. The Pink Parley

    S2 Ep133: Inside the Male Fantasy: The Surprising Request Men Keep Paying For ft. The Pink Parley
    Aug 20 2025
    This week on Lovers, Shan sits down with The Pink Parley, a sex worker pulling back the curtain on what men secretly crave but rarely admit—even to their wives. With 98% of her clients being married men who have no desire to leave their marriages, Parley reveals the surprising request that keeps them coming back: ass worship.
    Yes, you read that right. These men don’t just want to “eat the groceries”—they want to be consumed by, suffocated by, and utterly surrounded by the booty. For them, it’s not just an act of pleasure; it’s a full-body, sensory experience.

    Together, Shan and Parley unpack what this hidden desire tells us about:
    - The gap between fantasy and communication in long-term relationships
    - The role of body positivity in sexual confidence and desire
    - How unspoken cravings can complicate fidelity inside marriage


    This episode is provocative, eye-opening, and an important reminder that what we don’t say in the bedroom can be just as impactful as what we do.
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    52 mins
  • S2 Ep132: He Had Multiple Lovers and I Was Good with Just Him. Alyson Stoner On Their Intro To Polyamory

    S2 Ep132: He Had Multiple Lovers and I Was Good with Just Him. Alyson Stoner On Their Intro To Polyamory
    Aug 13 2025
    What does it really mean to build a relationship outside the rules you were taught? Is it still polyamory if only one person has other lovers? And most importantly, what happens when that dynamic actually works for you?

    In this honest and eye-opening conversation, multi-disciplinary entertainer, author, and founder of Movement Genius, Alyson Stoner, shares their experience in their polyamorous journey. We dive into the importance of knowing your own capacity for connection, and Alyson’s go-to communication tool: Frequency, Duration, and Intensity. It’s a simple yet powerful way to check in about how often you connect, for how long, and with what level of emotional depth.

    Even if you’re monogamous, this framework can change the way you relate, helping you set boundaries, stay aligned, and make sure your relationships feel balanced and intentional. Whether you’re curious about polyamory or simply want tools for building healthier, more intentional partnerships, this episode will leave you thinking about love in a whole new way.

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    📚 Preorder Alyson’s new book Semi-Well-Adjusted Despite Literally Everything (Out August 12, 2025) → https://static.macmillan.com/static/smp/semi-well-adjusted-9781250353498/
    🧠 Learn more about Movement Genius → https://www.movementgenius.com/

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    56 mins
  • S2 Ep131: The Eartha Kitt Effect Why Women Are Happily Choosing the Single Life for Life

    S2 Ep131: The Eartha Kitt Effect Why Women Are Happily Choosing the Single Life for Life
    Aug 6 2025
    What if “happily ever after” starts and ends with just you?

    In this bold and expansive episode, Shan dives into The Eartha Kitt Effect—a cultural and emotional awakening inspired by the legendary performer Eartha Kitt, whose unapologetic views on love, compromise, and individuality continue to resonate decades later. This “effect” refers to the growing movement of people, especially women, who are choosing the single life on purpose, not by default.

    Joining Shan is Dr. Bella DePaulo, renowned social psychologist and author of Single at Heart, to unpack why some of the most fulfilled people are not in romantic relationships—and never want to be.

    Together, they explore:

    • 🔥 Why Eartha Kitt’s viral interview moment ("Compromise? For what?") sparked a generation of self-partnership

    • 🌱 How choosing not to center romance can lead to deeper personal growth, freedom, and connection

    • 🧠 The science behind happiness in singlehood and the myth of the “incomplete” single person

    • 💔 How media and social norms still stigmatize solo living—and what it looks like to rewrite your own happy ending

    Eartha’s now-iconic 1982 interview, where she laughs at the idea of compromising for a man, has become a symbol for self-honoring love. Her words echo across social media as more people step into identities that aren’t centered on romantic validation but on personal wholeness.

    Whether you're single by choice, rethinking long-term relationships, or simply seeking permission to define love your way—this episode is your affirmation.

    ✨ The Eartha Kitt Effect is here so listen now and ask yourself: What if “happily ever after” starts and ends with you?


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    Books: Single at Heart, How We Live Now, and more – Amazon


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    42 mins
  • S2 Ep130: No One Talks About How Hard Making Friends As An Adult Is ft. Krista Williams

    S2 Ep130: No One Talks About How Hard Making Friends As An Adult Is ft. Krista Williams
    Jul 30 2025
    Does making friends get harder as you get older? How the hell do I make friends? This episode is a rerun, and it's STILL very accurate. According to the American Perspective Survey, May 2021, many people are not satisfied with the size of their friendship group. About half of Americans (51 percent) report they are very satisfied or completely satisfied with the number of friends they have. 30 percent say they are only somewhat satisfied, and 17 percent say they are not too or not at all satisfied with the number of friends they have. If you fall in that range of little to no satisfaction in friendships, here’s what you need to know about creating a bond. So, how long does it take to make a new friend? - 50 hours before you consider them a casual friend - 90 hours before becoming real friends - 200hours- before becoming close friends source: 'Journal of Social and Personal Relationships' As the New York Times reported in 2012, there are “three conditions that sociologists since the 1950s have considered crucial to making close friends: proximity; repeated, unplanned interactions; and a setting that encourages people to let their guard down and confide in each other.” Cultivating emotionally intimate relationships, in other words, takes more work than just compliments. In this episode, I sit down with my friends Krista and Tabia, and we talk about our friendships, the ups, downs, and the work it takes to make them work. A special thank you to Kamil Lewis, LMF,T, and Danielle Bayard-Jacskon, Bumble Friendship Expert, for lending their expertise on forming friendships. Follow the guests on this episode: Follow Shan: https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram/ http://tiktok.com/shanboody / @loversbyshan Follow Krista: https://www.instagram.com/itskrista/ https://www.instagram.com/almost30podcast/ Follow Tabia: https://www.instagram.com/tabiacharles/ Follow Danielle Bayard-Jackson https://www.instagram.com/daniellebayardjackson/ https://www.instagram.com/friendforward/ Follow Kamil Lewis, LMFT https://www.instagram.com/kamil.lewis/?hl=en https://www.instagram.com/theexpansivegroup/?hl=en https://www.instagram.com/safewordpod/ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com
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    58 mins
  • S2 Ep129: Is a Good Man Good Enough? ft. Miranda Rae Mayo

    S2 Ep129: Is a Good Man Good Enough? ft. Miranda Rae Mayo
    Jul 23 2025

    What if the love story you were chasing… was never really yours?

    In this episode, actress Miranda Rae Mayo joins Shan to explore the journey of finding love by letting go of the fantasy. Known for her role on Chicago Fire, Miranda opens up about her current relationship and how she had to release the pressure to be “perfect” to experience a real connection.

    Together, they explore how love doesn’t always look the way we expected, and why exploring non-monogamy challenged (and expanded) her thoughts around love, security, and partnership.

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    52 mins
  • S2 Ep128: Are They Your Type or Your Trauma Response ft. Anwar White

    S2 Ep128: Are They Your Type or Your Trauma Response ft. Anwar White
    Jul 16 2025

    What does it mean to date and be in relationships in a trauma-informed way? Are you dating from a place of fear instead of self-worth? In this powerful episode, certified dating and relationship coach Anwar White opens up about his personal journey and why emotional safety is the foundation of any healthy relationship. We explore the crucial question: Can you really date men if you're scared of them, or if deep down, you don't even like them?

    Whether you're recovering from toxic relationships, navigating dating anxiety, or looking to build confidence and emotional security in love, this episode will give you the tools to understand and honor your safety needs.

    In this powerful and deeply personal episode, dating coach Anwar White joins Shan to talk about what it means to date with emotional and relational safety at the center. Anwar shares his personal story of leaving an unsafe environment as a child alongside his mother, and how that shaped his deep understanding of safety, trust, and partnership. Now, as a coach helping Black and Brown women find aligned, lasting love, Anwar breaks down the realities of trauma-informed dating, co-regulation, and building standards rooted in self-worth.

    This conversation also explores the ways our early relationships model love for us, and how watching his mother now thrive in a healthy partnership has become part of Anwar’s full-circle healing and success story.

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    53 mins