In this episode we'll explore the critical distinction between manipulation and influence, particularly in the context of relationships affected by infidelity. We'll emphasize the importance of understanding these dynamics to foster healthier interactions and personal growth. The discussion covers how manipulation often stems from fear and self-serving motives, while influence is rooted in strength, clarity, and a desire for collective betterment.

Key Takeaways:

• Understanding the difference between manipulation and influence is crucial after infidelity.
• Manipulation often arises from fear and self-serving motives.
• Influence is about seeking the betterment of everyone involved.
• Recognizing patterns of manipulation can help break the cycle of unhealthy behaviors.
• Effective communication is key to fostering influence rather than manipulation.
• Living in alignment with your values can enhance your influence in relationships.
• Asking for what you want is a form of kindness, not manipulation.
• Emotional intelligence plays a significant role in distinguishing between manipulation and influence.
• Trust is built through honesty and consistency in relationships.
• Shifting from control to influence increases the chances of achieving desired outcomes.

More from me:

• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

Today we're exploring unbecoming and self-discovery. We'll look at the importance of stripping away old identities and beliefs that no longer serve us, particularly those rooted in childhood trauma. We need to create space for authenticity and self-acceptance, rather than striving for an idealized version of ourselves.

Key Takeaways:

• Healing from infidelity involves unbecoming old identities.
• Many beliefs about self-worth are rooted in childhood experiences.
• Unlearning is often more important than becoming something new.
• Creating space for authenticity allows for true self-discovery.
• The pressure to be better can stem from past trauma.
• It's essential to recognize what stories are not truly yours.
• Self-acceptance is a key part of the healing process.
• The journey of unbecoming can be uncomfortable but necessary.
• You are not defined by your past or the actions of others.
• Real work is about being present with yourself, not rushing to an outcome.

More from me:

• Register for the Free Masterclass - Reclaiming Her: Mothering with a Shattered Heart After Infidelity - here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/reclaiming-her
• Sign up for the $47 class Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the Get Your Life Back After Infidelity group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you!

For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/

© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

Actions alone are insufficient for healing after betrayal. Today we're talking about the importance of genuine connection, the impact of childhood experiences on emotional safety, and the necessity of self-awareness and self-care in the healing process. A person who has been betrayed has to prioritize their emotional safety and seek deeper, more meaningful connections in their relationships. Let's talk about how...

Key Takeaways:

• Healing requires more than just actions; it needs genuine connection.
• Box checking can create an illusion of safety but lacks depth.
• Emotional safety is often rooted in childhood experiences.
• Resentment can undermine efforts to rebuild trust.
• Real healing often disrupts appearances and requires vulnerability.
• Self-awareness is crucial for understanding emotional needs.
• It's important to communicate needs clearly in relationships.
• Surface-level compliance can lead to deeper feelings of loneliness.
• Creating safety starts from within and requires self-compassion.
• True connection is built on mutual respect and understanding.

More from me:

• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you!

For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/

© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles