Episodes

  • You’re Setting Goals That Quietly Work Against You

    You’re Setting Goals That Quietly Work Against You
    Feb 9 2026
    Dr. K breaks down the science of why 80% of New Year's resolutions fail and how to use behavioral research to make changes stick. He explains why common strategies like accountability partners can backfire and how to move from simply wanting a change to being ready to achieve it. • The Accountability Trap: Outsourcing responsibility to a partner often leads to shared failure rather than sustained personal growth. • The 14-Failure Rule: Data shows that people who successfully change for two years fail an average of 14 times along the way. • Preparation Over Desire: Simply wanting a change has no bearing on success; you must be prepared and ready for the cost of change. • Build Self-Efficacy: Setting specific, attainable "SMART" goals proves to your mind that you are actually capable of succeeding. • Choose Approach Goals: Moving toward a positive reward is more sustainable than just trying to move away from a negative state. HG Coaching : https://bit.ly/46bIkdo Dr. K's Guide to Mental Health: https://bit.ly/44z3SztHG Memberships : https://bit.ly/3TNoMVf Products & Services : https://bit.ly/44kz7x0 HealthyGamer.GG: https://bit.ly/3ZOopgQ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    18 mins
  • Your Problems Aren't A Personality

    Your Problems Aren't A Personality
    Feb 7 2026
    Dr. K explores how turning suffering into an identity prevents growth and why relying on willpower often leads to burnout. He shares practical tools to find internal motivation and master difficult social interactions. • The Identity Trap: Building your personality around your problems makes recovery feel like a betrayal of yourself. • The Willpower Paradox: Forcing yourself to do things is an independent risk factor for future stagnation and action crises. • Social S-Tier Moves: Use specific communication hacks to handle criticism and accept compliments without feeling defensive. • The Science of Cheating: Many students use AI because modern systems reward grades and efficiency over actual deep learning. • Action vs. State: Successful people focus on doing the work rather than chasing a specific emotional state or feelingHG Coaching : https://bit.ly/46bIkdo Dr. K's Guide to Mental Health: https://bit.ly/44z3SztHG Memberships : https://bit.ly/3TNoMVf Products & Services : https://bit.ly/44kz7x0 HealthyGamer.GG: https://bit.ly/3ZOopgQ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 hr and 58 mins
  • Procrastination Holds You Back

    Procrastination Holds You Back
    Feb 2 2026
    Dr. K moves past complicated neuroscientific explanations to explain that procrastination is actually a manipulation by a primitive mind. He describes the mind as a "feral animal" that exists outside of your true self, constantly generating "false procrastination" to keep you from doing the work that matters. What to expect in this episode: • Your Mind is Not You: Learning to see the mind as activity rather than an object, allowing you to create the distance necessary to stop listening to its excuses. • The Boredom Scam: How the mind uses feelings of boredom and the thought that an action is "not enough" to trick you into returning to effortless activities like scrolling. • Training through Futility: Why doing "foolish" or "futile" actions—like meditation or raw-dogging existence—is the only way to prove to your mind that you are actually in chargeHG Coaching : https://bit.ly/46bIkdo Dr. K's Guide to Mental Health: https://bit.ly/44z3SztHG Memberships : https://bit.ly/3TNoMVf Products & Services : https://bit.ly/44kz7x0 HealthyGamer.GG: https://bit.ly/3ZOopgQ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    39 mins
  • How High Performers Get Ahead

    How High Performers Get Ahead
    Jan 31 2026
    Dr. K examines the psychological profiles of billionaires, CEOs, and elite creators to reveal that their success often stems from being "broken in the right way". He challenges the idea that high performance is just about financial advantage, focusing instead on the internal insecurities and psychological pressures that drive exceptional people to outwork everyone else. What to expect in this episode: • The Performance Trap: How growing up with conditional love creates a lifelong insecurity that can only be quieted by achieving at a very high level. • Healthy Entitlement: Why elite achievers have the agency to leave toxic situations and the confidence to ask for help rather than complaining about the world's unfairness. • The Contentment Debuff: Why the biggest difference between high and low performers is the refusal to feel satisfied after finishing a simple taskHG Coaching : https://bit.ly/46bIkdo Dr. K's Guide to Mental Health: https://bit.ly/44z3SztHG Memberships : https://bit.ly/3TNoMVf Products & Services : https://bit.ly/44kz7x0 HealthyGamer.GG: https://bit.ly/3ZOopgQ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    16 mins
  • The Problem After Puer Aeternus

    The Problem After Puer Aeternus
    Jan 26 2026
    In this episode Dr. K sits down with content creator BSJ to discuss the hidden psychological weight that remains after tackling Puer Aeternus (the eternal youth). They explore how moving past the "commitment-phobe" phase is only the beginning of the journey, leading into a deeper dive into perfectionism, conditional love, and the "monster in the basement" that drives high-achievers to punish themselves even after they succeed. Key Topics:• Beyond Puer Aeternus: Why simply "taking the plunge" into a career or relationship is not the end goal, but rather the start of deeper psychological healing. • The Origins of Perfectionism: A powerful look at how childhood experiences—like being reminded of the two missed free throws instead of the eight successful ones—lead to an adulthood defined by constant self-critique. • The Weight of Being "Hard on Yourself": Understanding why high-achievers use self-induced pain as a motivational system and the immense mental exhaustion it causes over time. • The Role of Blame in Healing: Why Dr. K suggests that you must accurately place blame for childhood damage before you can truly forgive and move past it. • The Loneliness of "Leveling Up": Exploring the isolation that often accompanies emotional growth, as shifting your life path can create a wedge between you and your old peer groups. HG Coaching : https://bit.ly/46bIkdo Dr. K's Guide to Mental Health: https://bit.ly/44z3Szt HG Memberships : https://bit.ly/3TNoMVf Products & Services : https://bit.ly/44kz7x0 HealthyGamer.GG: https://bit.ly/3ZOopgQ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 hr and 23 mins
  • The Optimizer: Productive, But Miserable

    The Optimizer: Productive, But Miserable
    Jan 24 2026
    In this episode Dr. K explains why we often use productivity as a way to hide from our real problems and how to find the root cause of mental health struggles rather than just treating symptoms. He also covers why people with ADHD dive too deep into hobbies and the complicated truth about sharing feelings with a partner. Key Topics: The Productivity Trap: Why "optimizing" your life is often just a way to avoid solving major personal crises, like a failing marriage or career unhappiness. Fixing the "Root Directory": How treating core issues like rumination or internalizing can fix multiple mental health diagnoses at the same time.• ADHD and New Identities: Why people with ADHD don't just "try" hobbies but adopt them as entirely new personalities to find a life that finally "fits". The Truth About Sharing Feelings: Why sharing negative emotions can sometimes make a relationship worse, especially for those with social anxiety. Integrated Partners: Using Jungian archetypes to understand why hyper-polarized gender roles on social media often lead to emotionally unsafe relationships. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    3 hrs and 4 mins
  • Your Imagination Won't Fix Your Life

    Your Imagination Won't Fix Your Life
    Jan 19 2026
    Dr. K breaks down how getting stuck in regret, fantasy, and “what could have been” thinking can quietly block real change. When the mind keeps rewriting the past or imagining alternate versions of life, it feels productive, but it actually drains the emotional fuel needed to move forward in the present. This episode explores why fantasy can feel comforting but ultimately keeps people stuck, especially in depression. Dr. K explains how negative emotions are closely tied to learning and motivation, and why avoiding them through imagination, rumination, or distraction prevents real progress. The focus is not on fixing the past or visualizing a perfect future, but on tolerating the present long enough to take the next real step. Topics covered include: Why regret-based fantasy feels helpful but blocks action How imagination converts negative emotion into false relief The connection between negative emotion, learning, and motivation Why rewriting the past creates a false present you cannot act from How to shift from “what should have been” to “what do I do now” HG Coaching : https://bit.ly/46bIkdo Dr. K's Guide to Mental Health: https://bit.ly/44z3Szt HG Memberships : https://bit.ly/3TNoMVf Products & Services : https://bit.ly/44kz7x0 HealthyGamer.GG: https://bit.ly/3ZOopgQ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    15 mins
  • The Hidden Emotion Infecting Your Life (Dislike)

    The Hidden Emotion Infecting Your Life (Dislike)
    Jan 17 2026
    In this episode, Dr. K breaks down why disliking someone feels useful, addictive, and justified, yet quietly causes real damage to your mental clarity, stress levels, and long term decision making. Using personal stories, clinical examples, and research, he explains how hostility narrows your thinking, fuels rumination, and keeps you emotionally stuck, even when you believe dislike is protecting you or motivating change. Instead of pushing forgiveness or pretending bad behavior is acceptable, this episode focuses on removing dislike itself. Dr. K walks through a practical mindset shift rooted in compassion without tolerance, helping you judge people clearly, set realistic expectations, and make calm long term plans that are not driven by fluctuating emotions. Topics covered include: Why dislike is one of the most addictive emotions and how it distorts perception Hostile attribution bias and how disliking someone limits your ability to solve problems The physical and mental health costs of chronic hostility and stress Why forgiveness often fails and how removing dislike is different A step by step mental process for seeing people clearly and planning boundaries without emotional reactivity HG Coaching : https://bit.ly/46bIkdo Dr. K's Guide to Mental Health: https://bit.ly/44z3Szt HG Memberships : https://bit.ly/3TNoMVf Products & Services : https://bit.ly/44kz7x0 HealthyGamer.GG: https://bit.ly/3ZOopgQ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    19 mins