Avoidant men aren’t emotionally distant by choice. Their detachment is often a survival response wired deep into the brain.

In this episode, Adam breaks down how avoidant men develop this style of relating, why avoidant men often carry it into adulthood, and most importantly how to help avoidant men heal for good.

Topics covered: 👉 The brain science behind avoidant men and emotional shutdown 👉 Why avoidant men experience burnout, disconnection, and chronic stress 👉 The role of vasopressin bonding in helping avoidant men build trust 👉 Why securely attached partners often trigger avoidant men 👉 How avoidant men can rewire their brains through real world emotional experiences 👉 The shame core driving avoidant men since childhood 👉 Step by step strategies to help avoidant men build emotional safety 👉 How avoidant men struggle with intimacy, relationships, and legacy 👉 What partners of avoidant men need to understand 👉 Tools, supplements, and lifestyle shifts that support healing for avoidant men

If you enjoyed watching this episode, you might love 'Why She Doesn’t Want You (Even If She Loves You) '. Watch here: https://youtu.be/aUMUEbwcVuo

Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com

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In this episode, Andrey shares how he went from emotionally avoidant to fully committed in marriage. He breaks down the exact values, mindset shifts, and moments that made him stay.

Adam and Andrey explore how real love forms not through perfection, but through shared vision and integrity. This is a blueprint for building lasting connection with an avoidant man.

Topics Covered: 👉 What makes an avoidant man choose commitment 👉 How to build lasting love with an avoidant man 👉 The values that made her “the one” 👉 Why a woman’s boundaries increase attraction 👉 How she helped him cross the dopamine crash 👉 What avoidant men secretly need to trust 👉 The power of shared vision, timelines, and direction 👉 Why self-abandonment ruins real connection

If you enjoyed watching this episode, you might love 'Why She Doesn’t Want You (Even If She Loves You) '. Watch here: https://youtu.be/aUMUEbwcVuo

Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com

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In this episode, guest Emily Humpert returns to explore what it means to build emotional intimacy while carrying avoidant or disorganized attachment wounds.

Alongside host Adam Lane Smith, they unpack how emotional intimacy, vulnerability, and acceptance are the keys to real connection. If you've ever struggled to believe in love or feared that being truly seen would lead to rejection, this conversation offers insight, hope, and a practical path toward healing.

Topics Covered: 👉 The emotional cost of perfectionism and fear of not being enough 👉 How avoidant and quiet disorganized attachment styles affect relationships 👉 Why self-affirmation often fails for people with attachment wounds 👉 The difference between emotional safety and emotional intimacy 👉 How emotional intimacy helps rewire the brain and calm the nervous system 👉 Building trust through shared problem-solving and conflict resolution 👉 Understanding the role of vasopressin in long-term emotional bonding 👉 Recognizing freeze responses as survival strategies, not flaws 👉 What emotionally safe leadership looks like in romantic partnerships 👉 How to find people capable of emotional intimacy and deep connection

If you enjoyed watching this episode, you might love 'Why She Doesn’t Want You (Even If She Loves You) '. Watch here: https://youtu.be/aUMUEbwcVuo

Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com

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