• They Need to Change
    Jul 1 2025
    When you make the Dictator mistake you may be blatantly trying to do things your way or you are a "good person up to no good". The second approach is seldom seen as bad, because you believe that if you are not the "Jr. Holy Spirit" in their life, they will never change or much worse they "will die lonely and sad", if you are not diligent in pointing out their bad behavior.
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    30 mins
  • Are You Being a REAL Person?
    Jun 24 2025
    Go to the self-help section of a bookstore and you will find books promoting the "Actor" mistake. You will find authors stating, “If you want to win their heart you need to be someone they want. So if they like football, but you don’t, it’s time to become football fan.”
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    30 mins
  • The Past Is Over
    Jun 17 2025
    The past cripples relationships, because people do not live in reality about the past. What's the reality? The past is OVER! Even though it's over, it's still controlling the thoughts, actions and feelings of so many people. Consider how many countries, as well as individuals, are currently developing strategies, setting goals and taking actions, because of past events that have not been resolved!
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    30 mins
  • What’s Your Opinion?
    Jun 10 2025
    Observe and describe this picture.Try it before reading further. Almost all people tell a story about the picture rather than observing and describing it. “A man is getting ready for an important meeting…” or something like that. Observing and describing is different - “A coat, tie, vest, hand, cuff, shirt, appears to be a watch, surface…” What drives the story telling behavior? Our minds can't stand not knowing something, so it is very common for us to "fill in the blanks" with an opinion, guess or assumption.
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    30 mins
  • What’s In It For ME?
    Jun 3 2025
    Our self-absorbed sin nature is the energy that causes our "ME" to flash. These "ME" flashing moments, days, months and even years, cripple relationships. This lifestyle is living in the Left Circle—reacting and responding, but not choosing to live wisely. It is a life driven by appetites, impulses and pleasures, because it is constantly asking "What's in it for ME?"
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    30 mins
  • The Two Circles of Life
    May 27 2025
    Autopilot for the sin nature leaves us living in the Left Circle—a React/Respond, Slave, Victim lifestyle. Life is an endless chain of events that we just react or respond to and then figure out what to do when life, circumstances and people "happen" to us.
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    30 mins
  • Part of The Solution Or The Problem?
    May 20 2025
    The men's and women's judgments provide fuel for your "Flashing ME" moments. For the woman, her design is all about relating and now her judgment makes her closest relationships with her children and husband painful and unfulfilling. And, for the man, his design is about work and now his judgment makes his work painful and unfulfilling.
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    30 mins
  • Is Your Sin Nature Winning?
    May 13 2025
    "Where you look, you tend to go." That's what happens with your judgment and your design.
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    30 mins