• EP. 47| The Invisible Warfare For Your Marriage
    Jan 12 2026
    The devil hates families. He hates covenant. He hates stability, safety, and generational healing. Does it seem like every conversation leads to an explosion? Let’s discuss the escalation loop that can drain the joy out of your marriage and learn how to identify and combat the real enemy! TRANSCRIPT The Invisible Fight for Your Marriage Theme: Spiritual Warfare in Marriage Scripture Focus: Ephesians 6:12, 2 Corinthians 10:4 INTRODUCTION — The Wake-Up Call You’ve read every marriage book on the shelf. You’ve sat on the counsellor’s couch until you’re emotionally exhausted. You’ve softened your tone. You’ve stopped asking for too much. You’ve prayed, you’ve waited, you’ve shrunk yourself to keep the peace
 And yet — the house still feels like it’s on fire. Let me ask you something gently, but honestly. What if you’re not fighting your husband at all? What if the exhaustion you feel isn’t relational failure — but spiritual resistance? What if you’re standing in a war room, trying to fight a spirit with a spreadsheet
 Using communication tools for a battle that requires spiritual authority? Today, we’re talking about the invisible fight for your marriage. This episode is not about blaming your spouse. It’s about waking up discernment. It’s about calling intercessors back to their posts. Before we go any further — if this episode already feels like it’s reading your mail, pause for a second. Hit subscribe, leave a comment telling me where you’re listening/reading from, and share this with a sister who’s quietly fighting for her home. This message needs to reach the women who are tired of surface answers. BODY POINT 1 — The Three-Part Human & the Three-Part Marriage To understand why your marriage feels like a battlefield, we need to go back to foundation. " you have to understand who you are. As an African woman, this concept is second nature to me, and the Bible confirms it: Man is essentially a spirit, who has a soul, and lives in a body. Scripture is clear — you are a spirit, you have a soul, and you live in a body. And your marriage reflects that same three-part design. 1ïžâƒŁ The Physical Layer This is what most couples focus on: BillsChoresSexParenting logisticsWho did what, who didn’t This is Important — but not central. 2ïžâƒŁ The Soul Layer This is where therapy usually sits: EmotionsCommunication stylesAttachment patternsPersonality clashes Still important — but still not the root. 3ïžâƒŁ The Spiritual Layer This is the foundation of one flesh. This is where covenant lives. This is where unity is either protected or attacked. Now pay attention to what I’m about to say, in fact write this down: If you only work on behaviour and emotions, but ignore the spiritual layer, you leave the most important door wide open. You can regulate your tone. You can read your attachment style. You can learn conflict scripts. But if your marriage is under spiritual pressure — behavioural change alone won’t hold. You end up trying to fix a spiritual leak with emotional duct tape. And eventually
 it fails. III. BODY POINT 2 — The Red Flags of Spiritual Warfare The devil hates families. He hates covenant. He hates stability, safety, and generational healing. And no — saying “I do” does not make you immune. If anything, marriage puts a target on your back. Lets move forward quickly, How do you know if you are under spiritual warfare? : here are four signs that what you’re facing is more than a personality clash: đŸš© 1. The Escalation Loop Simple conversations escalates quickly or explode. For instance, You start talking about dishes
 And suddenly you’re fighting about respect, worth, and past wounds. Afterwards You walk away exhausted, feeling guilt or ashamed, and emotionally bruised because of what you said or how you behaved — every time. đŸš© 2. Another sign is The Counselling Wall When You’ve done therapy or couple counselling. and You’ve implemented strategies. But the atmosphere in your home doesn’t shift. instead YOUR Insight increases — but your intimacy doesn’t. đŸš©sign no 3. Strategy Fatigue When You’ve changed your tone. for example You’ve stopped “nagging.” You’ve tried silence, softness, and self-improvement. Yet the home still feels heavy. đŸš©sign no 4. The Blind Spot Everyone else can see a clear issue in your spouse — but he genuinely cannot. Or he Minimises it. Deflects or Spiritual numbness. That’s often not stubbornness — it’s a stronghold. Let me say this clearly: When common sense fails and counselling stalls, you are not dealing with immaturity. You are dealing with spiritual resistance. BODY POINT 3 — Let me introduce you to Your New Job Description: Intercessor It is time to stop discussing your marriage problems with every 'well-meaning' person. Unless that person is ready to go into the trenches of midnight prayer and fasting with you, they are just noise. Your ...
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  • EP. 46| NEW YEAR. NEW SPIRIT. DON'T JUST SLIDE INTO 2026
    Jan 5 2026
    New seasons are SPIRITUAL markers. As we step into 2026, let’s treat each transition with the respect it deserves. This year practice the following in your journey with God’s will before diving into your goals and vision boards! I hope this episode blesses you What’s your intention for this year? Let’s chat in the comments! Welcome to Emotional Healing for Christian Women. Thank You! For listening/Watching. ⁠I’m Marvel C. Adeyemi⁠, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women. ✅ Join my soulful restoration Christian women's retreat ⁠⁠ Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose
 If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships
 If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible. Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident. WHAT NEXT? ✅ Get ⁠free resources⁠ for guidance and healing from past wounds and finding clarity and purpose. ✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. ⁠E-book ⁠ and ⁠Paper back⁠ 📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: ⁠Book Here⁠ ✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share. ✅ Join my private ⁠face book group ⁠ ✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. ⁠https://marveladeyemi.com.au/⁠ ✅ Send me an⁠ email⁠ contact@wholesomecounselling.com Connect with me, online for Christian Counselling and coaching. I support high-achieving Christian women in Ballarat, Melbourne Victoria- Australia, and globally who are ready to transform their relationships through inner child healing and faith-led wisdom. 📱Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional. TRANSCRIPT Mav, this is a strong first draft already. What you were sensing is right: it needed more depth, flow, grounding, and emotional anchoring so it feels like a conversation you can live inside, not just points on a list. Below is a fully fleshed-out, podcast-ready script you can read smoothly on a teleprompter. It’s warm, confident, Gen Z / Gen Y friendly, spiritually rich, simple English, and solution-focused. I’ve woven in searchable Christian + spiritual keywords naturally (new season with God, spiritual alignment, prayer life, fasting, God’s will, Holy Spirit led life, intentional living, moving in silence, etc.). Podcast Script: Starting 2026 Strong — A Spirit-Led Blueprint for a New Season Intro Hey family. Happy 2026. We actually made it. And before we rush into goals, plans, or pressure
 I want to pause right here and ask you something gently: Did you just slide into this year
 or did you transition? Because there is a difference. Waking up on January 1st is automatic. But crossing over intentionally—that’s spiritual. This is not just a calendar change. This is a new season with God. A unique 12-month assignment. And if we’re not careful, 2026 can easily become 2025 part two. Not this time. Today, I want to give you a simple, spirit-led blueprint to start this year strong—emotionally, spiritually, and practically. No pressure. No hype. Just alignment. Point 1: Recognise the Power of a New Season Let me start here. I really hope you didn’t take this transition lightly. Because in the spiritual realm, new seasons matter. As Christians, we sometimes treat new months, birthdays, anniversaries, or even a new year like, “Oh
 it’s just another day.” But it’s not. In Scripture, seasons, times, and transitions are significant. They are markers. They are portals. They are moments of reset and realignment. And what’s interesting is this: People who aren’t even Christian understand this. They honour first days. They journal on birthdays. They set intentions on anniversaries. They don’t treat milestones casually. So why should we? This year, I want you to become intentional with transitions. When a new month starts—pause and pray. When it’s your birthday—don’t just celebrate, consecrate. When a new season begins—acknowledge it spiritually. Don’t just let life happen to you. Commence it with authority. Say, “God, I recognise this as a new season. I step into it consciously, not casually.” That alone will shift how you experience 2026. Point 2: Seek God’s Will Before You Set Goals Now let’s talk about goals—because I know that’s where everyone’s mind is. Vision boards. Plans. Big dreams. And I ...
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  • EP. 45| STOP PANICKING. THIS WILL CHANGE HOW YOU SEE YOUR SITUATION
    Dec 29 2025
    If you’re on holidays right now, save this episode for later—it’s one you’ll want to come back to when you need grounding, reassurance, and hope. In times of crisis, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed and lost—especially when it feels like you’ve run out of options. In this episode, we explore fear, faith, and God’s provision, drawing on powerful biblical stories to show how a shift in perspective can reveal the help that has been there all along. Welcome to Emotional Healing for Christian Women. Thank You! For listening/Watching. ⁠I’m Marvel C. Adeyemi⁠, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women. ✅ Join my soulful restoration Christian women's retreat ⁠⁠ Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose
 If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships
 If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible. Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident. WHAT NEXT? ✅ Get ⁠free resources⁠ for guidance and healing from past wounds and finding clarity and purpose. ✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. ⁠E-book ⁠ and ⁠Paper back⁠ 📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: ⁠Book Here⁠ ✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share. ✅ Join my private ⁠face book group ⁠ ✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. ⁠https://marveladeyemi.com.au/⁠ ✅ Send me an⁠ email⁠ Connect with me, online for Christian Counselling and coaching. I support high-achieving Christian women in Ballarat, Melbourne Victoria- Australia, and globally who are ready to transform their relationships through inner child healing and faith-led wisdom. TRANSCRIPT [0:00 - 1:30] THE PROPHETIC OPENING Host: "Welcome back. Today, I’m speaking to the person who feels like they’ve reached the end of their supply. You’re in a desert season, and the water in your bottle has run out. You’re looking at your dreams, your business, or your children, and you’re whispering, 'I can’t watch this die.' As your coach and as a student of the Word, I want to tell you: The provision you are crying for isn't coming—it’s already there. You just can’t see it yet. Today, we’re looking at Hagar and Abraham to unlock the spiritual sight required to see your 'Well' and your 'Ram.'" [1:30 - 4:30] SECTION 1: HAGAR – THE BLINDNESS OF PANIC (Genesis 21) Host: "Let’s look at Hagar in Genesis 21. She’s cast out. She’s in the desert of Beersheba. The Bible says she tucked her son, Ishmael, under a bush because she couldn’t bear to watch him die. She was sobbing. She was in a state of total nervous system collapse—survival mode at its peak. Prophetically, notice this: God hears the boy crying. He speaks to Hagar and says, 'What is the matter, Hagar? Do not be afraid.' And then, Genesis 21:19 says, 'Then God opened her eyes and she saw a well of water.' The Coaching Insight: The well didn't suddenly materialize out of thin air when she stopped crying. The well was likely there the whole time. But fear has a physiological and spiritual effect—it narrows your vision. Panic creates a 'scarcity blind spot.' You are so busy mourning the empty bottle in your hand that you cannot see the overflowing well at your feet. Is God not providing, or are you just too afraid to look up? I prophecy over you today: Your eyes are being opened. The 'Well' in your desert is about to be revealed." [4:30 - 7:30] SECTION 2: ABRAHAM – THE POSTURE OF FAITH (Genesis 22) Host: "Now, let’s pivot to a different mountain. Genesis 22. Abraham is walking up Moriah with Isaac—the son he waited 25 years for. Isaac, being a smart kid, asks the million-dollar question: 'Father, the fire and wood are here, but where is the lamb?' Abraham’s response is the ultimate masterclass in faith. He doesn't vent his anxiety. He doesn't complain about the 'unfairness' of the test. He says: 'God himself will provide the lamb for the burnt offering, my son.' The Theological Depth: Abraham wasn't lying to Isaac; he was speaking from a place of 'Postured Faith.' He knew that the God who gave the promise was responsible for the provision. He walked all the way to the point of no return—he actually raised the knife—before the intervention happened. And what happened? He looked up, and there, caught in a thicket, was a ram. The Lesson: For Hagar, the provision was a Well (sustenance for the journey). For Abraham, the provision was a Ram (a substitute for the sacrifice). God ...
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  • EP. 44| SILENT MOVES: LESSONS FROM THE CHRISTMAS STORY
    Dec 22 2025
    I know you're busy with family this Christmas, but save this episode/video for your quiet 'ghost era' moments. Why Your Calling Sometimes Needs a “Ghost Era” Ever felt like you had to explain your silence? Remember, your growth doesn’t need validation from others. Just like Joseph, sometimes you need to move quietly to protect what matters. đŸ€« What boundaries are you setting this holiday season? Let’s discuss in the comments! #Boundaries #ProtectYourPeace #Leadership #Mindfulness #ChristmasWisdom #IntentionalLiving Welcome to Emotional Healing for Christian Women. Thank You! For listening/Watching. ⁠I’m Marvel Adeyemi⁠, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women. ✅ Join my soulful restoration Christian women's retreat ⁠⁠ Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose
 If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships
 If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible. Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident. WHAT NEXT? ✅ Get ⁠free resources⁠ for guidance and healing from past wounds and finding clarity and purpose. ✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. ⁠E-book ⁠ and ⁠Paper back⁠ 📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: ⁠Book Here⁠ ✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share. ✅ Join my private ⁠face book group ⁠ ✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. ⁠https://marveladeyemi.com.au/⁠ ✅ Send me an email, contact@wholesomecounselling.com Connect with me, online for Christian Counselling and coaching. I support high-achieving Christian women or couples in Ballarat, Melbourne Victoria- Australia, and globally who are ready to transform their relationships through inner child healing and faith-led wisdom. 📱Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional. TRANSCRIPT The Silent Move: Why Your Calling Sometimes Needs a “Ghost Era” I know you're busy with family this Christmas, but save this episode/video for your quiet 'ghost era' moments. There’s a part of the Christmas story we don’t really talk about. And it has nothing to do with carols, decorations, or a peaceful manger. Let’s sit with Matthew chapter 2 for a moment — not in a churchy way, but in a real-life way. This part of the story isn’t romantic. It’s not soft. It’s about purpose under pressure. Not every season of your life is meant to be loud. Not every move needs to be announced. And not every chapter needs an audience. Some of the most important shifts you will ever make will happen quietly. The Bible tells us the Wise Men followed a star. People can debate theology, science, symbolism — but let’s bring it home. That star represents direction. Calling. A sense that your life matters. You have that too. You might not call it a “calling.” Maybe you call it a dream. A pull. A knowing. A restlessness that won’t let you settle for survival. And here’s what no one really prepares you for: The moment your star starts shining — even just a little — someone notices. Enter Herod. Herod wasn’t curious. He was threatened. He didn’t ask about Jesus because he wanted to honour Him. He asked because your growth threatens insecure systems. Your healing disrupts fragile power. Your clarity exposes dysfunction. And the danger isn’t always obvious at first. Sometimes it comes disguised as interest. As concern. As support. Herod asked questions long before he showed his rage. And that’s real life, isn’t it? Not everyone asking about your plans is rooting for you. Now here’s the part that really gets me. The Wise Men sensed something wasn’t right — and they didn’t confront Herod. They didn’t explain themselves. They didn’t send a long message. They simply
 went another way. No drama. No speech. No need to clear the air. They trusted their discernment. Some of the tension you’ve been feeling lately? The weird energy? The distance that suddenly feels necessary? It’s not because you’re cold. It’s because you’re learning discernment. And when Herod realised he’d lost control, he reacted violently. That matters. Because not everyone shows their true intentions when things are calm. Some people only reveal who they are when they realise they can’t control you anymore. Then there’s Joseph. And ...
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  • EP. 43| THE PSYCHOLOGY OF A HERO: WHEN FAITH RUNS ON FUMES
    Dec 15 2025
    Trusting your inner voice is crucial, especially when anxiety takes over. Your intuition may just be God's compass guiding you! How do you reconnect with your intuition during tough times? Share your thoughts below! Welcome to Emotional Healing for Christian Women. Thank You! For listening/Watching. ⁠I’m Marvel Adeyemi⁠, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women. ✅ Join my soulful restoration Christian women's retreat ⁠⁠ Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose
 If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships
 If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible. Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident. WHAT NEXT? ✅ Get ⁠free resources⁠ for guidance and healing from past wounds and finding clarity and purpose. ✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. ⁠E-book ⁠ and ⁠Paper back⁠ 📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: ⁠Book Here⁠ ✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share. ✅ Join my private ⁠face book group ⁠ ✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. ⁠https://marveladeyemi.com.au/⁠ ✅ Send me an⁠ EMAIL - contact@wholesomecounselling.com⁠ Connect with me, online for Christian Counselling and coaching. I support high-achieving Christian women or couples in Ballarat, Melbourne Victoria- Australia, and globally who are ready to transform their relationships through inner child healing and faith-led wisdom. 📱Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional. TRANSCRIPT Survival mode can quietly hijack your faith, cloud your clarity, and distort your moral compass. When your nervous system stays dysregulated, it constantly sounds danger alarms—leaving you anxious, reactive, and spiritually disconnected. Learning to recognise and trust those internal signals, without letting fear take the lead, is the first step toward emotional regulation, spiritual discernment, and lasting peace.” In this episode, we’re opening the Bible—not for a traditional theology lesson, but for a raw, psychological look at a hero running on fumes: King David, specifically in 1 Samuel chapter 27. This isn't the David of Goliath; this is David running on exhaustion, making flawed choices, and yet, still being covered by God's sovereign grace. We're talking about the painful reality of survival mode and how it can hijack your faith, your clarity, and your moral compass. Let's look at the truth about Saul. In this chapter, David says to himself, “I shall now perish one day by the hand of Saul.” Now, this statement wasn't theological; it was motivated by his exhaustion. But listen to the key insight: his intuition—that deep internal knowing—was right about Saul's intentions. Our intuition is often God's compass for guidance, especially when our analytical mind is spinning from stress. When you are constantly disregulated, your nervous system shouts warnings. Learning to trust that inner voice, even when you're afraid, is the first step toward reclaiming your peace. Because he was so desperate for refuge, David moved far away, seeking safety with Achish, the Philistine. Now, think about the irony here. Sometimes, the safety and validation we desperately need comes from an unexpected source—even someone we might consider an "enemy" or an outsider—while the people who should protect us (like Saul, his father-in-law, in your case that can be your father, your mother, sister, brother, friend can become the very source of our harm. This is validation for the listener who has had to create a chosen family because their biological one was toxic. God can use anyone, anywhere, to be the shield you need in a season of intense fear. However, this desperation leads to compromise. The Bible tells us that David deceived Achish, raiding the Amalekites but claiming he was attacking his own people in Judah. This is the ugly truth of survival mode. When we are fighting for our lives, our character often takes a hit. We do things we never thought we would do—deceive, manipulate, cut corners—just to stay afloat. I want to affirm the listener: If you’ve made compromises out of desperation, you are not alone. David, the "man after God's own heart," was there too. Acknowledge the lapse without letting shame consume YOU....
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  • EP. 42| MARRIED BUT LONELY (2) |HOW COUPLES THERAPY KEEPS YOU TRAPPED IN LONELINESS
    Dec 8 2025
    You can sleep beside someone every night and still feel completely alone. That’s the reality for so many women in emotionally one-sided marriages — and that’s exactly what we’re discussing int his episode. I hope this blesses you. Welcome to Emotional Healing for Christian Women. Thank You! For listening/Watching. ⁠I’m Marvel Adeyemi⁠, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women. ✅ Join my soulful restoration Christian women's retreat ⁠⁠ Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose
 If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships
 If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible. Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident. WHAT NEXT? ✅ Get ⁠free resources⁠ for guidance and healing from past wounds and finding clarity and purpose. ✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. ⁠E-book ⁠ and ⁠Paper back⁠ 📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: ⁠Book Here⁠ ✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share. ✅ Join my private ⁠face book group ⁠ ✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. ⁠https://marveladeyemi.com.au/⁠ ✅ Send me an⁠ email⁠ Connect with me, online for Christian Counselling and coaching. I support high-achieving Christian women or Couples in Ballarat, Melbourne Victoria- Australia, and globally who are ready to transform their relationships through inner child healing and faith-led wisdom. 📱Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional. TRANSCRIPT You can sleep beside someone every night and still feel completely alone. That’s the reality for so many women in emotionally one-sided marriages — and that’s exactly what we’re diving into today. Welcome back, beautiful sisters. Last week, we exposed the silent ache of being married but emotionally abandoned. We talked about detaching with wisdom
 not to escape the marriage, but to stop losing yourself inside it. But detaching is only step one. Today, we step into the deeper work — the rebuilding, the reclaiming, the rising. Because if you don’t do this inner work, you’ll swing between emotional extremes
 shutting down, acting out, or even walking away from a marriage that still has potential. Before we go further, let’s pause with compassion. Most emotionally unavailable husbands aren’t cruel — they’re unequipped. Many come from families with blurred boundaries, enmeshment, or emotional silence. They’ve never learned how to tune into their own feelings, let alone yours. Haven said that
 his journey is his responsibility. Your journey is yours. And today, we’re talking about your healing. Key 1: Stop Circling — Prioritise Your Healing I say this with love and authority as a marriage counsellor: Press pause on couples therapy. Why? Because when you’re detaching, couples therapy can keep you trapped in the same loop — waiting for him to “get it,” hoping he’ll finally validate you, trying to change someone who is not emotionally ready. Right now, the work is INWARD. This is the season to heal the original wounds: đŸ©¶ rejection đŸ©¶ abandonment đŸ©¶ unworthiness đŸ©¶ the grief of not being met emotionally This is where your power starts to rise. Key 2: Guard Your Heart (Yes — This Is Spiritual Warfare) Sis, your marriage may feel like the battleground, but your heart is the actual target. When emotional intimacy breaks with our lovers -our husbands, women often start questioning everything — their identity, their lovability, even their faith. The enemy wants your confidence. Your hope. Your purpose. Your Calling. Your gifts. Your spiritual clarity. But the war is won through simple, consistent practices: ✹ honest prayer ✹ grounding meditation ✹ daily declarations over your future ✹ choosing truth over emotional chaos Guarding your heart is wisdom. ✹ Quick Pause — A Message for the Woman Feeling Lost If you’ve been stuck in that exhausting cycle of explaining yourself
 crying silently
 feeling invisible
 and you’re ready for REAL healing, I want to invite you into my Emotional Healing For Christian Women’s group This is where we break the patterns, rebuild your identity, and restore your peace. If that tug in your chest is saying “I need this,” follow it. The link is in the description. 💛 Now
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  • EP 41| MARRIED BUT LONELY. WHY HE AVOIDS INTIMACY - HOW TO RESPOND
    Dec 1 2025
    Being married doesn't always mean being fulfilled. Are you feeling unseen? This week, I unpack the heavy burden of emotional loneliness in marriages. It's time to validate your feelings and reclaim your emotional space! What steps are you taking to nurture your emotional well-being? Drop a comment! Welcome to Emotional Healing for Christian Women. Thank You! For listening/Watching. ⁠I’m Marvel Adeyemi⁠, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women. ✅ Join my soulful restoration Christian women's retreat ⁠⁠ Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose
 If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships
 If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible. Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident. WHAT NEXT? ✅ Get ⁠free resources⁠ for guidance and healing from past wounds and finding clarity and purpose. ✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. ⁠E-book ⁠ and ⁠Paper back⁠ 📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: ⁠Book Here⁠ ✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share. ✅ Join my private ⁠face book group ⁠ ✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. ⁠https://marveladeyemi.com.au/⁠ ✅ Send me an⁠ email⁠ Connect with me, online for Christian Counselling and coaching. I support high-achieving Christian women or couples in Ballarat, Melbourne Victoria- Australia, and globally who are ready to transform their relationships through inner child healing and faith-led wisdom. 📱Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional. TRANSCRIPT Title: Understanding Loneliness in Marriage: Navigating Emotional Unavailability Introduction: In today's episode of the Emotional Healing for Women podcast, I unpacked a profound yet often unspoken struggle—feeling lonely within a marriage. Many women find themselves married but emotionally isolated, especially when their spouses are emotionally unavailable. In this episode, we’ll explore this issue, drawing insights from the podcast to provide understanding and actionable steps for those grappling with this painful experience. Main Content: Section 1: The Reality of Emotional Loneliness The podcast opens with a powerful statement: "You can be married and lonely." This resonates with many who experience emotional disconnection in their marriages. Mav emphasizes that emotional loneliness is not merely physical solitude but a deep sense of being unseen and unheard by one’s partner. This feeling can lead to confusion and self-doubt, particularly when one spouse feels neglected or invalidated by the other. Section 2: The Impact of Enmeshment A significant factor contributing to emotional unavailability is enmeshment within family dynamics. Mav explains that individuals from enmeshed families often struggle with blurred boundaries, making it hard to separate their emotional needs from those of their family members. This can lead to a spouse being emotionally occupied by unresolved family issues, resulting in their inability to connect with their partner. For example, first-born children often take on caregiving roles, which can diminish their ability to recognize and articulate their own emotional needs. Section 3: The Cycle of Emotional Avoidance The podcast highlights how emotionally unavailable husbands may not even recognize their avoidance. Mav points out that many individuals learn to navigate relationships without true emotional intimacy, leading to patterns of invalidation. This can leave the lonely spouse feeling dismissed, as one listener recounted, "My husband would just say, no, that’s all in your head." This dismissal can create a cycle where the wife feels increasingly isolated and confused. Section 4: The Consequences of Emotional Neglect Mav discusses the toll that emotional neglect can take on a woman's mental and physical health. Chronic stress from feeling invalidated can lead to various health issues, including fatigue and anxiety. Furthermore, many women may find that past emotional wounds resurface in their current relationships, especially if they grew up with emotionally unavailable parent figures, which can lead to heightened feelings of abandonment and rejection. Section 5: Taking Action Towards Healing Despite the challenges, Mav encourages listeners to take control of ...
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  • EP. 40 | STOP BEING THE GO-TO: YOUR "SUPER RESPONSIBLE" VIBE LEADS TO HFP BURNOUT
    Nov 24 2025
    Are you the family's go-to person? If you're a highly functioning woman (HFP) struggling with anxiety, insomnia, and a crippling need to take care of everyone else, this episode is your intervention. I discussed with Licensed Therapist Ibiye Oyali to spill the tea on the super responsible identity, where people-pleasing is driven by cultural expectations and the "first-born girl" narrative. There is a difference between healthy excellence and paralyzing perfectionism, why you feel guilty for saying "no," and how to set luminous boundaries that protect your peace. Get the simple, strategic steps you need for HFP recovery—starting with the 80% rule. Welcome to Emotional Healing for Christian Women. Thank You! For listening/Watching. ⁠I’m Marvel C. Adeyemi⁠, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women. ✅ Join my soulful restoration Christian women's retreat ⁠⁠ Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose
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 If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible. Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident. WHAT NEXT? ✅ Get ⁠free resources⁠ for guidance and healing from past wounds and finding clarity and purpose. ✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. ⁠E-book ⁠ and ⁠Paper back⁠ 📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: ⁠Book Here⁠ ✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share. ✅ Join my private ⁠face book group ⁠ ✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. ⁠https://marveladeyemi.com.au/⁠ ✅ Send me an⁠ email⁠ Connect with me, online for Christian Counselling and coaching. I support high-achieving Christian women in Ballarat, Melbourne Victoria- Australia, and globally who are ready to transform their relationships through inner child healing and faith-led wisdom. 📱Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional. TRANSCRIPT Mav: Hey, hey, hey, welcome everyone. Today's show is going to be very exciting and I'm already pumped up to hear everything about the high functioning processing. And with me today on the show is Ibinye. Ibinye is back today. Ibinye, thank you so much for coming in again. Mav: Ibinye Oyali is a licensed marriage and family therapist, as well as a coach for highly sensitive women. As a coach, she helps women manage big emotions, stand up by themselves, by certain healthy boundaries, and finally stop people pleasing. And as a therapist, her practice focuses on anxiety, insomnia, and couples' relationships. Mav: She works with high achieving women who struggle with anxiety and the need to take care of everyone else. She helps couples learn how to communicate better, create a stronger connection and resolve conflicts faster. Finally, she helps people with insomnia quickly fall asleep and stay asleep without pills or drastically changing their lifestyle. I think that is really holistic. Mav: Welcome, Ibiya. Thank you so much for having me back, Marvel. So today we're going to discuss, as I introduced earlier, the highly functioning pressing. Ibiya, please tell me, in your own expertise and experience and clinical observations, who would you say is a highly functioning pressing? So in my practice, Mav: I like to call them the super responsible member of the family. That's how I like to describe them. So the one person that everybody can turn to, whether at work, even at home, because it bleeds from the home to the workplace to friendships. The one person everybody calls when they need help, the one person who organizes everything, she is like the center of everybody's world. Mav: She takes care of everyone even before taking care of her own self. So that is how I would describe the high functioning person. Interesting. The go-to person who seems to be able to focus on what other people's needs are and helping them meet it most likely would be prioritizing their needs last. Yes, exactly. Sometimes they don't even know that they have needs. Mav: dear, wow. So what I'm imagining the highly functioning person would be would probably be, is it when they have really just burnt off or shut down, then they are now forced to confront their own needs, emotional needs in particular? Yes. So they get to a point where they're feeling completely overwhelmed. Mav: The burden on ...
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