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Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace

Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace

By: Becky Kolb Estrangement and Relationship Coach
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Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace Podcast is hosted by me, Becky Kolb. I help women in 💔estranged relationships by providing encouragement and biblical insights so you can find peace and happiness. You may be estranged from a child, sibling or other family member and know the emotional pain. Estrangement is often called the silent epidemic because people bury their emotional pain deep inside. It's difficult to talk about and you don't want to burden your friends with your sad story.


And you may feel guilt and shame like I did and that just exacerbates the issue. You wonder if 🙏God listens to you anymore. How do you live peacefully when a loved one no longer wants a relationship? You simply want the guilt & shame gone and you want mental peace. That’s what this podcast is all about.

My estrangement story began with a divorce and remarriage and some decisions around that. The guilt and shame was overwhelming as most of my family didn't speak to me for several years.

Growing up in a Christian family, I struggled with some of the decisions I made and even more so with family who judged and rejected me. I felt God was judging me and had also abandoned me. But it was during that estrangement that God met me where I was and overwhelmingly poured out his 💖love and mercy and forgiveness.

The God I thought rejected me was standing with arms wide open waiting for me to turn around. Consequences from some of my decisions lingered but his ❤️love and forgiveness carried me through. It was a relationship God wanted with me. Not religion. It was life changing. And it's what brought about reconciliation and restoration of my family. Relationships today that are 💪stronger than ever before.

I felt a strong 🗣️call to share my story and help women in estrangement. God seemed to be impressing upon me that I had suffered guilt, shame and estrangement and so do others. He wanted me to share how he helped me through it and how he could help others like you too.

My own story of estrangement is steeped in my 🙏faith and the amazing things God did for me and my family as we reconciled. I share that story in 🎧podcasts and blogs, but it isn't something I push on anyone. I coach people with other faith beliefs too and have a deep respect for everyone's decision and right to religious freedom.

CONNECT with me at www.beckykolb.com
DOWNLOAD my FREE workbook to work through estrangement to find peace at: 📲www.beckykolb.com/guide

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Episodes
  • 49: How God Works for you in Estrangement

    49: How God Works for you in Estrangement
    Nov 3 2025

    Send me a text…what topics would you like to hear?

    Do you wonder how God works for you in estrangement or whether he is even aware or cares? You feel like you are in the crucible with pressures mounting, emotions melting and triggers exploding.

    And you wonder how God could allow something so painful to linger with this person that you love. Why is their heart so hardened? These are questions that I’ve asked and I’m sure you have as well.

    Today let’s consider what God is saying to you in these intense emotional days and months. I’ll share a story that I think you’ll relate to about being in the crucible and the amazing work that God is doing in you right now.

    Ask God to open your spiritual ears and eyes and let’s dive in.

    Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/49.

    Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And, anything else that comes with estrangement. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact
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    8 mins
  • 48: Move on in Estrangement

    48: Move on in Estrangement
    Oct 20 2025

    Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement

    Move on - how many times have you heard that phrase? Wouldn’t it be easy if we could just flip a switch and close the door on hurtful relationships?

    For so many, the estranged relationship involves a family member, and it isn’t so easy to just walk away and close the door. So, how do you move on? I feel your pain and if you’re like me you’ve closed that door so many times, only to crack it open now and then.

    My husband and I are in the process of a big move from Arizona to Texas and the term move on has brought new light to estrangement that I want to share with you. Turn off distractions and stay tuned for today’s message.

    Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/48.

    Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And, anything else that comes with estrangement. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact
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    10 mins
  • 47: Impacts of Estrangement

    47: Impacts of Estrangement
    Oct 2 2025

    Send me a text…what topics would you like to hear?

    Have you ever considered the impacts of estrangement in your life? Sure, you feel disappointed, resentful, angry even. You miss the person with whom you are estranged.

    Feeling deeply wounded, you struggle to find your footing some days. Seeking to follow God, you try to forgive only to be reminded of the wrongs and once again you deal with those negative emotions.

    Today, I want to go a little deeper to share the impacts of estrangement and offer some tips to help you address those hurtful areas. You can find peace but sometimes it involves revisiting places you would rather avoid. Stay tuned and let’s walk through this together – one sister to another.

    Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/47.

    Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And, anything else that comes with estrangement. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact
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    13 mins
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