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Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace

Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace

By: Becky Kolb Estrangement and Relationship Coach
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Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace Podcast is hosted by me, Becky Kolb. I help women in 💔estranged relationships by providing encouragement and biblical insights so you can find peace and happiness. You may be estranged from a child, sibling or other family member and know the emotional pain. Estrangement is often called the silent epidemic because people bury their emotional pain deep inside. It's difficult to talk about and you don't want to burden your friends with your sad story.


And you may feel guilt and shame like I did and that just exacerbates the issue. You wonder if 🙏God listens to you anymore. How do you live peacefully when a loved one no longer wants a relationship? You simply want the guilt & shame gone and you want mental peace. That’s what this podcast is all about.

My estrangement story began with a divorce and remarriage and some decisions around that. The guilt and shame was overwhelming as most of my family didn't speak to me for several years.

Growing up in a Christian family, I struggled with some of the decisions I made and even more so with family who judged and rejected me. I felt God was judging me and had also abandoned me. But it was during that estrangement that God met me where I was and overwhelmingly poured out his 💖love and mercy and forgiveness.

The God I thought rejected me was standing with arms wide open waiting for me to turn around. Consequences from some of my decisions lingered but his ❤️love and forgiveness carried me through. It was a relationship God wanted with me. Not religion. It was life changing. And it's what brought about reconciliation and restoration of my family. Relationships today that are 💪stronger than ever before.

I felt a strong 🗣️call to share my story and help women in estrangement. God seemed to be impressing upon me that I had suffered guilt, shame and estrangement and so do others. He wanted me to share how he helped me through it and how he could help others like you too.

My own story of estrangement is steeped in my 🙏faith and the amazing things God did for me and my family as we reconciled. I share that story in 🎧podcasts and blogs, but it isn't something I push on anyone. I coach people with other faith beliefs too and have a deep respect for everyone's decision and right to religious freedom.

CONNECT with me at www.beckykolb.com
DOWNLOAD my FREE workbook to work through estrangement to find peace at: 📲www.beckykolb.com/guide

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  • 44: Why You're Struggling with Forgiveness
    Aug 27 2025

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    If you’re struggling with forgiveness, you aren’t alone. The truth is most everyone does. Oh, you may give lip service like I did and say you forgive, but the emotions linger. The pain comes and goes.

    You replay the hurt over and over so much the record is warped and scratched. Yet you really want to forgive – or you don’t. But you know that you want to get unstuck and move on.

    How? That’s the question that I struggled with and many women tell me they do too. Let’s dive into today’s episode and figure it out together.

    Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/44.

    Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And, anything else that comes with estrangement. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

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  • 43: Learning to be Vulnerable in Estrangement
    Aug 16 2025

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    Learning to be vulnerable is daunting in the best of circumstances. But when you have estranged relationships, it can be downright paralyzing.

    Vulnerability is akin to giving someone access to your innermost thoughts and emotions. And for good reasons, it isn’t wise to give everyone that privilege. Wisdom and discernment are critical.

    Timing is also a key component. You must be ready emotionally when you are ready to open yourself to someone because you don’t know how they might respond to you. Vulnerability is for you. When you’ve fully prepared to step out of your comfort zone with your heart and soul, it can be incredibly freeing.

    And it can also open new wounds if you aren’t. So, today we’ll look at learning to be vulnerable with respect to estrangement. And I’ll share some of my own strategies – what worked as well as what didn’t. Ready? Let’s go.

    Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/43.

    Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And, anything else that comes with estrangement. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

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  • 42: Blended Families and Estrangement
    Aug 12 2025

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    Blended families and estrangement often go hand in hand. But are they more prone to estranged relationships? Research says not necessarily. However, they do face more unique challenges and that can morph into estrangement.

    Are you part of a blended family that is facing difficulties and even amid estrangement already?

    Today we’ll dive into some of the challenges you face, how to successfully navigate them and what to do when it all goes sideways.

    Let’s imagine we are sitting together with a cup of tea or coffee and dive in.

    Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/42.

    Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And, anything else that comes with estrangement. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

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