Episodes

  • 27|SOULFUL RESTORATION WOMEN'S RETREAT LAUNCHING

    27|SOULFUL RESTORATION WOMEN'S RETREAT LAUNCHING
    Aug 12 2025
    TRANSCRIPT You know I’m a psychotherapist… but I’ll tell you this — sometimes, your deepest healing happens in connection with people who truly get you. And in my years of walking alongside high-achieving Christian women — as a therapist, as a coach, and as a sister in Christ — I’ve realised I’m not alone in this. This is exactly why retreats and wellness experiences are in such high demand right now: because they work. They pull you out of your everyday routine, place you in a safe, nurturing environment, and surround you with people who share similar values and life experiences. You feel seen. You feel heard. You feel human again. It’s not just about taking time off — it’s about creating space for deep emotional restoration, meaningful connection, and a reset for your body, mind, and spirit. Why Retreats Matter Now, let’s talk about retreats. A retreat is not just a getaway. It’s a sacred pause. An intentional stepping back from your everyday — not to escape your life, but to return to it renewed, lighter, and more grounded in who God says you are. Retreats are fantastic experiences because they pull you out of autopilot. They break your routine just enough that you can finally hear your own thoughts… and God’s voice. When you’re in a space surrounded by women who understand your values, your struggles, and your hopes, something powerful happens. You feel seen. You feel safe. You feel like you belong — without having to perform for it. My Story & The Gap I Saw I’ve been attending retreats since I was a teenager in church. And they were beautiful — I learned scripture, I grew spiritually, I built friendships. But over the years, I noticed something: Few leaders spoke openly about the pain of rejection or the ache of abandonment. Practical tools for navigating burnout were missing. And there was little space to unpack how perfectionism and people-pleasing were quietly stealing our joy. I saw so many women — smart, capable, even admired — who were performing to get noticed, validated, or loved. Outwardly confident, but inwardly tired. What I See as a Therapist And now, after more than 10 years as a psychotherapist, I can tell you: those unaddressed wounds don’t just fade away. They show up in our marriages, in our friendships, in our work. They make us overextend, overcommit, and over give until there’s nothing left. High-achieving Christian women, especially in their 20s and 30s, often come to me not because they’ve lost their faith — but because they’ve lost themselves somewhere along the way. They want to rest without guilt. They want tools grounded in both faith and psychology. They want to connect deeply with women who just get it — no explanations, no masks. Why Retreats are Powerful for Healing This is where retreats shine. When you’re away from the pressure of daily life — away from the constant doing, fixing, and caring for others — your nervous system finally exhales. You start to process things you’ve been carrying for years. In conversations over shared meals, during walks in nature, or in quiet moments of prayer, you’re able to go beyond the “I’m fine” answers and speak your truth… and be met with understanding, not judgment. It’s a safe space to release, to heal, and to remember who you are before the world told you who to be. Introducing Soulful Restoration That’s why I created Soulful Restoration — a 4-day, 3-night Christian women’s healing retreat in beautiful Victoria, Australia. It’s a Christ-centred, professionally guided space for just 8 women — designed to help you rest deeply, heal safely, and reconnect with your true self. Here’s what you can expect: Luxury coastal accommodation Delicious, nourishing meals Guided therapeutic sessions with me as your facilitator Soothing live music A curated excursion to the hot springs Time in nature for reflection and prayer An intimate sisterhood where you’ll be truly seen No New Age techniques. No ministry “fluff.” Just honest, faith-rooted emotional care in a breath taking setting. November 13–16, 2025 Victoria, Australia Imagine 100 days from now — walking away lighter, clearer, and more confident in God’s call for your life. Call to Action If your heart is stirring right now, there’s a link in the description with all the details. Go have a look — spaces are limited, and I would love for you to be part of this. And remember — if you haven’t subscribed yet, now’s the time. Like, share, leave a review, and send this to a friend who needs to hear it. You never know whose healing journey you might spark. Until next time, stay calm, stay confident, stay beautiful.
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    8 mins
  • 26| HEALING FROM FAMILY REJECTION AND FINDING YOUR PLACE

    26| HEALING FROM FAMILY REJECTION AND FINDING YOUR PLACE
    Aug 4 2025
    Hear this truth: You are not crazy, and you are not too sensitive. You've endured deep family rejection from those who should have been your safest haven. And yes, you were likely blackmailed or punished for circumstances that were not your fault. This is the painful reality for many Christian women seeking emotional healing from family of origin trauma. Welcome to Emotional Healing for Christian Women. Thank You! For listening/Watching. ⁠I’m Marvel C. Adeyemi⁠, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women. Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose… If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships… If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible. Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident. WHAT NEXT? ✅ Download my ⁠free resources⁠ for guidance and healing from past wounds and finding clarity and purpose. ✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. ⁠E-book ⁠ and ⁠Paper back⁠ 📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: ⁠Book Here⁠ ✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share. ✅ Join my private ⁠face book group ⁠ ✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. ⁠https://marveladeyemi.com.au/⁠ ✅ Send me an⁠ email⁠ 📢Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional. Soulful Restoration is a 3-day healing retreat in beautiful coastal Victoria. A retreat with real conversations, meaningful connections, and deep spiritual renewal. designed for: Deep restfor your body, mind, and soul.Mental and spiritual claritythrough inspirational workshops, mindfulness, and hands-on creative sessions.Emotional renewalthrough guided aromatherapy and safe, soul-nourishing connection with other like-minded women.Luxurious accommodationand beautiful and nourishing meals.Rooted in Christian faith— No New Age or Eastern practices.Open to all womenwith a willing heart — you don’t need to be a Christian to attend. You’ve been misunderstood — by family, culture, or even your faith community. Maybe you’ve survived abuse, neglect, or simply feel alone, tired, and unsure of your purpose. If that’s you, this deeply restorative, faith-led retreat is for you. Co-facilitated by an Organisational Psychologist and an aromatherapy coach — both recently nominated for the 2025. Join here TRANSCRIPT When faced with rejection, take a moment to pause, acknowledge your emotions, and observe silence. Use this time to pray with gratitude. Seek professional counselling. Rejection can be a divine signal that God is preparing you for a greater purpose. Avoid the temptation to gossip, as this can exacerbate the situation. Instead, focus on the path forward. Look to biblical figures like Joseph and Jephthah, who exemplify resilience in the face of rejection. Forgiveness is also key. Remember that those who have wronged you may cross your path again. Respond with kindness, knowing that God often uses the very people who have hurt us to test our character. And remarkably, it's often those same individuals who will eventually ask for your help and seek to extend a hand of friendship and fellowship. SEO Keywords (for description/text): Christian women emotional healing Family rejection healing Family of origin wounds Healing from unfair punishment Emotional pain validation Christian trauma recovery Self-worth Christian women Overcoming family hurt Finding peace after rejection Christian therapy support Hashtags (for social media/podcast platforms): #ChristianHealing #FamilyRejection #EmotionalHealing #ChristianWomen #FamilyOfOriginWounds #UnfairPunishment #TraumaRecovery #SelfWorth #FaithAndHealing #HealingJourney #wholesomecounselling services #marveladeyemi Deep Research
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    18 mins
  • 25| From Pain to Purpose: How My Healing Journey Became a Kingdom Calling

    25| From Pain to Purpose: How My Healing Journey Became a Kingdom Calling
    Jul 28 2025
    You might be surprised to learn that just last week, I received an unexpected email from the Australian Christian Business Awards. I’ve been nominated — and honestly, it moved me deeply. But as humbled as I am… what matters most to me isn’t the nomination. It’s the story that brought me here. Thank you for being part of this community. Your subscription, like, sharing and comments, are what keeps me going, and I’m deeply grateful. 💫 Let me know which one resonates most with you—and what topics you’d love to hear me explore. Also you can contact me directly using the following link: Soulful Restoration Christian women Retreat Thank You! For listening/Watching. ⁠I’m Marvel C. Adeyemi⁠, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women. Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose… If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships… If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible. Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident. WHAT NEXT? ✅ Download my ⁠free resources⁠ for guidance and healing from past wounds and finding clarity and purpose. ✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. ⁠E-book ⁠ and ⁠Paper back⁠ 📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: ⁠Book Here⁠ ✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share. ✅ Join my private ⁠face book group ⁠ ✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. ⁠https://marveladeyemi.com.au/⁠ ✅ Send me an⁠ email⁠ 📢Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional. TRANSCRIPT You might be surprised to learn that just last week, I received an unexpected email from the Australian Christian Business Awards. I’ve been nominated — and honestly, it moved me deeply. But as humbled as I am… what matters most to me isn’t the nomination. It’s the story that brought me here what looks like clarity and confidence today… actually started in quiet, hidden places. Moments where I questioned everything. Moments where I didn’t feel qualified — just called. Hi lovely, I’m Marvel Adeyemi — trauma-informed psychotherapist, faith-led women’s coach, and the voice behind Emotional Healing for Christian Women. Today, I want to pull back the curtain and share a bit of the why behind the work — and how God has been unfolding something greater than I imagined. From therapy sessions to podcasts, to books, speaking platforms and looking to host my first retreat — this is not just a business… it’s an assignment. Let me tell you the story behind it all. I was already a qualified counsellor overseas. I had experience. A practice. But when I moved to Australia, I had to start all over again. No Medicare access. No professional network. A young family in tow. I felt… invisible. Overqualified and under-recognised. But even in that hidden place, God was birthing something. He was refining my voice, deepening my empathy, preparing me — not just for clients, but for women carrying deep emotional wounds… just like I had. I didn’t start this work from strategy. I started it from surrender. From a place of pain… and obedience. Women kept finding me — Christian women who were high-achieving on the outside, but hurting silently on the inside. They didn’t just need strategy. They needed healing. They didn’t just need coaching. They needed God and clinical safety — in one space. That’s where my work began to take shape. Today, I provide trauma-informed therapy and Christian coaching for women navigating emotional wounds, family-of-origin pain, rejection, relationship struggles, and spiritual confusion. I hold space for women who have never truly felt safe — not in their families, not in their churches, and not in their own bodies. I combine clinical practices like EMDR with biblical wisdom, spiritual discernment, and prophetic insight. And the results? Healing happens faster. Deeper. More completely. I’m not here to fix people. I’m here to walk with them back to wholeness — the kind only God gives. Without running ads or chasing visibility, my podcast has reached Australia, the US, the UK, and Nigeria. Blog posts I wrote in my living room led to speaking invitations from organisations like FBAA, who found my writing and said, “We want a psychotherapist who truly understands ...
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  • 24| Emotional Healing After Rejection

    24| Emotional Healing After Rejection
    Jul 21 2025
    Rejection is complex because it often taps into our deepest emotional wounds. grab a cuppa and notebook. Lets begin this conversation. Let me know which one speaks to your heart 🤍 Your review on my podcast platform helps others find us—and means so much to me 🌟 Thank you for being part of this movement. Your encouragement is what keeps me going, and I’m deeply grateful 💫 Thank You! For listening. A place to Exhale | Something beautiful is coming! Has anyone else noticed how rare it is to find a retreat made for Christian women—where brilliance meets beauty, a faith-anchored space where women of purpose, but also with deep emotional needs can pause, heal, rest and reconnect with God, and be gently restored—body, mind and spirit. Not a busy conference. Not just another wellness event. A retreat with real conversations, meaningful connections, and deep spiritual renewal. As a Christian psychotherapist, I often hear this same desire from women I journey with: “I wish there was a space like that for people like me.” ✨ Calling High-Achieving Christian Women in Need of Soulful Restoration ✨ So, I’m prayerfully exploring the idea of a therapeutic retreat created just for us—guided by clinical insight, Where every conversation feels like divine alignment. Where laughter, tears, and truth are held gently in sisterhood formed in righteousness. If this speaks to you, I’d truly love to hear what you’d hope for in a retreat experience. You don’t need to be a Christian—just open to rest, reflection, and meaningful connection. I’ve created a short form for expressions of interest https://forms.gle/FSxuitvNTT3cBQzt8. No pressure—just an invitation to shape something meaningful, if the Lord leads. So grateful for this community! Every response received matters and every suggestion is heard 💖. You are the encouragement I have to continue this movement. ⁠I’m Marvel C. Adeyemi⁠, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women. Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose… If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships… If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible. Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident. WHAT NEXT? ✅ Download my ⁠free resources⁠ for guidance and healing from past wounds and finding clarity and purpose. ✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. ⁠E-book ⁠ and ⁠Paper back⁠ 📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: ⁠Book Here⁠ ✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share. ✅ Join my private ⁠face book group ⁠ ✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. ⁠https://marveladeyemi.com.au/⁠ ✅ Send me an⁠ email⁠ 📢Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional. PODCAST TRANSCRIPT ) The Story of Rejection – My Own Journey Emotional Healing After Rejection (Christian Perspective) Many years ago, after graduating from university with a degree in English Language and Literature, I had a close friend. We were "ride or die," singing together in our church's youth choir for years. Our bond felt unbreakable. After we graduated, she formed a new singing group. They started getting features on television, churches were inviting them to perform, and I, naturally, wished to be a part of it. I discussed it with her, since she hadn't invited me. Her words were clear, and they stung: she told me I wasn't a "good fit." Even more, she said she would no longer be as close with me, as she had "found a new tribe." That hurt. Deeply. It felt like a profound personal rejection. My mum, of blessed memory, always told me, "Every disappointment is a blessing in disguise for a child of God." So, I held onto that, believing I wasn't meant to be part of that group. I went on seeking a career. At the time, I hadn't found an employment opportunity that felt truly "worth it" for my qualifications, so being part of the group felt like it would keep me busy. But God, as always, had other plans for me. Not much longer after that, I secured employment with a multinational organization, earning a significant six-figure income – that was huge back then! It truly helped meet my needs and my family's needs at the time. Just a few months later, my husband proposed, and I began planning our wedding. Fast forward to today, and I'm a ...
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    19 mins
  • 23 | FOUR SIGNS YOU ARE TRULLY HEALING EMOTIONALLY

    23 | FOUR SIGNS YOU ARE TRULLY HEALING EMOTIONALLY
    Jul 14 2025
    These are four profound signs you are truly healing emotionally....grab a cuppa and notebook. Lets begin this conversation. Let me know which one speaks to your heart 🤍 Your review on my podcast platform helps others find us—and means so much to me 🌟 Thank you for being part of this movement. Your encouragement is what keeps me going, and I’m deeply grateful 💫 A place to Exhale | Something beautiful is coming! Has anyone else noticed how rare it is to find a retreat made for Christian women—where brilliance meets beauty, a faith-anchored space where women of purpose, but also with deep emotional needs can pause, heal, rest and reconnect with God, and be gently restored—body, mind and spirit. Not a busy conference. Not just another wellness event. A retreat with real conversations, meaningful connections, and deep spiritual renewal. As a Christian psychotherapist, I often hear this same desire from women I journey with: “I wish there was a space like that for people like me.” ✨ Calling High-Achieving Christian Women in Need of Soulful Restoration ✨ So, I’m prayerfully exploring the idea of a therapeutic retreat created just for us—guided by clinical insight, Where every conversation feels like divine alignment. Where laughter, tears, and truth are held gently in sisterhood formed in righteousness. If this speaks to you, I’d truly love to hear what you’d hope for in a retreat experience. You don’t need to be a Christian—just open to rest, reflection, and meaningful connection. I’ve created a short form for expressions of interest https://forms.gle/FSxuitvNTT3cBQzt8. No pressure—just an invitation to shape something meaningful, if the Lord leads. So grateful for this community! Every response received matters and every suggestion is heard 💖. You are the encouragement I have to continue this movement.TRANSCRIPT OF THIS PODCAST IS AT THE BOTTOM OF THE PAGE. Welcome to Emotional Healing for Christian Women. Thank You! For listeninG. ⁠I’m Marvel C. Adeyemi⁠, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women. Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose… If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships… If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible. Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident. WHAT NEXT? ✅ Download my ⁠free resources⁠ for guidance and healing from past wounds and finding clarity and purpose. ✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. ⁠E-book ⁠ and ⁠Paper back⁠ 📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: ⁠Book Here⁠ ✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share. ✅ Join my private ⁠face book group ⁠ ✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. ⁠https://marveladeyemi.com.au/⁠ ✅ Send me an⁠ email - MAV.WHOLESOMECOUNSELS@HOTMAIL.COM⁠ 📢Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional. TRANSCRIPT Signs of Emotional Healing for Christian WomenHost: Hi lovely, it’s Marvel, and welcome back to "Emotional Healing for Christian Women," the podcast dedicated to guiding you through your journey of wholeness in Christ. In our "Heal First, Love Better" series, we've talked about why emotional healing is so crucial, especially before you step into new relationships. Today, I want to share something incredibly empowering: the signs you know you're truly healing emotionally. This isn't about perfection, but about progress – recognizing the beautiful shifts in your heart and life. (0:45) Sign 1: You Stop Reacting, You Start ReflectingOne of the most profound signs you're healing, my dear sister, is when you stop reacting and start reflecting. You'll notice you're not getting mad over the same old triggers, or sinking into the deep pit of self-pity. The constant "why me?" begins to fade, replaced by a new, powerful question: "What would You have me do with this experience, Lord?" This is a monumental shift. It means you've begun to recognize that if God allowed you to go through the abuse, the disappointment, the pain, and you're still here – sane, alive, and listening to this – surely there is a purpose for your pain. You're moving from victimhood to victorious, understanding that your suffering is not wasted, but can be redeemed and used for His glory. This is a key step in overcoming emotional ...
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    11 mins
  • 22 |HEALING PRAYERS FOR CHRISTIAN SINGLES | PREPARING YOUR HEART FOR A GODLY SPOUSE

    22 |HEALING PRAYERS FOR CHRISTIAN SINGLES | PREPARING YOUR HEART FOR A GODLY SPOUSE
    Jul 8 2025
    You are that beautiful, high-achieving godly woman healing from past pain, waiting for love, or rebuilding your heart — these prayers are for you. Let’s pray together — gently, honestly, and anchored in God’s Word. Welcome to Emotional Healing for Christian Women. Transcript is below the Page. Thank You! For listening. ⁠I’m Marvel C. Adeyemi⁠, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women. Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose… If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships… If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible. Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident. WHAT NEXT? ✅ Download my ⁠free resources⁠ for guidance and healing from past wounds and finding clarity and purpose. ✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. ⁠E-book ⁠ and ⁠Paper back⁠ 📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: ⁠Book Here⁠ ✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share. ✅ Join my private ⁠face book group ⁠ ✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. ⁠https://marveladeyemi.com.au/⁠ ✅ Send me an⁠ email⁠ 📢Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional. Prayer to Heal Family of Origin Wounds Heavenly Father, I bring You the pain from my past. The places where I felt unseen, unheard, or unloved — I lay them at Your feet. Your Word says in Jeremiah 30:17, "I will restore health to you and heal you of your wounds," declares the Lord. So I trust You, God — restore the broken parts of me. In Jesus’ name, Amen. Prayer to Release Past Hurt & Trauma Lord, I’m tired of carrying this pain. I lay down the bitterness, the resentment, and every memory that still hurts. Help me forgive — even when it’s hard. Your Word says in Psalm 147:3, "You heal the brokenhearted and bind up their wounds." Heal me, Lord — bind me back together with Your love. Amen. Prayer for the Inner Child Father, Speak tenderly to the little girl inside me — the part of me that still feels afraid, alone, or not good enough. In Psalm 23:3, Your Word says, "You restore my soul. You lead me beside still waters. You are my Shepherd." So I rest in Your arms. Hold the young me — and tell her she is safe now. Amen. Prayer to Overcome Self-Doubt God, Silence every voice that says I’m not enough. Let Your truth be louder than the lies I’ve believed. Your Word says in Psalm 139:14, "I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Your works are wonderful, I know that full well." I receive that truth into my heart today. Amen. Prayer for Freedom from People-Pleasing Lord, I don’t want to keep living for the approval of others. Set me free from the need to be liked, and help me focus on pleasing You. As it says in Galatians 1:10, "If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ." Give me courage to set boundaries with love and wisdom. Amen. PART 2: Prayers for Love & Healthy Relationships Prayer for a Godly Spouse Father, I pray for a partner who puts You first — a man of integrity, kindness, and faith. Your Word says in Matthew 6:33, "Seek first the Kingdom of God… and all these things will be added to you." So I seek You — and trust You with the rest. Amen. Prayer for Emotional Safety God, I long for a love that is patient and kind, not confusing or painful. I want love that reflects Yours. Your Word in 1 Corinthians 13:4 reminds us, "Love is patient, love is kind… it keeps no record of wrongs." That’s the kind of love I wait for — nothing less. Amen. Prayer for Discernment Lord, Help me see clearly. Don’t let loneliness cloud my judgment. Give me wisdom to know what’s from You — and what’s not. Your Word says in James 1:5, "If anyone lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, and it will be given generously." So I ask You now — guide my heart and my steps. Amen. Prayer for Patience While Waiting Father, It’s hard to wait. But I know You’re not withholding — You’re preparing. Strengthen me while I wait. In Isaiah 40:31, Your Word promises, "Those who wait on the Lord will renew their strength… they will walk and not grow weary." Help me wait in peace, not panic. Amen. Prayer for Protection from Red Flags Lord, If it’s not from You — let it fall apart. Open my eyes to see every red flag and close the door to anything ...
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  • 21| DON'T DATE UNHEALED | WHY EMOTIONAL HEALING MATTERS BEFORE DATING

    21| DON'T DATE UNHEALED | WHY EMOTIONAL HEALING MATTERS BEFORE DATING
    Jun 30 2025
    Today’s episode is simple, but powerful. Before you pray for a husband… Before you call that connection “God-ordained”... Ask yourself: This one question... Because the truth is: unhealed pain doesn’t go away just because we want to be loved. I hope this episode blesses you. Please remember to follow, leave a review and share. Thank You! For listening. ⁠I’m Marvel C. Adeyemi⁠, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women. Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose… If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships… If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible. Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident. WHAT NEXT? ✅ Download my ⁠free resources⁠ for guidance and healing from past wounds and finding clarity and purpose. ✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. ⁠E-book ⁠ and ⁠Paper back⁠ 📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: ⁠Book Here⁠ ✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share. ✅ Join my private ⁠face book group ⁠ ✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. ⁠https://marveladeyemi.com.au/⁠ ✅ Send me an⁠ email⁠ 📢Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional. TRANSCRIPT Today, I want to sit with you heart to heart. This isn’t going to be a long teaching. It’s not even going to be filled with a hundred tips. It’s just one question. One that could change everything about how you approach love, Before you pray for a husband… Before you call that connection “God-ordained”... Ask yourself: Am I choosing love from my healing — or from my wounds? Because the truth is: unhealed pain doesn’t go away just because we want to be loved. It shows up in how we see ourselves, how we settle, and who we say “yes” to. when you haven’t healed, you won’t just feel lonely — You’ll feel unworthy. Insecure. Silent in rooms where you should speak. And that doesn’t just affect your confidence at work or in friendships — It affects who you let close to your heart. Let me tell you a real story — shared with permission — that captures this perfectly. Amanda was beautiful. Resourceful. A university graduate. But somewhere along the way, life chipped away at her self-esteem. So she took a job far below her qualifications. Every day, she worked beside people who had the same degree — but they were leading teams, presenting ideas, getting promoted. She dressed plainly. She avoided attention. And she quietly assumed, “Maybe I’m just unlucky. Maybe this is all I’m worth.” She couldn’t say no. She avoided asking for help. She stayed quiet — and small — even when she had ideas. Then… the attention started. Not from the man she hoped would notice her — a respectful, professional Christian colleague who kept his boundaries and showed no mixed signals. But from other men. One by one, they started coming around. A married colleague asked her out. Another — who openly used drugs and alcohol — started spending time with her. And she let him. Not because she didn’t know better. But because something in her still felt: “This is the best I can get.” He’d call her after work. Visit her. Stay on the phone for hours. She knew it wasn’t aligned with her values. But it felt like affection. Like attention. And that… felt like love. Until one weekend — she called his line. And his friend answered: “He can’t come to the phone… he’s at his customary wedding.” Her heart broke. Deep down, she had known. But she stayed — because the fear of being lonely was louder than the fear of being used. Later, when she confronted him, he said something that shook her: “I was dating you both… just waiting to see who was ready to marry first.” That moment — that heartbreak — became her turning point. She asked herself, for the first time: “What is it about the way I show up… that makes emotionally unavailable, dishonorable men feel comfortable with me?” And the truth? It wasn’t her fault. But it was her responsibility to heal. What most people didn’t know was that Amanda’s parents divorced when she was just 10 years old. Her father remarried quickly, found a new sense of purpose in his new church community, and became a committed husband — just not to her mother...
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  • WHY THAT RELATIONSHIP FEELS OFF.

    WHY THAT RELATIONSHIP FEELS OFF.
    Jun 24 2025
    Why that relationship feels off, could be because it is trauma familiarity. Here’s what I’ve learned about trauma: It doesn’t always show up as pain. Sometimes, it shows up as familiar. It teaches your nervous system, “This is what love feels like” — even if it’s unsafe. Even if it hurts. But just because it feels familiar doesn’t mean it’s right. Welcome to Emotional Healing for Christian Women. Thank You! For listening. Podcast Transcript is at the bottom of this page. I’m Marvel C. Adeyemi⁠, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women. Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose… If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships… If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible. Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident. WHAT NEXT? ✅ Download my ⁠free resources⁠ for guidance and healing from past wounds and finding clarity and purpose. ✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. ⁠E-book ⁠ and ⁠Paper back⁠ 📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: ⁠Book Here⁠ ✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share. ✅ Join my private ⁠face book group ⁠ ✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. ⁠https://marveladeyemi.com.au/⁠ ✅ Send me an⁠ email⁠ 📢Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional. Transcript: God Didn’t Send Him — Trauma Did You were right all along… something felt off, didn’t it? I thought he was an answer to prayer… but he was actually a reflection of my pain. I convinced myself it was “God’s will,” but really — it was just familiar dysfunction wrapped in hope. Have you ever spiritually justified someone who constantly triggered your anxiety, ignored your boundaries, or made you feel like you were asking for too much? Let’s talk about it — honestly, gently, and without judgment. Here’s what I’ve learned about trauma: It doesn’t always show up as pain. Sometimes, it shows up as familiar. It teaches your nervous system, “This is what love feels like” — even if it’s unsafe. Even if it hurts. But just because it feels familiar doesn’t mean it’s right. And can I just say this gently? This was never about shame — it’s about clarity. Because when you finally name the pattern… you take the first step toward breaking it. The truth is: not every relationship that feels intense is from God. Sometimes, it’s not divine alignment. Sometimes… it’s trauma reenactment. I’ve heard this story so many times — from women who are smart, prayerful, and deeply faithful… Women who love God but find themselves entangled in painful relationships that mirror the rejection, chaos, or emotional abandonment they experienced growing up. So when someone triggers your abandonment wound or treats you how your emotionally unavailable parent did… Your body might interpret that as chemistry — not danger. Trauma doesn’t just make you tolerate red flags. It trains you to chase them. Let me give you a real-life example from my practice (shared with permission, details changed for privacy): A woman I worked with kept getting involved with men who were emotionally distant — but spiritual on the surface. One man would pray with her on Monday… then ghost her by Friday. She stayed, hoping he’d change. Why? Because deep down, it wasn’t just about him. It was about a father who was present in the church… but absent in her emotional world. And when this man repeated that pattern, it felt like home. Until she did the healing work, she kept calling it “God’s process.” But really… it was unresolved trauma calling her back to familiar pain. The wilderness is lonely. Quiet. Uncomfortable. But sometimes God leads us there… not to punish us, but to heal our choosing pattern. To reset our nervous system. To remind us: You don’t need to earn love. You already are loved. Another one? In Genesis 29, Jacob loves Rachel — but gets Leah on the wedding night. He labors seven more years for love. Some of us are still laboring emotionally for someone who isn’t even ours to carry. But God never told you to work for love — He offered it freely. And until you receive His love as your anchor, you’ll keep chasing human connections that destabilize you. if you’re listening and ...
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