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Do You F*cking Mind?

Do You F*cking Mind?

By: Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa
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 Mindset hacks for a badass life, hosted by cognitive neuroscientist Alexis Fernandez. On Mondays my episodes are a combo of neuroscience and psychology. I deep dive into everything from habit formation and how to live a carefree life, to friendships and heartbreak. And on Fridays we've got Head Noise - where I answer your questions! Email info@dyfmpod.com to submit your questions. Order your copy of my latest book How to Chase Change at https://bit.ly/44xwszR . Hygiene & Healthy Living Personal Development Personal Success Psychology Psychology & Mental Health
Episodes
  • The Reset You Actually Need - Day 7. More self trust - stop negotiating with your own excuses

    The Reset You Actually Need - Day 7. More self trust - stop negotiating with your own excuses
    Jan 19 2026
    Self-trust doesn’t disappear because you fail. It erodes because you keep negotiating with yourself and breaking the deal. In Day 7 of The Reset You Actually Need, we talk about why so many people struggle to trust themselves, even when they’re capable, intelligent, and motivated, and how constant internal negotiation quietly destroys confidence. This mini episode explores: Why every excuse sounds reasonable in your own voice The difference between a valid reason and a repeated pattern How negotiating with yourself teaches your brain that your word is flexible Why discipline isn’t harsh, it’s relieving and freeing The balance between self-compassion and accountability Why small promises matter more than big goals Self-trust isn’t built through motivation, grit, or hype. It’s built through follow-through. When you stop arguing with yourself, life gets simpler. Decisions feel lighter. Confidence starts to return naturally. This episode is about becoming someone who does what they say, without punishment, drama, or burnout. Part of a 10-day mini-series designed to help you reset your mindset, rebuild self-trust, and move through the year with clarity and calm self-leadership. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    23 mins
  • The Reset You Actually Need - Day 6. How to stop feeling disappointed and regain control over your life

    The Reset You Actually Need - Day 6. How to stop feeling disappointed and regain control over your life
    Jan 18 2026
    The Reset You Actually Need Feeling constantly disappointed in people, in situations, or in yourself is exhausting. In this episode of The Reset You Actually Need, we unpack why disappointment is rarely about bad luck, and more often about repeating the same patterns, ignoring behaviour, and abandoning your own boundaries often without realising it. This episode explores: Why disappointment is often self-created (and how to stop doing that) How repeating the same goals or relationships erodes self-trust Why listening to words instead of behaviour keeps you stuck The psychology of repeated rejection and loss of control How taking responsibility restores agency (without self-blame) Why self-respect is the fastest way back to emotional stability This isn’t about becoming cynical or emotionally closed off. It’s about regaining control by changing what you tolerate, repeat, and negotiate with. If you’re tired of feeling let down, drained, or stuck in cycles that keep hurting you, this episode will help you reset your expectations, rebuild self-trust, and move forward with clarity. Part of a 10-day mini-series designed to help you reset your mindset, raise your standards, and step into the year with calm self-leadership. Episode 217 - https://open.spotify.com/episode/5sXGur29se1TajjfWjMiNB Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    24 mins
  • The Reset You Actually Need - Day 5. Stop waiting to feel ready: Why action changes identity

    The Reset You Actually Need - Day 5. Stop waiting to feel ready: Why action changes identity
    Jan 15 2026
    Episode 5 – Stop Waiting to Feel Ready: Why Action Changes Identity The Reset You Actually Need – Day 5 So many people believe confidence, clarity, or motivation comes before they act. In Day 5 of The Reset You Actually Need, we unpack why waiting to feel ready is one of the most common (and invisible) ways people stay stuck, and how identity is shaped by action, not intention. This episode explores: Why the brain doesn’t reward planning, it rewards movement How repeated action updates self-concept and confidence The psychology behind hesitation and “I’ll start when…” thinking Why readiness is a byproduct, not a prerequisite How to begin changing your identity through behaviour, not self-talk If you’ve been waiting for motivation, certainty, or the perfect moment before making a change, this episode will help you understand why that moment rarely arrives , and what actually creates momentum instead. This isn’t about forcing yourself or pushing harder. It’s about letting action do the psychological work for you. Part of a 10-day mini-series designed to help you reset your mindset, rebuild self-trust, and move through the year with calm direction. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    23 mins
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