Ever wondered how a narcissist loves — or if they’re even capable of real love at all? In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys I break down the hard truths about what narcissistic love really looks like in romantic relationships, families, and friendships.

You’ll learn why narcissists appear so loving and affectionate at first with intense love bombing, only to later devalue and discard you. I explain the difference between real love and narcissistic love, and why narcissists make you feel like you're walking on eggshells, doubting yourself, and constantly trying to win back their affection.

We explore how narcissistic parents show conditional love through the golden child and scapegoat dynamic, and why narcissistic partners shift from idealising you to tearing you down with silent treatments, manufactured conflict, and emotional manipulation. I also cover the key signs that you’re dealing with narcissistic love — and how to protect your self-worth and reclaim your peace.

If you’ve ever been stuck in the cycle of confusion, asking yourself, Did they ever really love me? this episode will give you the validation and clarity you need to start healing

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Have you ever wondered why certain people seem to become prime targets for covert narcissists? In this revealing episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys I break down exactly what kind of personality traits covert narcissists are drawn to — and why.

From the outside, it might seem like bad luck, but I explain the deeper psychological reasons why these manipulators select partners, friends, and even colleagues who display certain appealing traits. Are you overly empathetic? A chronic people-pleaser? High-achieving but secretly struggling with low self-worth?

Expect to learn:

The top 5 personality traits covert narcissists actively seek out

How your strengths — like kindness and loyalty — can be twisted and weaponised against you

Why boundary issues are often at the core of the narcissist-target dynamic

Red flags that signal when your good nature is being exploited

This episode is packed with insight, validation, and practical strategies to help you recognise the patterns — and break free from them. Whether you're currently stuck in a toxic relationship or reflecting on past encounters, this conversation will empower you to reclaim your self-worth and stop being an easy target.

"Your empathy is your strength — but without boundaries, it becomes your weakness in the hands of a narcissist."

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Ever felt like you were suddenly competing for someone’s love, attention, or approval—without knowing why? You might have been caught in the toxic game of covert narcissistic triangulation.

In this eye-opening episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I dive deep into one of the most painful and manipulative tactics narcissists use: triangulation. Whether it’s with an ex, a friend, a sibling, or even your own child, covert narcissists thrive on creating emotional chaos by pulling in third parties to control, confuse, and hurt you.

I’ll break down what triangulation really looks like, why narcissists do it, how it affects your mental health and self-esteem, and—most importantly—how to recognise it and shut it down. From silent treatment and comparisons to backhanded praise and fake alliances, this episode exposes how narcissists use others to punish you, keep you off balance, and maintain power.

You’ll hear real-life examples from my counselling practice and learn practical tools to detach from the drama, protect your peace, and heal from the emotional damage this cruel tactic leaves behind.

This episode is for you if:

You’ve been compared to others constantly

You feel like someone’s always being used against you

The narcissist in your life brings up their ex way too often

You’ve been turned against someone you once trusted

You're stuck in a toxic triangle that leaves you drained and confused


"The narcissist doesn’t want peace, they want power—and triangulation gives them both."

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