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Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace

Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace

By: Becky Kolb Estrangement and Relationship Coach
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Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace Podcast is hosted by me, Becky Kolb. I help women in 💔estranged relationships by providing encouragement and biblical insights so you can find peace and happiness. You may be estranged from a child, sibling or other family member and know the emotional pain. Estrangement is often called the silent epidemic because people bury their emotional pain deep inside. It's difficult to talk about and you don't want to burden your friends with your sad story.


And you may feel guilt and shame like I did and that just exacerbates the issue. You wonder if 🙏God listens to you anymore. How do you live peacefully when a loved one no longer wants a relationship? You simply want the guilt & shame gone and you want mental peace. That’s what this podcast is all about.

My estrangement story began with a divorce and remarriage and some decisions around that. The guilt and shame was overwhelming as most of my family didn't speak to me for several years.

Growing up in a Christian family, I struggled with some of the decisions I made and even more so with family who judged and rejected me. I felt God was judging me and had also abandoned me. But it was during that estrangement that God met me where I was and overwhelmingly poured out his 💖love and mercy and forgiveness.

The God I thought rejected me was standing with arms wide open waiting for me to turn around. Consequences from some of my decisions lingered but his ❤️love and forgiveness carried me through. It was a relationship God wanted with me. Not religion. It was life changing. And it's what brought about reconciliation and restoration of my family. Relationships today that are 💪stronger than ever before.

I felt a strong 🗣️call to share my story and help women in estrangement. God seemed to be impressing upon me that I had suffered guilt, shame and estrangement and so do others. He wanted me to share how he helped me through it and how he could help others like you too.

My own story of estrangement is steeped in my 🙏faith and the amazing things God did for me and my family as we reconciled. I share that story in 🎧podcasts and blogs, but it isn't something I push on anyone. I coach people with other faith beliefs too and have a deep respect for everyone's decision and right to religious freedom.

CONNECT with me at www.beckykolb.com
DOWNLOAD my FREE workbook to work through estrangement to find peace at: 📲www.beckykolb.com/guide

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  • 51: Estrangement - Reconnecting with God

    51: Estrangement - Reconnecting with God
    Feb 4 2026

    Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement

    Good morning, this podcast today is to introduce a slight shift in focus in my estrangement coaching podcast. There are many that deal with estranged relationships with an adult child.

    My experience certainly included an adult child, but it was more than that and I'm finding that many of you struggle with it too. Next generation relationships such as daughters-in-law, sons-in-law, grandkids, great grandkids and other complex family members.

    And, the realization that I could replay those hurtful conversations all day long and feel justified in my resentment but it didn't move the needle toward peace one iota!

    The only thing that I could change was me and I wanted to reconnect with God and start the process of working on my growth. My peace. And that's where you'll find a newly tweaked website at www.beckykolb.com.

    I hope you'll check it out and send me some feedback on what you want to hear and how you want to move this peace in your life to full throttle! Connect at www.beckykolb.com/contact.

    Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And, anything else that comes with estrangement. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact
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    5 mins
  • 50: Discover Peace in Estrangement

    50: Discover Peace in Estrangement
    Jan 6 2026

    Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement

    I’m one that never thought I could find peace in estrangement. Estranged relationships were on my mind constantly. Over the holidays I heard from an abundance of women who struggled with their emotions and self-worth because of estrangement with a loved one.

    I’m betting that you, like many others, are elated the holidays are behind you and the emotional pain goes dormant until the next trigger such as a birthday.

    My friend, are you tired of living like that? Do you long to find peace? Lasting peace to fill your heart so that there isn’t room for the pain? I have a solution for you so settle in and let’s explore this together.

    Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/50.

    Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And, anything else that comes with estrangement. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact
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    10 mins
  • 49: How God Works for you in Estrangement

    49: How God Works for you in Estrangement
    Nov 3 2025

    Send me a text…what topics would you like to hear?

    Do you wonder how God works for you in estrangement or whether he is even aware or cares? You feel like you are in the crucible with pressures mounting, emotions melting and triggers exploding.

    And you wonder how God could allow something so painful to linger with this person that you love. Why is their heart so hardened? These are questions that I’ve asked and I’m sure you have as well.

    Today let’s consider what God is saying to you in these intense emotional days and months. I’ll share a story that I think you’ll relate to about being in the crucible and the amazing work that God is doing in you right now.

    Ask God to open your spiritual ears and eyes and let’s dive in.

    Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/49.

    Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And, anything else that comes with estrangement. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact
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    8 mins
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