Episode 37 – The SELF-ISH Method – I Am Self-ish Podcast

In this episode of the I Am Self-ish podcast, host Will Wright unpacks the profound impact of stress on our lives and introduces his signature coaching framework: The SELF-ISH Method™.

This 12-week program is centered around the Energy Leadership Index (ELI) Assessment, a powerful tool designed to help individuals understand their unique stress patterns and transform their relationship with stress.

Will shares his own journey with stress and how discovering the ELI shifted his perspective from being controlled by stress to choosing how he responds to it. He breaks down the seven levels of energy, illustrating how each level influences our reactions, choices, and overall sense of well-being.

At its core, this episode highlights how the SELF-ISH Method™ helps people move out of survival mode and into intentional living. Will emphasizes that personal growth starts with awareness, and that the power of choice is always available when it comes to leading a life of clarity, freedom, and fulfillment.

Memorable insights:“Stress isn’t just about what happens to you—it’s about how you relate to it.”“Energy shifts everything: your choices, your perspective, your outcomes.”“Growth begins with self-awareness, but it’s sustained through choice.”

Connect with Will WrightHost | Certified Life Coach & Stress Management CoachCreator of the I AM SELF-ISH™ Method📱 646-645-1509📧 will@iamself-ish.com

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Episode 36 – Survival Mode Isn’t Living – I Am Self-ish Podcast

In this episode of the I Am Self-ish podcast, host Will Wright confronts the reality of survival mode—the state where people appear strong and composed on the outside but are silently struggling within. He breaks down the difference between merely surviving and truly living, shining a light on the hidden costs of staying stuck in that cycle.

Through honest reflection and practical insights, Will emphasizes the importance of recognizing when you’ve slipped into survival mode and the courage it takes to admit you need help. He challenges listeners to break free from old patterns, reconnect with their passions, and choose a life that is not just about getting by, but about thriving.

The episode closes with a powerful reminder: transformation begins with choice. By choosing to step out of survival mode, you give yourself permission to live fully, embrace freedom, and create the life you deserve.

Memorable insights:
“Survival mode wears a mask of strength but hides silent suffering.”
“Living is more than getting through the day—it’s choosing passion over fear.”
“The first step out of survival mode is choosing differently.”

Connect with Will Wright
Host | Certified Life Coach & Stress Management CoachCreator of the I AM SELF-ISH™ Method📱 646-645-1509📧 will@iamself-ish.com

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LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/selfish-will

📸 Instagram: @selfish.will

Episode 35 – Not Your Lane – I Am Self-ish Podcast

In this episode of the I Am Self-ish podcast, host Will Wright dives into the importance of self-discovery and recognizing when you’re in the wrong lane in life. He emphasizes that true confidence cannot be built in environments that don’t align with your authentic self.

Through personal stories and client experiences, Will unpacks the subtle signs of being in the wrong lane, from constant self-doubt to exhaustion, and explores the emotional and practical costs of staying there. He challenges listeners to pause, reflect, and ask themselves whether the path they’re on is truly theirs—or one dictated by fear, obligation, or outside expectations.

This episode is both a wake-up call and a call to action: the first step to real growth is acknowledging when you’re out of alignment. The next step is choosing to shift into a lane that reflects who you really are.

Key themes include the cost of staying in misaligned environments, the difference between fear-driven choices and passion-driven ones, and the freedom that comes with realignment. Will reminds us that the power to choose differently is always available—and that choosing your true lane is an act of courage.

Memorable insights:“Confidence can’t grow in the wrong lane.”“Fear and obligation will keep you stuck—but passion will get you moving.”“Alignment is where confidence and freedom meet.”

Connect with Will WrightHost | Certified Life Coach & Stress Management CoachCreator of the I AM SELF-ISH™ Method

📱 646-645-1509

📧 will@iamself-ish.com

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💼 LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/selfish-will

Instagram: @selfish.will

In this episode of the I Am Self-ish podcast, host Will Wright explores the transformative power of self-reflection, inspired by a coaching session centered on writing a letter to one’s younger self. This heartfelt exercise opened the door to deeper awareness, revealing how far we’ve truly come and the importance of honoring that journey.

Will dives into themes of personal growth, emotional intelligence, and the often-overlooked significance of celebrating small wins. He reminds listeners that in the rush of everyday life, it’s easy to overlook the quiet victories that shape who we are. By slowing down and reflecting, we create space to see our progress clearly, measure success by our own standards, and reconnect with the truth of who we are.

Key themes include the breakthroughs found in stillness, the power of acknowledging achievements big and small, and the way emotional intelligence fuels self-leadership. This episode is an invitation to pause, reflect, and recognize that you are further along in your journey than you may realize.

Memorable insights:“The biggest breakthroughs often come from quiet moments.”“Small wins are significant and should be celebrated.”“You are further along in your journey than you realize.”

Connect with Will WrightHost | Certified Life Coach & Stress Management CoachCreator of the I AM SELF-ISH™ Method

📧 will@iamself-ish.com🌐 iamself-ish.com💼 LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/selfish-will📸 Instagram: @selfish.will

In this episode of the I Am Self-ish podcast, host Will Wright is joined by someone who truly embodies this work: transformational coach and leadership expert Merilee Smith, who helps high-achieving women reclaim their voice, their purpose, and their inner calm.

Together, they dive into a powerful conversation on self-empowerment, emotional intelligence, and the unique journey of high-achieving women. They unpack the challenges of perfectionism, the power of choice, and why compassion is a game-changer in coaching.

Merilee shares her story of building Spark with Merilee, hosting transformative retreats, and creating spaces where women can reconnect with themselves. The discussion explores the importance of self-awareness, the impact of the words we use, and how to find a healthy balance between ambition and self-care. At its heart, this episode is a reminder that the power to create change has always been within you.

Key themes include the importance of self-empowerment for personal growth, the role language plays in shaping self-perception, and how compassion helps quiet self-judgment.

Merilee and Will highlight that transformation often begins with a small spark, that emotional intelligence is essential for navigating challenges, and that community and connection amplify the coaching experience. They also remind listeners that freedom starts with choice—and that it’s perfectly okay to embrace being a “hot mess” sometimes.

Connect with Guest: Merilee SmithChief Spark Officer | Mindset Coach | SpeakerSpark with Merilee📧 merilee@merileesmith.com🌐 sparkwithmerilee.com📸 Instagram: @sparkwithmerilee

Connect with Host: Will WrightHost | Certified Life Coach & Stress Management CoachCreator of the I AM SELF-ISH™ Method📧 will@iamself-ish.com🌐 iamself-ish.com💼 LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/selfish-will📸 Instagram: @selfish.will

In this episode of the I AM SELF-ISH podcast, host Will Wright sits down with Santiago Grijalva for a powerful conversation about the true essence of mentorship.

Together, they unpack what makes someone a real mentor, how social media has reshaped mentorship dynamics, and why distinguishing between a mentor and an influencer is more important than ever.

Santiago offers thoughtful insights and personal stories about the benefits and challenges of mentorship, the emotional impact of having (or lacking) guidance, and the critical role of integrity and accountability in these relationships.

This conversation is a timely reminder that mentorship is more than a title—it’s a relationship built on trust, honesty, and growth.

Throughout the episode, you’ll hear why a mentor is someone who genuinely wants to see the best in you, and how mentorship is rooted in guidance, accountability, and personal development.

The discussion explores how social media has complicated—but not replaced—authentic mentorship, and why true mentors never make you feel like just a number.

Santiago emphasizes that you are not defined by your past mistakes and reminds us that mentors are not therapists—they’re there to guide your direction.

If you can’t clearly define your mentor, you probably don’t have one. A mentor should never make you feel stuck or ashamed, and the most meaningful mentorships are grounded in integrity, consistency, and accountability.

Ultimately, the journey of personal growth often leads to becoming a mentor yourself.

Connect with Host Will Wright📧 Email: ⁠Will@iamself-ish.com⁠📸 Instagram: ⁠@selfish.will⁠🌐 Website: ⁠www.iamself-ish.com⁠

Connect with Guest Santiago Grijalva📧 Email: letstakeaminute@aol.com📸 Instagram: @coach_gri

Episode 31: Stronger Than Setbacks – with Courtney

In this episode of the I Am Self-ish podcast, host Will Wright sits down with Bronx-born trainer Courtney for a powerful conversation about grit, growth, and redefining strength—on and off the gym floor.

From growing up in a female-led household to building a successful fitness career rooted in resilience, Courtney shares how his journey shaped his voice, values, and vision. They explore the mindset shifts required to bounce back from adversity, the underrated power of social skills in training, and why emotional intelligence is the new six-pack.

They also dig into the role of spirituality, the tension between family life and entrepreneurship, and how modern fitness is evolving beyond just physical appearance.

Takeaways:

• ​Strength is more than muscle—it’s mindset, presence, and communication.
• ​Setbacks aren’t the end of the story; they’re a setup for transformation.
• ​Being raised in a female-led home shaped Courtney’s emotional fluency and leadership style.
• ​Spirituality plays a vital role in grounding and guiding success.
• ​In fitness and in life, the ability to connect is just as important as the ability to coach.

🎧 Tune in to hear how setbacks built strength—and how you can turn your own struggles into fuel.

Connect with Guest Courtney Pierre📸 Instagram: @thesoulwarrior33🎵 TikTok: @thesoulwarrior33🌐 Website: the.soulwarrior.com

Connect with Host Will Wright📧 Email: Will@iamself-ish.com📸 Instagram: @selfish.will🌐 Website: www.iamself-ish.com

Episode 30: Feeding the Weakness – with Will Wright

In this raw and revealing solo episode, host Will Wright explores a powerful question: Are you growing, or are you being coddled?

"Feeding the Weakness" unpacks the subtle—but dangerous—ways pandering can show up in our relationships, routines, and self-talk. Whether it's others enabling our comfort zones or our own avoidance dressed up as self-care, Will sheds light on how these patterns keep us safe… but stuck.

Drawing from personal reflections and client experiences, Will challenges listeners to notice when comfort is being mistaken for care—and how to build relationships that call you up, not just soothe you down.

Takeaways:

• ​Pandering feels like love, but often keeps us stagnant.
• ​Real growth comes from truth-telling, not people-pleasing.
• ​Being challenged isn't the opposite of being supported—it's often the truest form of care.
• ​The people who call you out are often the ones rooting for your evolution.
• ​Empowerment > comfort—every
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• ​Connect with Host Will Wright:
• ​Instagram: @selfish.will
• ​Email: Will@iamself-ish.com
• ​Website: www.iamself-ish.com