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Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace

Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace

By: Becky Kolb Estrangement and Relationship Coach
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Summary

Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace Podcast is hosted by me, Becky Kolb. I help Christian women navigating 💔estranged relationships with adult children and next generation family members.


You never thought you would be experiencing estrangement with a loved one and you are looking for support from someone who's been there. That's me.


Estrangement brings grief, guilt, shame, confusion and isolation. Women say they feel pressure to forgive or reconcile before they full understand what that means. And sometimes you may not be in a place mentally or spiritually to do that. I understand and felt similarly.


📲DOWNLOAD my FREE workbook to work through estrangement to find peace at: 📲www.beckykolb.com/guide

My estrangement story began with a divorce and remarriage and some decisions around that. The guilt and shame was overwhelming as most of my family didn't speak to me for several years.

Growing up in a Christian family, I struggled with some of the decisions I made and even more so with family who judged and rejected me. I felt God was judging me and had also abandoned me. But it was during that estrangement that God met me where I was and overwhelmingly poured out his 💖love and mercy and forgiveness.

The God I thought rejected me was standing with arms wide open waiting for me to turn around. Consequences from some of my decisions lingered but his ❤️love and forgiveness carried me through. It was a relationship God wanted with me. Not religion. It was life changing. And it's what brought about reconciliation and restoration of my family. Relationships today that are 💪stronger than ever before.

I learned that you can't force reconciliation. Any attempt to change another person is fruitless. The only control you and I have is ourselves and my podcast and coaching focus is on WHOLENESS - creating space to feel grief, discover clarity around responsibility, establish healthy boundaries and gain a renewed sense of self and purpose so that you can live grounded.


There are podcasts and coaching that focus on how to reconcile an estranged relationship. I cover some of that, but the primary focus and my passion is you. Helping you heal your heart and discovering who God says you are. Loved, adored and sought after. While others reject, God does not. Discover the inner peace that comes only from a relationship with him. That is the starting point.


I offer free no pressure, no obligation discovery calls to see if coaching is right for you. It's not a sales pitch. If that's something you seek, navigate to www.beckykolb.com/work-with-becky and let's have a conversation.

📲CONNECT with me at www.beckykolb.com

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📲DOWNLOAD my FREE workbook to work through estrangement to find peace at: 📲www.beckykolb.com/guide

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Episodes
  • 66: The Secret to Peace

    66: The Secret to Peace
    Apr 29 2026

    Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement

    The secret to peace is elusive to many women. Everyone wants it and often knows how to get it but are unwilling.

    Those that embrace this secret discover a deep and lasting peace even amid estrangement before relationships reconcile. In fact, knowing the relationship may never reconcile doesn’t disturb their peace.

    This peace is available to all who are open – even if you rejected it previously. It’s always there waiting for you. And the fruit of this secret is what will set your heart free from the emotional pain of an estranged relationship.

    Sit with me today for a few minutes and I’ll tell you the secret.

    Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/66.

    Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness!

    Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

    Download the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide
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    10 mins
  • 65: Reconciliation

    65: Reconciliation
    Apr 24 2026

    Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement

    Reconciliation is defined as the process of restoring friendly relations. It involves resolving disputes and balancing accounts. You’re thinking about your estranged loved one and that’s what this is about. However, it also is a principle in balance.

    Think of your bank statement. Do you cringe when it arrives as I do? Because of my husband’s health, I have the sole responsibility of managing finances and balancing accounts. As detailed as I try to be, invariably I will miss a withdrawal.

    How do debits and credits and balancing a bank statement relate to an estranged relationship? Stay tuned to today’s podcast episode and I’ll tell you.

    Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/65.

    Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness!

    Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

    Download the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide
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    12 mins
  • 64: Letting Go of Grudges

    64: Letting Go of Grudges
    Apr 9 2026

    Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement

    Letting go of grudges is rarely easy and certainly nothing happens quickly for most people. Estranged relationships create a hotbed for growing grudges, and you nourish them when you replay and rehearse responses.

    Coaching women who have been hurt by a loved one who has chosen to walk away will frequently begin with something like “how could they?” Or I’ll never be able to forgive them for what they’ve done.”

    And those words are the foundation for building resentment and deep-seated grudges that bring harm to your soul. Furthermore, you’ll never heal when you are holding a grudge.

    Today’s episode will provide some tips for letting go of the resentment so that your heart can begin to heal Let’s settle in for a short message today on getting rid of grudges.

    Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/64.

    Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness!

    Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

    Download the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide
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    10 mins
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