What if the reason your adult child is always in their room… is because they’re hiding something? You have your suspicions—but they’re so disconnected and so secretive, that you’re no longer sure what’s real. You’ve got a hunch (love that parenting instinct) but they’ve gotten so good at making you feel bad for even questioning them, you’re riddled with self-doubt. Yet the facts are clear; they spend hours behind that door, you’re barely allowed in, they’re not themselves and something is very wrong. But who can you turn to, especially when everyone else’s adult kid seems to be okay? I can assure you that after listening to this episode, you’ll have a much better idea of what you can do to help.

But just so we’re on the same page – in case you think your adult kid is just going through a stage and “whatever it is”, will pass, you’re fooling yourself. Addiction is so much worse than what we think. It’s not just excessive alcohol or smoking too much weed – as if that isn’t bad enough. It’s ANY behavior that is getting in the way of your adult child’s life. In fact addiction has gotten so bad, that it’s actually an epidemic. So you can stop feeling like it’s just happening to your kid.

Before you jump into the episode, or maybe you’re not even sure if its for you, I want to share how extensive this problem is. Addictive behaviours could be anything from video gaming, social media scrolling, vaping, binge-watching YouTube or Netflix, gambling, online shopping, overeating, pornography – as well as alcohol and drugs. Many are hard to detect but all are hard to admit.

The worst part is this; these are not habits that will go away on their own — they require either intervention or a complete lifestyle change. Do not feel overwhelmed (too late for that Shari). I understand how difficult this is, and I truly believe you can help, once you know what to do.

Because I’ll be honest - here comes the NO BS Parenting tip - to just “let them” keep hiding in their room, staying addicted and continuing to be disconnected from life, is going to do more harm than good.

So instead of doing that, listen to this episode first because I’m about to share the shocking truth about the underlying cause of your adult child’s addiction and (drum roll please) that you CAN make a difference by not letting them sit there, alone in their room, wasting their life away. 💪

Please share this episode with someone who needs to hear it. 💞

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Want a better relationship with your adult child? Start by changing the way you communicate.

In this episode of LAUNCH, I talk with Toby Slough and his daughter Bailey Garner about the crucial transition every parent needs to make; going from Coach to Advisor. Chock full of eye-opening insights, practical tips, and real talk, I'm sure you'll find this conversation both helpful and heartfelt. (You might want to grab a tissue.)

Here's the problem we’re addressing today; if you're still trying to communicate with your adult child the same way you did when they were younger—and your relationship is not developing into a respectful and meaningful friendship—it’s about time you change your approach and your mindset.

In this powerful conversation, we share our parenting wisdom of what it looks like to shift from being the COACH your child has relied on to the ADVISOR they want to turn to. We talk about the importance of knowing when to step back, how to communicate without controlling, and why this shift is essential to strengthening your relationship as they grow into adulthood.

When you change how you communicate, you open the door to a lifelong friendship with your adult child. Are you ready?

About my Guests:

Toby Slough is a pastor, author, and mental health advocate with over 35 years of ministry experience. After personally battling anxiety and panic disorder, Toby felt called to create spaces of emotional healing and is now the Legacy Pastor of Cross Timbers Church in Texas. Toby and his wife Mika are also the founders of BeAGoby.com, a faith-based platform dedicated to providing tools to local churches and resources to families, with a focus on helping parents and adult children to live emotionally healthier lives.

Their daughter, Bailey Garner, is the Director of Key Relationships at Goby Ministries, where she works closely with churches, schools, and families—coordinating events, building meaningful partnerships, and helping the family to share their message.

Before we jump in, just a quick heads-up; I apologize in advance for the sound quality on my end—something went a little sideways in the recording process and I sound a bit wonkey. But don’t worry—this conversation is very insightful, and so worth listening to.

It's also available on YouTube!

If you prefer to watch this interview, here it is on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MOpPhumWt8I

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Are you ready to build a friendship with your children that will last a lifetime? Do you want to be the person your kids turn to in confidence, for advice, support and friendship? In this episode, we delve into the art of building strong parent-child relationships. Discover positive parenting strategies and effective communication techniques to connect with your children on a deeper level. We explore how to create that relationship where there is open communication, mutual respect, and genuine connection, where your kids not only love you but also love spending time with you. You want to be closer to them, but you're unsure how. You want to know what your kids need from you, but need some guidance. If you're ready to take your parent/child relationship to the level of a meaningful, authentic friendship, you're in the right place. This episode is perfect for parents of older teens and young adults seeking to strengthen their bond and create more than just a relationship, but a beautiful friendship for life.

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What do you do when your young adult calls and confesses that alcohol is destroying their life - and they're 1,000 miles away?

In this deeply heartfelt and insightful episode, we explore one mother’s real-life experience parenting her young adult son through alcohol addiction—and the personal growth, mindset shifts, and lessons she learned that can help other parents facing similar struggles.

This is not just a story of addiction and recovery. It’s a story of a parent who realized that her role had to shift. My guest, Kim Muench, opens up about the pain of letting go, the struggle of rewriting her limiting beliefs and the lifelong parenting patterns that Kim had to work through in order to heal herself and find the strength to help her son.

Over time, Kim realized that supporting her son meant not rescuing him, but changing herself. What emerged was a new way of showing up for her adult child—with clarity, compassion, and boundaries.

You’ll hear firsthand what it's like to love your adult child through their addiction. To stand beside them without losing yourself. To shift from control to connection.

This episode is filled with calm insights, personal reflections and grounded wisdom for any parent who is walking alongside a struggling young adult—especially when the path feels heavy, uncertain, and overwhelming. We talk about how to love without enabling, how to stay close without controlling, and how to find peace as a parent even when your child is in crisis.

Whether you're currently navigating this road, you know someone going through this, or you want to understand the deeper realities of parenting through addiction, this conversation will be a guiding light...as long as you (or they) are prepared to do the work to heal the childhood wounds.

If you want to learn how to build strength, resilience, and emotional clarity in your parenting even under the most difficult circumstances —this conversation is for you.

Kim Muench's book, "Becoming Me While Raising You: A Mother's Journey to Her Self" is available on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1737522012?ref_=pe_3052080_397514860

🫂If your young adult is struggling with alcohol, consider checking out Al-Anon. It’s a safe, anonymous space for parents to find support, clarity, and connection. Click the link here: https://al-anon.org/

Please consider sharing this episode with someone who needs to hear it.

Interested in watching the video edition on Youtube, click the link: https://youtu.be/klui5WvMBlQ

Thank you for listening. ❤️

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You did the parenting. They’re “grown up” now. Yet it still feels like you’re raising a child. Why does this stage of having an adult feel so hard? Will it ever get easier? What can I do?

In this episode of LAUNCH, I’m exposing 2 surprising reasons your grown-up kid might be acting like they’re still 15—and spoiler alert: it’s not laziness or lack of motivation. These hidden causes are often overlooked (and NEVER talked about) but once you understand them, everything starts to make sense.

I’ll help you recognize what’s really going on behind their behaviour and give you steps you can take to shift this dynamic to help them mature and behave like the adult they are.

This episode might clear up a lot of your confusion. It did for me!

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Have you ever stopped to ask yourself how your own childhood is showing up in your parenting ?

In this episode, we're having an honest conversation about something many parents never pause to consider: the lingering effects of your own unhealed childhood trauma—and how it can quietly impact your relationship with your child, no matter how old they are.

You’ll learn what trauma really looks like (and it shows up in different ways), how to recognize it in yourself, in the way you were parented, and how those unresolved patterns can unintentionally shape your child, and impact your relationship. Even if you love your kids deeply, trauma that goes unacknowledged can lead to distance, miscommunication, and negative cycles that repeat across generations.

We’ll talk about the subtle ways these patterns show up and more importantly, we’ll cover what it takes to break that cycle and start showing up differently—as the emotionally stable parent your child can trust and connect with.

Because let’s be honest—parenting doesn’t end at 18. Your child still needs you. To be strong. To be steady. And to support them, with love and self-awareness, till your very last breath.

You have the power to change the legacy. It’s never too late to become the parent your child deserves.

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Few things are more painful than Parental Estrangement—when your adult child intentionally limits or cuts off contact, leaving you heartbroken, confused, and searching for answers. The silence is deafening, the questions feel endless, and the pain can be unbearable. Why does this happen? Can the relationship be repaired? And if not, how do you cope and move forward?

Parental estrangement occurs when an adult child chooses to have no contact with their parent. This decision is often rooted in unresolved conflicts, emotional pain, and their need for boundaries and healing.

Estrangement can be temporary or permanent and may involve silence, avoidance, or rejection of attempts to reconnect. For parents, it can be an overwhelming experience, leading to feelings of grief, guilt, and confusion. While reconciliation is sometimes possible, healing often begins with self-reflection, taking accountability, and focusing on personal growth.

In this deeply personal and fully transparent episode, I sit down with Crystal Allon, a mother who has experienced estrangement firsthand. Now, she offers support and guidance to other parents facing the same pain, helping them navigate their emotions and work towards transformation through self-awareness.

We explore:
🔹 Why adult children choose to go no contact
🔹How to shift from grief and confusion to self-reflection and healing
🔹How to find peace, even if reconciliation isn’t an immediate option
🔹The role and impact of Generational Trauma
🔹How to approach this if you are a Grandparent

If you or someone you know is struggling with parental estrangement, this episode offers insight, encouragement, and suggestions to help you move forward.

For more information, please do not hesitate to contact Shari Jonas at: ShariJonasLifeFX@gmail.com

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"Why is my adult child so angry? Why does it seem as if they hate me? And, why do they blame me for everything?"

If you’re asking these questions it's because you care, but more importantly you know that something has to be done. Even though it can be so painful when your adult child resents you, blames you, even shuts you out, you have to know that beneath their anger is often something deeper—and if you want things to change, you'll need to first understand why.

In this episode, we unpack the 7 most common reasons adult children feel this way and the 5 steps you can take to start rebuilding the relationship.

This is a critical period in your relationship with your adult child. It is a time to listen, to show compassion, to communicate, to make amends, and to heal - perhaps for both of you. If your adult child is angry, nothing will change unless you do something.

If you are ready take the steps to repair and rebuild your relationship with your child, than this episode is meant for you.

🎧 Tune in now and start the journey toward healing.

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